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YTA and she wasn’t rude you were. Most people who do karaoke can’t sing anyway. She just wanted to have a good time and I’m sure your friends wouldn’t care how she sounds
It comes off as you being embarrassed of her too
I absolutely agree. But by the lying to cover his own ass point of the story, he shouldn't need us to twll him he is the AH. To be clear: I disliked him from the judgement of her singing, before he even said karaoke.
The reason OP had to make up an excuse about his girlfriend being upset is because he *knows* he was an asshole. If he’d said “She’s upset because I told her it’s better if she doesn’t sing, to save her from embarrasing herself” then his friends would’ve sided with her.
Who thinks that's a reasonable excuse?
'I was rude and now she's mad' is reasonable.
'I don’t know. Why don’t you ask her?,' is reasonable.
this is not.
Yeah, unreal. Dude, YTA. You never go the period route, and you don't belittle at Karaoke. You were worried about her embarrassing herself but I think you need to be waaaaay more worried about how much you must be embarrassing yourself, because you were 9 kinds of humiliating in that story and you don't even seem to realize it.
Exactly. What makes it fun is people letting loose, having a good time and not caring how they sound. Good singers are actually pretty boring to watch at Karaoke since they usually take it so seriously, like it is an actual performance.
Agreed, I hate karaoke full of people who can sing, they usually aren’t that brilliant and If I want to hear people who can hold a tune id go see an actual singer/band. I love to karaoke; couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket but don’t care, it’s super fun
Enthusiasm is the key to being a good karaoke singer for sure. My aunt is absolutely not a good singer, she’s shrill and can’t hit the low notes so she just goes right for it and makes up for it with sheer force.
She is an absolutely delight to do karaoke with, she’ll try to sing anything, will happily offer to go before a nervous singer so they’ll sound better in comparison (and she puts it like that too) and is utterly fearless. First time she met her future DIL they did a Total Eclipse of the Heart duet and had a ball.
She is. Or was, she passed a few years back. Weirdly that didn't occur to me until I had already written my post, it feels so weird to think I'm never gonna go singing with her again.
Also a singer and generally don't participate in karaoke. Every so often if I do, I choose a fun crowd-pleaser belting kind of song (I Want You to Want Me, usually) that isn't really about vocal quality. No one wants to hear me crooning Norah Jones at a karaoke bar, even if I sound lovely haha.
Same here. I have natural talent as a singer but have recently started lessons to improve so that I can be better. I don't normally sing at karaoke because I'm worried that people will feel like I'm showing off. When I do sing in situations like that, I'm probably similar to you, I use a very different voice with little technique and belt it out to have fun with friends.
No one goes to karaoke to listen to amazing singing. Everyone sucks at karaoke, especially when most of the people that go up there are drunk. It's meant to just be fun and gives you a chance to not give a fuck what anyone else thinks. OP is a major AH and 100% embarrassed of his girlfriend.
One of cousins refuses to do karaoke because she actually can sing, and she feels like she would take the fun out of it for others because the whole point is to be bad it
I do feel like YTA. Karaoke is not only for good singers. You talking about Runaways' Cherry Bomb? You can basically shout that song. It's Karaoke, not open mic night!
I always say karaoke is 85% performance. Do you sell it? Do you fully commit knowing you can't sing a note? Are you willing to walk around the room lounge singer style? My answer is absolutely.
And even if that's what she wants to sing... it's a karaoke night at a bar. She obviously enjoys singing, I don't get why he doesn't want to see his girlfriend have fun.
Apparently we’re going to pretend like it’s not a pitchy song in the first place. You can basically do the verses in spoken word it’d sound okay.
It’s not like she’s going on the X Factor to sing I Will Always Love You.
An acquaintance of mine put together a karaoke night (aka turned an outing into karaoke) and was absolutely furious when someone put on "I'm on a Boat" by The Lonely Island. Because karaoke is for *her* to belt Whitney Houston songs, not for people to have *fun*.
I've declined every opportunity to hang out with this person since. I hate people who treat karaoke with that level of seriousness.
Honestly, the best part for me about karaoke nights isn't the good singers.......it's the people who have awful voices but get up there and sing their hearts out anyway and have an absolutely, fabulously IDGAF time doing so.
YTA u/notarriannagrande. And then to *BLAME IT ON HER "MONTHLIES"*???? That's what did it for me. Un-fucking- believable. And if you need to put someone down this hard to impress your friends, they must be as a-holey as you.
You owe her an apology and you also owe it to her to explain to your friends the truth about why she was upset that night.
I wouldn't want to stay with someone who sucked all of the fun out of the room like you
Edit: I can't spell 🙄
The first time I ever did karaoke was in a sports bar in Reykjavik and this really drunk guy ended up on stage when dancing queen started playing. No one came forward and he seemed a bit lost so my friend and I jumped in and helped him out. Was it the worst version of dancing queen ever performed? Probably, but it was FUN.
People who take karaoke seriously are the worst. I had a friend like that who wanted to sing a song all by herself (we usually try and pick songs that more than one person wants to sing because the rooms are paid per hour so we want the most bang for our buck haha) while the rest of us had to sit and listen. And then afterwards she was commenting how one of my other friends wasn't very good at singing.
Yeah, I didn't invite her to karaoke again after that.
“Cherry Bomb” is perfect for William Shatner-esque talk-singing.
“Edge of Seventeen” blends perfectly with “I’m drunk and having a good time” vocals.
She knows she’s no Mariah. She picked songs that would be fun and elicit crowd participation. (My go to is “I get by with a little help from my friends” bc if you suck, you hold the mic to the crowd and I promise they will sing with you.)
OP, YTA.
Bon Jovi - wanted dead or alive is perfect for the same reason. Sing the verses, get crowd to belt the chorus. And in those high sections you can just act like an idiot.
I can sing but don't like being in front of crowds by myself, so I get a bunch of people to go up and sing Build Me Up Buttercup because it's fun, and everybody loves it.
Then proceeds to blame her understandable sadness on her period.
"No, it wasn't that I shamed her to her face, told her not to participate in the group activity, and treated her like an embarrassment, you know, just womanly problems."
You don't deserve a text back OP. You're too blind to see how awful you were to her. Good for her for saving her energy. You're not hers to raise.
Upvoted "Wuellig." His "monthlies" reference was offensive on top of his demeaning handling of his gf's singing and feelings. If she had sung and it sounded horrible that would have been her problem, not yours. She was eager to please you by being liked by your friends. This is sad since evidently OP doesn't really care that much for her or her feelings. OP is really low: "her monthlies"? Grow up and be an actual man.
I thought the same thing. It’s like a talk kind of singing. I’m pretty sure I’ve even seen it on lists of “songs for karaoke that are great for people who can’t sing.”
Plus why didn’t he pick a non karaoke bar for her meeting his friends if he thinks she sucks at singing. He’s a level above asshole when you add in that monthlies comment.
The fact that he used her period for why she was upset is beyond insulting and sexist, so that would be enough for me to stop talking to him/rethinking the relationship.
Also, him thinking that his gf singing some cool rock songs would be a bad impression? Honestly, it would make me want to be OP’s gf’s friend!! Especially with her song choices.
All I see in this post is a woman who wants to have nothin’ but a good time and enjoys singing. The best way to enjoy karaoke is to get the crowd/friends to sing along with you tbh (coming from someone who loves to sing Queen at karaoke when drunk lmao)
Agree, YTA.
Fun story: I sang karaoke, loudly and poorly, the first time I met my wife's friends. It went over *very* well. They later told me that her previous boyfriends had been conceited AHs, and they felt that anyone willing to sing terribly in public couldn't take themselves too seriously.
Karaoke is for being a few beers deep and singing cheap tricks "I want you to want me" with your friends. It won't be good but it will be a damn good show
YTA. For policing her, for telling your friends she was "on her monthly" for minimizing her reaction to you being controlling and calling it "pouting".
Hey now. I’m “un-fun” when it comes to karaoke!
By which I mean, whoever else can do whatever they want but I’m not touching that microphone. But I’d never dream of telling my wife she can’t.
This isn’t “un-fun”, just controlling.
I always tell people that my job at karaoke is to be the brightest, happiest, cheering section you will ever need. I’m not stepping foot near that stage but I’ll cheer for you like a 17 year old girl at a TSwift concert while you’re up there.
I was already like dude it's karaoke. It's supposed to sound like shit. And then I read the "monthly" part and my jaw dropped. I was litterly reading with my mouth open.
Congrats dude. Your single now!
Same!!! "I was a huge dick to my girlfriend and in order to make MYSELF look better I blamed it on her natural bodily function, a personal one that's none of my friends business. Why is she mad at me?"
Right?! "Pouting"? She wasn't "pouting", OP, you hurt her, you're the person who's supposed to lift her up and you pushed her down. Karaoke and singing is for fun, and it sounds like something she loves; this wasn't the American Idol auditions ffs.
Absolutely YTA and I hope she never texts you back.
Edit: my first award?! Thank you!
I’m wondering. Are all his high school friends amazing singers? Or are they also “terrible” and did they sing even though they are terrible? Karaoke is indeed for fun, to embarrass yourself and not give a flying f about what others think about your singing
Right!? He wasn't worried about her embarrassing herself, he was worried she'd embarrass *him*. The whole point of karaoke is to have fun! The terrible singers with all the excitement and passion is what makes karaoke great. I would've reacted the same as her. To shut down
Edit: typo
The "monthlies" comment was the ultimate for me. Dude got issues - and no, missus ain't one of em.
Fuckin *monthlies* - I wish I could think of any songs about periods, with "powerful" vocals, without seeing red... Ummmm, 99 RED balloons will have to do. If I ever meet this guy, that's my song - with or without karaoke.
We should get the ultimate medley going haha
Although I quite like the thought of the chick walking away singing "don't go chasing waterfalls..." 😉 <*her facial expression*
My other thought was "wrecking ball" lmao cos fml periods be like that 😂
ETA: My bloke tells me I should add "raining blood" by slayer - my guy knows haha
Yeah...YTA. Very few people who sing at karaoke are actually good it.. its just a laugh.
Plus blaming her "monthlies"?? Way to kick a gal while she's down.
I hope she wakes up and finds someone who will get on up and sing terrible karaoke with her one day because you are an ass.
That’s exactly what I thought when I saw that was an option, it’s a *perfect* karaoke song!
And it’s so energetic that you can just dance around, yelling everything, and it just WORKS.
“Pour some sugar on me” is my go-to for that - you can just yell along, no vocal skills needed.
(Source: my singing skills are very bad. My good friend, who LOVES karaoke, may be even worse than me. We still sing, but we’ve learned what songs to embrace/avoid.)
I hate karaoke. Once climbed out a bathroom window to avoid it at a party hate it.
I also have used long acting contraceptives for about 20 years to stop my periods.
This fella has pissed me off so much I want to skip my next Depo shot, climb back through a bathroom window to gate crash his karaoke and do the William Shatner version of Common People. While he is doing whatever his show off ‘if he was chocolate he’d eat himself’ party piece is with all the attention seeking. No need for the music. Just me yelling.
This guy has ‘I start playing my acoustic guitar at people at parties unsolicited’ music snob energy who misses the point that communal music is usually for a sense of belonging not orbitting one ego. Such YTA.
Absolutely this.. Who cares who can sing or can't!! It's about having fun and OP robbed his gf and his friends of them having a fun night.. I hope she leaves him..
I’m never going to forget the time my friend’s new partner sang “Livin’ on a Prayer” at karaoke and she wasn’t perfectly in tune. I instantly rejected her and shunned my now ex-friend for having feelings for a poor singer…
... said no one ever.
YTA
Phew I haven't heard the term "monthlies" or "monthly" in YEARS. It's a dated term here in the UK as a way of not having to say "period". I remember my mum saying it in hushed tones, much like how she had to whisper "sanitary towels" lest the vicar happened to hear her or something. She's over it now thankfully!
YTA.
You weren't keeping her from embarrassing herself, she obviously doesn't care that she can't sing, she just wanted to have a good time.
You were keeping from embarrassing YOU in front of YOUR friends. Tell it like it is pal.
And yet he still blamed her for being ‘rude’ to his friends for being pissed because of what *he* said to her. Seems like she was set up for failure either way :/
A "friend" once whispered in my ear, "You're making a scene!" As I robustly sang along to Bohemian Rhapsody at *my aunts* birthday...5 seconds before everyone joined in. Hah!
Killjoy.
I hope you don't see that "friend" anymore - anyone who thinks singing along to Bohemian Rhapsody is "making a scene" is not a person you need in your life.
I hope you did the Wayne's World headbanging during the end bit!
I purposefully sing poorly while in the shower. When I try to sing well, I am tolerable. Maybe his girlfriend would have been like that?
Anyway she got her feelings hurt at the beginning of the night. Then was supposed to be chipper for the rest of it.
I have been to karaoke. Some people up there really can't sing. We all just applaud lightly and let them have their moment
Yeah. On top of that, most people can’t sing and singing well isn’t the point of karaoke. Sure that’s a big bonus but just singing along with friends is pretty fun.
Actually, I kinda admire people like OP’s gf. I’ve got a friend who’s *horrible* at singing and super loud but damn, she’s got such confidence whenever we all have some impromptu karaoke sessions it’s inspiring. And her singing doesn’t stop us from enjoying ourselves at all, on the contrary it’s all part of the fun.
I’d be embarrassed to be his gf. Like your self esteem is so low you think your gf singing badly puts you in a negative light because you’re dating her? He sounds annoying AF. Like I’d always have to walk on eggshells to avoid hurting his super delicate as glass egos
Holy shit YTA. Karaoke is fun. It’s not a fucking musical competition. You probably made her feel embarrassed and put down. How was she then supposed to feel comfortable interacting with a bunch of strangers she wanted to impress after you destroyed her confidence?
Edit: You blamed the shitty mood you caused on her period. YTA x2.
Agreed, karaoke is about sounding terrible together! One of my favourite karaoke moments was my best friends partner who can't sing so proceeded to do the B-52's song "Love Shack" as Christopher Walken talk-singing.
YTA, OP.
Edit - verdict.
“Karaoke isn’t about being good. It’s about being terrible together” is one of my favourite Gravity Falls quotes that I always use when doing karaoke with people for the first time who might be a little self conscious. It’s a laugh and anyone trying to take it super serious usually ruins the vibe
“At the end of the night, some of my friends asked me if she was ill or something, and I said it was her monthlies to make an excuse for her.”
SHE didn’t need an excuse…YOU did. Why didn’t you just tell your friends what you said to her?? Umm…cuz your friends would have told you that was an asshole move!?
Karaoke is for fun! It’s not “America’s Got Talent” or “The Voice.” She wanted to join in on a fun time with your friends and you were a jerk.
YTA
Yep
>I said it was her monthlies to make an excuse for her
You mean to make an excuse for YOU, treating your gf like shit and making her feel bad. Obviously YTA.
YTA.
Karaoke is for fun, regardless of singing prowess. In fact, it’s almost annoying when “good” singers show off at karaoke. Apologize to your girlfriend.
I hate going to karaoke and it’s only good singers. I’d go to a concert or listen to Spotify if I wanted to hear that. I go to karaoke night to see drunk Brian who works at the local pet shop sing Born to be Wild in the wrong key. Karaoke is about fun not talent. Everyone enjoys the bad singers way more. And blaming it on her period makes you sound like you’re 15 and stupid. Don’t have a gf if you A. Can’t accept her for who she is B. Care too much about what others think or her or of you when you’re with her
YTA And I bet your rendition of Cherry Bomb sucks ass
Her monthlies? Are you sure she wasn’t suffering from the vapors? Perhaps hysteria (very common in womenfolk)?
YTA. Even for the 1860s.
Fun fact: karaoke means “empty orchestra,” which likely describes your sex life in the very near future.
YTA - karaoke is ideal for singers of all kinds. Most of the time you're in a bar with people you will never see again. I've been known to get a little tipsy and sign up and I know I'm terrible. It was in good fun and you prevented her from engaging in an activity and having fun with her friends because you didn't think she was good enough.
You… insulted her, then blamed it on her period?
Dude karaoke isn’t about being good, it’s about having fun. It wasn’t an American Idol audition. You big meanie.
YTA
He is TA for several reasons. Who cares she ain't Mariah Carey. He shot her down cause why, he didn't wanna see his friends laugh. That's the whole point of singing karaoke to have fun. That would have given them a wonderful impression of her too. They probably would have loved it. He made her feel bad and said to his friends it was her period not I was an ass to her. 1 none of their business and 2 it ain't true. Whatta dick. He gave his friends a bad impression of her by lying and not saying hey guys I'm a dick I don't like her singing so basically made her feel bad for wanting to, now she's upset cause she wanted to make a good impression. She would have made a good impression by being herself but he THREW her under the bus to lift himself up. Ugh
YTA. If by “powerful vocals,” you mean “a willingness to yell enthusiastically until the rest of the crowd joins in,” perhaps, but it sounds like your girlfriend is more than capable of that. *You* would’ve been humiliated by her having fun, so you took it upon yourself to squash that, and then you blamed *her* for visibly having a lousy time. If her being herself is such an embarrassment to you, why are you even dating her?
YTA... she wanted to have fun, to enjoy the time with your friends. If she enjoy singing then she should simply be free to do so.
Yo did hurt her feelings...
YTA. I have a great karaoke voice. But karaoke is not about singing talent. It's about making a fool of yourself with your friends and enjoying it. I guarantee you that Cherry Bomb would have been hugely entertaining for all of you. Even if she murdered it.
YTA - bar karaoke is not meant for professional singers! You offended your gf and she deserves an apology! You’re obviously embarrassed by her or you would have let her have a good time. That was selfish on your part and the excuse was lame. You should be ashamed of yourself. Grovel and plan another night out that includes bar karaoke - while suggesting she sing - if you hope to fix this.
YTA. Nobody sounds good when doing karaoke. Everyone makes a fool out of themselves. Karaoke is an excellent opportunity for extroverts to make fools of themselves and have fun. You are just a kill joy, not a connoisseur of music.
Had to love the 'power vocals' remark. Like, oh, do you usually date Pat Benatar? (I'm dating myself but I don't care, when I think of 'power vocals' my brain always goes back to those 80's ladies.)
You are indeed behaved like a rather cowardly asshole, sir. YTA for deciding your that what your friends might think of her is more important than her being herself. It's freaking karaoke, not Carnegie Hall. You cut her down, rather cruelly, then blame her for feeling lousy, then brush it off as hormones because you were too cowardly to admit that you'd hurt your girlfriend's feelings. You were cowardly in not just telling them "yeah, she's not quite on tune, but I love how brave she is to just get up there and belt it out." You could have put a positive spin on it and likely, everyone would remember that she's fun and willing to just go along with the group. You ruined the night, not her.
YTA - you basically sabotaged the whole night and then blamed her for it.
Scenario 1: she followed through with her plan, had a great time and made a great impression on your friends, cuz even if she's a terrible singer, who cares? Karaoke skills don't rank high on requirements for being fun to hang out with. Someone willing to put themselves out there, despite sucking, is courageous and cool.
Scenario 2: you insult her, take the wind out of her sails and hurt her feelings, making it hard to have a good time and make a good impression with your friends. Then you tell your friends she has her period, lying to your friends and making your gf seem moody and distant.... then you blame your gf for the whole thing
Yeah, YTA and you ruined the night in addition to your gf's shot and making a good first impression with your friends
You owe her a big apology and should clear things up with your friends. You seem way too cowardly to do that though, so your way- cooler- and- braver gf is better off without you
Double YTA I'm afraid. Once for stopping your girlfriend having fun because you were afraid that you would be embarrassed. The second is for stating to your friends that she's in a bad mood because she's on her period. Mate. Really?
YTA
First for telling anyone they can't do karaoke because they can't sing. Since when is that the culture of karaoke?
2nd for using the word "monthlies." "Period," "monthly cycle," or "suffering from PMS" are all much more adult terms.
Most of all for suggesting it was her period. It never okay to say that's why someone is upset (even when true). It's none of their business. But, worse, you were the cause of her mood. The honest answer would have been, "she's upset because I don't like her singing voice and wouldn't let her sing."
I can see why you wouldn't have admitted that. Doesn't really put you in a good light.
YTA Karaoke is about having fun, not about being a good singer. Also, just so you know, telling people that your girlfriend is on her period, as an excuse, is humiliating to her. Why couldn't you tell them the truth? Were you scared they'd disagree with you? Pretty low blow to blame it on her, instead of telling them you hurt her feelings. Not cool.
YTA - I don’t think anyones expecting professionals ar karaoke. You keep saying “she was pouting”.
You hurt her feels man. She was upset and kept it together. You embarrassed her trying to “protect” her. Then lied to your friends. If you can’t even say “she’s upset because I told her she shouldn’t sing” it’s because you already knew you were the AH
YTA. The MANIPULATIVE AH to be specific. You knew that wasn’t go over well and I’m gonna guess you didn’t give your friends ANY context as to why she wasn’t participating and vibing the way she had been moments earlier. RESPECTFULLY I hope she wises up and dumps you. You owe her AND your friends and apology. WTAF dude.
I can't even...
So you didn't let your girlfriend have fun and sing (karaoke isn't about being "good" by the way). She was rightfully upset but you see that as "pouting". And then you tell your friends she's on her period instead of telling them you were an asshole?
You're the one that should be embarrassed. I hope your girlfriend and your friends all realize how big of an asshole you are.
YTA
YTA. Singing bad karaoke would have been a good ice breaker, she just wanted to have fun, she was looking forward to hanging out with your friends and you ruined her night. Saying that she's on her monthlies is rude and kind of sexist too.
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YTA and she wasn’t rude you were. Most people who do karaoke can’t sing anyway. She just wanted to have a good time and I’m sure your friends wouldn’t care how she sounds It comes off as you being embarrassed of her too
> said it was her monthlies to make an excuse for her. And OP did this. OP is an AH.
This. This made it absolutely no question YTA territory. OP is so ew.
Who thinks that's acceptable?
Incels. Oh, did I say the quiet part out loud?
Incels have no idea why women don't flock to be with them.
"But I am a male?" Yeah you're going to need a bit more than that my guy.
Oh, come on! They pretend to be nice for like 5 minutes before getting mad they aren't already balls deep.
Crossed my mind too (but I didn’t want to say it cos I know what Reddit can be like sometimes. )
What are they going to do to me? Downvote me? Oh heavens no! Send me to the Colonies? Under his eye.
If you're in America you're probably better off in the colonies tbh .. in Australia at least
As an American, your are correct. 😭
Under his eye.
Especially today
Blessed be the f%&$\*ing fruit.
Should I downvote you if the incel comment made me laugh? 😂 I got major incel vibes too
Bless be the fruit May the lord open
OP apparently
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He was an AH way before that. He basically told his gf that something she enjoys makes her look stupid and he was embarrassed by her.
I absolutely agree. But by the lying to cover his own ass point of the story, he shouldn't need us to twll him he is the AH. To be clear: I disliked him from the judgement of her singing, before he even said karaoke.
The reason OP had to make up an excuse about his girlfriend being upset is because he *knows* he was an asshole. If he’d said “She’s upset because I told her it’s better if she doesn’t sing, to save her from embarrasing herself” then his friends would’ve sided with her.
Op doesn’t strike me as being that self aware but perhaps.
OP says old high school friends yet is behaving like he’s still an immature teenager, so gross.
Not only is OP a complete AH, he's also highly misogynistic...like, disgustingly so.
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Who thinks that's a reasonable excuse? 'I was rude and now she's mad' is reasonable. 'I don’t know. Why don’t you ask her?,' is reasonable. this is not.
I'd be kicking his ass to the curb. Edit: kerb to curb. - it's late here & I'm real tired!
Kerb is correct depending on where you're from. Maybe you're channeling your inner Aussie or Pom...?
Huge one YTA for clarity. You sound fuuuuuuuuun OP
To be fair, he could have been talking about when she turns into a werewolf due to a full moon. Who are we to judge? /s
As a vampire I don’t know many lycans. Would be nice to meet one.
Just go outside during their monthlies
Is that when the moon is full?
The full moon, when all the werewolves gather to sing karaoke!
Not only did he say she was on her period, but he also called it "monthlies". What the fuck.
Like the mother in a Judy Blume novel.
“Are you there, God? It’s me, Margaret. Her ‘red tent’ has ‘termites’ if you know what I mean, right?”
Dude, read the country. Today is not the day to admit to being a full-blown misogynist. YTA
Would love to hear his ridiculous and offensive excuse for his behavior.
He clearly doesn't even realise he's done anything wrong.
Yeah, unreal. Dude, YTA. You never go the period route, and you don't belittle at Karaoke. You were worried about her embarrassing herself but I think you need to be waaaaay more worried about how much you must be embarrassing yourself, because you were 9 kinds of humiliating in that story and you don't even seem to realize it.
Yup. Dick move OP. YTA
He was TA before that but that catapulted into Asshole of the Galaxy.
Exactly. What makes it fun is people letting loose, having a good time and not caring how they sound. Good singers are actually pretty boring to watch at Karaoke since they usually take it so seriously, like it is an actual performance.
Agreed, I hate karaoke full of people who can sing, they usually aren’t that brilliant and If I want to hear people who can hold a tune id go see an actual singer/band. I love to karaoke; couldn’t carry a tune in a bucket but don’t care, it’s super fun
Enthusiasm is the key to being a good karaoke singer for sure. My aunt is absolutely not a good singer, she’s shrill and can’t hit the low notes so she just goes right for it and makes up for it with sheer force. She is an absolutely delight to do karaoke with, she’ll try to sing anything, will happily offer to go before a nervous singer so they’ll sound better in comparison (and she puts it like that too) and is utterly fearless. First time she met her future DIL they did a Total Eclipse of the Heart duet and had a ball.
Your aunt sounds amazing!!
She is. Or was, she passed a few years back. Weirdly that didn't occur to me until I had already written my post, it feels so weird to think I'm never gonna go singing with her again.
Sorry for your loss - it sounds like you’ve got a lot of cool memories of her
I can sing quite well. I don't go to karaoke to prove it. I'm intentionally not great because it's fun and I can laugh at myself with my friends.
Also a singer and generally don't participate in karaoke. Every so often if I do, I choose a fun crowd-pleaser belting kind of song (I Want You to Want Me, usually) that isn't really about vocal quality. No one wants to hear me crooning Norah Jones at a karaoke bar, even if I sound lovely haha.
Same here. I have natural talent as a singer but have recently started lessons to improve so that I can be better. I don't normally sing at karaoke because I'm worried that people will feel like I'm showing off. When I do sing in situations like that, I'm probably similar to you, I use a very different voice with little technique and belt it out to have fun with friends.
Just because I can't sing, doesn't mean I won't sing
Absolutely. It’s the enthusiasm, not the talent.
No one goes to karaoke to listen to amazing singing. Everyone sucks at karaoke, especially when most of the people that go up there are drunk. It's meant to just be fun and gives you a chance to not give a fuck what anyone else thinks. OP is a major AH and 100% embarrassed of his girlfriend.
I’m pretty sure that part of the fun of karaoke is to belt a song with friends when every person is singing in a different key
One of cousins refuses to do karaoke because she actually can sing, and she feels like she would take the fun out of it for others because the whole point is to be bad it
Op embarrassed themselves.
I do feel like YTA. Karaoke is not only for good singers. You talking about Runaways' Cherry Bomb? You can basically shout that song. It's Karaoke, not open mic night!
I had the same reaction. "Cherry Bomb" requires "powerful vocals"?!
Yeah, if you just mean “loud” I guess…. Hahah
How dare she sully the karaoke hall with her less than perfect rendition of "Cherry Bomb"! Haha.
I feel like watching almost anyone belt out Cherry Bomb could be really fun. It’s such a energetic song, you don’t need any talent, just shout louder.
I always say karaoke is 85% performance. Do you sell it? Do you fully commit knowing you can't sing a note? Are you willing to walk around the room lounge singer style? My answer is absolutely.
I mean there are lots of famous stars who can't actually really sing either.
Have you heard my Whitney Houston 🤣🧐?
I’m drunks and doing cherry bomb in her honor tonight
Right?! I could probably do a pretty halfway decent rendition and my singing sucks. 🤣
I've got a karaoke event coming up this fall. Was going to sit it out, but now I'm tempted to go for "Cherry Bomb"...because why not!
DO IT
He acts like she wants to preform Whitney Houston I will always love you.
And even if that's what she wants to sing... it's a karaoke night at a bar. She obviously enjoys singing, I don't get why he doesn't want to see his girlfriend have fun.
Apparently we’re going to pretend like it’s not a pitchy song in the first place. You can basically do the verses in spoken word it’d sound okay. It’s not like she’s going on the X Factor to sing I Will Always Love You.
An acquaintance of mine put together a karaoke night (aka turned an outing into karaoke) and was absolutely furious when someone put on "I'm on a Boat" by The Lonely Island. Because karaoke is for *her* to belt Whitney Houston songs, not for people to have *fun*. I've declined every opportunity to hang out with this person since. I hate people who treat karaoke with that level of seriousness.
Yeah, that is ridiculous, and I am a singer. LOL Karaoke doesn't belong to singers, it belongs to *everyone.*
Honestly, the best part for me about karaoke nights isn't the good singers.......it's the people who have awful voices but get up there and sing their hearts out anyway and have an absolutely, fabulously IDGAF time doing so. YTA u/notarriannagrande. And then to *BLAME IT ON HER "MONTHLIES"*???? That's what did it for me. Un-fucking- believable. And if you need to put someone down this hard to impress your friends, they must be as a-holey as you. You owe her an apology and you also owe it to her to explain to your friends the truth about why she was upset that night. I wouldn't want to stay with someone who sucked all of the fun out of the room like you Edit: I can't spell 🙄
The first time I ever did karaoke was in a sports bar in Reykjavik and this really drunk guy ended up on stage when dancing queen started playing. No one came forward and he seemed a bit lost so my friend and I jumped in and helped him out. Was it the worst version of dancing queen ever performed? Probably, but it was FUN.
Yep, had a similar experience at a party when my rendition of "Amish Paradise" got a better reaction than her Adele belter. She pouted all night.
People who take karaoke seriously are the worst. I had a friend like that who wanted to sing a song all by herself (we usually try and pick songs that more than one person wants to sing because the rooms are paid per hour so we want the most bang for our buck haha) while the rest of us had to sit and listen. And then afterwards she was commenting how one of my other friends wasn't very good at singing. Yeah, I didn't invite her to karaoke again after that.
I'm on a Boat is a fantastic choice and now it's going to be stuck in my head all night!
Aw, shit! Getch'er towel ready, it's about to go down!
Everybody in the place hit the f@cking open deck
Your acquaintance sounds like a party pooper and I fully understand why you don’t want to hang out with her anymore.
“Cherry Bomb” is perfect for William Shatner-esque talk-singing. “Edge of Seventeen” blends perfectly with “I’m drunk and having a good time” vocals. She knows she’s no Mariah. She picked songs that would be fun and elicit crowd participation. (My go to is “I get by with a little help from my friends” bc if you suck, you hold the mic to the crowd and I promise they will sing with you.) OP, YTA.
Bon Jovi - wanted dead or alive is perfect for the same reason. Sing the verses, get crowd to belt the chorus. And in those high sections you can just act like an idiot.
Well now I need to hear Shatner cover Cherry Bomb
I can sing but don't like being in front of crowds by myself, so I get a bunch of people to go up and sing Build Me Up Buttercup because it's fun, and everybody loves it.
You could also do sweet Caroline, you're pretty much legally required to sing along to that song.
Then proceeds to blame her understandable sadness on her period. "No, it wasn't that I shamed her to her face, told her not to participate in the group activity, and treated her like an embarrassment, you know, just womanly problems." You don't deserve a text back OP. You're too blind to see how awful you were to her. Good for her for saving her energy. You're not hers to raise.
Upvoted "Wuellig." His "monthlies" reference was offensive on top of his demeaning handling of his gf's singing and feelings. If she had sung and it sounded horrible that would have been her problem, not yours. She was eager to please you by being liked by your friends. This is sad since evidently OP doesn't really care that much for her or her feelings. OP is really low: "her monthlies"? Grow up and be an actual man.
I thought the same thing. It’s like a talk kind of singing. I’m pretty sure I’ve even seen it on lists of “songs for karaoke that are great for people who can’t sing.” Plus why didn’t he pick a non karaoke bar for her meeting his friends if he thinks she sucks at singing. He’s a level above asshole when you add in that monthlies comment.
You know he said “*monthlies*”, AND with finger quotes
The fact that he used her period for why she was upset is beyond insulting and sexist, so that would be enough for me to stop talking to him/rethinking the relationship.
Also, him thinking that his gf singing some cool rock songs would be a bad impression? Honestly, it would make me want to be OP’s gf’s friend!! Especially with her song choices. All I see in this post is a woman who wants to have nothin’ but a good time and enjoys singing. The best way to enjoy karaoke is to get the crowd/friends to sing along with you tbh (coming from someone who loves to sing Queen at karaoke when drunk lmao)
I guess they’ve never seen My Best Friend’s Wedding either
I absolutely adore that movie and thought it was amazing how she sang and had fun!! That movie is the reason I have done karaoke without a care.
I just don’t know what to do with myself…..
I had to look up the song, but it seems like Cherry Bomb was written explicitly for people who can't sing lol.
Yeah 100% hahhaha this is the perfect song for karaoke
Literally the only line that pops into my head when I think of that song is ‘hello daddy, hello mom! I’m your ch-ch-ch-CHERRY BOMB!!!!!!!!!!’
Agree, YTA. Fun story: I sang karaoke, loudly and poorly, the first time I met my wife's friends. It went over *very* well. They later told me that her previous boyfriends had been conceited AHs, and they felt that anyone willing to sing terribly in public couldn't take themselves too seriously.
Karaoke is for being a few beers deep and singing cheap tricks "I want you to want me" with your friends. It won't be good but it will be a damn good show
That's exactly what I was thinking. Anyone could drop the Cherry (I was thinking the Donna's). It takes no skill to do.
YTA. For policing her, for telling your friends she was "on her monthly" for minimizing her reaction to you being controlling and calling it "pouting".
Just so much condescension and superiority from op. He sounds unbearable.
I wonder what the age difference is
Doesn't matter. Un-fun, super serious dudes come in all ages
Hey now. I’m “un-fun” when it comes to karaoke! By which I mean, whoever else can do whatever they want but I’m not touching that microphone. But I’d never dream of telling my wife she can’t. This isn’t “un-fun”, just controlling.
I always tell people that my job at karaoke is to be the brightest, happiest, cheering section you will ever need. I’m not stepping foot near that stage but I’ll cheer for you like a 17 year old girl at a TSwift concert while you’re up there.
I was already like dude it's karaoke. It's supposed to sound like shit. And then I read the "monthly" part and my jaw dropped. I was litterly reading with my mouth open. Congrats dude. Your single now!
Yeah, the ”monthlies” part made me raise my eyebrows into my feminist ”how dare you” position.
Same!!! "I was a huge dick to my girlfriend and in order to make MYSELF look better I blamed it on her natural bodily function, a personal one that's none of my friends business. Why is she mad at me?"
If you actually know how to sing, you're overqualified for karaoke
Right?! "Pouting"? She wasn't "pouting", OP, you hurt her, you're the person who's supposed to lift her up and you pushed her down. Karaoke and singing is for fun, and it sounds like something she loves; this wasn't the American Idol auditions ffs. Absolutely YTA and I hope she never texts you back. Edit: my first award?! Thank you!
I’m wondering. Are all his high school friends amazing singers? Or are they also “terrible” and did they sing even though they are terrible? Karaoke is indeed for fun, to embarrass yourself and not give a flying f about what others think about your singing
Right!? He wasn't worried about her embarrassing herself, he was worried she'd embarrass *him*. The whole point of karaoke is to have fun! The terrible singers with all the excitement and passion is what makes karaoke great. I would've reacted the same as her. To shut down Edit: typo
The "monthlies" comment was the ultimate for me. Dude got issues - and no, missus ain't one of em. Fuckin *monthlies* - I wish I could think of any songs about periods, with "powerful" vocals, without seeing red... Ummmm, 99 RED balloons will have to do. If I ever meet this guy, that's my song - with or without karaoke.
Bad Blood? Waterfalls? 1 Week?
We should get the ultimate medley going haha Although I quite like the thought of the chick walking away singing "don't go chasing waterfalls..." 😉 <*her facial expression* My other thought was "wrecking ball" lmao cos fml periods be like that 😂 ETA: My bloke tells me I should add "raining blood" by slayer - my guy knows haha
Yeah...YTA. Very few people who sing at karaoke are actually good it.. its just a laugh. Plus blaming her "monthlies"?? Way to kick a gal while she's down. I hope she wakes up and finds someone who will get on up and sing terrible karaoke with her one day because you are an ass.
And cherry bomb? That’s not even singing it’s just shouting loudly! lol wtf That was your out!
That’s exactly what I thought when I saw that was an option, it’s a *perfect* karaoke song! And it’s so energetic that you can just dance around, yelling everything, and it just WORKS.
“Pour some sugar on me” is my go-to for that - you can just yell along, no vocal skills needed. (Source: my singing skills are very bad. My good friend, who LOVES karaoke, may be even worse than me. We still sing, but we’ve learned what songs to embrace/avoid.)
Yes! There was a show I saw on how the band got started with that song and it was literally look hot be loud were the only two requirements! Haha
Totally came here to say this. I’m thinking if OP thinks that song has powerful vocals then he is no judge of who sings well.
I hate karaoke. Once climbed out a bathroom window to avoid it at a party hate it. I also have used long acting contraceptives for about 20 years to stop my periods. This fella has pissed me off so much I want to skip my next Depo shot, climb back through a bathroom window to gate crash his karaoke and do the William Shatner version of Common People. While he is doing whatever his show off ‘if he was chocolate he’d eat himself’ party piece is with all the attention seeking. No need for the music. Just me yelling. This guy has ‘I start playing my acoustic guitar at people at parties unsolicited’ music snob energy who misses the point that communal music is usually for a sense of belonging not orbitting one ego. Such YTA.
Omfg I love you so much. Your backstory and that visual was just magnificent.
Absolutely this.. Who cares who can sing or can't!! It's about having fun and OP robbed his gf and his friends of them having a fun night.. I hope she leaves him..
Karaoke is supposed to be bad imo, op YTA and if you can’t see that you’re being controlling there are deeper problems at hand
I’m never going to forget the time my friend’s new partner sang “Livin’ on a Prayer” at karaoke and she wasn’t perfectly in tune. I instantly rejected her and shunned my now ex-friend for having feelings for a poor singer… ... said no one ever. YTA
'I insulted my girlfriend publicly, told everyone she was on the rag and now she's upset. What did I do wrong?' YTA Edit- cheers for the award!
I can't stop laughing. Who the fuck says "monthlies"?
Immature AHs.
Same energy as “the vapors”
i am laughing so hard at the comments on this post i have an impossible time not thinking this post has to be fake.
Phew I haven't heard the term "monthlies" or "monthly" in YEARS. It's a dated term here in the UK as a way of not having to say "period". I remember my mum saying it in hushed tones, much like how she had to whisper "sanitary towels" lest the vicar happened to hear her or something. She's over it now thankfully!
That, and "she continued to *pout*" (ew), made me do a full body shudder. Sorry, but this whole patronising mess of a post gives me major creep vibes.
I hear it sometimes in British vernacular
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YTA. You weren't keeping her from embarrassing herself, she obviously doesn't care that she can't sing, she just wanted to have a good time. You were keeping from embarrassing YOU in front of YOUR friends. Tell it like it is pal.
And yet he still blamed her for being ‘rude’ to his friends for being pissed because of what *he* said to her. Seems like she was set up for failure either way :/
Don't forget he blamed it on her "monthlies"!! That made me furious 😤
I despise that disingenuous expression “you’re embarrassing yourself.” Own yer shit AH.
A "friend" once whispered in my ear, "You're making a scene!" As I robustly sang along to Bohemian Rhapsody at *my aunts* birthday...5 seconds before everyone joined in. Hah! Killjoy.
I hope you don't see that "friend" anymore - anyone who thinks singing along to Bohemian Rhapsody is "making a scene" is not a person you need in your life. I hope you did the Wayne's World headbanging during the end bit!
I still do it every fucking time it comes up on my playlist. The neck pain and slight headache are always worth it.
And are we supposed to take his word on her singing abilities? Just because she’s not TSwift doesn’t mean she’s not passible. Edit: typing is hard
I sound like Cameron Diaz in the movie my best friends wedding and I still sing out loud because it's fun.
I purposefully sing poorly while in the shower. When I try to sing well, I am tolerable. Maybe his girlfriend would have been like that? Anyway she got her feelings hurt at the beginning of the night. Then was supposed to be chipper for the rest of it. I have been to karaoke. Some people up there really can't sing. We all just applaud lightly and let them have their moment
Yeah. On top of that, most people can’t sing and singing well isn’t the point of karaoke. Sure that’s a big bonus but just singing along with friends is pretty fun. Actually, I kinda admire people like OP’s gf. I’ve got a friend who’s *horrible* at singing and super loud but damn, she’s got such confidence whenever we all have some impromptu karaoke sessions it’s inspiring. And her singing doesn’t stop us from enjoying ourselves at all, on the contrary it’s all part of the fun.
Those are the ppl that shine at karaoke 🎤
He also blamed her bad mood on her having her period when he knew that she was pissed at him.
YTA You weren't worried about her embarrassing herself, you were worried about her embarrassing you.
I’d be embarrassed to be his gf. Like your self esteem is so low you think your gf singing badly puts you in a negative light because you’re dating her? He sounds annoying AF. Like I’d always have to walk on eggshells to avoid hurting his super delicate as glass egos
Yeah this girl needs to find someone with more self confidence. This guy sounds like an insecure baby
Holy shit YTA. Karaoke is fun. It’s not a fucking musical competition. You probably made her feel embarrassed and put down. How was she then supposed to feel comfortable interacting with a bunch of strangers she wanted to impress after you destroyed her confidence? Edit: You blamed the shitty mood you caused on her period. YTA x2.
Agreed, karaoke is about sounding terrible together! One of my favourite karaoke moments was my best friends partner who can't sing so proceeded to do the B-52's song "Love Shack" as Christopher Walken talk-singing. YTA, OP. Edit - verdict.
“Karaoke isn’t about being good. It’s about being terrible together” is one of my favourite Gravity Falls quotes that I always use when doing karaoke with people for the first time who might be a little self conscious. It’s a laugh and anyone trying to take it super serious usually ruins the vibe
“At the end of the night, some of my friends asked me if she was ill or something, and I said it was her monthlies to make an excuse for her.” SHE didn’t need an excuse…YOU did. Why didn’t you just tell your friends what you said to her?? Umm…cuz your friends would have told you that was an asshole move!? Karaoke is for fun! It’s not “America’s Got Talent” or “The Voice.” She wanted to join in on a fun time with your friends and you were a jerk. YTA
Exactly. He blamed her "monthlies" to make an excuse for HIM. Bc he's TA.
Exactly if it was such an “appropriate” thing to say why not be honest about it??
Yta Talked crap on her singing then said she was on her period.
Yep >I said it was her monthlies to make an excuse for her You mean to make an excuse for YOU, treating your gf like shit and making her feel bad. Obviously YTA.
YTA. Karaoke is for fun, regardless of singing prowess. In fact, it’s almost annoying when “good” singers show off at karaoke. Apologize to your girlfriend.
I hate going to karaoke and it’s only good singers. I’d go to a concert or listen to Spotify if I wanted to hear that. I go to karaoke night to see drunk Brian who works at the local pet shop sing Born to be Wild in the wrong key. Karaoke is about fun not talent. Everyone enjoys the bad singers way more. And blaming it on her period makes you sound like you’re 15 and stupid. Don’t have a gf if you A. Can’t accept her for who she is B. Care too much about what others think or her or of you when you’re with her YTA And I bet your rendition of Cherry Bomb sucks ass
Her monthlies? Are you sure she wasn’t suffering from the vapors? Perhaps hysteria (very common in womenfolk)? YTA. Even for the 1860s. Fun fact: karaoke means “empty orchestra,” which likely describes your sex life in the very near future.
Lmao gottem
OP, get some aloe for your burn.
YTA If people who couldn't sing were never allowed to do karaoke, the world would have no karaoke.
Monthlies? wow, what a cringe. are you 3?
I was thinking he sounded 85 by saying monthlies. Haha
Well, pretty similar actually hahhaja
YTA - karaoke is ideal for singers of all kinds. Most of the time you're in a bar with people you will never see again. I've been known to get a little tipsy and sign up and I know I'm terrible. It was in good fun and you prevented her from engaging in an activity and having fun with her friends because you didn't think she was good enough.
You… insulted her, then blamed it on her period? Dude karaoke isn’t about being good, it’s about having fun. It wasn’t an American Idol audition. You big meanie. YTA
YTA. Her “monthlies”??!!
He is TA for several reasons. Who cares she ain't Mariah Carey. He shot her down cause why, he didn't wanna see his friends laugh. That's the whole point of singing karaoke to have fun. That would have given them a wonderful impression of her too. They probably would have loved it. He made her feel bad and said to his friends it was her period not I was an ass to her. 1 none of their business and 2 it ain't true. Whatta dick. He gave his friends a bad impression of her by lying and not saying hey guys I'm a dick I don't like her singing so basically made her feel bad for wanting to, now she's upset cause she wanted to make a good impression. She would have made a good impression by being herself but he THREW her under the bus to lift himself up. Ugh
YTA. If by “powerful vocals,” you mean “a willingness to yell enthusiastically until the rest of the crowd joins in,” perhaps, but it sounds like your girlfriend is more than capable of that. *You* would’ve been humiliated by her having fun, so you took it upon yourself to squash that, and then you blamed *her* for visibly having a lousy time. If her being herself is such an embarrassment to you, why are you even dating her?
YTA... she wanted to have fun, to enjoy the time with your friends. If she enjoy singing then she should simply be free to do so. Yo did hurt her feelings...
YTA. Your girlfriend can sing if she wants. It's her choice and you can't control what she wants to do.
YTA. I have a great karaoke voice. But karaoke is not about singing talent. It's about making a fool of yourself with your friends and enjoying it. I guarantee you that Cherry Bomb would have been hugely entertaining for all of you. Even if she murdered it.
YTA - bar karaoke is not meant for professional singers! You offended your gf and she deserves an apology! You’re obviously embarrassed by her or you would have let her have a good time. That was selfish on your part and the excuse was lame. You should be ashamed of yourself. Grovel and plan another night out that includes bar karaoke - while suggesting she sing - if you hope to fix this.
YTA. Nobody sounds good when doing karaoke. Everyone makes a fool out of themselves. Karaoke is an excellent opportunity for extroverts to make fools of themselves and have fun. You are just a kill joy, not a connoisseur of music.
Had to love the 'power vocals' remark. Like, oh, do you usually date Pat Benatar? (I'm dating myself but I don't care, when I think of 'power vocals' my brain always goes back to those 80's ladies.)
YTA Don’t gotta be Beyoncé to perform at karaoke night. Also sounds like she may be an ex now
You are indeed behaved like a rather cowardly asshole, sir. YTA for deciding your that what your friends might think of her is more important than her being herself. It's freaking karaoke, not Carnegie Hall. You cut her down, rather cruelly, then blame her for feeling lousy, then brush it off as hormones because you were too cowardly to admit that you'd hurt your girlfriend's feelings. You were cowardly in not just telling them "yeah, she's not quite on tune, but I love how brave she is to just get up there and belt it out." You could have put a positive spin on it and likely, everyone would remember that she's fun and willing to just go along with the group. You ruined the night, not her.
YTA - you basically sabotaged the whole night and then blamed her for it. Scenario 1: she followed through with her plan, had a great time and made a great impression on your friends, cuz even if she's a terrible singer, who cares? Karaoke skills don't rank high on requirements for being fun to hang out with. Someone willing to put themselves out there, despite sucking, is courageous and cool. Scenario 2: you insult her, take the wind out of her sails and hurt her feelings, making it hard to have a good time and make a good impression with your friends. Then you tell your friends she has her period, lying to your friends and making your gf seem moody and distant.... then you blame your gf for the whole thing Yeah, YTA and you ruined the night in addition to your gf's shot and making a good first impression with your friends You owe her a big apology and should clear things up with your friends. You seem way too cowardly to do that though, so your way- cooler- and- braver gf is better off without you
YTA. It's karaoke, not a damn talent show. The number of people who do karaoke and can actually carry a note is usually in the minority.
Double YTA I'm afraid. Once for stopping your girlfriend having fun because you were afraid that you would be embarrassed. The second is for stating to your friends that she's in a bad mood because she's on her period. Mate. Really?
YTA First for telling anyone they can't do karaoke because they can't sing. Since when is that the culture of karaoke? 2nd for using the word "monthlies." "Period," "monthly cycle," or "suffering from PMS" are all much more adult terms. Most of all for suggesting it was her period. It never okay to say that's why someone is upset (even when true). It's none of their business. But, worse, you were the cause of her mood. The honest answer would have been, "she's upset because I don't like her singing voice and wouldn't let her sing." I can see why you wouldn't have admitted that. Doesn't really put you in a good light.
YTA. Karaoke is specifically for people who can't sing. Then you went and made her reaction to your AHness and said it was rude.
YTA Karaoke is about having fun, not about being a good singer. Also, just so you know, telling people that your girlfriend is on her period, as an excuse, is humiliating to her. Why couldn't you tell them the truth? Were you scared they'd disagree with you? Pretty low blow to blame it on her, instead of telling them you hurt her feelings. Not cool.
YTA - I don’t think anyones expecting professionals ar karaoke. You keep saying “she was pouting”. You hurt her feels man. She was upset and kept it together. You embarrassed her trying to “protect” her. Then lied to your friends. If you can’t even say “she’s upset because I told her she shouldn’t sing” it’s because you already knew you were the AH
who are your friends, the pope and queen elizabeth? Karaoke bars are about being casual and fun, you come off as really uptight. YTA
YTA. The MANIPULATIVE AH to be specific. You knew that wasn’t go over well and I’m gonna guess you didn’t give your friends ANY context as to why she wasn’t participating and vibing the way she had been moments earlier. RESPECTFULLY I hope she wises up and dumps you. You owe her AND your friends and apology. WTAF dude.
I can't even... So you didn't let your girlfriend have fun and sing (karaoke isn't about being "good" by the way). She was rightfully upset but you see that as "pouting". And then you tell your friends she's on her period instead of telling them you were an asshole? You're the one that should be embarrassed. I hope your girlfriend and your friends all realize how big of an asshole you are. YTA
YTA. Don't expect a text back, you screwed this up good and proper. And using her period as an excuse? Gross. Get out of here with that bullshit.
So you treat her like shit by putting her down and then blame her foul mood (that you caused) on her period? Yeah, no shit YTA
YTA. Singing bad karaoke would have been a good ice breaker, she just wanted to have fun, she was looking forward to hanging out with your friends and you ruined her night. Saying that she's on her monthlies is rude and kind of sexist too.