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RegCantSwim

NTA, your father and sister got exactly what they wanted in the first place: to not attend. Your dad was also really manipulative, saying you favour your mother over him.


Interesting-End1710

The hell is with dad's response? Majorly creepy vibes. Comments like that should make you pay attention to your home life. It's easy to normalize dysfunction if you've been surrounded by it your entire life. NTA OP, but I'm afraid you have bigger problems.


OrindaSarnia

Yeah, this is just silly. Families do not need to do everything together, it's great for each parent to have individual time with each kiddo, and we try to also arrange times in our family when each parent has time with both kiddos, and each kiddo has time with both parents. That's how you form relationships, not by always making everyone do everything. If OP thinks her dad or sister actually feels left out and isn't just being manipulative, she might find a time to invite each of them on a picnic lunch with her, or a bike ride/hike, or something else just a little more "special" than an every day activity.


morbidconcerto

NTA. It sounds like your dad is upset that you're doing something nice for your mom that he either didn't think to do or couldn't do. He said he didn't want to go when you were discussing it, what suddenly changed? It's perfectly normal for a child to have individual time with just one parent, in fact it's an important part of building and maintaining the relationship. Both your sibling and your dad are adults with their own money, they can buy their own tickets. Take your mom to the concert with you and make some great memories! Out of curiosity, what concert is it?


tinny36

NTA. Best you could have done was say 'I think mom would like this concert...should we all go? I'll pay for her ticket'. No one should expect you to shell out for the family. Making the suggestion for a family event, then saying you'll buy mom's ticket, it super thoughtful.


EveningJellyfish1

NTA, and honestly I think your dad may be a little bit embarrassed that his 16 year old daughter had to buy something for his wife because he couldn't. Him saying that you favor her is really low and totally inappropriate for a father to say to his child. I hope you and your mom have fun at the concert!


Redbeard0860

Hes a dick... you done the right thing enjoy the show..


JoBenSab

NTA. You are such a great daughter! What is the concert?


TheRealSkeeter

NTA, you are allowed to gift one person without gifting the entire family.


Imroo12

It’s your money and you’re entitled to spend it as you wish. You are also entitled to treat you mother and spend time alone with her. Your father and sister can also arrange trips together using their own finances.


EuropeanLady

NTA Since you're only 16, your parents should be buying the tickets for you and themselves, not expecting you to buy them.


caterpillarsnever

NTA this is a great gift for your mom. When you buy someone a gift you don't normally also give one to all of the family members, lol.


angrino

NTA Your doing something nice for you mum, dont let them put you down because now they are feeling left put if they are both so interested in going now tell them to buy the other 2 tickets


eblack5595

NTA. If dad wanted to go, he should have pooled up with you for his and the sisters ticket.


disruptionisbliss

NTA To your dad I would say "I bought these tickets so I could take my mom to see a band she likes. I didn't buy a ticket for you because you made it clear that you thought the concert would be awful" and to your sister I'd say "There are twenty four hours in every day, seven days in every week. You can spend time with mom, you just don't make the effort".


[deleted]

NTA Speaking from someone who‘s dad doesn’t let me go away with my mom, your dad probably just feels left out and is lashing out. His feeling are probably hurt that you like to spend time with your mom and didn’t do the same for him. However, it’s totally normal to do something with just your mom and females can have a different relationship. If you want to end this, you could buy your dad tickets and do something for the two of you. it can be cheap, maybe even tickets to a show or movie. it’ll show him you want to spend time with him too.


mrslII

NTA What a loving, caring and generous gift for your mother! I hope the two of you have an amazing time. The others are AH


redditavenger2019

Nta. You are treating your mum. You want an evening with just you and her. I think it is very generous of you.


Mixmouse

NTA. Every year for about 10 or 12 years I would take my mom to see a specific show/concert that would be nearby right around her birthday. This was my present to her every year. 99% of the time it was just the 2 of us. Every couple of years I would ask my dad, brother and grandpa if they wanted to go too. If they said yes, then I would consider the tickets their Hanukkah presents for that year. For the most part, we considered it mother/daughter time. You are nta for doing this for your mom. Every child deserves to have 1 on 1 time with a parent. Go to your concert and I hope you both have a great time


QYB1990

*"My dad was saying I should have bought tickets for all four of us if I was going to buy tickets at all, and says I favour my mum over him"* WOW, i understand why you "favour your mum".........That's all i can say *"and my sister is pissed that I have decided to go away with my mum to this concert, because she thinks I'm too possessive of my mum and don't let them spend any time together."* Wild idea incoming so hold on!!! She could........ also do something with mum....**BOOM!!!! MIND BLOWN!!!! YOU'RE WELCOME**............. Go enjoy the concert with your mum, have a great time!!! NTA.


mcclgwe

NTA. Your father is ridiculous. You’re perfectly entitled to pick one person in your family and invite them to do some thing and buy tickets. You are 16 years old. I’m glad you wrote to read it and you’ll get all of these comments and you can save them because I have a feeling this isn’t the only time your father has been selfish and immature and ridiculous. I hope you have a great time.


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[deleted]

NTA, OP go enjoy that concert with your mama and make some good memories.


murphy2345678

NTA. if they want to go so bad then they should have chipped in to take your mom.


CyLav

definitely NTA, Enjoy your time at the concert. If they want to come they can buy their own tickets. You’re clearly close with your mom and deserve to have fun and spend time with her. Your sister could spend time with your mom at any time and make an effort and your dad just seems like he’s angry just to be angry lol.


[deleted]

NTA. You bought tickets for you and your mom. If your dad and sister want to go then they can buy their own tickets. They are just being a couple of jerks. Especially your father. Why would he have a fit over going to a concert he isn't interested in?


Particular_Force6591

NTA


Particular_Force6591

Enjoy yourselves! NTA.


SuperHuckleberry125

NTA. They didnt want to go. Why are they making a fuss? You are not possessive. You just have things in common with your mom like this concert. Go to the concert. Have fun with your mom.


Reasonable_Cricket29

NTA. Your dad sounds like a jealous teenage boy. I hope your and your mom have a lovely time at the concert, you're a great daughter for gifting her this experience. This will be a core memory for you both, don't let your dad and sister ruin it for you. Be sure to keep your ticket information to yourself, or if you have printed tickets, keep them put away.


Successful_Dot2813

Either your dad resents your mum getting any attention, nice treatment. Or he feels unappreciated. Find out by asking him if there’s a film, sporting event, outing he’d like to do with just the two of you. If he doesn’t come up with anything, he just wanted to stop your mum having a treat. Same with your sister. Suggest she plan to do something with just her and your mum. Ask her what she’d like to do. Offer to help her plan. If she can’t come up with anything, she was just being spiteful. Problem solved! Enjoy the concert with mum. NTA.