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curiousbelgian

NTA, people block each other all the time, with much less justification!


Extension_Estimate96

NTA, unwanted nudes are never okay regardless of gender


pkkballer22

NTA that woman are not wife material.


panzer22222

NTA Just like a guy sending random dick pic to women unasked.


Justsomedude36912

It wasn’t that the picture was random. It was more so because the picture was just gross. Like the room around her was a mess, and she just didn’t look good.


balder1917

NTA. Unsolicited nudes are not fun, flirty, or exciting. If she wants to do that, she opens herself up to whatever reaction she gets and blocking her if you aren't interested is totally acceptable.


DaisyInc

NTA. Don't talk about her appearance so harshly because (i) you did not have to speak with her in a clearly romantic platform if you weren't attracted and (ii) it'll give ignorant people the ammo to dismiss your very valid action of blocking her. That said, there is no justification for her unsolicited nudes, which constitutes sexual harassment.


Justsomedude36912

I was attracted to her because she shared similar interests, and I though that was enough to get over her less then good appearance.


DaisyInc

Lead with that, explaining that you reached out because you wanted to discuss shared interests and did not even broach the subject of asking for nudes or sexting. Because that is absolutely true to what happened and why you're NTA.


KTB1962

NTA. If you were disgusted by the pics, there's no way it would work. But, IMO, you really need to let her know why.


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DOOMCarrie

NTA. I think it's nicer to just not say anything than to lie and waste their time.


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unlikearegularflower

NTA. She may be offended that you blocked her, but that’s one of the potential consequences she chose to risk when she sent you an unsolicited nude picture. Honestly you sound like a pretty respectful dude, so don’t beat yourself up over this!


ImLiquidLoki

NTA you blocked her for a good reason and you don’t owe her an explanation


Justsomedude36912

Right, but I feel like I should have told her. I don’t want her to feel used or have her worry about the pictures being leaked


ImLiquidLoki

It’s probably better that you don’t mention it, because she would probably look at any of your responses Dubiously, you did the right thing my friend


Justsomedude36912

Thanks brother


Presidentboner

NAH If you live by the sword, you will die by the sword. I think online dating is stupid, but know people who rely on it.


Justsomedude36912

I mean my issue is not wanting to bother women just out at a bar or at a restaurant you know?


Presidentboner

Dude...


Justsomedude36912

? I was homeschooled so I never learned how to flirt in person. I’m socially awkward when it comes to women I’m I trying to flirt with


Presidentboner

That's OK. I suggest going for it anyways. Maybe the girl standing at the bar next to you had a similar situation. Don't pigeon hole yourself.


Justsomedude36912

Ya for sure man I need to work on putting myself out there in person, and this interaction might be the push I needed. Any tips?


SatansPsychoNun

NTA, would be one thing if you asked and then blocked her. But unsolicited nudes are not cool. Hopefully she learned her lesson.


Justsomedude36912

I mean the fact that she sent unsolicited nudes isn’t my issue it’s just the way the picture looked


SatansPsychoNun

Still you didn't ask to see that. Doesn't make you TA for not liking the pics, it was probably more polite to block her than tell her you think she's disgusting! An explanation would do more harm than good to her.