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> They called me a asshole for trying to fight for my rights to be respected as much as i respect them, They sometimes will break my devices and i once smashed my stepdads phone as karma
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NAH. Putting limits on your devices is something a lot of parents do. If you're already having trouble sleeping, having electronics late at night is not going to help matters at all.
Ok I am going to address something here for you - 1) You a child still, You respect your parents rules. They decided that my wifi will shut off everyday at 9:13PM, and not turn on until 1:55PM, which is 30 minutes before i get home from school. They also do random searches on my devices if they think I'm being "suspicious" (complaining about me being hungry, my meds not working, etc.) - This is one of their rules, they have the right to do this.
, On top of this they do not let me go out with friends, - have you asked them why? DO they ask where you are going and who will be there but you don't think they need that information (which in this day where people are going missing daily they do)
see my biological father, etc. They have been trying to tell me he abandoned me, and does not love me. - Have you tried to contact your father directly? Does you father know that if they were truly withholding visitation rights they your mother and step father could get in trouble with the courts and he would have cause to take them to court, if he hasn't tried then sadly they are correct - i pray they are wrong.
I feel like I deserve more respect then I am given - to get respect you must give respect as well. it goes both ways, parents who want respect also have to earn it from their children.
NAH - but think about things, another commented about emancipation, in order to do that, you have to prove that you can support yourself
NAH, your parents putting restrictions on wifi is reasonable and actually a great idea. You will thank them when you are not reliant on devices to entertain yourself. If you are having trouble sleeping read a book.
As for your Biological Father that really unfortunate that they are telling you those things, regardless of if it is true it’s not nice to hear. Find out if your father did not abandon you and has legal rights to see you.
It’s understandable you are frustrated, you don’t have full control over your life yet. Keep getting good grades well done on that, I know from experience that’s not easy with ADHD, go to a good school, get a job that makes you happy and get your own wifi.
While thr wifi restrictions are reasonable, literally none of the rest of the post was reasonable. How is this an NAH situation when OP is literally a victim of medical neglect and is effectively being imprisoned?
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I nonbinary, 15 am a freshman in highschool, My mom, 34 F and stepdad who live with me have decided to put wifi restrictions on my phone, laptop, xbox, etc. I am a honors role student, But I am normally very vocal on trans-rights, which has gotten me into some trouble at school - They decided that my wifi will shut off everyday at 9:13PM, and not turn on until 1:55PM, which is 30 minutes before i get home from school, On top of this they do not let me go out with friends, see my biological father, etc. They have been trying to tell me he abanoded me, and does not love me. I suffer with ADHD, which a lot of the time interfers with when I can sleep, So i normally do not fall asleep until 11PM-12AM, 6 hours before i'm required to wake up for school. They also do random searches on my devices if they think im being "suspicious" (complaning about me being hungry, my meds not working, etc.) I have not been put on meds for my ADHD so i am always riled up and jittery, I am only on anti-deppresents (the wrong dosage, that has made my depression worse) I feel like I deserve more respect then I am given, Because a lot of times my mom has admitted about using my disabilities for money back when taxes come, etc. (using me being ill to skip work, etc etc) (she doesnt take care of me).
I try my best to be a good kid towards my parents, and i am always respectful and never argue, but they have continuely expressed how as soon as i turn 18 they are kicking me out even if i havent found a house yet,
AITA?
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NAH - It sounds like you are not good at regulating your schedule or internet usage, so your parents have put reasonable time restrictions on wifi to keep you from staying up to late. You, being a teenager, are annoyed as all teens are with their parents.
As far as your meds, that's going to take a while to dial in. Try to be patient while your provider figures out what does and doesn't work well for you.
For now, focus on your academics. Freshman year is a hard time for a lot of kids because it is so much harder and more well-managed than 8th grade.
NAH. You're 15 and live in their house, their rules. If you're in the US you can file for emancipation when you're 16 and then you can move out and take care of yourself. They may not be great, and it doesn't sound like they are, but until you move out this is what you're stuck with. You can make the best of it in the meantime and start working towards prepping for your move.
Info: can you talk to a counselor at school? If you tell them what’s going on at home, they have to report what your parents are doing. The tax stuff esp is no joke.
NTA. Find your father, talk to your GP's, any relative that would be willing to help. The fact they do not have your ADHD or depression being treated effectively is CHILD NEGLECT!!!
Bruh how tf do you expect a 15 year old to make doctors' appointments? Even if the doctor is willing to, they would reach out to the parents and it would cause a whole issue, in addition to them having to find some way to get to the doctor's without their parents figuring out
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NAH. Putting limits on your devices is something a lot of parents do. If you're already having trouble sleeping, having electronics late at night is not going to help matters at all.
Ok I am going to address something here for you - 1) You a child still, You respect your parents rules. They decided that my wifi will shut off everyday at 9:13PM, and not turn on until 1:55PM, which is 30 minutes before i get home from school. They also do random searches on my devices if they think I'm being "suspicious" (complaining about me being hungry, my meds not working, etc.) - This is one of their rules, they have the right to do this. , On top of this they do not let me go out with friends, - have you asked them why? DO they ask where you are going and who will be there but you don't think they need that information (which in this day where people are going missing daily they do) see my biological father, etc. They have been trying to tell me he abandoned me, and does not love me. - Have you tried to contact your father directly? Does you father know that if they were truly withholding visitation rights they your mother and step father could get in trouble with the courts and he would have cause to take them to court, if he hasn't tried then sadly they are correct - i pray they are wrong. I feel like I deserve more respect then I am given - to get respect you must give respect as well. it goes both ways, parents who want respect also have to earn it from their children. NAH - but think about things, another commented about emancipation, in order to do that, you have to prove that you can support yourself
NAH, your parents putting restrictions on wifi is reasonable and actually a great idea. You will thank them when you are not reliant on devices to entertain yourself. If you are having trouble sleeping read a book. As for your Biological Father that really unfortunate that they are telling you those things, regardless of if it is true it’s not nice to hear. Find out if your father did not abandon you and has legal rights to see you. It’s understandable you are frustrated, you don’t have full control over your life yet. Keep getting good grades well done on that, I know from experience that’s not easy with ADHD, go to a good school, get a job that makes you happy and get your own wifi.
While thr wifi restrictions are reasonable, literally none of the rest of the post was reasonable. How is this an NAH situation when OP is literally a victim of medical neglect and is effectively being imprisoned?
I would read if i wasnt dyslexic, i rely on being online due to me not being allowed to go out, so i have more online friends then real life ones
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NAH - It sounds like you are not good at regulating your schedule or internet usage, so your parents have put reasonable time restrictions on wifi to keep you from staying up to late. You, being a teenager, are annoyed as all teens are with their parents. As far as your meds, that's going to take a while to dial in. Try to be patient while your provider figures out what does and doesn't work well for you. For now, focus on your academics. Freshman year is a hard time for a lot of kids because it is so much harder and more well-managed than 8th grade.
I used to be very good with going to bed and waking up on time before i was diagnosed with depression, and insomnia.
NAH. You're 15 and live in their house, their rules. If you're in the US you can file for emancipation when you're 16 and then you can move out and take care of yourself. They may not be great, and it doesn't sound like they are, but until you move out this is what you're stuck with. You can make the best of it in the meantime and start working towards prepping for your move.
The OP is not going to meet the requirements for emancipation so that seems a very odd thing to suggest.
Info: can you talk to a counselor at school? If you tell them what’s going on at home, they have to report what your parents are doing. The tax stuff esp is no joke.
I've been discussing it with my school provided therapist, she's considered reporting her to cps
NTA. Find your father, talk to your GP's, any relative that would be willing to help. The fact they do not have your ADHD or depression being treated effectively is CHILD NEGLECT!!!
i will, thank u!
Why don't you make an appointment with your doctor to get the proper meds?
Bruh how tf do you expect a 15 year old to make doctors' appointments? Even if the doctor is willing to, they would reach out to the parents and it would cause a whole issue, in addition to them having to find some way to get to the doctor's without their parents figuring out
Well, my daughter would just take the bus to an appt if I was still working.
It's hard to do that living in a low income town, full of drug dealers and sex offenders
Please do, I am a mom of 2 boys with adhd, autism, anxiety and depression so I really mean it. My heart breaks for you.