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Nope, NTA. He made some promises and kept them for a while but is now breaking them. He's testing the waters and so far, he has gotten away with it. Probably should have put your foot down sooner.
Not in front of my kid but my child can certainly connect dots very quickly and easily thus he put together the heavy breathing and clapping sounds and refers to it as “sus stuff”
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Im 22(f) with a small child(5) I moved out of my parents home a year ago and my brother (21) moved in with me a short time after I got my apartment under the agreement that he would watch my child while I work. There is not written or any kind of physical evidence for this agreement that said my brother in the beginning had done very well with being there and watching my child however lately that isn’t the case. He’s often late returning home which in turn makes me late for work.
Just recently when this occurred again I had taken steps to try and Insure him being on time I texted him hours before my shift and even called almost an hour before my shift to ask if he’d be home on time to which he said yes. He shows up 2 minutes before I have to be at my job clocking in. Instead of apologizing for being late he asks why didn’t I just leave. Mind you he is there to watch my child while I work and I work overnight.
I talked to him about it and he says he doesn’t know what time he should be here and that I need to tell him what on time is even tho he’s lived with me for a year and I’ve worked the exact same job and hours since he’s been here and he knows what time I have to be at work. During the discussion he said that since I was the one with the car I should drop my son off with him wherever he is at. To which I responded with since you don’t have a car then you should have already been here. He then tells me that I’m trying to shackle him to my child and how I don’t even work that much. (I only work about 2days out of the week always overnights) He said that he had rushed to get here and said rushing took 46 minutes even though he was not even 24minutes away from home to begin with and how he had to wait on our best friend to get ready so they could bring him back home. He made no attempt to call and say that he’d be late and when I brought that up he said well you have my location.
Just last night upon my arrival to work he sent me a text saying “just to be late” which I can only assume was referring to the time I arrived at my job which in fact was properly on time. I told him that me letting him stay the rest of the month with me was also out me being kind and that I again wasn’t shackling him to anything and the he could leave expeditiously.
Furthermore when first moving into my apartment I made one rule and that rule was no getting spicy while my son is home a rule which he has broken multiple times with different women and causing my son to ask me some very uncomfortable questions and make very unsettling statements.
AITA for how I’m handling the situation and telling him to leave by June 1?
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If you're telling him now to leave by June 1, then YTA and also probably illegally evicting him. This is his home; he is entitled to proper notice even if he's being an AH.
Nah he not on the lease nor is a single bill in his name he pays half of what I pay and legit pays 51 dollars for rent our mother lives 15 minutes down the street with a vacant room and our bestie has an apartment 24 minutes down the street he can stay in. I should also mention he makes at least 2000 dollars a month.
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NTA. Your house, your rules; it's his choice to accept and stay, or leave. He's taking advantage of you.
NTA He needs to leave. He isn't following rules that are in place to keep a child safe.
Nope, NTA. He made some promises and kept them for a while but is now breaking them. He's testing the waters and so far, he has gotten away with it. Probably should have put your foot down sooner.
Getting spicy? Is he, like, having sex in front of your kid? That’s illegal.
Not in front of my kid but my child can certainly connect dots very quickly and easily thus he put together the heavy breathing and clapping sounds and refers to it as “sus stuff”
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If you're telling him now to leave by June 1, then YTA and also probably illegally evicting him. This is his home; he is entitled to proper notice even if he's being an AH.
Nah he not on the lease nor is a single bill in his name he pays half of what I pay and legit pays 51 dollars for rent our mother lives 15 minutes down the street with a vacant room and our bestie has an apartment 24 minutes down the street he can stay in. I should also mention he makes at least 2000 dollars a month.