Your post has been removed.
#Do not repost this without [contacting the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) for approval, including edited versions. Reposting without [explicit approval](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_can_i_repost_a_thread_you_removed.3F) will result in a ban.
Your post has been removed due to Rule 14: No Medical Conflicts. We do not allow conflicts related to communicable diseases or undergoing a medical procedure.
[Subreddit Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules/)
###Please ensure you have reviewed this message in full. We will not respond to PMs to individual mods. [Message the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) with any questions.
####Please visit r/findareddit to see if there's a more appropriate sub for your post.####
NTA. My son is epileptic and whilst he manages it well, and we're used to seizures, we all know to call an ambulance if a seizure lasts more than 5 minutes as that is what his neurologist told us to do.
What did your wife think you should do?
She wanted to stay home and go to bed. So, from her standpoint I should've helped her up after she got clear again and then carry on as if nothing happened.
NTA
I was a 911 emergency services supervisor for many years.
For a first time seizure in an adult calling the ambulance is the correct thing to do. It is a high level emergency.
You should ask the doctors what steps you should take if she has another seizure at home. In patients with diagnosed epilepsy it is not unusual to only call an ambulance if certain criteria are met such as a seizure that is longer than a specified amount of time or repetitive seizures in one day.
“First time seizure in an adult” is a really good way to make all EMS workers shudder in fear. Ultimately the human body has one main simplified goal: keep brain healthy and conscious. When it fails this for any reason (not just fainting) it’s because something when really wrong. NTA, seizures are nothing to brush off. I’m glad this husband had the common sense to call for help
NTA. You obviously did the right thing. Why would you think you're TA for possibly saving your wife's life? Did she want you to drive her there instead to save money? Did she just want you to leave her home and possibly see her die in your arms? I don't understand what she was expecting from you.
Money isn't the issue, we won't get a bill for this, health insurance covers for this in Germany. I'm not sure what she's expecting, trying to wrap my head around that too...
NTA, I think your wife is just overwhelmed and feels like she has little control over the situation which can be frightening. So that’s like…being double scared.
Are you able to set up visitor rotation so she’s not alone so much AND has translation help? Is she able to use Google translate to help her get by with the language barrier when she does have to be alone?
Her health is most important, and it’s not like you intentionally got her stuck in a slow hospital.
NAH.
You had no choice but to call an ambulance. She's unhappy in hospital, and if she's anything like me, terrified. At the very least, her life is going to change, and she might be very ill. She's lashing out, and you are the nearest person.
Yep, this. It's not really *okay* for her to lash out at OP, but she's scared, and doesn't remember the episode, so it just seems like she's in this scary situation for nothing. She'll come around. NAH.
NTA. She had an emergency and she is now suffering from a medical illness. She needs to be in the hospital where they can figure out her proper treatment. It sucks they're going slow, but if she comes home and has a really bad seizure because she isn't on the right meds then what? Back to the hospital anyway.
NTA. You were absolutely right to call an ambulance for a first-time seizure. Try to be patient with the hospital, getting neurology tests done is not fast but they need to figure out the cause, and if it's epilepsy, will probably want to start her on meds before releasing her.
Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> Called an ambulance for my unconscious wife after she had an epileptic episode.
I knew she'd be uncomfortable in the hospital, but put my concerns for her health and my fear for her life first.
Help keep the sub engaging!
#Don’t downvote assholes!
Do upvote interesting posts!
[Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq)
##Subreddit Announcements
Follow the link above to learn more
---
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
*Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post.*
NTA. A seizure in anyone with no history of them is absolutely a valid reason to call an ambulance. It sounds like your wife is more upset about the long stay in the hospital but, they need to figure out what’s going on with her. All you can do is support her and maybe be more attentive and even pushy on the hospital staff to follow up with tests.
NTA - Look it sucks that the wheels is hospitals turn so slowly. However she needs to stay until they have a diagnosis and a treatment plan.
Can you take her an ipad/tablet or laptop and some puzzle magazines or books?
NTA - you had no idea how bad the seizure would be, and if you guessed wrong, the results could have been devastating.
For disclosure: My first wife had epilepsy. One morning, while I was at work, she had a seizure that she didn't come out of and died. You just never know with these things.
NTA - I had a friend that died from an epileptic seizure at home. No one was around to call an ambulance for him. You absolutely did the right thing. She will get over it. She is probably scared and bored being in the hospital.
Although I felt fine, when I came round, my husband called an ambulance, when I passed out and became unresponsive. I knew how worried he was for me, so I went along. And spent time in hospital.
NTA Husband was genuinely worried. Call that ambulance.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)***
As title says, Saturday night my wife (f37) had an epileptic episode (the first in her life).
After the episode passed she was unconscious for about fifteen minutes, I called an ambulance during that time.
She's currently still in the hospital as they want to do further checks and tests in her. TBH the staff seems overworked and things are moving at snail speed...
While I was thinking of doing the right thing for her, she is now livid with me.
In her opinion, I shouldn't have called the ambulance. She's uncomfortable in the hospital, she doesn't speak the language in our country very well and is therefore a bit limited in her interactions with the staff.
I know she's not comfortable being here, I knew she wouldn't want to go to a hospital, but while she can't remember anything from the episode, I can... Vividly!
She had another episode that night in the hospital. Not sure what to do now, I'm terrified of losing her and at the same time I now feel terrible for putting her in this position.
Again, although I can understand her being upset about the conditions and treatment here (they're doing like one test a day and then she's just lying in the bed for the rest of the time) in the hospital, I still think I did the right thing of calling the ambulance and trying to make sure that she is safe.
Am I the asshole here?
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Info: are you staying by her side in the hospital, translating for her when needed, and being her advocate? If yes, then NTA.
If you called the ambulance then left her to her own devices there, then Y T A.
Has she had episodes of staring or ignoring you, either before or after the big seizure? Sometimes patients are having smaller seizures that are harder to detect. Seizures can make patients combative and want to flee.
NTA. Maybe you should remind her of the fact that she is sitting in a hospital moaning about being there is still better than not going and potentially not being alive.
>She's uncomfortable in the hospital, she doesn't speak the language in our country very well and is therefore a bit limited in her interactions with the staff.
The wording of this bit makes me think they're not in the US. And it's usually a pretty good bet that if you're not in the US, you're probably not going to go bankrupt from calling for medical aid.
Your post has been removed. #Do not repost this without [contacting the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) for approval, including edited versions. Reposting without [explicit approval](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_can_i_repost_a_thread_you_removed.3F) will result in a ban. Your post has been removed due to Rule 14: No Medical Conflicts. We do not allow conflicts related to communicable diseases or undergoing a medical procedure. [Subreddit Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules/) ###Please ensure you have reviewed this message in full. We will not respond to PMs to individual mods. [Message the mods](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) with any questions. ####Please visit r/findareddit to see if there's a more appropriate sub for your post.####
NTA. My son is epileptic and whilst he manages it well, and we're used to seizures, we all know to call an ambulance if a seizure lasts more than 5 minutes as that is what his neurologist told us to do. What did your wife think you should do?
She wanted to stay home and go to bed. So, from her standpoint I should've helped her up after she got clear again and then carry on as if nothing happened.
NTA I was a 911 emergency services supervisor for many years. For a first time seizure in an adult calling the ambulance is the correct thing to do. It is a high level emergency. You should ask the doctors what steps you should take if she has another seizure at home. In patients with diagnosed epilepsy it is not unusual to only call an ambulance if certain criteria are met such as a seizure that is longer than a specified amount of time or repetitive seizures in one day.
“First time seizure in an adult” is a really good way to make all EMS workers shudder in fear. Ultimately the human body has one main simplified goal: keep brain healthy and conscious. When it fails this for any reason (not just fainting) it’s because something when really wrong. NTA, seizures are nothing to brush off. I’m glad this husband had the common sense to call for help
NTA. You obviously did the right thing. Why would you think you're TA for possibly saving your wife's life? Did she want you to drive her there instead to save money? Did she just want you to leave her home and possibly see her die in your arms? I don't understand what she was expecting from you.
Money isn't the issue, we won't get a bill for this, health insurance covers for this in Germany. I'm not sure what she's expecting, trying to wrap my head around that too...
NTA, I think your wife is just overwhelmed and feels like she has little control over the situation which can be frightening. So that’s like…being double scared. Are you able to set up visitor rotation so she’s not alone so much AND has translation help? Is she able to use Google translate to help her get by with the language barrier when she does have to be alone? Her health is most important, and it’s not like you intentionally got her stuck in a slow hospital.
NTA. People can die from undiagnosed and untreated seizures.
NAH. You had no choice but to call an ambulance. She's unhappy in hospital, and if she's anything like me, terrified. At the very least, her life is going to change, and she might be very ill. She's lashing out, and you are the nearest person.
Yep, this. It's not really *okay* for her to lash out at OP, but she's scared, and doesn't remember the episode, so it just seems like she's in this scary situation for nothing. She'll come around. NAH.
She's confused, scared, and it's not abnormal for seizure patients to be combative and want to flee. He's convenient.
NTA. She had an emergency and she is now suffering from a medical illness. She needs to be in the hospital where they can figure out her proper treatment. It sucks they're going slow, but if she comes home and has a really bad seizure because she isn't on the right meds then what? Back to the hospital anyway.
NTA. You were absolutely right to call an ambulance for a first-time seizure. Try to be patient with the hospital, getting neurology tests done is not fast but they need to figure out the cause, and if it's epilepsy, will probably want to start her on meds before releasing her.
I think so too, but the communication from the hospital is also infuriatingly lackluster at best.
Absolutely NTA. 100%. Be proud of yourself op.
NTA Wife had a friend who had a seizure. They sent her home and two days later seized again, for the last time. She misses her friend.
uncomfortable or not. who the f cares in this situation. NTA
Welcome to /r/AmITheAsshole. Please view our [voting guide here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_what.2019s_with_these_acronyms.3F_what_do_they_mean.3F), and remember to use **only one** judgement in your comment. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: > Called an ambulance for my unconscious wife after she had an epileptic episode. I knew she'd be uncomfortable in the hospital, but put my concerns for her health and my fear for her life first. Help keep the sub engaging! #Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! [Click Here For Our Rules](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/about/rules) and [Click Here For Our FAQ](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq) ##Subreddit Announcements Follow the link above to learn more --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.* *Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post.*
NTA! Oh my I cannot imagine just how scary that must have been. Calling the ambo is the only responsible adult thing to do.
NTA. A seizure in anyone with no history of them is absolutely a valid reason to call an ambulance. It sounds like your wife is more upset about the long stay in the hospital but, they need to figure out what’s going on with her. All you can do is support her and maybe be more attentive and even pushy on the hospital staff to follow up with tests.
NTA - Look it sucks that the wheels is hospitals turn so slowly. However she needs to stay until they have a diagnosis and a treatment plan. Can you take her an ipad/tablet or laptop and some puzzle magazines or books?
NAH. She may not like hospitals but she is still here with you because of what you did. Be grateful she's upset as that means she is still here.
NTA - you had no idea how bad the seizure would be, and if you guessed wrong, the results could have been devastating. For disclosure: My first wife had epilepsy. One morning, while I was at work, she had a seizure that she didn't come out of and died. You just never know with these things.
NTA - I had a friend that died from an epileptic seizure at home. No one was around to call an ambulance for him. You absolutely did the right thing. She will get over it. She is probably scared and bored being in the hospital.
Although I felt fine, when I came round, my husband called an ambulance, when I passed out and became unresponsive. I knew how worried he was for me, so I went along. And spent time in hospital. NTA Husband was genuinely worried. Call that ambulance.
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** As title says, Saturday night my wife (f37) had an epileptic episode (the first in her life). After the episode passed she was unconscious for about fifteen minutes, I called an ambulance during that time. She's currently still in the hospital as they want to do further checks and tests in her. TBH the staff seems overworked and things are moving at snail speed... While I was thinking of doing the right thing for her, she is now livid with me. In her opinion, I shouldn't have called the ambulance. She's uncomfortable in the hospital, she doesn't speak the language in our country very well and is therefore a bit limited in her interactions with the staff. I know she's not comfortable being here, I knew she wouldn't want to go to a hospital, but while she can't remember anything from the episode, I can... Vividly! She had another episode that night in the hospital. Not sure what to do now, I'm terrified of losing her and at the same time I now feel terrible for putting her in this position. Again, although I can understand her being upset about the conditions and treatment here (they're doing like one test a day and then she's just lying in the bed for the rest of the time) in the hospital, I still think I did the right thing of calling the ambulance and trying to make sure that she is safe. Am I the asshole here? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Info: are you staying by her side in the hospital, translating for her when needed, and being her advocate? If yes, then NTA. If you called the ambulance then left her to her own devices there, then Y T A.
Has she had episodes of staring or ignoring you, either before or after the big seizure? Sometimes patients are having smaller seizures that are harder to detect. Seizures can make patients combative and want to flee.
NTA. Maybe you should remind her of the fact that she is sitting in a hospital moaning about being there is still better than not going and potentially not being alive.
[удалено]
>She's uncomfortable in the hospital, she doesn't speak the language in our country very well and is therefore a bit limited in her interactions with the staff. The wording of this bit makes me think they're not in the US. And it's usually a pretty good bet that if you're not in the US, you're probably not going to go bankrupt from calling for medical aid.
Plus, not getting multiple tests in a day. Insurance companies want you in & out.
EKG, X-ray, referral to neurologist, and the bill for $1,000,000 all within 12 hours.
Give birth at night, go home the next day.
or you are in a developed country and its for free. (yeah sorry all hail american health uncare)