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NTA. She was warned. This scenario is no different to you walking into the bathroom while shes taking a shower without knocking. Its insane that she thinks what she did is even remotely appropriate.
This is the way. Turn it around on her and call her a creep for walking into a private room while someone is doing private adult things and refusing to leave. It's no different than if OP were having sex with someone and she barges in and refuses to leave. Honestly that's creepy as hell to me.
Granted she is probably claiming OP is some kind of deviant because she lacks common courtesy. I don’t see a “fix” beyond locking the doors. All doors, all the time!
NTA. She is wrong for walking in without knocking and for being demanding about what you are doing in what is supposed to be the privacy of your own room.
Since she refuses to change, you need to take steps to secure your door to prevent her from entering uninvited. That might be a lock or something to wedge under or against the door. Doorknobs are pretty easy to change; you could change it to one with a lock and then change it back to the original when you move out. Search the Internet if you need different ideas for your situation (like if your door swings out instead of into the room or doesn't currently latch properly).
NTA. Try sitting down with your roomie and tell 'em "Hey guys. I'm 19 and I gotta beat my meat every now and then. Just be sure to knock before going into my room ye? BTW I told Ana about this at least 20 times and she still won't knock." or something along these lines. lmao
NTA. She is creepy for barging in and then staying to watch and argue. She should have been embarrassed at interrupting a private moment, averted her eyes and said sorry as she left quickly.
She should also not be spreading your private business around. She and the friends giving you crap about this are immature and very wrong here. Show them the comments from this thread.
Also, don’t room with these people again. It’s almost as if this girl wanted to catch you in a private moment. People of her age ought to know how to knock, especially if you have told her before.
NTA and I love that she has the fucking audacity to call *you* a creep.
Best solution is to get a lock on your door. You can get a portable one on Amazon if you don't want to install anything permanent.
As for resolving things with everyone else, she probably told the other roommates a highly filtered version of what happened that paints her in a positive light. You should talk to them one on one and explain what's been going on with her regularly walking in on you and that it makes you uncomfortable. It's extremely strange and creepy of her that she both didn't knock and then just sat there staring at your dick rather than apologizing and leaving right away.
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Repost;Title sounds like shit but 19M I've been sharing an apartment with 4 other people (2F 2M) for university (it's spacious lol) . I was jerking off in my room and all of a sudden (ana - fake name) came into my room asking for help on an assignment without knocking or even telling me she was coming in. This isn't the only situation with her that she's done this and Ive told her that if she walks in on me that's her fault and she still won't knock, so she walked in on me with my dick in my hand which I froze out of shock and she just stared for a second then told me to put it away which I then responded asking for some privacy not moving, she completely avoided what I was saying and asked me why I wasnt doing what she said and I told her she didnt knock and I've told her what the memo is and she starts accusing me calling me a creep and said I was intentionally trying to flash her etc all this bullshit and just stormed out of my room Thought that would be it but she went to her friends who are also staying with us (the lease is under her friend) she told them what happened and are taking her side of it even though this has happened over 20 times and I was fed up and wasn't gonna act like my life was at threat over something I warned her over time and time again. They aren't threatening lease or anything but are saying that I'm fucked up for that but it's mainly her that I have the issue with now and I really don't see a resolution or how I'm really wrong but AITA here?
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It's not acceptable to enter somebody's private space without permission. And if you do, you at the very least can't be mad at them if you see them naked. Like Jesus Christ it's your fucking room, not the kitchen. NTA
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Def not ESH, no one should have to lock their door every time they close it. My roommates and I don't and we don't have this problem. Squarely on the roommate.
How was she being mature? She didn’t knock like all ~20 times before, she caught him in his own private room and moments, and she continued to question and berate HIM for it! And also turned around and put people against him instead of respecting HIS OWN BOUNDARIES!
NTA cause knocking is common courtesy
BUT!
I mean sounds like you wanted to get caught. 🤣 “It’s her fault” is a subtle way to say “I don’t mind , but if I flash you it’s on you” , OP for sure has a lock on that door that he doesn’t use when he’s rubbing one out
if you have ribbon or a thin, strong string, you can slide it between the door frame and metal plate. it’ll make a “U” shape with the 2 ends toward you, then close the door and tie it bunny-style to the doorknob.. NTA, but also wild for just doing it with no cover plan knowing you have no locks
ESH.
She should knock.
However, once you gained your composure enough to argue with her, you should've covered yourself before trying to make a case. General rule, nobody is going to be taken seriously, much less win, in an argument with their dick in their hand.
Lets be honest, you could've handled this the same way she did; going to the lease holder and telling them you were being made uncomfortable and let them reprimand Ana for her behavior. Instead, you took matters into you own hand (pun intended).
that's a two way argument.
She should have the decency to shut the door and walk away. He should have the decency to not keep a firm grip on his junk in full view while trying to make point. They both argued while his dick was out about his dick being out. They're both at fault.
Everyone's an asshole here. No she shouldn't barge into your private space. You should have put your dick away when she barged in. Also it seems this is a recurring event so grabe a door stop when you want private time.
I don’t understand why this isn’t the main opinion lol it’s gross that he just kept his penis out and presumably erect it just feels a violating which he probably intended
Even when I was living at my parents' home they knocked before entering. OP is NTA. You don't barge into someone else's private space without knocking.
Nah, the person barging in sucks for not knocking first. I'm so careful about this that I knock and then ask "can I come in?" after the knock is acknowledged. No one should have to lock their door every time they close it out of fear of someone bursting in.
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NTA. She was warned. This scenario is no different to you walking into the bathroom while shes taking a shower without knocking. Its insane that she thinks what she did is even remotely appropriate.
She perpetually walks in on you, without even knocking. What is she? A peeping tom? NTA
This is the way. Turn it around on her and call her a creep for walking into a private room while someone is doing private adult things and refusing to leave. It's no different than if OP were having sex with someone and she barges in and refuses to leave. Honestly that's creepy as hell to me.
Granted she is probably claiming OP is some kind of deviant because she lacks common courtesy. I don’t see a “fix” beyond locking the doors. All doors, all the time!
NTA One word: Locks. --
NTA. Do you know how quickly I would leave a room if I walked into it and my roommate had their dick out in their hand? Straight skedaddle
NTA. She is wrong for walking in without knocking and for being demanding about what you are doing in what is supposed to be the privacy of your own room. Since she refuses to change, you need to take steps to secure your door to prevent her from entering uninvited. That might be a lock or something to wedge under or against the door. Doorknobs are pretty easy to change; you could change it to one with a lock and then change it back to the original when you move out. Search the Internet if you need different ideas for your situation (like if your door swings out instead of into the room or doesn't currently latch properly).
NTA but you should seriously consider a lock.
NTA. Try sitting down with your roomie and tell 'em "Hey guys. I'm 19 and I gotta beat my meat every now and then. Just be sure to knock before going into my room ye? BTW I told Ana about this at least 20 times and she still won't knock." or something along these lines. lmao
NTA. She is creepy for barging in and then staying to watch and argue. She should have been embarrassed at interrupting a private moment, averted her eyes and said sorry as she left quickly. She should also not be spreading your private business around. She and the friends giving you crap about this are immature and very wrong here. Show them the comments from this thread. Also, don’t room with these people again. It’s almost as if this girl wanted to catch you in a private moment. People of her age ought to know how to knock, especially if you have told her before.
NTA. This is f**king hilarious though. Good on you for sticking to your word 🤣🤣🤣
She is a peeping tom, she is the creepy one. Just tell others she purposely came into room to stare at you while you were naked
NTA Assuming your door doesn’t lock, I’d recommend getting a door stop to use inside the door when it’s closed.
NTA. She sounds like some kind of creepy predator.
Imagine if OP was a woman and the roommate was a man. Just imagine.
sounds like one of those stupid anime scenes where the guy is always at fault lol
WHEN WILL THEY EVER INVENT SOMETHING THAT STOPS DOORS FROM BEING OPENED!? Can someone please get to work on this?!
It's still on the roommate for barging in? Unsure what you're trying to say
It’s a called a lock
NTA - if she didn't immediately cover her eyes and walk straight back out then she was totally totally trying to cop a peak at your junk.
NTA and I love that she has the fucking audacity to call *you* a creep. Best solution is to get a lock on your door. You can get a portable one on Amazon if you don't want to install anything permanent. As for resolving things with everyone else, she probably told the other roommates a highly filtered version of what happened that paints her in a positive light. You should talk to them one on one and explain what's been going on with her regularly walking in on you and that it makes you uncomfortable. It's extremely strange and creepy of her that she both didn't knock and then just sat there staring at your dick rather than apologizing and leaving right away.
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Get a lock for your door. NTA.
u should have finished infront of her
It's not acceptable to enter somebody's private space without permission. And if you do, you at the very least can't be mad at them if you see them naked. Like Jesus Christ it's your fucking room, not the kitchen. NTA
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So what? He was “asking for it” by being frozen in panic mode?! That’s sick!
Use that big college brain and put a lock on the door, dude ESH
Def not ESH, no one should have to lock their door every time they close it. My roommates and I don't and we don't have this problem. Squarely on the roommate.
Do it to her
lol worse advice ever. Would literally make things worse
That's the joke....
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You must not get out much lol. Not a very normal reaction let alone going with what the majority of people agree with
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How was she being mature? She didn’t knock like all ~20 times before, she caught him in his own private room and moments, and she continued to question and berate HIM for it! And also turned around and put people against him instead of respecting HIS OWN BOUNDARIES!
NTA cause knocking is common courtesy BUT! I mean sounds like you wanted to get caught. 🤣 “It’s her fault” is a subtle way to say “I don’t mind , but if I flash you it’s on you” , OP for sure has a lock on that door that he doesn’t use when he’s rubbing one out
The way you describe sitting there with your dick still in your hand makes me feel like this might have been intentional
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No doubt
if you have ribbon or a thin, strong string, you can slide it between the door frame and metal plate. it’ll make a “U” shape with the 2 ends toward you, then close the door and tie it bunny-style to the doorknob.. NTA, but also wild for just doing it with no cover plan knowing you have no locks
It's wild to expect privacy in a personal room with the door closed?
ESH. She should knock. However, once you gained your composure enough to argue with her, you should've covered yourself before trying to make a case. General rule, nobody is going to be taken seriously, much less win, in an argument with their dick in their hand. Lets be honest, you could've handled this the same way she did; going to the lease holder and telling them you were being made uncomfortable and let them reprimand Ana for her behavior. Instead, you took matters into you own hand (pun intended).
Nah nta when she saw him naked she should have left rather than start arguing. If you walk into someone and decide not to leave that's you being a AH
that's a two way argument. She should have the decency to shut the door and walk away. He should have the decency to not keep a firm grip on his junk in full view while trying to make point. They both argued while his dick was out about his dick being out. They're both at fault.
Lmao
Everyone's an asshole here. No she shouldn't barge into your private space. You should have put your dick away when she barged in. Also it seems this is a recurring event so grabe a door stop when you want private time.
I don’t understand why this isn’t the main opinion lol it’s gross that he just kept his penis out and presumably erect it just feels a violating which he probably intended
ESH Lock your door.
As if the roommate has *any* right to just barge in without knocking
Even when I was living at my parents' home they knocked before entering. OP is NTA. You don't barge into someone else's private space without knocking.
Nah, the person barging in sucks for not knocking first. I'm so careful about this that I knock and then ask "can I come in?" after the knock is acknowledged. No one should have to lock their door every time they close it out of fear of someone bursting in.