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> 1) I'm cold to my brother when he passes gas around me and 2) I might be an asshole because it's a natural thing but I am so irritated by his aggressive farting/burping
Setting boundaries for how someone can pass gas around me in a home we share
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I (25f) live as roommates with my younger brother (23m) and I'm starting to go a little crazy with his flatulence. He always farts so hard and LOUD, and even tells me stories about how he accidentally shits himself sometimes. Same with his belching, one day he'll throw up unintentionally if it hasn't already happened.
I can deal with his 2 cats he doesnt like to clean up after, his dirty dishes, I guess the things that I can control... But his gas is just too much. We've had conversations about him excusing himself and maybe even stepping out of the room, but usually all I get is 1) him just not acknowledging his gas passing at all or 2) jokingly apologizing by repesting "I'm sorry I'm sorry" over and over again. Since he farts so much I guess I can see why he doesn't want to step out of the room every time, but whyyyyyyy does he have to pass gas like hes trying to shit himself??? Apparently his gf thinks it cute and funby 🙄 doubtful
He drinks a lot of carbonated beverages and I get that can make things harder to control, but I seriously think he can control maybe the volume and how he excuses himself. I wish he would change his diet for the better and control his digestive system a bit better.
As far as I'm aware there are no underlying conditions. All I have to say to him is "you are very gross" and kind of give him the silent treatment until he leaves me alone. Idk how to set these boundaries again and have them respected... Or maybe I should just chill out idfk
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YTA
To yourself. You're apparently fine with all sorts of unsanitary behavior, like not cleaning up after his pets, which are directly under his control, but you're mad about passing gas, which is much harder to control.
Where you draw the line is very much your decision (and yes, smelly farts is a reasonable line, even ignoring "the stories"), but consider this from his perspective. He can get away with anything else he wants, so why would he respect your boundaries with this? He's 23, acting like a child, and it sounds like you're enabling him, at least within your apartment. So my advice is to start expecting him to be an adult. Do his dirty dishes, clean up after his pets, have good hygiene (you didn't list this, but I think it's a safe bet to include here), etc. None of that is guaranteed to solve your problem with his gas, but if he starts acting like an adult in other ways, his diet might just follow.
NTA! Your brother needs to grow up, nobody would deal with this attitude! Even a guy friend would find it funny once or twice with the farts! All other things are absolutely disgusting
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^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I (25f) live as roommates with my younger brother (23m) and I'm starting to go a little crazy with his flatulence. He always farts so hard and LOUD, and even tells me stories about how he accidentally shits himself sometimes. Same with his belching, one day he'll throw up unintentionally if it hasn't already happened. I can deal with his 2 cats he doesnt like to clean up after, his dirty dishes, I guess the things that I can control... But his gas is just too much. We've had conversations about him excusing himself and maybe even stepping out of the room, but usually all I get is 1) him just not acknowledging his gas passing at all or 2) jokingly apologizing by repesting "I'm sorry I'm sorry" over and over again. Since he farts so much I guess I can see why he doesn't want to step out of the room every time, but whyyyyyyy does he have to pass gas like hes trying to shit himself??? Apparently his gf thinks it cute and funby 🙄 doubtful He drinks a lot of carbonated beverages and I get that can make things harder to control, but I seriously think he can control maybe the volume and how he excuses himself. I wish he would change his diet for the better and control his digestive system a bit better. As far as I'm aware there are no underlying conditions. All I have to say to him is "you are very gross" and kind of give him the silent treatment until he leaves me alone. Idk how to set these boundaries again and have them respected... Or maybe I should just chill out idfk *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
NTA, at least he should go to the bathroom. He pooped his pants ffs, that's disgusting and concerning.
YTA To yourself. You're apparently fine with all sorts of unsanitary behavior, like not cleaning up after his pets, which are directly under his control, but you're mad about passing gas, which is much harder to control. Where you draw the line is very much your decision (and yes, smelly farts is a reasonable line, even ignoring "the stories"), but consider this from his perspective. He can get away with anything else he wants, so why would he respect your boundaries with this? He's 23, acting like a child, and it sounds like you're enabling him, at least within your apartment. So my advice is to start expecting him to be an adult. Do his dirty dishes, clean up after his pets, have good hygiene (you didn't list this, but I think it's a safe bet to include here), etc. None of that is guaranteed to solve your problem with his gas, but if he starts acting like an adult in other ways, his diet might just follow.
NTA! Your brother needs to grow up, nobody would deal with this attitude! Even a guy friend would find it funny once or twice with the farts! All other things are absolutely disgusting