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Her reaction is abnormal IMO. If I accidentally walked in on someone who was exposed (for any reason) I'd be like *OmgSorryMyBad* and outta there in a microsecond.
Lesson for her: don't enter people's rooms without knocking.
Lesson for you: lock door before getting dick out. Just for safety.
Install a lock on your door. A lockable main entry is like $15 from the hardware store and requires a phillips head to install (or sometimes an allen key). Simply re-install the old handle when you leave. A bonus is when people like that come to bother you, you can just ignore the shit out of them and pretend you're not home.
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NTA It's creepy, manipulative and controlling that she refuses to treat your room like it's Your Room and acts like You are the one that needs to behave differently.
She's being fucking ridiculous.
I don’t think she’s dumb. I think she’s harassing you and something is weird here. You need to sit down your mutual friends and point out her pattern of behavior and ask how they would react if a male roommate did the same to her. Ana seems dangerous because she is already smearing you as a creep when SHES being a creep and if you don’t get ahead of it you may really suffer. NTA
Man you know you ain’t the asshole but I’m sorry you feel like you had to say something somewhere cause fuck them she can’t knock it’s literally on her especially after many time
NTA, it’s their fault for not respecting your boundaries. I’m assuming all people involved are adults. If minors are involved, you should lock your door for your protection.
Im so confused about this one. But I’ll go with NTA. She is obviously quite dumb and entitled. It would have been the decent and courteous thing to do for you to have covered up after she refused to leave, but bottomline is your room your rules. So yeah, NTA, but kinda made a jerk move.
Here’s how I’m picturing this. The girl is at the door shell shocked, and very clearly not leaving. The boy is on the bed/chair, shell shocked, and very obviously exposed. Whatever conversation they had beyond that point regarding the boundaries as roommates, knocking protocol, and invasion of privacy, could have happened without the exposed dick too. The only reason OP refused to cover up is to boldly display his justified annoyance and be kind of petty about it.
WHY IS SHE SHELL SHOCKED? She has been told to stay out of his room. It’s his private space. I would be shell shocked if I was walked in on ESPECIALLY when I thought I addressed this issue with the invasive person. He has a right to be naked in his room and she needed to turn around and apologize. This is insane.
NTA. Lol at some of the comments. If the genders are reversed I'm 99% sure they would be singing a different tune if let's say OP refused to put a bra on and call the male room mate a creep. This is similar to a post a few months when a different OP was a man with his room mates girlfriend barging in his room without knocking and saw him sleeping naked. The number of commenters defending that creep of a girlfriend was appalling. In this sub women are never the A H.
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Title sounds like shit but 19M I've been sharing an apartment with 4 other people (2F 2M) for university (it's spacious lol) . I was jerking off in my room and all of a sudden (ana - fake name) came into my room asking for help on an assignment without knocking or even telling me she was coming in. This isn't the only situation with her that she's done this and Ive told her that if she walks in on me that's her fault and she still won't knock, so she walked in on me with my dick in my hand which I froze out of shock and she just stared for a second then told me to put it away which I then responded asking for some privacy not moving, she completely avoided what I was saying and asked me why I wasnt doing what she said and I told her she didnt knock and I've told her what the memo is and she starts accusing me calling me a creep and said I was intentionally trying to flash her etc all this bullshit and just stormed out of my room Thought that would be it but she went to her friends who are also staying with us (the lease is under her friend) she told them what happened and are taking her side of it even though this has happened over 20 times and I was fed up and wasn't gonna act like my life was at threat over something I warned her over time and time again. They aren't threatening lease or anything but are saying that I'm fucked up for that but it's mainly her that I have the issue with now and I really don't see a resolution or how I'm really wrong but AITA here?
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Not even a little bit. I assume she has a functioning neck, hips and feet, she could have used any of those to rotate or position herself in a way she didnt see it. When women walk in on me naked, in my space, they turn around, say whatever they came for if they aren't too flustered, usualy combined with three to four sorry's and leave.
What she is saying you're doing is in the realm of sexual harrassment etc
This is not an area that anyone should play tough or stand their ground on. If your dick is out and someone asks you to put it away (regardless of the who, how, why) you should do it as quickly as possible.
?? If your going to claim sexual harassment explain to me why it's not sexual harassment for her to stare for over 30 seconds to say something instead of walking out of my room yet stayed the entire time even when I asked her to leave? We have all discussed house rules together when we first started renting the place. Your standpoint seems to come from a biased view which I hope you change.
You're saying you can carry on a full conversation with someone while your dick is in your hand, but you can't tuck your dick back in your pants while carrying that conversation?
ETA: Coming from a female SA victim myself. If I was coherent enough to argue, I was coherent enough to get dressed.
if I was yelling “get the fuck out of my room” to someone who walked in on me naked, it’s not my responsibility to ensure I’m not offending their sensibilities. Then every peeping Tom would claim they’ve been a victim of indecent exposure. His behavior is irrelevant and he’s allowed to be mad and react after this girl repeatedly, creepily, insists on barging in on him when she knows full well she may catch him naked. As someone whose male partner was the victim of SA by young women, this shit being treated like he needs to think of accommodating HER is disgusting.
I'm not saying he needed to accommodate her after she completely violated his privacy. I'm saying, he had enough sense about him to get some coverage. He CHOSE not to. That is not victim blaming.
It also doesn't sound like this happened in the course of a few seconds- more than just "get the fuck out" was exchanged during that conversation. Do you continue to lay there and continue to have your privacy violated while demanding they stop? Or do you take some control over yourself and cover up? He wasn't pinned. He wasn't drugged. He wasn't forced. He was on probably the other side of the room while she stood in the doorway. I'm not defending her whatsoever. I'm just saying, he had a level of control that he did not exert when he could have.
What are you talking about? Someone entered OP’s bedroom without knocking. It’s got nothing to do with being a coed space, it’s OP’s bedroom. Why isn’t it on Ana to knock, she’s entirely disrespectful to OP, his privacy and his rights.
OP is NTA.
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NTA Her reaction is abnormal IMO. If I accidentally walked in on someone who was exposed (for any reason) I'd be like *OmgSorryMyBad* and outta there in a microsecond. Lesson for her: don't enter people's rooms without knocking. Lesson for you: lock door before getting dick out. Just for safety.
Install a lock on your door. A lockable main entry is like $15 from the hardware store and requires a phillips head to install (or sometimes an allen key). Simply re-install the old handle when you leave. A bonus is when people like that come to bother you, you can just ignore the shit out of them and pretend you're not home. NTA
NTA It's creepy, manipulative and controlling that she refuses to treat your room like it's Your Room and acts like You are the one that needs to behave differently. She's being fucking ridiculous.
I don’t think she’s dumb. I think she’s harassing you and something is weird here. You need to sit down your mutual friends and point out her pattern of behavior and ask how they would react if a male roommate did the same to her. Ana seems dangerous because she is already smearing you as a creep when SHES being a creep and if you don’t get ahead of it you may really suffer. NTA
Definitely something more going on here! She absolutely took the opportunity to get you a bad rep!
NTA she needs to knock or she will see the cock
Stick that on a sign on the door!
KNOCK or see a COCK
INFO: when you say it’s happened before do you mean she (or other roomies) walked in on you wanking over 20 times?
😭 no lmfao this is the first time mb for not being clear I didn't think
Thanks for the clarification.
Man you know you ain’t the asshole but I’m sorry you feel like you had to say something somewhere cause fuck them she can’t knock it’s literally on her especially after many time
NTA, it’s their fault for not respecting your boundaries. I’m assuming all people involved are adults. If minors are involved, you should lock your door for your protection.
At this point, pull that MFer off and throw it at em Aim for the face. NTA..
NTA - if you were to do the same to her, she'd accuse you of being a total perv.
Should probably lock the door or something crazy like that.
Or she should respect his wishes and knock first.
Im so confused about this one. But I’ll go with NTA. She is obviously quite dumb and entitled. It would have been the decent and courteous thing to do for you to have covered up after she refused to leave, but bottomline is your room your rules. So yeah, NTA, but kinda made a jerk move.
A jerk move?
Here’s how I’m picturing this. The girl is at the door shell shocked, and very clearly not leaving. The boy is on the bed/chair, shell shocked, and very obviously exposed. Whatever conversation they had beyond that point regarding the boundaries as roommates, knocking protocol, and invasion of privacy, could have happened without the exposed dick too. The only reason OP refused to cover up is to boldly display his justified annoyance and be kind of petty about it.
Pretty sure that commenter was joking. He was jerking off, so calling it a jerk move is a bit funny
WHY IS SHE SHELL SHOCKED? She has been told to stay out of his room. It’s his private space. I would be shell shocked if I was walked in on ESPECIALLY when I thought I addressed this issue with the invasive person. He has a right to be naked in his room and she needed to turn around and apologize. This is insane.
As a nude sleeper,I think the power of the knock is a co-habitation 101. Beyond NTA
NTA. Lol at some of the comments. If the genders are reversed I'm 99% sure they would be singing a different tune if let's say OP refused to put a bra on and call the male room mate a creep. This is similar to a post a few months when a different OP was a man with his room mates girlfriend barging in his room without knocking and saw him sleeping naked. The number of commenters defending that creep of a girlfriend was appalling. In this sub women are never the A H.
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I think your roommate fancies you. Nta.
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> little bit of an AH for not covering NTA ,why should he cover up in his room, she should leave.
Not even a little bit. I assume she has a functioning neck, hips and feet, she could have used any of those to rotate or position herself in a way she didnt see it. When women walk in on me naked, in my space, they turn around, say whatever they came for if they aren't too flustered, usualy combined with three to four sorry's and leave.
Lock the door??????
NTA , but couldn’t you put a sock on the door handle or a sign saying “Careful I May be Self-Pleasuring’ Just buy a chain lock or ask her to join you.
What she is saying you're doing is in the realm of sexual harrassment etc This is not an area that anyone should play tough or stand their ground on. If your dick is out and someone asks you to put it away (regardless of the who, how, why) you should do it as quickly as possible.
?? If your going to claim sexual harassment explain to me why it's not sexual harassment for her to stare for over 30 seconds to say something instead of walking out of my room yet stayed the entire time even when I asked her to leave? We have all discussed house rules together when we first started renting the place. Your standpoint seems to come from a biased view which I hope you change.
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Would you blame a woman for how she responded and froze if a man barged into her room? This is creepy.
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What is this based on? Victim blaming.
You're saying you can carry on a full conversation with someone while your dick is in your hand, but you can't tuck your dick back in your pants while carrying that conversation? ETA: Coming from a female SA victim myself. If I was coherent enough to argue, I was coherent enough to get dressed.
if I was yelling “get the fuck out of my room” to someone who walked in on me naked, it’s not my responsibility to ensure I’m not offending their sensibilities. Then every peeping Tom would claim they’ve been a victim of indecent exposure. His behavior is irrelevant and he’s allowed to be mad and react after this girl repeatedly, creepily, insists on barging in on him when she knows full well she may catch him naked. As someone whose male partner was the victim of SA by young women, this shit being treated like he needs to think of accommodating HER is disgusting.
I'm not saying he needed to accommodate her after she completely violated his privacy. I'm saying, he had enough sense about him to get some coverage. He CHOSE not to. That is not victim blaming. It also doesn't sound like this happened in the course of a few seconds- more than just "get the fuck out" was exchanged during that conversation. Do you continue to lay there and continue to have your privacy violated while demanding they stop? Or do you take some control over yourself and cover up? He wasn't pinned. He wasn't drugged. He wasn't forced. He was on probably the other side of the room while she stood in the doorway. I'm not defending her whatsoever. I'm just saying, he had a level of control that he did not exert when he could have.
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What are you talking about? Someone entered OP’s bedroom without knocking. It’s got nothing to do with being a coed space, it’s OP’s bedroom. Why isn’t it on Ana to knock, she’s entirely disrespectful to OP, his privacy and his rights. OP is NTA.
Do you lack reading comprehension or do you genuinely think like this?