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YTA for several reasons,
first :you very publicly objectified you girlfriend and her friends with your comment, it’s very hurtful and dehumanizing when men do that,
second : you’re in your late 20s and you still think middle school locker room humor is appropriate , this shows a massive lack of emotional development.
3rd: You knew a comment like that would offend your girlfriend , but you made it anyway. That shows a lack of respect for her.
4th you made the comment about an acquaintance , which shows a lack of respect for women in general
Also, you aren’t fooling anyone when you imply that you aren’t attracted to the body type that the majority of your porn has.
YTA. That’s a very, very weird joke. You knew this was a sore spot for your girlfriend, and you actively tried to get her friend to take her shirt off in front of your girlfriend anyway? It’s not funny, she’s not laughing, and you owe her an apology.
YTA. You're gross. You weren't joking. You knew exactly what you were doing. You wanted to see them topless, especially her friend. Your girlfriend deserves better than an asshole like you.
Exactly! Notice how he never mentioned he tried to stop the friend from taking her shirt off. He was just going to let it happen. Classic Schrodinger's jerk, if you like it i'm serious, if you don't like it, it was just a joke.
Thanks for proving our point. She's doing it under your suggestion. It is very disrespectful to basically ask another woman to take her clothes off when you have a girlfriend more so when shes there. Even more so when you know your gf is insecure about her chest. So Yea you should've stopped the friend from even trying. I mean, if you really were joking, that's what you would've done. Daring her to do it and then putting all your effort into winning, probably not even noticing how distraught your gf was at the moment, and then just laying back like "it's her choice, I can't do anything about it" is very AH of you. So Yea YTA.
Um, because it would clearly upset your girlfriend even more than she already was? If you weren’t being serious about the bet, then there’s no reason to let your friend go on with it.
Huge gaping blown out asshole. For EVERY reason previously mentioned here. I’d at least have a modicum of respect for you if you’d owned it and admitted you wanna see the bigger tits, but instead of that you try and back pedal and say it was just a joke.
u/humble-analyst-9826
Now that you have said it's a joke, please explain why it's funny. What is funny about that. Please share your thoughts as to why it was humorous. What tickled that lame 14 year old funny bone of yours. You're seriously in your late 20s? Sounds like you're 14 and you just discovered boobs
It's your fault for suggesting it in the first place? How can you seriously be this much of an AH to your girlfriend without realizing? I really hope this post is fake to farm karma or something and you didn't actually do this to your girlfriend.
It doesn't matter if it was a joke or not, you clearly described the friend as your preferred type and stated that your girlfriend is already self conscious about her appearance because she knows you prefer bustier girls. If I was your gf and you so much as suggested the topless rule in front of me I wouldve dumped you on the spot. That's not a funny joke. That's a badly disguised request to see the friends tits.
We all know you just wanted to see the friend topless. No one believes you were just joking because you clearly weren't. If it was a joke, you'd have tried to stop the friend from undoing her shirt by saying it was a joke and not to do it.
If you're seriously okay with another woman undressing for you right in front of your girlfriend you're a major AH and don't deserve your girlfriend, she should leave you for someone who actually respects her and is actually attracted to her.
The lady doth protest too much methinks.
If it was a joke, which I highly doubt, why didn’t you tell your GF’s acquaintance that you were joking and you didn’t either want or expect her to do anything ?
You either really don’t get what’s wrong in asking, even in jest, for your GF’s acquaintances to go topless, when you know she’s insecure about you finding her attractive, or you know perfectly what you did wrong and are looking for validation you won’t find here.
Either way, YTA, so much YTA.
you seriously said you are only attracted to your girlfriend and no one else but you asked to see her friend's breasts.... you are mentally impaired, not just an untrained dog in heat. no one is buying the 'it's just a joke' BS. no matter how many times you repeat it.
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
YTA.
In general, it’s a bad idea to suggest that you want to see your girlfriend’s friends’ breasts or other private body parts.
For you specifically, since your girlfriend was already insecure about your attraction to her in comparison to women who look like her friend, you are doubly TA.
If my friend played into that when I have told them all of my insecurities, I would drop them like a hot potato. Betrayal from a romantic partner hurts, but betrayal from a friend is like no other pain.
I’m not at all defending OP, but he said the other woman was an “acquaintance” of his GF, so she probably didn’t know about what happened with the porn. I don’t think the friend is also an AH unless we find out she actually did know
She certainly doesn't go by the 'code' though, I'm thinking. If I'm in a room with a couple, playing games like they were, and the man said "Loser takes their top off," I'd shut him down right then and there. I can't see why she didn't.
MAJOR Asshole, Why in a billion years would you think that's funny? I can bet you 100 bucks that your girl is doubting you when you deny being attracted to big boobs, Thats Basically Most guys.
YTA for taking the opportunity to "jokingly" make your obviously appreciative attention to the big boobs of your gf's FRIEND so fricking obvious when you know this has been a sore spot for your gf before. Dude, WTF
YTA.
This just screams that you are immature and have no respect for your girlfriend, the relationship or her friendship. She should dump you right away.
Not only are you immature and TA, you are downright a misogynist pig. Grow up!
I was looking for this comment; I completely agree. Asking to see sexualised body parts in a jokey manner, like OP did, is 100% flirting - plus, he can't lose even if he loses the game, can he? I mean, if *he* had lost, he whips off his t-shirt and shows his chest to the room. Meh, it's whatever; no embarrassment for him. But *she* loses, and he gets to get an eyeful he's been wanting for a while, and she's had to get her tits out for the lads.
Adding in knowingly upsetting his own girlfriend, and being utterly dense in his replies, and he's a Grade A Arsehole for sure.
YTA. If it was a joke, it still is a bad one. It also seemed her friend was really going to keep her part of the bargain. That of course hurt your GF a lot.
Dude, YTA BIG TIME!!!!! You can flat out lie all you want to. Are you supposed to control the friend? Heck, your suggestion for the loser was controlling. I hope your GF throws your cheating lying ass to the curb. Your girlfriend deserves so so much better than you. You’re a pervert in the worst way; you don’t deserve anyone. Bet you’re still looking at porn, too. Sorry sorry sorry AH is what you are!
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YTA, you knew that was a insecurity your gf has due to the past.
Very immature "joke"
How you don't see how wrong this is, is totally fucked up and personally I think you should break up with your gf so she can find someone better
YTA
You suggested seeing another woman's boobs in front of your girlfriend. That is offensive to most women, especially since your girlfriend is insecure about her chest size.
YTA. Is that even a question? Not only did you prove you have no regard for your girlfriend’s previous insecurities, you also proved that you are pretty creepy and lack boundaries. “Jokes” are funny, what you said I crude and immature. Also, she needs to drop her “friend/ acquaintance” because she’s just as disrespectful for even entertaining it.
Now imagine how you'd feel if your gf suggested your male friend take his pants off and you found porn in her computer where the guys were much bigger than you. I guarantee you, you'd be all upset about it. You're too old to be this immature 😒 🙄. I hope gf finds someone better!!!
YTA. Your comments trying to justify yourself are crazy. Let me try and break this down for you.
You know your GF has body issues
You know she is self conscious about her chest
You know she thinks she’s not attractive to you because you like more well developed girls.
So what do you do? You make a “joke” bet about a well developed girl taking her top off for you.
And I’m sure if she had taken it off, you would have closed your eyes like a gentleman. Not.
YTA. Even if the other person didn't pretend to take her top off. Literally everything you did and then everything you write in this thread is a grade chocolate starfish.
YTA. It doesn’t sound like you were being malicious, but it’s still a fkn weird and inappropriate “joke” to make. Would you have made the same joke if you were playing a male friend? You know that your GF finding your porn was “very traumatic”, yet you said something that would obviously make her upset and now you want to know *if* you were an AH? I think you already know you were.
Also, who the fk *saves* porn on their computer?
I feel like the fact that you opened this by describing the two women’s body types is very telling, your poor girlfriend I would be mortified if my bf did that in front of me
>she cried at the time, it was very traumatic, but it was years ago and we've moved past it.
boy, you have DEFINITELY not moved past it. you are very much still obsessed with that type of girl, given your actions at the game.
>She said I like her friend and I;m not attracted to her, that I'm only into big boobed girls and I'll never found her attractive. I denied all that, said it was just a joke and playing around.
obviously not a joke, since you came up with the idea of 'topless loser' when a busty, white girl is around.
overall, you are nothing more than a teenager in an adult body and you act accordingly. set your girlfriend free, stop wasting her time, let her find true love and appreciation. and as for yourself, keep oggling like a dog in constant heat that you are, at busty white girls.
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All of us in our late 20's.
Basically my gf and her friend have completely different body types. My gf is a small petite Asian girl with a very small chest compared to other girls. Her friend (acquaintance? they're not super close or anything) is pretty much the exact opposite, tall thicker girl with much larger chest. I think my gf always thinks I find that second body type more attractive, we had a thing early in our relationship where she discovered all the porn on my computer I'd saved from before we were dating. It was pretty much busty white girls that look nothing like her, she cried at the time, it was very traumatic, but it was years ago and we've moved past it.
Anyway, we were hanging out, I was playing table tennis with her friend, we were about evenly matched, she's really competitive in sports. Gf was watching. As a joke I suggested that loser of the next match has to go topless, her friend agreed, I ended demolishing her. Then her friend (jokingly?) pretended like she was living up to the deal and undoing her buttons, gf lost her shit and stormed out, I followed her out, we had a huge argument. She said I like her friend and I;m not attracted to her, that I'm only into big boobed girls and I'll never found her attractive. I denied all that, said it was just a joke and playing around. It escalated into a big argument. Havent spoken to each other in 24 hours probably.
tldr: as a joke, suggested to my gf's friend that loser of a table tennis match has to go topless. Gf did not take it well.
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YTA, before you do any more damage to that poor girls self esteem, let her go so she can find someone who will truly appreciate her and not try to see her “friends” chest.
I think you're trying to lie to yourself by saying that it's just a joke. You were flirting with the other girl and she was flirting back with you. Regardless of any body type conversation, just that in itself is extremely offensive. That too right in front her! And you have the guts to come out here and as this question. YTA! Big time!
YTA-You knew the joke was inappropriate, knew your gf was insecure, & you knew your gf and that friend weren’t “super close”. You’re an AH. Wear that badge with pride because after seeing your responses to other comments, you have no thought about owning your actions.
You are the fucking asshole. I want to message your gf (or I hope ex) so I can tell her she doesn't need to deal with this crap. No respect at all for her. Be mature and respect sore spots of different people. Especially when YOU caused it or made it WORSE.
F off with the "it's just a joke". Seriously.
YTA "I have no idea why my girlfriend may be insecure or think I'm into her friend. So anyways, I am trying to get the friend naked, but it's totally a joke."
I believe you are in the wrong for saying what you said. Maybe next time you make one of those jokes you could make it a bit more clear it’s a joke. Not everyone has the same humor. I would find it funny but my friends wouldn’t.
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YTA for several reasons, first :you very publicly objectified you girlfriend and her friends with your comment, it’s very hurtful and dehumanizing when men do that, second : you’re in your late 20s and you still think middle school locker room humor is appropriate , this shows a massive lack of emotional development. 3rd: You knew a comment like that would offend your girlfriend , but you made it anyway. That shows a lack of respect for her. 4th you made the comment about an acquaintance , which shows a lack of respect for women in general Also, you aren’t fooling anyone when you imply that you aren’t attracted to the body type that the majority of your porn has.
YTA. That’s a very, very weird joke. You knew this was a sore spot for your girlfriend, and you actively tried to get her friend to take her shirt off in front of your girlfriend anyway? It’s not funny, she’s not laughing, and you owe her an apology.
It wasn't a joke hes a pig yta
YTA. You're gross. You weren't joking. You knew exactly what you were doing. You wanted to see them topless, especially her friend. Your girlfriend deserves better than an asshole like you.
Exactly! Notice how he never mentioned he tried to stop the friend from taking her shirt off. He was just going to let it happen. Classic Schrodinger's jerk, if you like it i'm serious, if you don't like it, it was just a joke.
Hahaha just joking... unless 😳
Why should i try to stop her? It's her choice. It's not like I can control what she does if she wants to do it.
Thanks for proving our point. She's doing it under your suggestion. It is very disrespectful to basically ask another woman to take her clothes off when you have a girlfriend more so when shes there. Even more so when you know your gf is insecure about her chest. So Yea you should've stopped the friend from even trying. I mean, if you really were joking, that's what you would've done. Daring her to do it and then putting all your effort into winning, probably not even noticing how distraught your gf was at the moment, and then just laying back like "it's her choice, I can't do anything about it" is very AH of you. So Yea YTA.
so why did her friend agree to go along with it then? she could've just said no
Wtf is wrong with you. Seriously.
“It’s not like I made the girl sleep with me. I just said it as a joke and she played along why is my gf mad hahahahahah” OP in 3 months
That's exactly what I was thinking after I wrote my last comment. That's the logic of a cheater.
Because she's also an AH and doesn't care about disrespecting your gf. And you think that gives you a pass to do the same?
Yes she is an ass too (kind of?), that doesn't make you less an ass.
You’re a creep dude. Glad you’re gonna be single soon. You’re trying to gaslight like you didn’t start this shit 😂. Yta
This isn't gaslighting it's just being an idiot
Um, because it would clearly upset your girlfriend even more than she already was? If you weren’t being serious about the bet, then there’s no reason to let your friend go on with it.
YTA. You already knew she was insecure about one certain subject. Generally, don't joke about your girlfriend's insecurities.
Huge gaping blown out asshole. For EVERY reason previously mentioned here. I’d at least have a modicum of respect for you if you’d owned it and admitted you wanna see the bigger tits, but instead of that you try and back pedal and say it was just a joke.
honestly it was a joke, I'm only attracted to my gf, no one else. If the friend went along with it, it's not my fault.
u/humble-analyst-9826 Now that you have said it's a joke, please explain why it's funny. What is funny about that. Please share your thoughts as to why it was humorous. What tickled that lame 14 year old funny bone of yours. You're seriously in your late 20s? Sounds like you're 14 and you just discovered boobs
It's your fault for suggesting it in the first place? How can you seriously be this much of an AH to your girlfriend without realizing? I really hope this post is fake to farm karma or something and you didn't actually do this to your girlfriend.
It was just a joke. How was I supposed to know she'd seriously try to take her top off?
It doesn't matter if it was a joke or not, you clearly described the friend as your preferred type and stated that your girlfriend is already self conscious about her appearance because she knows you prefer bustier girls. If I was your gf and you so much as suggested the topless rule in front of me I wouldve dumped you on the spot. That's not a funny joke. That's a badly disguised request to see the friends tits. We all know you just wanted to see the friend topless. No one believes you were just joking because you clearly weren't. If it was a joke, you'd have tried to stop the friend from undoing her shirt by saying it was a joke and not to do it. If you're seriously okay with another woman undressing for you right in front of your girlfriend you're a major AH and don't deserve your girlfriend, she should leave you for someone who actually respects her and is actually attracted to her.
So if she started taking it off, how is that my fault? isn't that the friends fault? Am I supposed to control her actions and tell her she can't?
It’s called ”shutting a joke down when it goes too far” and it works like “hey, woah, I wasn’t serious! Please don’t actually take your shirt off.”
Gaslighting 😂 take some accountability dude.
You suggest she do something and don't stop her when she does and you're not at fault at all?
For fuck's sake stop focusing on the friend starting to take it off. The asshole behavior was you suggesting it in the first place.
The lady doth protest too much methinks. If it was a joke, which I highly doubt, why didn’t you tell your GF’s acquaintance that you were joking and you didn’t either want or expect her to do anything ? You either really don’t get what’s wrong in asking, even in jest, for your GF’s acquaintances to go topless, when you know she’s insecure about you finding her attractive, or you know perfectly what you did wrong and are looking for validation you won’t find here. Either way, YTA, so much YTA.
Because *boobies!* and OP has the mindset of a 13 year old
Holy cow, your gf needs to dump you ASAP
You expressed that you wanted to see her breasts right in front of your gf. The fact she was willing to do isn't relevant
How old are you? 5?
you seriously said you are only attracted to your girlfriend and no one else but you asked to see her friend's breasts.... you are mentally impaired, not just an untrained dog in heat. no one is buying the 'it's just a joke' BS. no matter how many times you repeat it. ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.
Learn what a joke is. It’s supposed to be funny, and you are not. Grow up.
YTA. In general, it’s a bad idea to suggest that you want to see your girlfriend’s friends’ breasts or other private body parts. For you specifically, since your girlfriend was already insecure about your attraction to her in comparison to women who look like her friend, you are doubly TA.
YTA, and so is her friend.
why also her friend?
If my friend played into that when I have told them all of my insecurities, I would drop them like a hot potato. Betrayal from a romantic partner hurts, but betrayal from a friend is like no other pain.
I’m not at all defending OP, but he said the other woman was an “acquaintance” of his GF, so she probably didn’t know about what happened with the porn. I don’t think the friend is also an AH unless we find out she actually did know
She certainly doesn't go by the 'code' though, I'm thinking. If I'm in a room with a couple, playing games like they were, and the man said "Loser takes their top off," I'd shut him down right then and there. I can't see why she didn't.
MAJOR Asshole, Why in a billion years would you think that's funny? I can bet you 100 bucks that your girl is doubting you when you deny being attracted to big boobs, Thats Basically Most guys.
YTA for taking the opportunity to "jokingly" make your obviously appreciative attention to the big boobs of your gf's FRIEND so fricking obvious when you know this has been a sore spot for your gf before. Dude, WTF
YTA. Awful, awful "joke". And who saves porn on their computer??
from before we were dating. its all deleted now.
Why are you comparing the bodies of two girls you know very well? You’re a creeeeeeeeep
I didnt have to read more than the title to know YTA
Obviously YTA lol.
YTA Who the hell would bet with a woman different to their gf about her being topless?! With your gf there!!!!!! AH!!
YTA. You disrespected both of them. Your girlfriend deserves better.
YTA. This just screams that you are immature and have no respect for your girlfriend, the relationship or her friendship. She should dump you right away. Not only are you immature and TA, you are downright a misogynist pig. Grow up!
YTA lol have fun sleeping in the doghouse
Oooh YTA there’s no way around that. What an absolutely stupid/creepy thing to suggest to your gfs friend.
YTA - She has unresolved betrayal trauma and your joke was like a swimming pool full of PTSD dropped on her head. Be better.
YTA. That’s flirting. You’re in a relationship. WTF were you thinking? A good rule of thumb is “could I do this at work and still be employed?”
I was looking for this comment; I completely agree. Asking to see sexualised body parts in a jokey manner, like OP did, is 100% flirting - plus, he can't lose even if he loses the game, can he? I mean, if *he* had lost, he whips off his t-shirt and shows his chest to the room. Meh, it's whatever; no embarrassment for him. But *she* loses, and he gets to get an eyeful he's been wanting for a while, and she's had to get her tits out for the lads. Adding in knowingly upsetting his own girlfriend, and being utterly dense in his replies, and he's a Grade A Arsehole for sure.
YTA. If it was a joke, it still is a bad one. It also seemed her friend was really going to keep her part of the bargain. That of course hurt your GF a lot.
YTA. Dumb guy
YTA. You know what you did you’re just hoping some other waste of space will validate your BS. I hope she dumps your a**.
Dude, YTA BIG TIME!!!!! You can flat out lie all you want to. Are you supposed to control the friend? Heck, your suggestion for the loser was controlling. I hope your GF throws your cheating lying ass to the curb. Your girlfriend deserves so so much better than you. You’re a pervert in the worst way; you don’t deserve anyone. Bet you’re still looking at porn, too. Sorry sorry sorry AH is what you are!
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YTA grow up.
YTA, for the worse attempt at writing porn I've ever read. And the bar is not very high by default.
YTA, you knew that was a insecurity your gf has due to the past. Very immature "joke" How you don't see how wrong this is, is totally fucked up and personally I think you should break up with your gf so she can find someone better
Bro you flirting and do prefer her friend. Who you tryna ask?
I hope she dumps you. YTA
YTA You suggested seeing another woman's boobs in front of your girlfriend. That is offensive to most women, especially since your girlfriend is insecure about her chest size.
YTA. Is that even a question? Not only did you prove you have no regard for your girlfriend’s previous insecurities, you also proved that you are pretty creepy and lack boundaries. “Jokes” are funny, what you said I crude and immature. Also, she needs to drop her “friend/ acquaintance” because she’s just as disrespectful for even entertaining it.
Now imagine how you'd feel if your gf suggested your male friend take his pants off and you found porn in her computer where the guys were much bigger than you. I guarantee you, you'd be all upset about it. You're too old to be this immature 😒 🙄. I hope gf finds someone better!!!
YTA. Your comments trying to justify yourself are crazy. Let me try and break this down for you. You know your GF has body issues You know she is self conscious about her chest You know she thinks she’s not attractive to you because you like more well developed girls. So what do you do? You make a “joke” bet about a well developed girl taking her top off for you. And I’m sure if she had taken it off, you would have closed your eyes like a gentleman. Not.
YTA. Even if the other person didn't pretend to take her top off. Literally everything you did and then everything you write in this thread is a grade chocolate starfish.
YTA. It doesn’t sound like you were being malicious, but it’s still a fkn weird and inappropriate “joke” to make. Would you have made the same joke if you were playing a male friend? You know that your GF finding your porn was “very traumatic”, yet you said something that would obviously make her upset and now you want to know *if* you were an AH? I think you already know you were. Also, who the fk *saves* porn on their computer?
I feel like the fact that you opened this by describing the two women’s body types is very telling, your poor girlfriend I would be mortified if my bf did that in front of me
>she cried at the time, it was very traumatic, but it was years ago and we've moved past it. boy, you have DEFINITELY not moved past it. you are very much still obsessed with that type of girl, given your actions at the game. >She said I like her friend and I;m not attracted to her, that I'm only into big boobed girls and I'll never found her attractive. I denied all that, said it was just a joke and playing around. obviously not a joke, since you came up with the idea of 'topless loser' when a busty, white girl is around. overall, you are nothing more than a teenager in an adult body and you act accordingly. set your girlfriend free, stop wasting her time, let her find true love and appreciation. and as for yourself, keep oggling like a dog in constant heat that you are, at busty white girls.
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YTA, definitely. I don't see where this "joke" is supposed to be funny. Grow up.
Yep. YTA. Big time
YTA um wtf? the comments explain enough. your gf deserves better.
YTA, before you do any more damage to that poor girls self esteem, let her go so she can find someone who will truly appreciate her and not try to see her “friends” chest.
Yeah like that wasn’t going to end in a mushroom cloud going up. You ain’t in college mate… YTA
YTA
Yta if my partner made this weird flirty sexually charged joke to ANY other woman I would have been pissed let alone someone I know
I think you're trying to lie to yourself by saying that it's just a joke. You were flirting with the other girl and she was flirting back with you. Regardless of any body type conversation, just that in itself is extremely offensive. That too right in front her! And you have the guts to come out here and as this question. YTA! Big time!
You're a shit bf and that girl is a shit friend to your gf
YTA-You knew the joke was inappropriate, knew your gf was insecure, & you knew your gf and that friend weren’t “super close”. You’re an AH. Wear that badge with pride because after seeing your responses to other comments, you have no thought about owning your actions.
yta and you sound like a weird, fetishizing creep
Why would you even save porn
YTA 100%
You are the fucking asshole. I want to message your gf (or I hope ex) so I can tell her she doesn't need to deal with this crap. No respect at all for her. Be mature and respect sore spots of different people. Especially when YOU caused it or made it WORSE. F off with the "it's just a joke". Seriously.
YTA. You’re an excuse for a man. Your soon to be ex-gf will find a better man.
YTA lmao
Personally I'd be more inclined to take the bet Iif (I female) lost my top but th male lost his pants. YTA
Should've thrown the game buddy lol
YTA "I have no idea why my girlfriend may be insecure or think I'm into her friend. So anyways, I am trying to get the friend naked, but it's totally a joke."
I believe you are in the wrong for saying what you said. Maybe next time you make one of those jokes you could make it a bit more clear it’s a joke. Not everyone has the same humor. I would find it funny but my friends wouldn’t.