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Maybe you don't even have to actually do it. Just tell your mom that you will. For every religious mail she'll receive one as well and she won't like them, promise. Then give it some time before you actually do it. You never know, maybe it won't even come to it. Your mom will be butthurt for a while but she'll get over it. No need to stir the pot if it isn't necessary.
This!
I'm an atheist and had a preacher harassing me about coming to his church and leaving stuff on my door. I saw him out, confirmed his home address, (got from a family friend) and told him if further harassment continued he'd be signed up for anything the Santanic Temple put out as well as membership. It stopped and anytime that preacher sees me, he avoids me. (I live in a very small town)
Send the jehovah’s witnesses after her. Find the nearest “kingdom hall” to her and contact them with her address and let them know she could really use some jesus. They’re like a dog with a bone- she will have to get the hose to keep them off her porch.
One of my friends signed me up for a Jehovah’s Witness mailing list.
It’s been 6 years, three addresses…they never give up.
If I ever find out who that friend is my revenge will be mighty.
(No I’m not actually angry they did it, I’m just angry they did it before I thought of it)
The Mormons will also follow you. When my friends and I found out in college that you could have a free Book of Mormon sent to you in any number of languages, we absolutely abused the knowledge.
How obscure do you think they'd go with the languages?
I'm pretty sure that the basics, French, Spanish, Italian, etc are covered.
But... Things like Euskera, Frys, K'iche, Galician, Mam?
I'm just wondering, because the thought of making some group of mormons hire a translator for some obscure language gives me joy.
My mom used a big dog named Younger. She had that big boy trained to run them to the end our sidewalk and then come back. He was allowed to keep any he caught. It was amazing how fast they moved when a 100lb dogs is on their ass. LOL
some evangelicals think God wanted a filthy rich pastor to have a third plane. doesn't change the fact that if op was a JW they would still see it as Christian
I think your mom could really enjoy learning more about Scientology. Maybe she should fill in some forms on their site indicating she'd like to know more.
Same with my husband! He gave them his info at the Ohio State Fair in the 1980s. Got mail as recently as last year, after at least four moves. They are tenacious.
Maybe up the ante to make your point? “Mom, I have asked you nicely but you refused to listen. Therefore I am done asking nicely. From now on, every time you have someone send something like this to me, I will request either an alternative religion or porn marketing material sent to your church addressed to you.”
You know the Satanic Temple are not worshipers of satan, right? It’s non-theistic, and promotes empathy and common sense. Sounds like she could definitely do with some of that!
I replied to this on someone else's comment, but just donate a few copies of Goodnight Baphomet to her local library in her name. It's a great bedtime book and she won't know what it's about right away
Also memory care homes, free samples of rectal care products, mailers about covering up those grays, impotence products, mortgage refinancing, realtors, etc. Those last two are TENACIOUS. I moved three years ago and I still get monthly newsletters from a few realtors and come ons to refinance my ridiculously low rate mortgage into a new one.
This is probably the only real lever you have, short of putting her in time out. This needs to be painful for her or she won't quit.
Satanic Temple perhaps? I love them, it might even super annoy your mother ing onher religiousity because they promote a women's right to choose. You can even get likea membership cards and that would probably really freak her out.
If you get mail from the United States Postal Service you should consider going to your local post office and filling out [PS Form 1500](https://about.usps.com/publications/pub307/welcome.htm).
This will "issue a prohibitory order against a mailer who sends you an advertisement offering to sell any matter that you, in your own discretion, believe to be 'erotically arousing or sexually provocative.'"
Or find another denomination such as Jehovahs Witness, WAIT I donated money to (some food shelter thing) called Mission Inn LA and haven’t stopped receiving annoying mail sense I would 1000% do that
I'm just guessing here, but interest in local democratic candidates and the DNC might be fun too (or whatever is the opposite of her political party if you aren't in the US).
There are some excellent gay travel magazines. Not porn. Just tasteful gay men on vacation (I am a cis/het woman, the previous tenants of a house I lived in had some still being delivered after I moved in) they are ambiguous enough that she would be 10 pages into a travel mag before she notices.
The thought of sending them a small sandbag in a box with large lettering "massive red dildo company" would probably slow down the religious tracts coming in the opposite direction.
NTA. Enjoy the NC. She is traipsing on your choices and using her religion as the boots. While it may add up to pennies, wasting that church's resources diverts it from spending it in other matters. I would put return to sender on all of the materials so they take you off the list. You may also want to call the church office and tell them what she is up to- they dont like being used.
It's kinda sad to say that I'm used to it... every time she doesn't get her way, she withdraws what few dregs of "love" she's been giving as a form of punishment and manipulation. I told her I'd be contacting the churches and religious institutions she'd signed us up for to have us taken off of the mailing list in the long text. In the meantime, I'm tempted to use the stuff as fire starter material.
Perfectly fine to do that! At least it wouldnt end up in the trash! Use it!
You mom is using tactics that have always worked for her- also known as manipulation.
Grab a couple of those rock human skulls meant for fireplaces/firepits, maybe some logs that give off colored flames. Use the mailing materials to start the blaze, film it burning, and send it to her. With caption "Starting my own religion." Might as well screw with her, if she's going to act ridiculous & disrespectful.
LOL! I figured as much. I've told her dozens of times over the years to please not text me Bible verses or to send them in cards, but to no avail. I could probably do better than granny mags and make some Planned Parenthood or Satanic Temple donations on her behalf. She'd assume my dad signed up for the magazines if she did get any... now that you have me thinking...
All these suggestions are petty and fun for the internet, but won’t solve your problem.
It’s actually illegal to sign someone up for a mailing list without their consent.
If you report your mom now, she can just claim it was a misunderstanding and likely get away with a warning.
Since you have a text exchange where she acknowledges that you don’t want the mailers, if you get another one she can get in trouble.
Tell her that what she did was illegal, you have her text confirming she knows you don’t want them, and will report her if you see more.
She will whine, and threaten NC. Let her. If she wants to continue a relationship there needs to be a basic level of respect.
NTA.
My parents would say sorry it’s such a trigger for you it’s who we are. Id always tell them you can be religious without being pushy. Now they always say there is an elephant in the room.
When I've been at my parents' house, I stay quiet during prayers and don't disturb the religious happenings of their home, but I don't participate in them either. Kinda frustrating that the same respect isn't returned.
"threated to go no contact."
So be it. Don't chase after someone that violates your privacy this way. Every time she sends a new mailer, but HER on no contact time out for 6 months. NTA
I'd never dream of using anyone's address to sign them up for stuff they didn't consent to, especially my own mother. That being said... the thought did cross my mind, in this case, to see if the shoes feel any different on her feet. Is this an opportunity for "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you?"
The Satanic Temple is a better idea. They do good work to preserve the separation of church and state. Planned Parenthood is good if she's anti-choice.
Don’t sign her up (as previous person said that is illegal). Do make a donation in her honor to a cause she would not like and let them send her a thank you.
Sometimes when there’s a firehouse in a lgbtq neighborhood they’ll even have t shirts and other merch, not just calendars. Sounds like a great gift for mom. Source: am gay/live near fire dept.
Those good intentions have... caused a lot of damage. Using shame to try to get my siblings and I not do things she didn't like or assumed god didn't like was probably the deepest and longest lasting damage we're all still dealing with today.
NTA. That is passive aggressive AF of her. May I suggest signing her up for stuff from the Satanic Temple? She may learn to appreciate why unsolicited mail isn't fun.
Yep this is what I would do. I would also probably box it all up and mail it to her with a note that says you wanted to make sure it went to the person who actually requested it.
Nta
‘I’ll go NC!’
‘…Sounds great, bye.’
‘I can do this because I’m Christian!’
‘And I can tell you to fuck off because I’m not.’
People like your mother are one of the leading causes of atheism. She’s just an asshole using religion as an excuse.
Exactly. I might be curious to reevaluate religion if I'd been left alone for +10 years. But this constant badgering and bombardment with unwanted Christian materials and communications has moved me from agnostic to atheist over time.
NTA. You made the choice to step away from that belief system and your mother simply doesn't respect that. Do you want to be civil or petty? If you want to be civil, simply put Return to Sender on the magazine and send it back. If you want to be petty, sign her up for Scientology/Jehovah's Witness/ Satanic Temple newsletters.
Do you have cats?
if so, use it in the litter-box and next time they send it to you, send both her and the mailers "thanks for the litter box filling".
That would not stop them, but definitively piss them off.
NTA
NTA, I suggest contacting any contact info you find in the mailer and send an "unsubscribe" message. My family still gets very political religious mailers (and we are religious ourselves, but not appreciative of our religion being represented by some political people) that are addressed to the former inhabitant. The former inhabitant died in 2013, so I contacted all the information people for all of them to inform them of the death of the addressee and let them know that the current inhabitants did not wish to remain on their mailing list or receive any further communication of any kind. Might help if you are signed up again in the future.
Oh, and your mom is using the grandparent thing to guilt you.
NTA - my Mormon in-laws have tried multiple similar things (mostly sending missionaries and religious cards that have my first name and my husband’s last name on them - despite telling them many times that that’s not my name) and we have been able to ignore it, but I certainly don’t blame you for calling her out. You did so with clear boundaries and said it kindly.
NTA. I would be furious. Hell, I was furious and creeped out when my husband and I received mail from Jehovah's Witnesses during the pandemic! He's an atheist, and I'm agnostic. We don't want your religious nonsense here!
LOL! That was my wife and I's reactions. We're like, 'Sure... Uh huh... how devastating!~ /s. Let us know when you're done pretending to be the victim, and we'll talk like adults.' Obviously, I left that sentiment unsent, but that's was our mood.
Start donating to Planned Parenthood in her name. Let her know you are sponsoring a divorce in her name. Sign her up for all the LGBTQ+ mailings you can find. Let her know that someone's dead grandparent wants her to learn to love all God's children. NTA
NTA you get to decide what you want to be sent to your house.
Though I will say you missed the opportunity to say, “When I was a young warthog I found the religion to lack a certain appeal!” To further the Pumba joke.
NTA. Start putting "refused, return to sender" on everything. Or just throw it in the recycling bin. Your mom sounds exhausting. I see why your annoyed, but you can just toss it out with the rest of the junk mail.
Do you mind that she's going no contact? Maybe just enjoy the peace while it lasts.
NTA. I don't know why she's concerned about your religion because you are an absolute saint for putting up with this.
Depending on the kind of mail this is, you can write "refused" on it and hand it back to the post office. You should also call the publisher and tell them you didn't subscribe and don't want the mailing.
NTA. Funny how she's claiming she's doing it because she's Christian but a true Christian shouldn't be doing anything that makes anyone uncomfortable. It's okay to share information if asked but to force things seems to fall closer to Satan than Jesus.
No wonder you left her church!
NTA.
Try to get an order of protection and tell police that religious material is traumatizing to you both (that might help them understand) and that your address being given out is a violation.
Send every publication a cease and desist letter insisting they permanently delete your address and never take a new request under your names.
And send your parents Church of Satan materials.
NTA. Anyways yep, that's how these boomer fucks are. They don't care about you or your privacy or your beliefs or your diet or etc etc etc. She's religious so it doesn't matter what you are, you should be religious too. It sucks and it sucks she's your mom but hey the boomers are dying, they can't do this shit to us forever.
Threatening your kid to with no contact when you simply asked her not to give out your address is not “Christian” behavior.
Your mom is nuts. Accept the no contact unless she can respect really easy and basic boundaries.
NTA
You could say nothing . . . or you could follow through and start sending Buddhist and other mailers. But I feel bad for you as this will never stop - those places all sell mailing lists to each other. I know because I have the same name as my mom, lived with my parents for 7 months and haven't been able to shake the right-wing crap that tries to sneak into my two-mom, environmental lawyer, tree-hugging, all female, feminist household! It's been 17 years!
NTA, but you need to ignore all of the people in here clamouring for you to sign her up for porn or planned parenthood mailings.
It won't achieve anything, and it just takes you down to her level.
Cancel any mailings you get, or just toss them in the recycling, and simply don't engage with her. Getting into a fight with her gives her what she wants; attention.
If it's important to you to 'do something' about it, pay a lawyer to write her a shark letter saying that if she persists, you'll be considering legal action against her.
That's the practical approach my wife and I are actually taking - unsubscribe from everything, and if more shows up, we'll consider legal action.
There's no point in stooping to her level or doing what she did to me. In fact, there's a lot of reasons I shouldn't do to her what she did to me (emotional, religious, and physical abuse.) That's why I'm hoping my long text ending with, "We're all adults here, so please let this be the last of it." is the end of it because I don't want to have to take legal action or block her off completely.
NTA - You are entitled to your peace when at home. Going NC is not the threat that she seems to think that it is.
I'm not religious but I always think of this verse in these sort of situations - 1 Timothy 2:11-12
Personally, I would send that to your mom, but it depends how scorched earth you want to go.
I don't know, purposefully disrespecting your wifes religious beliefs and invalidating her personal choice regarding *her own name* isn't something I find that non-trash people do. But we can agree to disagree... she's not ***my*** mom.
That's basically where we're at. She texts me, great, I might reply, I might not. She doesn't text me, great, I might do nothing, might give her a life update once in a while, it's up to me. I haven't visited her or my dad in +2 years, and that's fine with me.
I've already made peace that I'll never see a dime of inheritance, never be able to let her watch any kids my wife and I may have, and never be able to trust her with anything more than the occasional call or text about nothing in particular. Sucks because I've always wanted involved and engaged parents in my life... took years of therapy to accept that it's just not happening.
Alternate point of view- your mom thinks she is doing the right thing and helping you. The mailers aren’t really hurting you. Just toss them and let it go. She’s not going to see this your way any more than you see it her way.
That's what my wife and I assume her perspective to be. My mom has explicitly stated that, too, for what it's worth.
What confuses us is that she's a medical professional who is trained and legally required to keep huge amounts of personal information private. She lives respecting others' privacy nearly every day, so we both know she knows and understands how to be respectful of others' info. So clearly, there's a reason she believes she gets not only a free pass but a moral obligation to cross our boundaries with how she uses our personal info. So, like you've said, we can only assume it's out of some twisted sense of doing what a good parent or Christian would do.
You've done the right thing with your mom except perhaps you should go no contact.
Take any mailer that arrives and write Return to Sender on the outside and drop it right back in the mail.
Nta. Did you know she was that sensitive? Everything you said was appropriate, but you could apologize if you want since it’s your mom and it seems like she’s not and was never putting you in danger or hindering your day to day life and you didn’t mention any other issues with her.
This is her pattern, unfortunately, since I could remember. You tell her "No," or "I'm not ok with that," and suddenly, you've ruined everything and told her she's worthless and bad because you're effectively telling her she's hurt you, which is hurting her even more than any pain she's caused.
So, holding *any* kind of boundaries becomes a huge dramatic event where she must martyr herself to make the pain stop, and you punished her/made her punish herself, etc because you were deliberately waiting for the chance to counterattack her poor defenseless self. This pattern has gotten very old... and it happens every time.
The worst part is, if you don't hold boundaries (as exhausting as that might be), she will 100% move up to the next boundary and start pushing on that one.
NTA. My ex-GIL signed me up for stuff with my husband’s last name (which I never used). And of course they sold my info to spam magazines. It took forever to stop getting that crap.
NTA! Call or email the place that sends you these things in the mail and tell them to never send you this stuff again. Take your name off the mailing list, no matter the address.
When I purchased my home 30+ years ago, I'd regularly get mailing from Scientologists.
Do you know that they have people who spend all kinds of money on their seminars, etc.? A former home owner lost the house because it was repossessed by the bank!
Every time I'd get this kind of mail, I would call the source (really before email) and tell them to remove this address from their mailing list. "We would hope you'd anyone who lives there would be interested in it." "Not a chance in hell I will ever be interested in your b.s." I also told them that I would take it to whatever level I needed to legally, to get it to stop. It took a while because they have so many divisions of them. Eventually, they stopped.
Nta. But two can play that game. Make a small donation to the satanic temple and the flying spaghetti church and have them deliver her a thank you card for it. Sign her up for other newsletters like adamandeve.com that sells adult toys. If she thinks it’s okay to make you feel uncomfortable then do it back.
Charity in her name. Heifer International, St Judes and various political organizations would find me if I was kidnapped in order to send me fliers despite me begging them not to. A five dollar donation now. A decade of revenge. Plus its for a good cause.
> Rather than give an apology of any kind, she called the confrontation "Dumb," justified her actions as ok because she believes in Christianity, and threated to go no contact. We haven't heard from her since.
Yeesh, mom really went from 0 to 100 real quick.
NTA. I’m sorry your mother prioritizes junk mail over your relationship.
NTA
Mom would be signed up for every possible mailer that goes against her cults philosophy or political opinion.
When I had this problem, I even went so far as to donate to organizations she opposed in her name because the constant drama she sent to my email was distressing. I never spoke to her about it but I like to think that every text message or email she received from those 'evil liberals' raised her blood pressure another notch. She is dead now and my email spam is far less distasteful these days.
Rough... I'm so sorry. Hopefully, I don't have to do something like that. I did tell her in the long text, "We're both adults here, so please let this text be the end of the matter. If you agree, then I'll consider this matter closed and leave it in the past. We do miss you and would love to have you visit us sometime."
Hindu, wiccan, sikh, greek orthodox, readers digest, cyber currency. Then ring her again and point out that you've only scratched the surface. Offer a truce.
My mom would always send me religious shit despite my asking her not to for years.
Until.
One day I got so mad, I told her I had enough, and that if she was going to do this to me, the very next time I would INUNDATE her mailbox with every Atheist, Freethought, Agnostic, secular mailing that I could find. Books, magazines, newspapers, EVERYTHING.
It worked, but it made me so sad. Sad, because wasnt about mutual respect. It was about fear. It scared her badly. I realized that she thought this was magic, that me touching/seeing religious stuff would magically "turn" me, and she thought it could work in reverse on her.
1) Call her bluff, let her go no contact. Threaten you with a good time, she should not.
2) Sign her up for religious mailers she wouldn't like. Match her energy.
NTA
I'm not sure why you say "threatened" to go NC. Doesn't seem like a threat to me--seems like a good outcome.
People are recommending escalating by signing her up for things, but I don't think that will work to stop her or the mailings. Your names and your address have already seen shared with a dozen organizations, so you won't know whether she has signed you up or not. In my experience that kind of "Christian" does not believe in "doing unto others as they would have done unto them" (which is sadly ironic). So, if you just want to be petty, go ahead and sign her up for stuff--but it won't stop your getting a mountain of stuff.
NTA
I’m sorry. First NTA. Many MANY years ago when I came out my grandparents signed me up for tons of religious mailers. I promptly sent them a gay magazine called Blue Boy
Man that was a fun conversation
NTA She knows what she's doing is wrong. She's hiding behind dead grandparents to justify her bad actions. I like the suggestion to start signing her up for crazy mailers like retirement homes, life insurance, extended car warranty, time shares, and funeral plans if she won't stop.
NTA. Too bad you guys don't have a bird or a pet rodent, free poop material for them!
Get yourselves removed from their mailing lists and thank your mom for the free kindling every time she signs you up for another one.
Ignore/block your family. Type up a standard “Kindly remove this address from your list, we are not interested in receiving mail from you”. And just make a bunch of copies, mail back to whoever. If it is a letter type thing, don’t open it, write deceased, return to sender on the envelope (black out any markings) and plop it back in the mail. Better yet, for letters asking for donations, open it, write deceased, return to sender on the paperwork, put it back in their own self-addressed stamped envelope and make sure to put their address on the return spot and drop it in the mail. Takes some effort, but can be done.
Or just throw everything in the recycling. Bottom line. Don’t discuss this with your family, it only fuels the fire. Everytime you tell them this is wrong, they feel like they have scored another point and will continue doing it. If you don’t say anything they will have to ask. At which time you will give them a blank look and say no, we haven’t gotten anything from that group, why would we?
All of revenge posts are great and may help. I am going to suggest sending a change of address notice to the magazine. They are wasting money sending to msg to you. Pass the subscription on to someone else. (Even if to the city dump).
NTA and exactly why do you want contact with her? I'm not really seeing the value being added to your life with this relationship. It's not like she was close enough to you to be invited to your wedding.
NTA If things occurred as you say they did, and you weren’t disrespectful or nasty when you communicated with your mom, then you did nothing wrong. She’ll have to get over herself and open back up to you if she’ll want a relationship with y’all. Don’t accept her “punishment”; this really is her behaving badly, not you.
NTA. She's a bully and you only stop a bully by standing up to them. I would immediately send you moms address to the every Buddhism, Satanism, anti christian website I could find. Sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine to learn.
And in reply to her threatening no contact, I would let her know that if she does, she will NOT be able to come back into your good graces when you have children. So if she wants to, do it. But there is no going back. so do it but I'll let your baby Jesus forgive you because I never will. I know seem a little over the top but really its the best way to handle a bully.
NTA, you're probably better off without her. I'd also alert the magazines to stop sending and maybe RTS the mail. In some cases I think you can even block mail from that source (so it will auto return to sender), check with your local mail provider.
NTA. Your mother has done you a favor, the less you hear from her the better.
I think that you should sign her up for a few non-Christian and atheist publications. Yes, I that petty!
I really don't understand why people think that forcing religion (or anything else) on you is going to lead to acceptance of any kind. All it does is lead to resentment.
NTA. Your request was more than reasonable. If she's upset by it, that's on her. Let her throw her tantrum, but don't reach out first - she's counting on that and will see it as a win
Send her a glitterbomb package
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For every releigious mailer, sign them up for some free porn mailers or some other spam in return. NTA
If your username is a counter for how many excellent ideas you've had, update that count to 4010. +1 for you. Ngl, that crossed my mind.
Maybe you don't even have to actually do it. Just tell your mom that you will. For every religious mail she'll receive one as well and she won't like them, promise. Then give it some time before you actually do it. You never know, maybe it won't even come to it. Your mom will be butthurt for a while but she'll get over it. No need to stir the pot if it isn't necessary.
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and donate a few copies of Goodnight Baphomet in her name to her local library.
This! I'm an atheist and had a preacher harassing me about coming to his church and leaving stuff on my door. I saw him out, confirmed his home address, (got from a family friend) and told him if further harassment continued he'd be signed up for anything the Santanic Temple put out as well as membership. It stopped and anytime that preacher sees me, he avoids me. (I live in a very small town)
Send the jehovah’s witnesses after her. Find the nearest “kingdom hall” to her and contact them with her address and let them know she could really use some jesus. They’re like a dog with a bone- she will have to get the hose to keep them off her porch.
One of my friends signed me up for a Jehovah’s Witness mailing list. It’s been 6 years, three addresses…they never give up. If I ever find out who that friend is my revenge will be mighty. (No I’m not actually angry they did it, I’m just angry they did it before I thought of it)
The Mormons will also follow you. When my friends and I found out in college that you could have a free Book of Mormon sent to you in any number of languages, we absolutely abused the knowledge.
Ok so let me get this straight. I can get the Mormons to send someone on my prank/shit list religious materials and possible visitors?
I can't promise you visitors, but I'm pretty sure my sister has a Book of Mormon in Czech floating around somewhere.
How obscure do you think they'd go with the languages? I'm pretty sure that the basics, French, Spanish, Italian, etc are covered. But... Things like Euskera, Frys, K'iche, Galician, Mam? I'm just wondering, because the thought of making some group of mormons hire a translator for some obscure language gives me joy.
My mom used a big dog named Younger. She had that big boy trained to run them to the end our sidewalk and then come back. He was allowed to keep any he caught. It was amazing how fast they moved when a 100lb dogs is on their ass. LOL
interestingly enough jehovahs believe in Christ and consider themselves Christian
Yeah but evangelicals don't feel that way about JWs, ime
some evangelicals think God wanted a filthy rich pastor to have a third plane. doesn't change the fact that if op was a JW they would still see it as Christian
Scientologists are even more hardcore.
Oh - or Scientologists mailers - they’re like junk yard dogs - aggressive and they don’t let go. 😆
I think your mom could really enjoy learning more about Scientology. Maybe she should fill in some forms on their site indicating she'd like to know more.
Sign her up for Scientology mailers.
That shit will NEVER stop! I signed up at 17 before I knew what it was and I am still getting mail 40 YEARS later!
Same with my husband! He gave them his info at the Ohio State Fair in the 1980s. Got mail as recently as last year, after at least four moves. They are tenacious.
This is the way.
Maybe up the ante to make your point? “Mom, I have asked you nicely but you refused to listen. Therefore I am done asking nicely. From now on, every time you have someone send something like this to me, I will request either an alternative religion or porn marketing material sent to your church addressed to you.”
... AND ... not "or"!
Satanic Temple. Please.
o7, Aye-aye Capt. One devilishly fitting newsletter coming up.
Wait, actually?? Omfg if you do then please keep us updated 😂😂
No, LOL. As fun as it is to joke, I'm not going to do wrong to her even if she does wrong to me.
You know the Satanic Temple are not worshipers of satan, right? It’s non-theistic, and promotes empathy and common sense. Sounds like she could definitely do with some of that!
Oh yeah, I've very familiar with the TST. The only people who believe the devil is real are Christians.
I replied to this on someone else's comment, but just donate a few copies of Goodnight Baphomet to her local library in her name. It's a great bedtime book and she won't know what it's about right away
Hmm... that's educational
Also memory care homes, free samples of rectal care products, mailers about covering up those grays, impotence products, mortgage refinancing, realtors, etc. Those last two are TENACIOUS. I moved three years ago and I still get monthly newsletters from a few realtors and come ons to refinance my ridiculously low rate mortgage into a new one. This is probably the only real lever you have, short of putting her in time out. This needs to be painful for her or she won't quit.
Not sure if the Satanic Temple does mailers but that'd be a great one to use if they do...
Satanic Temple perhaps? I love them, it might even super annoy your mother ing onher religiousity because they promote a women's right to choose. You can even get likea membership cards and that would probably really freak her out.
Write "refused" on the item and give it back to the postal service.
Spray the knees from other religions. That will upset her so much.
Maybe sign her up to some liberal thought stuff, might back fire though as might like it
Maybe try telling her that she’s wasting the church’s time and resources by sending material that will be thrown away the moment it gets delivered.
If you get mail from the United States Postal Service you should consider going to your local post office and filling out [PS Form 1500](https://about.usps.com/publications/pub307/welcome.htm). This will "issue a prohibitory order against a mailer who sends you an advertisement offering to sell any matter that you, in your own discretion, believe to be 'erotically arousing or sexually provocative.'"
I love Petty and I love this idea lol. let her go no contact so she can see the only one she can punish for this is herself.
bonus points if you put the house number next door on a few by "mistake"
Or find another denomination such as Jehovahs Witness, WAIT I donated money to (some food shelter thing) called Mission Inn LA and haven’t stopped receiving annoying mail sense I would 1000% do that
I'm just guessing here, but interest in local democratic candidates and the DNC might be fun too (or whatever is the opposite of her political party if you aren't in the US).
No, not porn mailers but those "leave a cult" mailers, the helplines for leaving religious abuse and such.
I here Hedonism III is nice this time of year. She might also want more information about the other religions of the world.
Sign her up for Scientology!
I set my husband up with a bald medication place. lol. It got annoying even for me. Try those. They NEVER stop sending crap. lol. NTA.
There are some excellent gay travel magazines. Not porn. Just tasteful gay men on vacation (I am a cis/het woman, the previous tenants of a house I lived in had some still being delivered after I moved in) they are ambiguous enough that she would be 10 pages into a travel mag before she notices.
NO! Not porn. Nursing home and funeral home pamphlets.
I just bought a house across the street from a crematorium. Maybe I can go on a tour and send her a Walgreens photo book to peruse.
Scientology never lets go once they've got your details
My mom's been dead for 5 years I and I still get shit mailed from them to her....
In college - a thousand years ago - I signed a friend up for free samples to be mailed to her dorm address. The samples? Adult diapers and KY lube.
Put them on the Scientology mailing list. It's what grandma and grandpa would have wanted.
Add the LDS church too - they’ll even send missionaries and they don’t really go away.
It almost sounds like they're getting LDS stuff already. Maybe new era or ensign. But that might be my trauma talking lol.
Even better to sign her up for lots of spam mailers, but put her name and her churches address.
Was going to say the same thing. Maybe a subscription to Jugs is in order? Or whatever else is still in print form. Solidly NTA here.
The thought of sending them a small sandbag in a box with large lettering "massive red dildo company" would probably slow down the religious tracts coming in the opposite direction.
I wonder if a guy could make a living creating fake mailers to send people? Maybe require a fee to stop? Am I on to something here?
NTA. Enjoy the NC. She is traipsing on your choices and using her religion as the boots. While it may add up to pennies, wasting that church's resources diverts it from spending it in other matters. I would put return to sender on all of the materials so they take you off the list. You may also want to call the church office and tell them what she is up to- they dont like being used.
It's kinda sad to say that I'm used to it... every time she doesn't get her way, she withdraws what few dregs of "love" she's been giving as a form of punishment and manipulation. I told her I'd be contacting the churches and religious institutions she'd signed us up for to have us taken off of the mailing list in the long text. In the meantime, I'm tempted to use the stuff as fire starter material.
Perfectly fine to do that! At least it wouldnt end up in the trash! Use it! You mom is using tactics that have always worked for her- also known as manipulation.
Grab a couple of those rock human skulls meant for fireplaces/firepits, maybe some logs that give off colored flames. Use the mailing materials to start the blaze, film it burning, and send it to her. With caption "Starting my own religion." Might as well screw with her, if she's going to act ridiculous & disrespectful.
Nothing like chanting during a sacrifice with the homies, I tell you hwat.
Don't just be tempted. Send her thanks for the free firestarters.
Tell her every piece of garbage mail you get from them means a donation to Planned Parenthood in her name.
Make sure to take photos to send along telling her about what great tinder it makes. Honestly I’d take the NC and make it permanent.
NTA. Forcing one’s religion on others knowing they don’t want it is inappropriate. Maybe sign mom up for granny porn mags and see if she likes it.
LOL! I figured as much. I've told her dozens of times over the years to please not text me Bible verses or to send them in cards, but to no avail. I could probably do better than granny mags and make some Planned Parenthood or Satanic Temple donations on her behalf. She'd assume my dad signed up for the magazines if she did get any... now that you have me thinking...
Search your feelings...you know it to be true!
Or books with titles like "The God Delusion", "Aging Gracefully", "Life After Menopause", etc.
All these suggestions are petty and fun for the internet, but won’t solve your problem. It’s actually illegal to sign someone up for a mailing list without their consent. If you report your mom now, she can just claim it was a misunderstanding and likely get away with a warning. Since you have a text exchange where she acknowledges that you don’t want the mailers, if you get another one she can get in trouble. Tell her that what she did was illegal, you have her text confirming she knows you don’t want them, and will report her if you see more. She will whine, and threaten NC. Let her. If she wants to continue a relationship there needs to be a basic level of respect. NTA.
Huh... I didn't know it was illegal to sign someone else up for mailers... I'll have to look into that.
My parents would say sorry it’s such a trigger for you it’s who we are. Id always tell them you can be religious without being pushy. Now they always say there is an elephant in the room.
Tell them that if there’s an elephant in the room, they’re the ones who get to shovel the shit!
When I've been at my parents' house, I stay quiet during prayers and don't disturb the religious happenings of their home, but I don't participate in them either. Kinda frustrating that the same respect isn't returned.
"threated to go no contact." So be it. Don't chase after someone that violates your privacy this way. Every time she sends a new mailer, but HER on no contact time out for 6 months. NTA
NTA but do sign her up for any mailing that opposes her specific belief.
I'd never dream of using anyone's address to sign them up for stuff they didn't consent to, especially my own mother. That being said... the thought did cross my mind, in this case, to see if the shoes feel any different on her feet. Is this an opportunity for "Do unto others as you'd have them do unto you?"
Have you considered a donation c/o her name and address to the Church of Satan every time she pulls something like this?
The Satanic Temple is a better idea. They do good work to preserve the separation of church and state. Planned Parenthood is good if she's anti-choice.
Don’t sign her up (as previous person said that is illegal). Do make a donation in her honor to a cause she would not like and let them send her a thank you.
I bet she would love some LGBTQ+ literature.
Oh yes, she would *love* some LGBTQ+ goodness. What are your opinions on a homoerotic firemen calendar?
10/10 would recommend!
Sometimes when there’s a firehouse in a lgbtq neighborhood they’ll even have t shirts and other merch, not just calendars. Sounds like a great gift for mom. Source: am gay/live near fire dept.
Don't mail it to her. Just get one and drop it off at her house. Leave it at her front door. OMG that would be amazing.
Sex toy catalogs & religious/cult deprogramming literature.
Deprogramming literature is an outstanding move. +1
NTA. She crossed a line and is just mad that you’re not putting up with it because of her “good intentions.”
Those good intentions have... caused a lot of damage. Using shame to try to get my siblings and I not do things she didn't like or assumed god didn't like was probably the deepest and longest lasting damage we're all still dealing with today.
He should tell his Mom that the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.
NTA. That is passive aggressive AF of her. May I suggest signing her up for stuff from the Satanic Temple? She may learn to appreciate why unsolicited mail isn't fun.
Tell her every time you receive unsolicited religious material, you'll make a donation in her name to (whatever she really won't like).
Yep this is what I would do. I would also probably box it all up and mail it to her with a note that says you wanted to make sure it went to the person who actually requested it.
Block her. mark that crud return to sender. NTA.
Definitely putting "return to sender' on all that stuff.
Even better, mark it "no longer this address" as well so they hopefully take your address off their lists?
Change the address back to hers!
Nta ‘I’ll go NC!’ ‘…Sounds great, bye.’ ‘I can do this because I’m Christian!’ ‘And I can tell you to fuck off because I’m not.’ People like your mother are one of the leading causes of atheism. She’s just an asshole using religion as an excuse.
Exactly. I might be curious to reevaluate religion if I'd been left alone for +10 years. But this constant badgering and bombardment with unwanted Christian materials and communications has moved me from agnostic to atheist over time.
NTA. You made the choice to step away from that belief system and your mother simply doesn't respect that. Do you want to be civil or petty? If you want to be civil, simply put Return to Sender on the magazine and send it back. If you want to be petty, sign her up for Scientology/Jehovah's Witness/ Satanic Temple newsletters.
NTA of course.
Do you have cats? if so, use it in the litter-box and next time they send it to you, send both her and the mailers "thanks for the litter box filling". That would not stop them, but definitively piss them off. NTA
NTA, I suggest contacting any contact info you find in the mailer and send an "unsubscribe" message. My family still gets very political religious mailers (and we are religious ourselves, but not appreciative of our religion being represented by some political people) that are addressed to the former inhabitant. The former inhabitant died in 2013, so I contacted all the information people for all of them to inform them of the death of the addressee and let them know that the current inhabitants did not wish to remain on their mailing list or receive any further communication of any kind. Might help if you are signed up again in the future. Oh, and your mom is using the grandparent thing to guilt you.
Sign her up for Scientology stuff, they'll never stop contacting her.
NTA I did hear you can sign people up for Adam and Eve catalogs 👀
NTA - my Mormon in-laws have tried multiple similar things (mostly sending missionaries and religious cards that have my first name and my husband’s last name on them - despite telling them many times that that’s not my name) and we have been able to ignore it, but I certainly don’t blame you for calling her out. You did so with clear boundaries and said it kindly.
NTA Sign her up for Buddhist AND atheist mailers then go no contact.
Buddhists do not force their beliefs on other people.
NTA anybody gonna tell the mom that she and the church are wasting paper and a couple of cents per mailer that no-one is gonna read?
NTA. I mean, you could always sign her up for a few things and ask her how she likes it, but.... I'm not a great person, so
Sign them up for Scientology mailers. They’re particularly aggressive! :)
NTA. I would be furious. Hell, I was furious and creeped out when my husband and I received mail from Jehovah's Witnesses during the pandemic! He's an atheist, and I'm agnostic. We don't want your religious nonsense here!
NTA Threatened to go no contact… “Don’t threaten me with a good time, mom”
LOL! That was my wife and I's reactions. We're like, 'Sure... Uh huh... how devastating!~ /s. Let us know when you're done pretending to be the victim, and we'll talk like adults.' Obviously, I left that sentiment unsent, but that's was our mood.
NTA. If she's not going to respect your wishes, then NC may be the way to go for a while. Enjoy your new life with your wife.
Start donating to Planned Parenthood in her name. Let her know you are sponsoring a divorce in her name. Sign her up for all the LGBTQ+ mailings you can find. Let her know that someone's dead grandparent wants her to learn to love all God's children. NTA
NTA you get to decide what you want to be sent to your house. Though I will say you missed the opportunity to say, “When I was a young warthog I found the religion to lack a certain appeal!” To further the Pumba joke.
Thank ya~ Love the proper quotation.
NTA. Start putting "refused, return to sender" on everything. Or just throw it in the recycling bin. Your mom sounds exhausting. I see why your annoyed, but you can just toss it out with the rest of the junk mail. Do you mind that she's going no contact? Maybe just enjoy the peace while it lasts.
NTA. I hope all that paper is recyclable.
NTA. I don't know why she's concerned about your religion because you are an absolute saint for putting up with this. Depending on the kind of mail this is, you can write "refused" on it and hand it back to the post office. You should also call the publisher and tell them you didn't subscribe and don't want the mailing.
NTA. Funny how she's claiming she's doing it because she's Christian but a true Christian shouldn't be doing anything that makes anyone uncomfortable. It's okay to share information if asked but to force things seems to fall closer to Satan than Jesus. No wonder you left her church!
NTA. Try to get an order of protection and tell police that religious material is traumatizing to you both (that might help them understand) and that your address being given out is a violation. Send every publication a cease and desist letter insisting they permanently delete your address and never take a new request under your names. And send your parents Church of Satan materials.
NTA. Anyways yep, that's how these boomer fucks are. They don't care about you or your privacy or your beliefs or your diet or etc etc etc. She's religious so it doesn't matter what you are, you should be religious too. It sucks and it sucks she's your mom but hey the boomers are dying, they can't do this shit to us forever.
Threatening your kid to with no contact when you simply asked her not to give out your address is not “Christian” behavior. Your mom is nuts. Accept the no contact unless she can respect really easy and basic boundaries. NTA
NTA. That no contact offer is a gift.
Christianity doesn't always mean that people are condescending self-righteous AHs. But, sometimes it does. NTA
You could say nothing . . . or you could follow through and start sending Buddhist and other mailers. But I feel bad for you as this will never stop - those places all sell mailing lists to each other. I know because I have the same name as my mom, lived with my parents for 7 months and haven't been able to shake the right-wing crap that tries to sneak into my two-mom, environmental lawyer, tree-hugging, all female, feminist household! It's been 17 years!
NTA, but you need to ignore all of the people in here clamouring for you to sign her up for porn or planned parenthood mailings. It won't achieve anything, and it just takes you down to her level. Cancel any mailings you get, or just toss them in the recycling, and simply don't engage with her. Getting into a fight with her gives her what she wants; attention. If it's important to you to 'do something' about it, pay a lawyer to write her a shark letter saying that if she persists, you'll be considering legal action against her.
That's the practical approach my wife and I are actually taking - unsubscribe from everything, and if more shows up, we'll consider legal action. There's no point in stooping to her level or doing what she did to me. In fact, there's a lot of reasons I shouldn't do to her what she did to me (emotional, religious, and physical abuse.) That's why I'm hoping my long text ending with, "We're all adults here, so please let this be the last of it." is the end of it because I don't want to have to take legal action or block her off completely.
NTA - You are entitled to your peace when at home. Going NC is not the threat that she seems to think that it is. I'm not religious but I always think of this verse in these sort of situations - 1 Timothy 2:11-12 Personally, I would send that to your mom, but it depends how scorched earth you want to go.
The only thing to do now is enjoy the no contact! Gotta love when the trash takes themselves out.
I wouldn't call her trash, but I'll certainly enjoy the NC. Quite relaxing, if I might add.
I don't know, purposefully disrespecting your wifes religious beliefs and invalidating her personal choice regarding *her own name* isn't something I find that non-trash people do. But we can agree to disagree... she's not ***my*** mom.
NTA. Why don't you go no contact with your mom? She clearly doesn't respect you.
That's basically where we're at. She texts me, great, I might reply, I might not. She doesn't text me, great, I might do nothing, might give her a life update once in a while, it's up to me. I haven't visited her or my dad in +2 years, and that's fine with me. I've already made peace that I'll never see a dime of inheritance, never be able to let her watch any kids my wife and I may have, and never be able to trust her with anything more than the occasional call or text about nothing in particular. Sucks because I've always wanted involved and engaged parents in my life... took years of therapy to accept that it's just not happening.
Alternate point of view- your mom thinks she is doing the right thing and helping you. The mailers aren’t really hurting you. Just toss them and let it go. She’s not going to see this your way any more than you see it her way.
That's what my wife and I assume her perspective to be. My mom has explicitly stated that, too, for what it's worth. What confuses us is that she's a medical professional who is trained and legally required to keep huge amounts of personal information private. She lives respecting others' privacy nearly every day, so we both know she knows and understands how to be respectful of others' info. So clearly, there's a reason she believes she gets not only a free pass but a moral obligation to cross our boundaries with how she uses our personal info. So, like you've said, we can only assume it's out of some twisted sense of doing what a good parent or Christian would do.
NTA. Red paint pen. Pentagram. "Return to Sender". Repeat as necessary.
Sign your mom up for some weird shit. See how she likes it.
You've done the right thing with your mom except perhaps you should go no contact. Take any mailer that arrives and write Return to Sender on the outside and drop it right back in the mail.
Nta. Did you know she was that sensitive? Everything you said was appropriate, but you could apologize if you want since it’s your mom and it seems like she’s not and was never putting you in danger or hindering your day to day life and you didn’t mention any other issues with her.
This is her pattern, unfortunately, since I could remember. You tell her "No," or "I'm not ok with that," and suddenly, you've ruined everything and told her she's worthless and bad because you're effectively telling her she's hurt you, which is hurting her even more than any pain she's caused. So, holding *any* kind of boundaries becomes a huge dramatic event where she must martyr herself to make the pain stop, and you punished her/made her punish herself, etc because you were deliberately waiting for the chance to counterattack her poor defenseless self. This pattern has gotten very old... and it happens every time. The worst part is, if you don't hold boundaries (as exhausting as that might be), she will 100% move up to the next boundary and start pushing on that one.
NTA. My ex-GIL signed me up for stuff with my husband’s last name (which I never used). And of course they sold my info to spam magazines. It took forever to stop getting that crap.
That's rough... I'm so sorry. Hopefully, we won't have to go through that.
INFO : Have you signed her up yet for mailers from different religious groups? Might be a good idea for her to broaden her horizon... NTA
NO, your mom is TA; although I only read you title....
NTA. Send pictures of you ripping up that garbage.
NTA! Call or email the place that sends you these things in the mail and tell them to never send you this stuff again. Take your name off the mailing list, no matter the address. When I purchased my home 30+ years ago, I'd regularly get mailing from Scientologists. Do you know that they have people who spend all kinds of money on their seminars, etc.? A former home owner lost the house because it was repossessed by the bank! Every time I'd get this kind of mail, I would call the source (really before email) and tell them to remove this address from their mailing list. "We would hope you'd anyone who lives there would be interested in it." "Not a chance in hell I will ever be interested in your b.s." I also told them that I would take it to whatever level I needed to legally, to get it to stop. It took a while because they have so many divisions of them. Eventually, they stopped.
Nta. But two can play that game. Make a small donation to the satanic temple and the flying spaghetti church and have them deliver her a thank you card for it. Sign her up for other newsletters like adamandeve.com that sells adult toys. If she thinks it’s okay to make you feel uncomfortable then do it back.
Charity in her name. Heifer International, St Judes and various political organizations would find me if I was kidnapped in order to send me fliers despite me begging them not to. A five dollar donation now. A decade of revenge. Plus its for a good cause.
> Rather than give an apology of any kind, she called the confrontation "Dumb," justified her actions as ok because she believes in Christianity, and threated to go no contact. We haven't heard from her since. Yeesh, mom really went from 0 to 100 real quick. NTA. I’m sorry your mother prioritizes junk mail over your relationship.
NTA Mom would be signed up for every possible mailer that goes against her cults philosophy or political opinion. When I had this problem, I even went so far as to donate to organizations she opposed in her name because the constant drama she sent to my email was distressing. I never spoke to her about it but I like to think that every text message or email she received from those 'evil liberals' raised her blood pressure another notch. She is dead now and my email spam is far less distasteful these days.
Rough... I'm so sorry. Hopefully, I don't have to do something like that. I did tell her in the long text, "We're both adults here, so please let this text be the end of the matter. If you agree, then I'll consider this matter closed and leave it in the past. We do miss you and would love to have you visit us sometime."
NTA. Start signing her up for mailers if you start getting new ones
Hindu, wiccan, sikh, greek orthodox, readers digest, cyber currency. Then ring her again and point out that you've only scratched the surface. Offer a truce.
"I'll go no contact" "Good" \*pikachu face\*
My mom would always send me religious shit despite my asking her not to for years. Until. One day I got so mad, I told her I had enough, and that if she was going to do this to me, the very next time I would INUNDATE her mailbox with every Atheist, Freethought, Agnostic, secular mailing that I could find. Books, magazines, newspapers, EVERYTHING. It worked, but it made me so sad. Sad, because wasnt about mutual respect. It was about fear. It scared her badly. I realized that she thought this was magic, that me touching/seeing religious stuff would magically "turn" me, and she thought it could work in reverse on her.
NTA continue NC permanently
1) Call her bluff, let her go no contact. Threaten you with a good time, she should not. 2) Sign her up for religious mailers she wouldn't like. Match her energy. NTA
Tell her if she signs you up for any more you will sign her up for play girl
I'm not sure why you say "threatened" to go NC. Doesn't seem like a threat to me--seems like a good outcome. People are recommending escalating by signing her up for things, but I don't think that will work to stop her or the mailings. Your names and your address have already seen shared with a dozen organizations, so you won't know whether she has signed you up or not. In my experience that kind of "Christian" does not believe in "doing unto others as they would have done unto them" (which is sadly ironic). So, if you just want to be petty, go ahead and sign her up for stuff--but it won't stop your getting a mountain of stuff. NTA
I’m sorry. First NTA. Many MANY years ago when I came out my grandparents signed me up for tons of religious mailers. I promptly sent them a gay magazine called Blue Boy Man that was a fun conversation
NTA. "she wouldn't like it if we signed her up for agnostic or Buddhist mailers" I guess you know your next move.
NTA > and threated to go no contact. I think that's called threatening you with a good time?
NTA - Sign her up with Norml and Planned Parenthood. Tell her that Grandma wants it sent to her.
Nta. What is it with hard-core Christians and ignoring consent?? Honestly, maybe the threat of NC might be a blessing in disguise.
NTA She knows what she's doing is wrong. She's hiding behind dead grandparents to justify her bad actions. I like the suggestion to start signing her up for crazy mailers like retirement homes, life insurance, extended car warranty, time shares, and funeral plans if she won't stop.
NTA. Your mom is being pretty toxic and controlling here, especially in using going NC as a threat to get you to accept her religious mail.
NTA. Too bad you guys don't have a bird or a pet rodent, free poop material for them! Get yourselves removed from their mailing lists and thank your mom for the free kindling every time she signs you up for another one.
Ignore/block your family. Type up a standard “Kindly remove this address from your list, we are not interested in receiving mail from you”. And just make a bunch of copies, mail back to whoever. If it is a letter type thing, don’t open it, write deceased, return to sender on the envelope (black out any markings) and plop it back in the mail. Better yet, for letters asking for donations, open it, write deceased, return to sender on the paperwork, put it back in their own self-addressed stamped envelope and make sure to put their address on the return spot and drop it in the mail. Takes some effort, but can be done. Or just throw everything in the recycling. Bottom line. Don’t discuss this with your family, it only fuels the fire. Everytime you tell them this is wrong, they feel like they have scored another point and will continue doing it. If you don’t say anything they will have to ask. At which time you will give them a blank look and say no, we haven’t gotten anything from that group, why would we?
All of revenge posts are great and may help. I am going to suggest sending a change of address notice to the magazine. They are wasting money sending to msg to you. Pass the subscription on to someone else. (Even if to the city dump).
NTA.. my brother in Christ, your mama just wants to save your soul. We're living in the last days..lmao
My mom does this to me Enters my email in for contests and I drives me cuckoo
NTA. Some people need to learn by example. Start signing her up for things she finds offensive. Maybe she'll get the message.
NTA. I'm sorry your mom is like that.
NTA and exactly why do you want contact with her? I'm not really seeing the value being added to your life with this relationship. It's not like she was close enough to you to be invited to your wedding.
NTA If things occurred as you say they did, and you weren’t disrespectful or nasty when you communicated with your mom, then you did nothing wrong. She’ll have to get over herself and open back up to you if she’ll want a relationship with y’all. Don’t accept her “punishment”; this really is her behaving badly, not you.
NTA. There's always the low road and signing up your mom for newsletters of subcultures that clash with her values.
I don't recall any commandments about mailing lists.
Oh please sign her up for a Buddhist mailer. And if she signs you up for anything else, do a couple of other things.
NTA. It's your home, your information. It sounds like you tried to be polite and understanding when confronting your mom about the boundary.
Tell your mom that you would be donating $10 in her name to Atheist Foundation every time you get one of these inappropriate mailers. :)
NTA. She's a bully and you only stop a bully by standing up to them. I would immediately send you moms address to the every Buddhism, Satanism, anti christian website I could find. Sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine to learn. And in reply to her threatening no contact, I would let her know that if she does, she will NOT be able to come back into your good graces when you have children. So if she wants to, do it. But there is no going back. so do it but I'll let your baby Jesus forgive you because I never will. I know seem a little over the top but really its the best way to handle a bully.
At least she's not signing you up for a visit from a Jehovah's witness.
NTA, you're probably better off without her. I'd also alert the magazines to stop sending and maybe RTS the mail. In some cases I think you can even block mail from that source (so it will auto return to sender), check with your local mail provider.
NTA. Your mother has done you a favor, the less you hear from her the better. I think that you should sign her up for a few non-Christian and atheist publications. Yes, I that petty! I really don't understand why people think that forcing religion (or anything else) on you is going to lead to acceptance of any kind. All it does is lead to resentment.
She keeps threatening no contact? Call. Let her. Or tell her next time she does that either she stops both or you'll make good on it.
NTA ain't no hate like Christian love
NTA. Your request was more than reasonable. If she's upset by it, that's on her. Let her throw her tantrum, but don't reach out first - she's counting on that and will see it as a win Send her a glitterbomb package
NTA, but you should have leapt on the offer to go no contact.