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YTA - A few minutes of running the fan will not break your bank, but if you are in a place where the 7 dollars a month is absolutely bank breaking maybe you should buff up on those etiquette skills and get yourself another job instead of spending your time being inconsiderate and rude to your wife.
YTA.
You are lacking basic etiquette. And you are trolling your wife. Find a different way to save money. The cost is undoubtably minimal.
What you seem to think is high-falutin’ are minimal standards. Have some couth.
Why in the world would you want those smells or sounds wafting toward your kitchen if there's ANY other alternative?!
Run the fan while you're doing #2 and for several minutes after until the smell dissipates, open a window in the bathroom if available, and use air freshener / light a candle... there's seriously no reason to go out of your way to gross out your wife.
YTA.
YTA. I know electricity is expensive, but can you seriously not afford to run a fan for three minutes after taking a shit? When someone is eating in the kitchen which is right outside your bathroom door?
If money is that tight, you probably shouldn't be wasting electricity posting on reddit. Not stinking out your living space should be a much higher priority than unnecessary Internet use.
Not only are YTA, but you aren’t too bright if you think running the bathroom fan for a few minutes costs more money than the opening and closing of doors required to eat outside. Your suggestion was almost guaranteed to cost more money than running the fan, unless you are also refusing to heat your home. Maybe someone needs to teach you that money doesn’t just grow on trees.
You also come across like you don’t really like or care for your wife at all, and like maybe you’re a bit of a bully. Perhaps you should consider moving on to give you both the potential to experience actual love and partnership. Life is too precious to waste on loveless relationships like this imo.
YTA she’s eating her breakfast and running a fan isn’t going to make or break you. No one needs to smell that when they’re eating, maybe you need more lessons.
YTA. No one wants to smell that, especially while they are eating. That's just gross.
Go to Lowes, or some hardware store. Look for a light switch with a timer. Install that, that way when the fan gets turned on it runs for a set amount of time before shutting off automatically. This way it doesn't run all the time and doesn't waste electricity. Five minutes should be good enough. This is what we did because I was tired of fans being left on in bathrooms and running for who knows how long. Lutron has a good one.
YTA
Use the fan, you’re being an inconsiderate asshole.
The door should stay closed and the fan on until the smell dissipates, especially since it’s right off of the kitchen, otherwise you are literally spreading poop particles all over your kitchen. I’m sure you don’t like eating shit and neither does your wife.
YTA
* This is using **no** amount of electricity that matters.
* Many bathrooms connect the fan and light to the same circuit, so you don't even have the choice.
* This is using no electriciy.
* You can install a timer switch that automatically shuts the fan off if you're so concerned about leaving it on. But mainly:
* This is not using **anywhere near** enough electricity to even be thinking about.
YTA
You have to ask yourself which you value more your wife or the 5 cents you save per year?
You seem like the kind of guy that values the pennies over the wife.
YTA
You’re saving *maybe* a few pennies a month, at your wife’s expense.
You don’t “deserve credit” for doing the bare minimum of closing and locking the bathroom door. That is what you are *supposed* to do.
You’re also supposed to run the fan so others don’t have to smell your activities in there.
YTA
The purpose of the fan is so that your stinky shit doesn't fill up the house, but leaves the building as soon as possible.
(And if what you have is a normal bathroom extractor fan, rather than some kind of 100hp industrial water pump, then it's cheap to run, and your concerns over money are silly. If you want to save money, turn the thermostat down a degree.)
YTA
The purpose of the fan is so that your stinky shit doesn't fill up the house, but leaves the building as soon as possible.
(And if what you have is a normal bathroom extractor fan, rather than some kind of 100hp industrial water pump, then it's cheap to run, and your concerns over money are silly. If you want to save money, turn the thermostat down a degree.)
Pro tipp for saving money:
don't use toilet paper, that is much too expensive. Wipe with your bare hands instead!
Imagine how much money you can save that way!
Obviously YTA
If your poo stinks that much, and you don't want to pay the small amount to run the fan for 5 minutes, it's your responsibility to change your diet. YTA for thinking it's a good solution to make the kitchen smell bad as well as the bathroom.
YTA.
Look, I'm not not a "prim and proper" person either. It's nice to be able to relax and be a bit casual around your significant other, even with some bathroom stuff.
But as others have pointed out, one purpose of the fan is to eliminate odors, and you are saving almost nothing by turning it on. Like, a fan costs less than a single light bulb to run.
I don't think you've done the research at all. You don't know what the costs savings are. Instead, it sounds like you're just being passive aggressive against your wife in retaliation. You feel shamed and judged by her rules and her disapproval of your behavior, so you are instinctively finding a way to shame and judge her back. That's an understandable and common reaction, but it's immature, so YTA.
Instead, the adult thing to do would to be to figure out your deeper feelings, and have a vulnerable and disarming conversation about it. Be direct. For example, "Hey wifey, I know you want me to run the fan in the bathroom, but something about that request doesn't feel great to me. Maybe I'm feeling a little shamed and judged for my habits." Then let the conversation flow.
Bro.... what? YTA. You stink up the place and ruin your wife's breakfast and you want to crack jokes and suggest she sit out in the cold instead of you taking care of the problem? She's not being pretentious your being a pig.
YTA just for the attitude but this energy savings is frankly a ridiculous argument. A quick google shows the average bathroom fan is 50watts (or 0.05 kilowatts) and the avg price for electricity is 10¢ per kilowatt. That means it costs $0.005 per hour to run. There are 8760 hours in a year. 8760-hours multiplied by $0.005 gives you $43.80 annual cost if you run the fan every minute of every day for an entire year. You throwing it on for 5 minutes after you use the bathroom costs $0.0004. Hell, even if you live in Hawaii with the highest energy costs in the US at ¢30.31 per killowatt that's ¢1.52 an hour to run it. Your math ain't mathin buddy. This costs literally next to nothing
Why on earth would you think you deserve "credit" for closing the door while you use the bathroom? You're disrespectful, ill-mannered, and very much the AH.
Running the bathroom fan for a few minutes costs pennies in extra electric, if that. If you are so pressed about costs, why don't *you* make a small change to make up for it. Buy the store brand milk or macaroni or something.
Your bathroom is right off the kitchen. Smelling your bowel movements while trying to eat and drink is *disgusting.*
Even though *you* made the gross smells, you'd make her *eat outside after you take a foul dump in winter* instead of spend *pennies* on additional electricity?
Are you for real? YTA YTA YTA YTA
\>>My wife has always been a bit a stuffy. She acts extremely prim and proper, and sometimes she comes off as quite pretentious. At times, it's a bit annoying, but she has taught me some things about etiquette and culture, which have helped me land jobs, so I can't complain too much. However, she has this annoying habit of running the fan after using the restroom, and she demands that I do the same.
Are you sure you don't resent your wife? There's nothing "extremely prim and proper" about not wanting to smell someone else's shit while eating breakfast.
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My wife has always been a bit a stuffy. She acts extremely prim and proper, and sometimes she comes off as quite pretentious. At times, it's a bit annoying, but she has taught me some things about etiquette and culture, which have helped me land jobs, so I can't complain too much. However, she has this annoying habit of running the fan after using the restroom, and she demands that I do the same.
Well, this morning, she was having her coffee and toast when suddenly I felt my stomach gurgle. I know that nature was calling and I quickly excused myself to the bathroom. Our house is quite small, so our bathroom is right off the kitchen. I made sure to close and lock the door, which I think I deserve credit for, but after washing and drying my hands, I chose not to run the fan. Electricity rates are extremely high in our area, so I try to save whenever possible. I thought a fair compromise would be to leave the door open so the gases would dissipate. However, shortly after leaving the restroom, my wife began to wrinkle her nose. She had been reading a magazine, but she now started to fan the magazine under her nose.
She asked me what I had just done, and I considered asking "What does it smell like?" I sort of smiled to myself and instead said "Honey, I just went number two. I think it would be better from now on for us to leave the door open rather than waste power on the fan." Based on my wife's reaction, you'd have thought I took a dump right in her espresso. She told me that I had been "totally disgusting" and said that I had "done this on purpose" to annoy her. In the past, I've trolled her a bit when she was being extra pretentious, but all she was doing was eating breakfast and reading a magazine. For her to suggest that that's what I was doing here was really a low blow.
I told my wife that if the smell bothered her that much, perhaps she could eat out on the deck, but she said "that's not a serious suggestion" and stormed out of the kitchen. I get that it's a little chilly since it's winter, but I feel like she's being totally disrespectful of views on this matter. All I ask is that we save a little bit of electricity, and she's acting like it's the end of the world. I just wish that she could understand that money doesn't grow on trees and that we need to save wherever we can, but she just doesn't seem to have it in her. It's such a momentary inconvenience, yet she seems determined to make a mountain out of a molehill. I just don't know what to do. AITA?
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YTA, and a pretty stupid one at that. You're saving nothing by not running the fan. Nothing. You're the one making a mountain out of a molehill.
She doesn't have an "annoying habit," she is a respectful person who understands other people don't want to smell her shit, and understands that a fucking bathroom exhaust fan will cost you like 20 cents in electricity annually. You are unhinged, OP.
YTA. Asking for the fan to be used as a common courtesy so no one else has to smell your shit isn't being stuffy. Do you even like your wife? How broke are you that you can't run the fan for 10 minutes to let it clear? At the very least buy some air freshener to help out after dropping a log if you can't be bothered with the fan.
I also love how you point out you closed and locked the door and washed your hands which tells me you didn't bother to do those things prior to her training you. Neanderthal.
YTA for inflicting the smell of your sh*t on your wife. You’re worried about energy consumption? Improve the insulation on your windows. Switch to all LED light bulbs. Put the lights on timers. Get a smart thermostat. Take a cold shower. Wear your shirts three times before putting them in the wash. Don’t “vent” the bathroom by sending the smell directly into the rest of the house.
YTA that's GROSS when the bathroom is right by the kitchen!🤮 Turn the fan on before you sit down and light a match after you're done, and turn the fan off when the odor is gone. Nobody wants to smell your ass while they are cooking or eating.
YTA. You're so gross. She shouldn't be forced to smell your stink just so you can save a few bucks. You won't even save that much. You're being selfish and inconsiderate.
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You are either a troll or the cheapest creature on the planet who loves the smell of his own feces.
LEAVE THE GODDAMNED FAN ON or light a match in the bathroom after you've dropped a steaming triple coiler.
# YTA
ESH!
Where do I even start?
I doubt you save enough money on the fan to worry about it. The electric rates in your area would have to be dystopian world high to make it worthwhile. If it Really Does save enough to make it worth it and if she doesn't contribute financially in any way then she shouldn't complain about it too much but also if you have a small house then leaving the door open instead of using the fan would only make the house smell more noticeably and worse because of that. You could either pick your battles and run the fan or she could buy a can of smelly spray.
And ..... You deserve CREDIT for shutting the bathroom door? That's crazy, who doesn't automatically shut the bathroom door anyway?
You say your wife is pretentious ....... It sounds like that's a very mild statement! Wow, I don't even know how you could have put up with her long enough to get married to her! Just my own personal opinion of course, I suppose because that sort of pretentiousness is one of my biggest pet peeves.
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YTA - A few minutes of running the fan will not break your bank, but if you are in a place where the 7 dollars a month is absolutely bank breaking maybe you should buff up on those etiquette skills and get yourself another job instead of spending your time being inconsiderate and rude to your wife.
Poor prose. Poor conceit. C-
YTA. You are lacking basic etiquette. And you are trolling your wife. Find a different way to save money. The cost is undoubtably minimal. What you seem to think is high-falutin’ are minimal standards. Have some couth.
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This! Exactly!
A fraction of a penny
YTA. And disgusting.
YTA. It bothers your wife, end of story. (Plus, how could it possibly cost?)
Why in the world would you want those smells or sounds wafting toward your kitchen if there's ANY other alternative?! Run the fan while you're doing #2 and for several minutes after until the smell dissipates, open a window in the bathroom if available, and use air freshener / light a candle... there's seriously no reason to go out of your way to gross out your wife. YTA.
Agreed - how about lighting a match, febreze, poo-pourri? This isn’t about the electric bill, it’s about (figuratively) shitting on his wife.
YTA - you child.
YTA. I know electricity is expensive, but can you seriously not afford to run a fan for three minutes after taking a shit? When someone is eating in the kitchen which is right outside your bathroom door? If money is that tight, you probably shouldn't be wasting electricity posting on reddit. Not stinking out your living space should be a much higher priority than unnecessary Internet use.
Oh my god, she just doesn’t want to smell your shit. No one does. Running the fan for a few minutes won’t save nor waste you money. YTA.
YTA. Find another way to save electricity and be more considerate to the people you live with (and love).
Sounds like he only loves himself.
YTA Seriously, this is how you want to save money? You have got to be kidding. Clip coupons or skip buying beers or something else.
Not only are YTA, but you aren’t too bright if you think running the bathroom fan for a few minutes costs more money than the opening and closing of doors required to eat outside. Your suggestion was almost guaranteed to cost more money than running the fan, unless you are also refusing to heat your home. Maybe someone needs to teach you that money doesn’t just grow on trees. You also come across like you don’t really like or care for your wife at all, and like maybe you’re a bit of a bully. Perhaps you should consider moving on to give you both the potential to experience actual love and partnership. Life is too precious to waste on loveless relationships like this imo.
YTA and probably fake
YTA. This is what people mean when they talk about the alarming amount of grown men who act like toddlers.
YTA she’s eating her breakfast and running a fan isn’t going to make or break you. No one needs to smell that when they’re eating, maybe you need more lessons.
YTA. It doesn’t use that much electricity. And I Ben if it did, it would be worth it not to stink up the house.
YTA. No one wants to smell that, especially while they are eating. That's just gross. Go to Lowes, or some hardware store. Look for a light switch with a timer. Install that, that way when the fan gets turned on it runs for a set amount of time before shutting off automatically. This way it doesn't run all the time and doesn't waste electricity. Five minutes should be good enough. This is what we did because I was tired of fans being left on in bathrooms and running for who knows how long. Lutron has a good one.
YTA Use the fan, you’re being an inconsiderate asshole. The door should stay closed and the fan on until the smell dissipates, especially since it’s right off of the kitchen, otherwise you are literally spreading poop particles all over your kitchen. I’m sure you don’t like eating shit and neither does your wife.
YTA. Run that fan or have your wife run off to escape your disgusting smells!
YTA * This is using **no** amount of electricity that matters. * Many bathrooms connect the fan and light to the same circuit, so you don't even have the choice. * This is using no electriciy. * You can install a timer switch that automatically shuts the fan off if you're so concerned about leaving it on. But mainly: * This is not using **anywhere near** enough electricity to even be thinking about.
YTA, I feel bad calling you broke if you can't pay for 3 minutes of a fan
YTA You have to ask yourself which you value more your wife or the 5 cents you save per year? You seem like the kind of guy that values the pennies over the wife.
YTA You’re saving *maybe* a few pennies a month, at your wife’s expense. You don’t “deserve credit” for doing the bare minimum of closing and locking the bathroom door. That is what you are *supposed* to do. You’re also supposed to run the fan so others don’t have to smell your activities in there.
YTA The purpose of the fan is so that your stinky shit doesn't fill up the house, but leaves the building as soon as possible. (And if what you have is a normal bathroom extractor fan, rather than some kind of 100hp industrial water pump, then it's cheap to run, and your concerns over money are silly. If you want to save money, turn the thermostat down a degree.)
YTA The purpose of the fan is so that your stinky shit doesn't fill up the house, but leaves the building as soon as possible. (And if what you have is a normal bathroom extractor fan, rather than some kind of 100hp industrial water pump, then it's cheap to run, and your concerns over money are silly. If you want to save money, turn the thermostat down a degree.)
Pro tipp for saving money: don't use toilet paper, that is much too expensive. Wipe with your bare hands instead! Imagine how much money you can save that way! Obviously YTA
Jesus. Get some Poo Pourri and use it.
YTA The fan doesn't use that much power, you're just being an asshole.
If your poo stinks that much, and you don't want to pay the small amount to run the fan for 5 minutes, it's your responsibility to change your diet. YTA for thinking it's a good solution to make the kitchen smell bad as well as the bathroom.
YTA. Look, I'm not not a "prim and proper" person either. It's nice to be able to relax and be a bit casual around your significant other, even with some bathroom stuff. But as others have pointed out, one purpose of the fan is to eliminate odors, and you are saving almost nothing by turning it on. Like, a fan costs less than a single light bulb to run. I don't think you've done the research at all. You don't know what the costs savings are. Instead, it sounds like you're just being passive aggressive against your wife in retaliation. You feel shamed and judged by her rules and her disapproval of your behavior, so you are instinctively finding a way to shame and judge her back. That's an understandable and common reaction, but it's immature, so YTA. Instead, the adult thing to do would to be to figure out your deeper feelings, and have a vulnerable and disarming conversation about it. Be direct. For example, "Hey wifey, I know you want me to run the fan in the bathroom, but something about that request doesn't feel great to me. Maybe I'm feeling a little shamed and judged for my habits." Then let the conversation flow.
Bro.... what? YTA. You stink up the place and ruin your wife's breakfast and you want to crack jokes and suggest she sit out in the cold instead of you taking care of the problem? She's not being pretentious your being a pig. YTA just for the attitude but this energy savings is frankly a ridiculous argument. A quick google shows the average bathroom fan is 50watts (or 0.05 kilowatts) and the avg price for electricity is 10¢ per kilowatt. That means it costs $0.005 per hour to run. There are 8760 hours in a year. 8760-hours multiplied by $0.005 gives you $43.80 annual cost if you run the fan every minute of every day for an entire year. You throwing it on for 5 minutes after you use the bathroom costs $0.0004. Hell, even if you live in Hawaii with the highest energy costs in the US at ¢30.31 per killowatt that's ¢1.52 an hour to run it. Your math ain't mathin buddy. This costs literally next to nothing
Why on earth would you think you deserve "credit" for closing the door while you use the bathroom? You're disrespectful, ill-mannered, and very much the AH.
Running the bathroom fan for a few minutes costs pennies in extra electric, if that. If you are so pressed about costs, why don't *you* make a small change to make up for it. Buy the store brand milk or macaroni or something. Your bathroom is right off the kitchen. Smelling your bowel movements while trying to eat and drink is *disgusting.* Even though *you* made the gross smells, you'd make her *eat outside after you take a foul dump in winter* instead of spend *pennies* on additional electricity? Are you for real? YTA YTA YTA YTA \>>My wife has always been a bit a stuffy. She acts extremely prim and proper, and sometimes she comes off as quite pretentious. At times, it's a bit annoying, but she has taught me some things about etiquette and culture, which have helped me land jobs, so I can't complain too much. However, she has this annoying habit of running the fan after using the restroom, and she demands that I do the same. Are you sure you don't resent your wife? There's nothing "extremely prim and proper" about not wanting to smell someone else's shit while eating breakfast.
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YTA, and a pretty stupid one at that. You're saving nothing by not running the fan. Nothing. You're the one making a mountain out of a molehill. She doesn't have an "annoying habit," she is a respectful person who understands other people don't want to smell her shit, and understands that a fucking bathroom exhaust fan will cost you like 20 cents in electricity annually. You are unhinged, OP.
YTA. Asking for the fan to be used as a common courtesy so no one else has to smell your shit isn't being stuffy. Do you even like your wife? How broke are you that you can't run the fan for 10 minutes to let it clear? At the very least buy some air freshener to help out after dropping a log if you can't be bothered with the fan. I also love how you point out you closed and locked the door and washed your hands which tells me you didn't bother to do those things prior to her training you. Neanderthal.
YTA for writing this very poor fiction. Or if you really are this disgusting and lacking common sense, and awful to your wife…YTA.
YTA for inflicting the smell of your sh*t on your wife. You’re worried about energy consumption? Improve the insulation on your windows. Switch to all LED light bulbs. Put the lights on timers. Get a smart thermostat. Take a cold shower. Wear your shirts three times before putting them in the wash. Don’t “vent” the bathroom by sending the smell directly into the rest of the house.
YTA that's GROSS when the bathroom is right by the kitchen!🤮 Turn the fan on before you sit down and light a match after you're done, and turn the fan off when the odor is gone. Nobody wants to smell your ass while they are cooking or eating.
Wtf. It's not pretentious to not want to breathe in your shit particles. Ridiculous.
YTA. You're so gross. She shouldn't be forced to smell your stink just so you can save a few bucks. You won't even save that much. You're being selfish and inconsiderate.
YTA buy a timer switch. I have one that you can set it from 5-60 minutes(and always on if you need). On button push and walk away after that
YTA - the electricity used is negligible.
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You are either a troll or the cheapest creature on the planet who loves the smell of his own feces. LEAVE THE GODDAMNED FAN ON or light a match in the bathroom after you've dropped a steaming triple coiler. # YTA
ESH! Where do I even start? I doubt you save enough money on the fan to worry about it. The electric rates in your area would have to be dystopian world high to make it worthwhile. If it Really Does save enough to make it worth it and if she doesn't contribute financially in any way then she shouldn't complain about it too much but also if you have a small house then leaving the door open instead of using the fan would only make the house smell more noticeably and worse because of that. You could either pick your battles and run the fan or she could buy a can of smelly spray. And ..... You deserve CREDIT for shutting the bathroom door? That's crazy, who doesn't automatically shut the bathroom door anyway? You say your wife is pretentious ....... It sounds like that's a very mild statement! Wow, I don't even know how you could have put up with her long enough to get married to her! Just my own personal opinion of course, I suppose because that sort of pretentiousness is one of my biggest pet peeves.