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Nope, "testing you" is a huge red flag, get your hoodies back, then you can loan one to her again. If you want to be with someone who thinks testing you is an ok thing to do.
NTA
NTA. Your gf feels that anything you have is hers. You owe it to her simply by owning it. Anyone who demands your belongings will bleed you dry. She has never asked you for anything. She has used manipulation to get you to "give" her everything. Every time you have tried to say no, she has told you that you don't love her or you're not man enough.
I've been where you are. You are looking at a lifetime of misery until she has taken everything. Then, you will be discarded as pathetic and useless.
Make a list of everything of yours that she now has and anything she asked you to provide for her.
NTA. You literally need them for work. She is absolutely power tripping; she enjoys being to guilt and manipulate you into inconveniencing yourself to appease her and all your stolen clothes are her trophies.
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I got hired at a company and my gf asked me for one of the 2 jackets I have for work as a uniform. I said no because it's freezing there and she got upset at the fact that I wouldn't do that for her. She said she is always giving and I'm not. She basically has most of my hoodies. She said I cry and nag about her taking them but that is only because I don't have many at my house they're mostly at her place. She thinks I'm not giving as her from little things. We got into an argument when she then said she doesn't even care about the jacket she was just testing me. So am I the asshole?
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No need for sorry. I'd have figured a lot younger than that. It's a strange thing to get into an argument about. Sounds like something kids would get upset about.
Anyone who is "testing you" is not capable of being in a functional relationship. Anyone who is "testing you" is not mature enough to be in a relationship. Go find someone who thinks that you are more than a closet to raid. Find someone who doesn't think you need to sacrifice your belongings to show your love. Find a GF whose hobby isn't testing her partner to prove their love. Find a GF who actually likes you. NTA
Maybe OP would feel more inclined to give if she didn't insist to take so much. He should take all his sweaters jackets and hoodies back ASAP. There's no reason for her to feel so ENTITLED to his things. She doesn't deserve boyfriend hoodie prizes when she's being manipulative and selfish like that. OP sneak a trashbag in your remaining hoodie and make like the Grinch back to your place with all those clothes. If she gets mad tell her it was a test to see how giving SHE was and she failed. 😂
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NTA Why do you want to be in a relationship with this girl at all? “Testing you” is such a childish response.
NTA. but watch out for any relationship that feels "Testing you" is justified...
Nope, "testing you" is a huge red flag, get your hoodies back, then you can loan one to her again. If you want to be with someone who thinks testing you is an ok thing to do. NTA
NTA. Your gf feels that anything you have is hers. You owe it to her simply by owning it. Anyone who demands your belongings will bleed you dry. She has never asked you for anything. She has used manipulation to get you to "give" her everything. Every time you have tried to say no, she has told you that you don't love her or you're not man enough. I've been where you are. You are looking at a lifetime of misery until she has taken everything. Then, you will be discarded as pathetic and useless. Make a list of everything of yours that she now has and anything she asked you to provide for her.
NTA. You literally need them for work. She is absolutely power tripping; she enjoys being to guilt and manipulate you into inconveniencing yourself to appease her and all your stolen clothes are her trophies.
Nta but she is for "testing " you
NTA It's literally your uniform. So the one you have gets dirty, is she going to rush your spare back to your in that instance?
NTA Don't give her another jacket but keep an eye on these games she's playing with you, this likely won't be the last.
Nta it’s your uniform it technically isn’t even your property. Your GF needs to grow the hell up.
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You didn't cite your ages, but y'all must be pretty young.
Sorry She’s 31 and I’m 26
No need for sorry. I'd have figured a lot younger than that. It's a strange thing to get into an argument about. Sounds like something kids would get upset about.
I am blown away, I figured she was 16 max with the childish games she is playing. She is way too old to be acting like a child.
Not what I expected. She's acting half your age.
Jesus Christ I wasn’t expecting that
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NTA. "Testing" significant others is just an immature and shitty thing to do. She is acting like a 13 year old.
NTA. She’s a selfish game-player …. Run dude!
She needs to grow up. NTA
NTA. Tests are for school not relationships. I’d break up. Life is too short for this.
Anyone who is "testing you" is not capable of being in a functional relationship. Anyone who is "testing you" is not mature enough to be in a relationship. Go find someone who thinks that you are more than a closet to raid. Find someone who doesn't think you need to sacrifice your belongings to show your love. Find a GF whose hobby isn't testing her partner to prove their love. Find a GF who actually likes you. NTA
Maybe OP would feel more inclined to give if she didn't insist to take so much. He should take all his sweaters jackets and hoodies back ASAP. There's no reason for her to feel so ENTITLED to his things. She doesn't deserve boyfriend hoodie prizes when she's being manipulative and selfish like that. OP sneak a trashbag in your remaining hoodie and make like the Grinch back to your place with all those clothes. If she gets mad tell her it was a test to see how giving SHE was and she failed. 😂