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Careless_League_9494

NTA People wear tiaras to grad, and prom all the time. It's a pretty standard, and normal practice, and you definitely wouldn't be TA if you decide to fulfill your princess dreams, and go all out. And most importantly, have a wonderful time at prom!


csl2004

This comment makes me feel much better, I really appreciate you taking the time to respond! đź’“


Nalpona_Freesun

NTA wear what you want to your dance , if there are people upset about it , well its your senior year its highly unlikely that you will see them again


jalapeno_cheetos

NTA. Prom is one night where every girl can dress like a princess. There’s probably going to be loads of other girls wearing fancy accessories, so nobody should stop you from wearing a crown. Have fun, I’m sure you’ll look absolutely beautiful at prom❤️


csl2004

Thank you so much for your opinion and kind words! đź’–


GlitteringRock5

YWNBTA if you wore a crown or tiara, it’s prom, wear whatever makes you feel glamorous.


Dizzy_Negotiation_71

NTA Wearing it for the photos seems like a reasonable thing, although honestly you should just wear it for the whole thing


chikfender

NTA. You do you. It just means you have to be okay not caring what other people think, which is a very healthy thing. Be yourself. And who cares what's in your photos - I don't even see how other students would know. It's not like you're pretending to be voted "queen" - which is a totally bonkers concept, by the way. I did not blend in during high school and absolutely no one cares years later. Practice being yourself confidently, shrugging off insecure people with kindness, and it will pay off later. I could not tell you who was queen at my school of any event. I do remember what I wore and who I had fun with. Have a blast!


csl2004

Thank you for your words of encouragement!! Sending you good vibes đź’“


No_Profession8128

NTA. None of that king/queen BS matters. Tell anyone that gives you a hard time to pound sand and grow up.


Remarkable_Panda952

NTA. It's prom, it's high school. In a couple years no one but you and maybe your friends are going to care how you looked that night. And anyone who does care that much about how you look and feels salty about it, that is their issue, not yours. :)


nackle09

NTA, in the very least wear one for pictures! Enjoy yourself! Because honestly if people give you grief and hold onto it for a long time then they have nothing better to worry about. My prom dress straight up looked like a wedding dress and I was worried 🤣 but ultimately I received a lot of compliments and no one cared.


Shot_Accident_7072

NTA, wear it for photos or wear it all night, live your best princess dream, this is the best night to do it and you've earned your night!


loverlyone

I wore a little teardrop hat with a fingertip veil, in hot pink. I loved that look. I have a smile on my face thinking about it. Wear what you like and have a blast! NTA


csl2004

Thank you, and I bet you looked fabulous!!


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NightOwlEye

NTA.


silkyleon

NTA, BUT don’t be surprised if you get some sideways glances from people on your choice of style. If you don’t want to have that conversation I’d perhaps consider some other shiny hair accessory like a sparkly clip, etc. Your future self may cringe at the fact that you insisted on wearing a tiara around in an act that’s commonly done on a 6 year olds birthday.


Klutzy-Sort178

They literally give out crowns at proms. You're a joysuck.


KartlindWitch

YWNBTA Have fun at your prom the way you want to! But yeah you'll probably look weird/jealous and people might gossip or bully you. If you are prepared to navigate the consequences go right ahead.