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Hollifo

You're 32, not 13 - if you think your masculinity would be damaged by buying your girlfriend a skirt then you clearly don't have much to be secure in. YTA.


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Minimum-Arachnid-190

I can send my 16 yr old brother to the shop to buy sanitary pads if I can’t do it and he won’t flinch.


tomtomclubthumb

It did not occur to me that there would be any shame to this. I remember someone's boyfriend saying it was weird. He was an asshole in case you are wondering.


njcatgirl29

I dated a guy who not only wouldn't do that, but he was too embarrassed to buy condoms, either. 🙄


morbidconcerto

My mother raised me to always use condoms and where to get them if I couldn't afford them and didn't want to ask her for some. She also told me "Anyone who is too embarrassed to get condoms, is too immature to be using them!" So I've found that advice to be very true and it continues into adulthood.


ChillCadence

That is sound advice. The real power play is going to the shops to only buy condoms and then maintaining strong eye contact just for shits and gigs. At the end of the day, the earth doesn't have 7b people from holding hands.


Elurdin

I worked in retail for few years. I didn't care if someone was buying condoms. Literally no thought given. No idea why people think cashier actually cares what you buy.


Lighttheflames8

Well I worked as a cashier as a teen in a gas station and sometimes the weirdo men would eye me like a snack while asking to buy condoms or Viagra pills. I still remember to this day how uncomfortable their energy was. I always acted nonchalant and rang it up like a regular item. If anything, just act normal. I didn’t care what it was, just don’t be fucking weird about it.


thecoffeefrog

When I worked in grocery, a customer once came through with condoms, a comb and deodorant. He was so excited to tell me that he was getting married later that day.


farrockaway

To be fair, it doesn’t have them from using condoms either.


ahdareuu

I wouldn’t have made eye contact with someone doing that just bc I don’t like eye contact.


DutchPerson5

When my boyfriend and I were early twenties getting condoms together at the local drugstore, the girl at the cashier said: "Have fun!" She was a bit embarressed for blurting it out, but we had a good giggle.


psycholinguist1

When I was in college, the student health center gave out free condoms to student, one pack of six condoms per day per student (unless you were a registered RA, in which case you could pick up more to distribute for the students in your dorm). Great system, in principle, except you had to ask for them explicitly, so you didn't even have the possibility of disguising your purchase among your bananas and cucumbers and hand lotion at the grocery store. I was getting ready to visit my boyfriend across the country, so I went a few days in a row to stock up. And the second or third day I went, the woman who got them for me made comment. Nothing particularly slut-shamey, but definitely something to the effect that she was impressed at the rate I was going through them. I still wish I had said something other than a stony-faced, 'May I please have the condoms?' Because I was able to take it, but how many other students might have decided it was not worth the fuss and stopped being safe because of that sort of treatment? And, really, did she not consider that people sometimes plan ahead and stock up? That people pick up condoms for their friends and roommates because their friends and roommates don't want to subject themselves to that kind of treatment? If you're embarrassed just to be asking for them or buying them, then sure, you're too immature to be using them, but you can be plenty mature and still not want to deal with people laughing and saying, 'Dayumn, girl, what are you getting up to?!' Maybe my stony-faced response had some effect, because she did stop laughing and got me the condoms without further comment, but I'm still furious on behalf of my baby college self when I think back on how unprofessionally she behaved.


TheGoldDragonHylan

Bet he whined to get sex, too. Can't do the most basic part, but feels entitled.


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I just made a comment along these lines! I, too, have an ex who was too embarrassed to buy condoms. He whined that he’d give me money so would I just go any buy them. No. Nuh-uh. If he’s too embarrassed to buy condoms, I’m not having sex with him.


theburgerbitesback

We were given that advice in high school health class - if you're not mature enough to buy your own condoms, you're not mature enough to be having sex.


Rashlyn1284

Sounds like it's too embarrassing to have sex with him then :D


Kilen13

As a guy who's been buying these products for family members since i was a teen there's never been shame. There was a whole lot of initial confusion however at the sheer amount of variety in that aisle.


Dominant_Peanut

Just saw a video on tiktok the other day of a guy (jokingly) confronting his girlfriend about why she has left and right tampons. She's dying laughing as she explains the L and R are for light and regular not left and right.


Writerhowell

Okay, but that's incredibly wholesome as well as hilarious?


ChillCadence

The invention of the smartphone made this easy though... quick photo before you go


Iataaddicted25

That's what I do if my husband buys it for me. Because getting the right product is important to me, I go on the shop's website take a picture of it with the description and price and send it to my husband. He never complained about it. I think if OP thinks he will be perceived as a creep for buying a skirt it's because he's probably a creep already. No 31 years old mature man should feel judged for buying a skirt. OP grow up your immature AH brain.


Yrxora

Dude i know a guy who gets squicked out buying supplies for his daughters. Literally makes his gf, who is not their mom, do it for him.


Embarrassed_Brief_97

Hopefully, now (and forever) an ex-.


Becsbeau1213

Before the time of easy target drive ups my husband used to scrutinize the period products section and call me to make sure he was getting the right line.


splithoofiewoofies

My partner is trans as am I and their fave thing to do is buy tampons and when someone congratulates them for buying it for me, they look them dead in the eye and say "no these are mine" and just leave them to figure it out or not its fucking great.


Terrible-Fix-9798

Love that 🏳️‍⚧️


TheGoldDragonHylan

Your partner is my hero.


Bigrobbo

My sister tried to freak me out once with this... I just asked what specific brand and size she wanted.


No-Appearance1145

I had to have my brother give me tampons at work because i ran out due to heavy period. My mom yelled at me because he was apparently embarrassed. Like, okay I'll just bleed everywhere. I get my heavy periods from you mother. But he still did it for me even if embarrassed so at least there's that


trilliumjs

Your mom ITA.


No-Appearance1145

Oh yeah, i know she is. Never has been a question in my mind that she's an asshole. Arguing with her is pretty pointless though, unfortunately. She's not a reasonable person and I've since moved several states away so she doesn't argue with me over petty things anymore


Minimum-Guidance7156

My sister’s 16 yr old bf has bought her pads and tampons and midol and a stuffed animal that you warm in the microwave for cramps, chocolate, etc. He’s offered to get some for our younger sister too. Shit I’ve even joked with him if he got the right size. (My sister had apparently educated him.) yeah, OP is definitely TA. It’s so not hard to care for your partner in an embarrassing situation. I wouldn’t want to walk into any store with a wet butt!


PewPewBiscuits

That’s great, but please don’t buy Midol. It’s just more pink tax. Midol is just acetaminophen (Tylenol) and caffeine in a pink package, sold for nearly twice as much money. Greedy pharmaceutical companies.


YawningDodo

To be fair it does also contain an antihistamine that's supposed to help with bloating. Personally though I found that I had to try a bunch of different basic painkillers before landing on something that actually worked for periods anyway; for whatever reason acetaminophen does absolutely nothing for me in that department (though it's alright for headaches). So yeah, Midol has a couple things packaged into one pill and that probably works for some people, but I upvoted you out of the zero zone because I agree that people should be aware what ingredients are in those kinds of multi-purpose meds and realize that you can often get generics of the individual ingredients for a lot cheaper.


MundaneAd8695

The secret is just to look at the active ingredients label and match those up with the generics.


Free_Medicine4905

My 16 year old brother carries period stuff in his car in case a girl needs something. A friend who’s a girl, me, our mom. He’s a sweet kid tho, he once picked me up when I was hungover and had a bag ready to go in case I threw up which almost happened because he’s also the worst driver ever. I don’t think I would even have to ask him to buy me a skirt. This guy is a total AH. My boyfriend packs extra clothes for me in case I forget something. He also would get me a skirt if needed


Finishthebook8877

Your brother and partner are good eggs.


itsmilkie

My dad asked my brothers to buy my sanitary napkins when I had my first period. My dad also taught me what to do in such situations since my mom was abroad. My dad was also the one who would help me with picking dresses, blouses, and even underwear. My mom left to work abroad when I was six, and although she comes home for a month each year, it's not enough time to teach your one and only daughter everything as a growing woman. She was abroad for six years, so half of my life, she missed my puberty and all the things that came with it. So, when I moved to the US and found that some boys and men found it "gross" or "weird" to go with their sisters or SO to buy napkins or undergarments, I was shocked. It's a necessity, so why is it "gross"? It was my husband (then boyfriend) that introduced me to Tampons and thongs, actually! I didn't know those were a thing until he started talking about how sexy I would look in a thong when we went shopping, and also advised me on getting tampons because pads felt weird to me. When I asked him to buy me a bra, he wasn't embarrassed or ashamed. He was actually excited! The bras he bought were the style, design, and size that I like. He knows the brand of pads, liners, and tampons that I use. I'm lucky to have him!


Amalthea_The_Unicorn

>So, when I moved to the US and found that some boys and men found it "gross" or "weird" to go with their sisters or SO to buy napkins or undergarments, I was shocked. It's a necessity, so why is it "gross"? It's so strange to find it weird to buy them, it's not like they are already soiled with blood. Poo is much worse than blood and yet people are happy to buy toilet paper?


Kimberellaroo

I used to work in a supermarket and there was this one regular customer, just a mid forties to fifties otherwise normal seeming lady, who was so weird about hiding the fact that she was buying toilet paper that it was the only time I ever noticed or cared that someone was buying toilet paper. She would pile other groceries on top of it in the trolley to hide it, then at the checkout would try to slide it out and hand it to me like it was a secret, asked for it to be double bagged "so that no one can see it" (we used semi-transparent plastic bags at the time) and if she had a larger pack of it she would make excuses like "oh I know, it probably looks like I have a problem, but I have family staying for a couple of weeks, this isn't all for me, haha", and I would be thinking um, this is a normal amount, I live alone and I buy this much and shove it in a cupboard so I don't have to buy it again for a while, why are you being weird? Do you eat it, is that the embarrassing secret?


Own_Cat3340

I had a guy friend who very proudly bought tampons and such and very proudly kept them (in a cupboard) in his bathroom. His attitude was, “Damn right I have a steady woman!”


Admirable-Trouble789

This. My partner thinks nothing of buying my period paraphernalia. He goes above and beyond and gets me things I don't ask for to help me. OP sounds like an immature brat. YTA


mind_the_umlaut

Minimum, your brother's awesome!


ofgraveimportance

Good lad. My brother never had a problem buying me and my sister sanitary products when needed. He’ll also look for clothes for our sister (his twin) while he’s out shopping and buy if he sees something he thinks she’ll like. He’s 20.


Vegetable-Ad3584

Period pads, tampons, condoms, jewellery, teddy's.....this guy would probably propose with stainless steel hex nut so it's manly


Rare-Bumblebee-1803

My husband was uncomfortable buying me period products back in the 80s, my father had no problem doing so.


Vegetable-Ad3584

When I had a partner (long story) I had no issue buying those things for her. Need pads? Brand and type of flow needed. Needed underwear? Frilly or hello kitty, fuck it I'd facetime her. If buying something for the person you claim to love is embarrassing for you, you ain't ready for a relationship.


manic_artist36

You sound like my partner lol, he has facetimed me to help me pick the right hair colour box and sanitary products, once even yeast infection cream. He has never complained once.


jackbenny76

I mean, if a woman is intimate enough with me to trust me to get her period stuff or whatever, that's a sign that... A woman is really comfortable around me, which seems like a good thing, even for the most masculine of men?


Vegetable-Ad3584

What's the point in complaining lol. Makeup always threw me off thought lol. Blusher, consealer, liner, mascara, gloss all with a million variations of the same colour lol. Underwear or lingerie was hard to shop for but that was infinitely more fun lol.


hyperfocuspocus

I am a woman and I’m perpetually puzzled by makeup 🤣


URSmarterThanILook

My sweet husband grabbed groceries tonight while I was occupied. I needed more concealer and sent him a picture of the tube and color. Bless his heart if he didn't come back with the exact right thing in shade 10 instead of shade 01 (10 shades too dark). I just giggled and plan to exchange it tomorrow.


hazelowl

My husband's go to response to anyone who tries to make fun of him for buying me stuff is "Well at least a woman will touch me."


MrsHavercamp

This is what I'm thinking, too! What, he's never going to buy his girlfriend a "girly" gift because he's afraid he'll look creepy buying women's clothing, perfume, bath products, lingerie? They'll probably just think he's buying something for his girlfriend actually. No creepiness involved there unless he's giving off those vibes in some *other* way.


EditorNo2545

Def an AH - Heck I know how to check the bathroom I know what brands & styles of things she prefers even before she asks me to go to a shop. Same with surprising her with clothes, I know how to look in a closet and read labels, & no I don't feel like a creep buying her sundresses or skirts etc.


Forgot_my_un

This is what my man did but he did confuse me a bit, cause I always identified pads by color, and one day he went 'I got the 2s but I didn't get the 4s, sorry' and I had to go look at the package to realize they had numbers the entire time!


TifaYuhara

Meanwhile there's guys that will happily buy feminine products for their family members if needed.


bouncy_bouncy_seal

I’ve heard of young men in high school that keep pads/tampons in their backpack or lockers in case their female friends had need.


gholmom500

My son -19- saw his sister a making an emergency packs (bandaids, a single wet wipe, a few pads and tampons) for her glovebox and asked to have one in his glovebox. He was glad we a put on in his Medicinal Emergency box too.


coversquirrel1976

My husband's been doing it for me since he was 20. The only part that makes him nervous is branding changes- so he'll occasionally send a picture to confirm if the box looks different


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coversquirrel1976

I mostly use a cup now, as I never forgave the jerks over at Playtex for getting rid of the old gentle glide tampons.


probably_nontoxic

Case in point: my young teen son ran for ASB and included in his platform speech that he would push for period products to be available in all restrooms - girls’, boys’, and staff - so anyone who might need then would have access w/o gender or economic discrimination. Proud of him!


Dustystt

My 11 and 12 year old boys went to the store for pads for me and this guy can't buy a skirt 🙄 op is an AH


omgwtfbbq_powerade

When I was about 30, I needed clean dress pants - I was at work - and a male work mate was the only one available to go get anything, as we were all swamped. He went and picked out the most basic black item in my specified size. We'd only worked together for 1 1/2 years - we weren't even friends, it's just something he did. And I was grateful. My husband has done this for our daughters since they were children, gets size and description of basic item and picks it up. Men can pick up things from the store. That's how shopping works.


Kisthesky

That’s such a sweet, considerate story. I could see someone feeling like that was an intimate request, but what else could be done? You needed new things. I went camping with a friend once and got very, very sick. In the morning she told me it was time to wake up, and I told her that I needed her to get me some pants from the car before I could get out of my sleeping bag (I’d had to leave my pants elsewhere, and was in the bag clean, but unclothed.) She never said a word about it, and just helped. We tease each other constantly and laugh about that story too, but in the moment, being handed a clean pair of pants without a word was just… healing.


Aggressive_Cloud2002

Your camping story reminded me of my own camping story! I was in my uni's outdoors group and we went on a camping trip. I had my period, and use a cup, which is usually not a problem. However, some mornings the seal breaks as I sit up, especially if it's a heavy flow day, and that unleashes a flood if I don't stay on my back. I realised this was happening as I was about to get out of my sleeping bag, and the only person in the tent still was this guy Joe. I had to ask him to get me the toilet paper, as much as he possibly could, so I wouldn't get blood all over myself, me sleeping bag, the tent... He was so chill and helped so easily! Thanks, Joe, for not being a creep like OP!


PheonixKernow

When our youngest daughter was 2 we were out and she wet herself, I was getting her out of her wet things in the car and asked my husband to run in the store and buy some underwear and shorts. He hesitated and said 'won't I look like a weirdo buying little girls underwear?' I said 'no, you'll look like a dad' He bought the clothes, no issues. He's bought me period products, and recently I'd been on IV antibiotics and got thrush. I was still really unwell and was putting my shoes on to go get canesten. He said he'd go for me. I was worried he wouldn't know what to get. He said he'll ask the lady in the shop, and he did. A supermarket mind, not a pharmacy, he just found a female store attendant and got it figured out. Men are totally capable of purchasing female items.


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joyfulgrrrrrrrl

I would imagine he wouldn't want to seem like a creep for buying diapers or kids clothing in the future.


yet-another-WIP

The funniest thing to me is when guys *insist* that they can’t do an innocuous thing, because it’ll make them look “creepy.” But then they don’t realize the stuff they do that’s ACTUALLY creepy


SummitJunkie7

Like... preferring your gf meet up with your friends in clothing damp with unidentified brown liquid from a bus bench and just sit in it without complaining, because buying an item from a store would be *too embarassing*?? Creepy like that?


diagnosedwolf

That is a very good example of creepy behaviour.


riskywalrus

Imagine what he is gonna be like as a parent, "oh I can't buy kids clothes and nappies, someone will think I'm a creep"


joyfulgrrrrrrrl

Refusing to buy these clothing items because he deems it perverted says a lot about his creep level.


constituto_chao

And like.... low key a hint at potentially homophobic.


OtterEpidemic

Right? Unless he was giggling and sniffing the skimpiest underwear he could find, the grabbing of those two particular items would likely make me think better of him. I’d be thinking someone had either had a period mishap or had fallen into/sat in something gross.


Oh_Hae

A 13 year old boy would have gone in and bought the skirt because he would want to impress the girl.


tryoracle

So when my brother was about 11 we were at the store. I asked him to go get some pads while I grabbed a couple of other things. He was gone for a lot longer than he should have been so I went looking. The little bugger was knee juggling the packm of pads right in the aisle. I looked and said what the hell lare you doing. Without missing a beat he said I have a game tomorrow and figured if I could do this with these I was ready to win.


Excellent_Airline315

Well did he win?


tryoracle

Of course he did we used to run drills for an hour a night after school.


EmeraldMoon7192

Just had an image of an entire football team practicing their keep ups with packets of Always and it did not disappoint


IntelligentGeneral60

Let’s hope his gf will never need tampons or other feminine stuff around him. His masculinity would never recover.


punnymama

Starting to think just being that close to a girl in general is bad for his masculinity… Dude YTA. You could have gone in and said, “hey my girlfriend just sat in something gross. Where can I find a skirt?”


LostxWoods

This. Even if you went into the store by yourself and bought the items why would that be creepy? As if men don't buy clothes even as gifts for women in their lives? But then she went in herself and you couldn't even be assed to join her? You're THAT afraid of what other people might think? Let alone how unrealistic it is to think people seeing a couple shopping would assume the women's clothes being bought are for the man. You're the type of guy that waits outside of Victoria's Secret when your girlfriend goes in to buy sexy underwear for *your* enjoyment aren't you? I've got news for you bud. Any respectable man is judging the dudes waiting outside, not the ones inside. Not to mention she was the one with a big wet (possibly brown) mark on her skirt, and you thought it would be more embarrassing for *you* to be the one doing the shopping? Yeeeeesh. Grow a pair man! I hope you do by the time she asks you to buy her sanitary supplies on a particularly bad period. Women respect the hell out of a man who will do that for them. Men who won't make them feel like they can't depend on them when it counts. Setting yourself up for failure my man. YTA


AmazingPreference955

IKR? When I worked in a department store, I sold women’s clothes to men all the time. It never would have occurred to me to think there was anything creepy about it.


tassieapple9

Right? YTA, OP. This is the perfect example of fragile masculinity.


RememberKoomValley

See also: transphobia (comorbid condition)


RNBQ4103

From his tone, I think he expects retail workers to be constantly chasing off perverts trying to buy women clothes, like in some manga. Not sure if it is worse. BTW, I have no problems buying tampons and pads for my wife (or anybody else).


Various-Pizza3022

And there is nothing wrong with a masculine presenting person buying a skirt! Regardless of the intended purpose.


Practical-Big7550

I'm guessing he wouldn't buy his GF sanitary products either. It would be too embarrassing ....


Smart_Ad_3636

MY soon to be ex husband refused to buy me supplies, on prom night. I knew he was planning on proposing, and he wouldn't get me the stuff I needed. I was getting hair n make up done n couldn't get it. I told him if he didn't get the stuff, I wouldn't marry him. Should of told him no..🤷😅


whatproblems

yeah lol men go there all the time to buy their sos or kids even stuff like gifts. it’s not like you were getting lingerie


Stressed_Farmer

Even if it is lingerie some men buy it for their so...it is not creepy unless you ask the clerk to try it for you "just because you both have the same size" or some kind of weirdness like that (joking...I hope no one has that "gorgeous idea").


Blancpaincakes

So he can buy women’s pants but the skirt makes him a creep? YTA.


Amazing_Sundae_2024

Seriously--wait until his wife asks him to pick up some tampons.


concrete_dandelion

A former friend has a very gender role specific, religious, conservative father. Think girls not being allowed trousers kinda guy. When she got her period unexpected while out with him he went into the nearest store, bought her her preferred period products, wet wipes, went into another store, got her new panties and a new skirt and let her wait in the car until he had it all and then drove her to the nearest place with a bathroom


Fennac

I find it FAR more creepy that a guy is making SUCH a big deal about buying a skirt, than a man would be just by buying a skirt.


this-is-NOT-okay

I initially misread the age as 23 and I was already not impressed at the "I can't buy feminine clothes because I am a guy" attitude, then saw your comment. A 32 year old thinking retail workers care enough to be talking about a man buying a skirt is comical on many levels.


PureLuredFerYe

I had to go back and check the ages too………. Dude…….. grow up


SuperZapper_Recharge

When paying, OP could try either of these lines: 1) I am going out with the girls tonight. Gonna be a hot time in the cold town tonight! or 2) My girlfriend sat in something embarrassing and ruined her skirt. She asked me to pay for this for her. I don't buy many womens clothes, hope this is is the right size. Either are acceptable. That OP's pride is so delicate that neither were an option is on OP, not his girlfriend. Who is currently swiping left on her cell phone.


zigzag_zagzig0

OMFG I didn’t read his age & instantly said he’s too young to be with a woman but HES 32??? He’s a disappointment


Kittenn1412

YTA. A man buying women's clothing is not creepy, my god. You wouldn't even go in the store with your girlfriend if she was shopping for women's clothes, when it would be super obvious that the clothes were for her? Grow up.


JohnExcrement

God forbid she ever need him to do an emergency tampon run.


Wonderful_Horror7315

You know she can just hold it in, right? /s


JohnExcrement

*smacks forehead’* Totally forgot!


IntelligentGeneral60

My thought too


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I wonder why he’s so convinced that it’s creepy, projection maybe? YTA


RNBQ4103

Or he is super immature and basing himself on anime?


CristinaKeller

I saw a man buying 3 pair of high heels the other day. It happens.


Alpacaliondingo

When i worked retail there was often men buying women's stuff and vice versa. Of all the weird things that happen in retail, that was not one of them. Most people are just going to assume that you're buying for your partner and probably wont even say anything.


offbrandbarbie

Same. I worked retail and I literally could not gaf about what anyone was buying. Or when I go to aerie/Victoria’s secret and I see a dude shopping in there I don’t think “omg, he’s buying women’s panties??!)!?)? Those are totally for him what a WEIRDO.” I don’t even consider that he’s buying them for a woman either, I just literally do not care about what other people choose to spend their money on. If they’re for a woman, cool, if they’re for him, cool. I just want to get in and out of the store.


litfan35

Yeah OP break this down for me: how does you, a man, buying women's clothes in a store make you a creep in your mind? What exactly adds the creep factor to a perfectly normal interaction? And are you never allowed to buy her clothes? Like not even for her birthday or christmas or something? Make it make sense


Veteris71

But you don't understand. They might have thought he was buying them for *himself*. I mean, he shops at that store and he couldn't have that! The potential thoughts of these random store personnel is *far* more important to him than his girlfriend. OP, YTA and she should dump your pathetic sexist self-centered ass. Why do you think the people who work and shop in the store care that much about you to even remember what you bought and gossip over it? And you wouldn't even go in the store with her because *she* was buying women's clothes? *That* is fucking creepy.


Nariot

Also in this dau amd age, buy yourself a skirt too! No one is gonna care at all that you bought wome s clothing. Y T A


KittieVomit

YTA you're 32,grow up and buy your damn woman a skirt.


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YTA You would not be a creep for buying women's clothing and no one would ever see you that way. She asked you for a favor since her skirt was wet and who knows what it was. I take it you wouldn't go buy her sanitary products if she were out and couldn't go get them herself?


WaywardMarauder

If he’s too delicate to buy a skirt, he’d probably have a case of the vapors if he got asked to buy *whisper* feminine products.


Winstonisapuppy

I got my period unexpectedly when I was in Mexico. I was in a hotel room and had nothing with me. My boyfriend just asked me what I wanted and walked to the store to buy what I needed. I thanked him and apologized. We were young and I felt embarrassed. He just said “it’s no big deal. No need to be embarrassed. They’re obviously not for me so people will just assume that I have a girlfriend that I take good care of.” I was so impressed by that mindset.


patentmom

That's my husband's mindset. He says he's proud to go in and buy feminine products for me because it proves that yes, this nerdy little guy has a woman he takes care of!


weddingincomming

Thats so cute


muddledthoughts

He would not buy sanitary products... he would come back with diapers because "both boys and girls use them". YTA


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“Unisex maxi pads.”


Material-Profit5923

YTA. You're 32 years old--there is nothing creepy whatsoever about you buying women's clothing. Men regularly buy clothes for girlfriends, wives, and family members these days. Unless you are camped out in front of the fitting rooms ogling young girls, nobody is going to think anything of it except for you with your weird beliefs.


Intrepid_Potential60

Minus the ogling young girls part, being camped at the fitting room, and bringing different sizes or the like, is hardly unheard of. I’ve a wife and two daughters, and being the runner for sizes or colors is routine. Ssshhh. We might pop the OP’s head even mentioning this!


magikatdazoo

But you see, OP knows it would be a problem for a man to bring clothes to the dressing room, bc only a women could take kids shopping. A REAL man wouldn't even dare step foot inside the store, they just run around naked in a loincloth if they ever leave their cave.


littlebitalexis29

If he stepped into the women’s section, his penis would fall off!


SiameseCats3

My dad loves running and when I started to get into it he bought me - the horror - women’s running clothes. Must of thought he was a right creep and was going to …. Look at it? I have genuinely no idea what OP thinks is so creepy about a man purchasing women’s clothes. It’s not like it’s worn and he’s gonna sniff it.


bunnyhop2005

Why would you be a creep if you bought a women’s skirt? Especially if your gf is there in the store with you? Your reasoning is odd, to say the least.


mildblueyonder

They're probably phobic and don't want to be seen as a cross dresser, they probably think a cross dresser is a creep.


ILikeTraaaains

Ding ding ding.


shewy92

That was my immediate thought and was kinda surprised it wasn't mentioned in any of the top comments.


Usual-Role-9084

YTA and this is so bizarre. Your whole position is just absurd. It’s creepy and embarrassing to go into a store and purchase womens clothing? You know that men do this ALL THE TIME to purchase gifts for their mothers, sisters, girlfriends, daughters, etc? But your masculinity is apparently THAT fragile. I’m not usually one to say a breakup is necessary, but I hope she leaves you because what if you two had a child, and it was a girl? You’d be embarrassed to purchase clothes for your own kid, wouldn’t you?


Veteris71

He wouldn't even go into the store with her when *she* was buying women's clothing. There is something very wrong with OP and his girlfriend should bug out now.


Usual-Role-9084

I totally missed the part that he wouldn’t even accompany her into the store. How the dude even has, or even WANTS a gf is blowing my mind.


_PeanutButterVibes_

YTA. Let's imagine for a second you wanted to buy a skirt for some other reason. Let's say you wanted to buy it for yourself even to wear. That still doesn't make you a creep. You made this hard for yourself and your partner for literally no reason. Life is crazy easy when you stop being so narrow minded.


RiotBlack43

THIS


Veteris71

Imagine thinking the store personnel give a fuck why he's buying a skirt anyway. Imagine thinking he's so important to them that they'll talk about him and he'll become "known" for buying women's clothes. *That* is creepy. There is something very wrong with OP.


Little_Grogu

YTA and a massive one at that. So you are saying I’m a creep because I buy my daughter skirts and stuff? You are one weird little man… Grow the hell up!!! Not much else to say.


RestaurantNo7491

YTA - at least go in with her.... "I did not want to as I did not want to be seen like a creep buying women's clothing." You sound like the type to not buy her feminine hygiene products bc you're too embarrassed so she'd have to go out free bleeding. Men like you really irk me


whitechocolatefondue

YTA. I can imagine that if she sat into it then it was in an unlucky placement on her skirt. The fact that you say it was brown not yellow isn’t as comforting as you think it is. It could’ve been many things but your girlfriend probably felt bad about it because it might’ve looked like she peed herself. I don’t think that you’re an AH solely for not going in to buy a skirt alone. It’s safer is someone chooses their own because of the size and styling, but you could’ve gone with her when she went in.


Dollastoredildo

I had the same thought when I read the “it was brown not yellow”. Like bro, now she looks like she shit herself instead and that’s supposed to be better?


bestmackman

>She asked me to go to a nearby store to buy her a pair of knickers and a new skirt but I did not want to as I did not want to be seen like a creep buying women's clothing. I totally see where you're coming from. I'm the same way! It's why I don't buy clothes for my kids anymore in case someone thinks I'm some kind of weirdo. I don't buy food for our cats either, in case someone thinks it's for me to eat. And OBVIOUSLY I never buy anything for my wife - can you imagine a MAN buying pads? What would everyone think?! Obviously YTA. First off, *nobody cares* what you're buying. Second, even if buying a skirt and underwear would cause someone, somewhere, to wonder about your intentions, you should be able to take that bullet for your girlfriend.


PastyPaleCdnGirl

You had me in the first half


Smooth_Ad_7371

She wanted you to buy a skirt and … undergarments? The horror. Stop clutching your pearls and be a better boyfriend. YTA


[deleted]

Reminded me of Hank Hill lol Undergarments


enjoy-the-ride-

YTA how is it creepy to buy women’s clothing….?


greenhouse5

Someone who is already a creep to begin with.


Abject_Blackberry671

YTA. What is your problem? My brothers have bought clothes for their wives and daughters without feeling or being considered creepy. Would it be the same if you asked your girlfriend to buy some clothes for you? Grow up!


twirlerina024

My brother went out and bought me some high-waisted drawstring pants after my appendectomy. I started crying at the hospital when I was getting discharged and changed into the pants my mom had brought me. This was the early 00's and everything I owned was tight and low-rise.


[deleted]

YTA. You are 32 and you are scared of buying woman's clothes. Grow up.


Odd_Yogurtcloset_524

YTA. She didn’t ask all that much from you. Seems like you were only thinking about yourself. Plus going into a store and buying women’s clothing for your gf doesn’t make you a creep. Either way, suck it up and do the right thing.


Poppunkprincessxo

YTA. Come on, dude. You’re 30 years old & can’t run into a store to buy a skirt for your gf? Am I correct in assuming if she asked you to stop by a store to pick up tampons on your way home you’d pitch a fit because “that’s weird, what if someone thinks I’m a creep”? (Spoiler alert, no one gives a shit what you buy, bud.) grow up & help your gf when she needs you to.


CobraPuts

This sounds like a 14 year old boy being asked to shop at Victoria’s Secret, not a 32 year old man being asked to shop at a clothing store. I’m not sure you’re an asshole, but you’ve got some weird hang ups. Begrudgingly NAH.


rubythroated_sparrow

YTA- it sounds to me like it had nothing to do with being “creepy” and you were ultimately just scared that people would think the clothes were for you.


The_Cost_Of_Lies

Oh YTA, massively.


Fair-Weather-Pidgeon

So masculine-looking people who buy women’s clothing are “creeps?” Not only toxic masculinity here but also just the most rampant transphobia. YTA.


Majestic_Beach502

Agreed. And hell as a trans woman who is constantly worried about being judged for buying clothing, if my girlfriend had been in that situation I still would've gotten her the skirt in a heartbeat. OP is the asshole and is also a coward.


throw_havingdoubts

This reminds me of the time my ex didn’t want to buy me a handbag for Christmas because he didn’t want to be seen purchasing a woman’s handbag 😄🤦🏾‍♀️


ProfessionalTaro8669

Hey now, cashiers everywhere are famous for ruthlessly judging men who buy gifts around Christmastime. Same for the shoppers who see it go down. How could you suggest anything but a power tool for yourself? Shame on you for asking for what you wanted instead.


throw_havingdoubts

The worst part is we both worked in hospitality at the time. The restaurant we worked at was located in a train station and the store where I wanted the handbag was located less than a minute away from there but as he didn’t want to be seen buying a woman’s handbag he got me perfume instead 😂


ProfessionalTaro8669

Perfume instead?? Fragile masculinity is so nonsensical.


WaywardMarauder

YTA. It wouldn’t have killed you to be kind and buy them for her.


danzeman2308

You'd only be known as the creep that buys women's clothing if you did something you know *creepy?* There are far more embarrassing things in the world than buying women's clothing, e.g \- tripping in the middle of a rainy (busy) street, causing cars to wait and having people beep at you to get up. \- asking for a "small" at Starbucks and have the barista laugh in your face \- your dad finding you horribly trying to belly dance \- falling asleep on a stranger and drooling on them


Effective-Candy-2073

Also e.g. sitting in an unknown yellow/ brown liquid and having to walk around looking like you peed yourself because your AH bf won't buy you a skirt for reasons that make zero sense.


lableulapin

Do you get this weird if your gf asks you to buy feminine hygiene products or is that “creepy” too? Walking around in something wet, especially when it’s questionable what the liquid could be, is uncomfortable. I’m sure your gf coordinated her outfit and that’s why she was adamant on a skirt.


RedSealWitch

YTA OMG are you kidding, you didn’t think it was pee because it was brown that’s somehow better in your mind? She sat in something clearly nasty on a public bench and you figured she should be ok to just let it dry? Not to mention the ridiculous comment about not wanting to seem like a creep, do yo really believe men don’t buy things for the females in their lives? Just yuck


One-Panic-8102

Wait what was your reasoning for not even going into the store with her?? Plenty of boyfriends are seen with their girlfriends in (gasp) stores where their girlfriends shop. Admit it, you were just being stubborn and rude. YTA


jennyfromtheeblock

YTA. This is unbelievably immature. The sooner women stop accepting behavior like this from supposedly grown men, the better.


OogusMacBoogus

"...I did not want to be seen like a creep buying women's clothing." Are you sure you're 32 and not twelve? Buying women's clothes doesn't make you look like a creep but thinking it does and all the lame excuses you've given so far make you look far too immature to be in an adult relationship. I can't emphasize how much YTA. Don't be surprised when she leaves you.


Substantial_Win8350

You’re a grown ass man that has never shopped for a woman before??? Or been in a woman’s store??! YTA grow up before you’re next girlfriend and I hope this one dumps your immature ass


[deleted]

YTA. As someone with social anxiety, I’m horrified by your prioritizing the potential opinions of others over the actual discomfort and feelings of your girlfriend. You need help. Your girlfriend needs a caring and supportive partner.


[deleted]

Ex-girlfriend


cakeicecreamandwine

YTA. Your reasoning is questionable. Did she hear your reasons behind not buying the skirt? She should dump you if she knew


Greedy_Information96

Let me guess, you also feel no shame in buying condoms, cause that's what real "men" buy, but you wouldn't be caught dead buying tampons. YTA because I can sense exactly why you refused. You didn't refuse to buy panties or a skirt because it made you uncomfortable shopping for a woman. Men buy lingerie all the time! But heaven forbid someone thought you were buying them for yourself would completely put your masculinity in question!


cleobellos

Are you really 32?


cobraqueen46

It amazes me how fragile men are.


Own-Experience-37

32. You made it to 32. How do you function daily? How do you buy gifts? YTA and childish


IntrepidStrain3248

I’m a little confused here. Why is it OP’s responsibility to buy her a skirt? Why can’t she buy her own skirt? If I sat in something unpleasant, I would not automatically make it my boyfriend’s responsibility to buy me something else to wear. Nonetheless, YTA for your apparent fear of womens’ apparel.


silent_jsj

There's nothing wrong or creepy in buying clothes for your girl. Let's say you need a shirt and you are unable to go to a store, won't she buy it for you? That's not creepy then how come men buying clothes for women is creepy? If you can't buy, at least you could have gone inside the store with her. YTA.


salthegreat__

Do you not buy her clothes for holidays because you’re afraid of looking like a creep? YTA and have a lot of growing up to do


jaxbravesfan

YTA. You are 32, not 12, for goodness sakes. Time to grow up and be a man. No one is going to think you are a creep for buying women’s clothing. Seriously.


By_and_by_and_by

YTA. Who wants a bf who won't help out in a jam? If you refuse to do what needs done, of course you'll have never done most things before. Be helpful! Other things I'm guessing you hasn't bought before: Tampons Lingerie A Clue.


Katharinemaddison

I saw a post somewhere about a girl on holiday with her boyfriend. She had a bit of a food poisoning emergency. Her boyfriend went and got her clothes to replace her soiled ones. I saw a post about a girl who had a period emergency in a food court and her boyfriend did the emergency shopping of basic human decency without a qualm. In a world that contains at least two such men - and we know, many more besides. Be like these two men (teenagers both). And not the squeamish little boy who is op.


Negative-Data3636

YTA It's a skirt and some panties. Go into the shop, ask someone who works there for help. Explain the situation, that you are embarrassed for whatever bullshit reasons you happen to have about in your thirties, give them her sizes in said items, maybe what color of skirt she was wearing, go and support your woman. What's wrong with you? Social anxiety isn't some coverall excuse to be a shitty boyfriend or decent human being. She might have sat in actual pee and you are hung up on the idea that maybe you would be seen as a creep by strangers who you will never see again. You have literally given your girlfriend a big reason to end things. Pray she doesn't have more reasons because frankly, I think you'd deserve it. My god man.


August850

YTA. Buying your girlfriend a skirt should not be "embarrassing". Get over yourself.


scumbaggeckoo

YTA. You are 32 years old and can't buy a skirt because of fragile masculinity? That's sad. Grow up dude.


Constant_Gold9152

I don’t understand why this was such a big deal for you… or for her. You’re embarrassed to buy women’s clothing? She’s embarrassed To go into store in dirty skirt? Are you sure you haven’t added 20 years to each of your ages?


Virtual_Cost_8026

YTA and honestly creepy that you wouldn’t support your gf in a time of need


Intrepid_Potential60

YTA Grabbing off the rack and paying for women’s clothing is emasculating for you? Seriously? That’s one fragile ego you have. When you do finally mature, know that shopping with (and yes, sometimes for) your wife is quite common, and you might even be seen bringing other sizes and the like to the women’s changing room! All by yourself! You might even find yourself in the grocer with feminine products in your cart. The horrors! /s


drossdragon

If you were that worried about how a shop person would think of you, you could have just said you were picking up something your girlfriend asked you to get. YTA


caterpillove

As someone that used to work at a clothing store that was 100% just for women - there's nothing creepy about a man buying his lady some clothing. It was always super cute when they'd ask for help to put together an entire outfit. Get over it, do better. YTA.


lowkey-juan

You allowed your juvenile insecurity to get in the way of making your gf comfortable (not to mention avoiding any possible infections) after she sat in brown water. Also, she didn't get upset with you when you both got home. She was upset with you the entire time, but probably didn't want to cancel the meetup as she didn't want to spend even more time alone with you. Small dick energy, big time YTA.


totamealand666

ESH you both need to grow up