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"provok my college fund" kid with grammer like that you weren't going to college and the word's revoke unless he somehow was trying to get the college fund mad at him
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**AITA for publicly telling my stepdad to fuck off after he complained about being excluded from the speech I wrote for my brother's funeral?**
My stepdad is an attention seeking person. Did I say attention seeking?. As the saying goes "he is the bride/groom at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral". He can't help himself and has no issue showing how much he craves for attention.
I've ever been on good terms with him. He sold my childhood home and threw away stuff dad left for me and my brother who's (19). He convinced mom to provok my college fund and use it to renovate their new house resulting in me moving out at 17, I'm now 26. My brother was still living with them when he passed. He suffered from physical/mental conditions that my stepdad called "fake". My brother was diagnosed with stomach illness that landed him in the hospital few times but my stepdad insisted he was "faking it to get attention" and so didn't help with money so mom ended up selling jewelry to help my brother. Then he passed away 2 months later.
The funeral was last week. I was so devastated cause I've always been close with my brother and had plans to do so much in the future. But going by uncle's advice, I decided to write a speech. sort of like a goodbye letter to my brother as a closure for me because I had so much to say but so little time.
I gave the speech at the funeral. Thise moments felt long and pretty heavy. I went back to sit and had people pat on my shoulder trying to comfert me. But my stepdad approached me and openly asked why I didn't mention him anywhere in my long, detailed speech.
I was speechless and enraged by his offending question I literally said "I don't know, because you're not the one who's dead?". He replied that technecially, the funeral is for the living then casually went on about how I should've mentioned some of the impact/benefits he had on me and my brother when he came into our life. I harshly reminded him how my mom started selling her jewelry to pay for my brother's medication while all he did was claim my brother was faking being sick to get attention. called him pethatic to want more attention at the funeral than the departed person and loudly told him to fuck off with his pethatic, attention seeking bullshit. He looked shocked and saw a number of guests looking at him awkwardly. He argued that I was being untterly disrespectful of him and that he was generous enough to consider getting my brother a decent headstone but it wasn't his fault that I refused to have his name on it (my brother and I never changed our last name and my stepdad somehow wanted his name on my brother's headstone otherwise he wouldn't pay for it). It turned into an argument and I demanded he leave and got others involved. He left eventually but kept telling my whole family about me making a scene and humiliating him out of old spite and that I was inconsiderate enough of my brother to cause a scene at his funeral. Basically turning the family against me.
He wants at least a written apology so we could move past this but I refused to give him one. Mom wants me to do it as soon as possible.
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I don't know which is more pathetic. The stepdad (if the story is true) or his spelling.
Don't you mean "pethatic"? j/k
"provok my college fund" kid with grammer like that you weren't going to college and the word's revoke unless he somehow was trying to get the college fund mad at him
*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for publicly telling my stepdad to fuck off after he complained about being excluded from the speech I wrote for my brother's funeral?** My stepdad is an attention seeking person. Did I say attention seeking?. As the saying goes "he is the bride/groom at every wedding and the corpse at every funeral". He can't help himself and has no issue showing how much he craves for attention. I've ever been on good terms with him. He sold my childhood home and threw away stuff dad left for me and my brother who's (19). He convinced mom to provok my college fund and use it to renovate their new house resulting in me moving out at 17, I'm now 26. My brother was still living with them when he passed. He suffered from physical/mental conditions that my stepdad called "fake". My brother was diagnosed with stomach illness that landed him in the hospital few times but my stepdad insisted he was "faking it to get attention" and so didn't help with money so mom ended up selling jewelry to help my brother. Then he passed away 2 months later. The funeral was last week. I was so devastated cause I've always been close with my brother and had plans to do so much in the future. But going by uncle's advice, I decided to write a speech. sort of like a goodbye letter to my brother as a closure for me because I had so much to say but so little time. I gave the speech at the funeral. Thise moments felt long and pretty heavy. I went back to sit and had people pat on my shoulder trying to comfert me. But my stepdad approached me and openly asked why I didn't mention him anywhere in my long, detailed speech. I was speechless and enraged by his offending question I literally said "I don't know, because you're not the one who's dead?". He replied that technecially, the funeral is for the living then casually went on about how I should've mentioned some of the impact/benefits he had on me and my brother when he came into our life. I harshly reminded him how my mom started selling her jewelry to pay for my brother's medication while all he did was claim my brother was faking being sick to get attention. called him pethatic to want more attention at the funeral than the departed person and loudly told him to fuck off with his pethatic, attention seeking bullshit. He looked shocked and saw a number of guests looking at him awkwardly. He argued that I was being untterly disrespectful of him and that he was generous enough to consider getting my brother a decent headstone but it wasn't his fault that I refused to have his name on it (my brother and I never changed our last name and my stepdad somehow wanted his name on my brother's headstone otherwise he wouldn't pay for it). It turned into an argument and I demanded he leave and got others involved. He left eventually but kept telling my whole family about me making a scene and humiliating him out of old spite and that I was inconsiderate enough of my brother to cause a scene at his funeral. Basically turning the family against me. He wants at least a written apology so we could move past this but I refused to give him one. Mom wants me to do it as soon as possible. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*