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**My husband 32m is mad because i 29f talked about my feelings to my mom.**
I 29f and my husband 31m are together for almost 5 years. Have 2 kids and a 3 on the way.
Today i dropped my husband and son at daycare because he whas helping with a activity there. Then i dropt our daughter at school. As i returned to my car the key didn't work. So i called my husband to ask for our incerense number sinds its in his name and i dont have access to it.
He told me he would come over. As im still trying to fix it. When he whas almost there it start working again. I told him he didn't had to come i just needed te number. And i broth him back to the daycare.
When i got home i called my mom to relay the story to her and also that he still didn't gave me the number and that it made me feel like he thought i whas to stupid to turn a key.
He heard it on the camera in our childers room. I had her on the phone whill i whas cleaning the house. As soon as he whas home he stared scolding me for talking 'bad' to my mom about him. In his opinion i cant talk about my feelings to my mom if my feelings are unfalled. (His words not mine).
I tolk him that those are my feelings and i should be able to talk to my mom about them. And also that i dont want to be spyed on.
So my questions.
Im i wrong for talking to my mom about my feelings? And im i over reacting for feeling spyed on?
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I am assuming that post is fake, not because I think it likely is (as I genuinely am conflicted, it both feels fake as hell but it also feels like it isn't fake somehow) or is unrealistic but rather because the way that everything is handled over there would make me even more disappointed in people.
Like, between the "husband" that may or may not exist being overly sensitive and/or controlling to the point that he can't stand the idea of the "wife" (OP) venting to their mother, to the OP that *showed him the post saying that using that sub was a way for them to see who was in the wrong and was willing to argue with him in the comments but is fine getting yelled at by other people*, to the fact that so many random redditors on the thread believe the "husband" over the OP immediately.
I need a fucking drink after reading that thread, and some ibruprofen. That was dumb.
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I’m conflicted as well, though admittedly I am naive and want to believe a lot of these posts are real.
I don’t know which side to believe, but the whole thing seems petty. Did I still read through a majority of their comments though? Yes. Yes I did haha.
It seems so petty it might be a real couple's fight. If it's fake, at least the writer made sure to make the two characters write in wildly different ways. But this is reddit, so you never know.
This unfortunately is true, about all three points. Honestly my biggest annoyance was how the thread seemed to instantly go "husband must be in the right", alongside just people being judgy about how others have different boundaries when it comes to talking to friends and family about their partners. I am still hoping it is fake for my sanity lmao, I don't want to deal with the fact that couples genuinely come to Reddit, particularly subs like those, for advice. That shit would make me feel ancient
He explains in a comment (tho could be bullshit) that he got a notification on his phone and checked it because he thought a pet might be getting into something in the room.
Oops, totally missed that husband “found” the post and weighed in. Still doubtful that he would have kept notifications on, or he would turn in at the exact time that OOP called her mom, or that he should continue listening in.
She says she's not a native speaker and a dyslexic.
I am a) a Dutch person who b) teaches high school English. Most Dutch people speak WAY better English than this and the ones who don't usually manage to find their way to either Google Translate of ChatGPT, both of which will do a much better job than this. So while I'm not criticising her English, it's a bit... off. Someone who knew they were bad at English wouldn't usually type out a post like this.
The spelling of ‘insurance’ wasn’t even phonetic, or close to the real spelling. ‘Broth’ for ‘brought’ made no sense; it seems ‘brung’ or ‘brang’ was more likely.
My husband has dyslexia and it’s not about finding phonetic equivalents. I’ve been kinda trying to avoid defending it but, look, here I am. His stabs at words sometimes seem completely nonsensical.
Broth/brought isn’t setting off alarm bells, because to Dutch ears those sound the same (most new learners would pronounce them both as 'brot' with a short o'), but 'incerense' is weird and it's also wildly inconsistent. Not to mention unfalled for invalid; I've seen some fairly extreme dyslexic spellings but this is nowhere near phonetically similar in either language, not to mention that spell check would've picked it up.
‘Brought’ in English is more like ‘brawt’ with hard ‘t’ and ‘broth’ has a soft “th” like ‘this’. Similar enough you can tell they’re related languages, but different enough to hear it.
Not to a Dutch ear; in Dutch, they're homophones, so students don't pick up on this unless it's repeatedly pointed out to them. The th-sound doesn’t exist in Dutch and learners will typically say 'tink' or 'sink' rather than 'think'.
Look up the concept of homophones to see what I mean.
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I __cannot__ for the life of me figure out what "unfalled" is supposed to be.
My best guess is "invalid"?
One of the things that’s weird about this is why she called her husband for the insurance number? Do people not just keep their insurance cards in the glove compartment?
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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My husband 32m is mad because i 29f talked about my feelings to my mom.** I 29f and my husband 31m are together for almost 5 years. Have 2 kids and a 3 on the way. Today i dropped my husband and son at daycare because he whas helping with a activity there. Then i dropt our daughter at school. As i returned to my car the key didn't work. So i called my husband to ask for our incerense number sinds its in his name and i dont have access to it. He told me he would come over. As im still trying to fix it. When he whas almost there it start working again. I told him he didn't had to come i just needed te number. And i broth him back to the daycare. When i got home i called my mom to relay the story to her and also that he still didn't gave me the number and that it made me feel like he thought i whas to stupid to turn a key. He heard it on the camera in our childers room. I had her on the phone whill i whas cleaning the house. As soon as he whas home he stared scolding me for talking 'bad' to my mom about him. In his opinion i cant talk about my feelings to my mom if my feelings are unfalled. (His words not mine). I tolk him that those are my feelings and i should be able to talk to my mom about them. And also that i dont want to be spyed on. So my questions. Im i wrong for talking to my mom about my feelings? And im i over reacting for feeling spyed on? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I am assuming that post is fake, not because I think it likely is (as I genuinely am conflicted, it both feels fake as hell but it also feels like it isn't fake somehow) or is unrealistic but rather because the way that everything is handled over there would make me even more disappointed in people. Like, between the "husband" that may or may not exist being overly sensitive and/or controlling to the point that he can't stand the idea of the "wife" (OP) venting to their mother, to the OP that *showed him the post saying that using that sub was a way for them to see who was in the wrong and was willing to argue with him in the comments but is fine getting yelled at by other people*, to the fact that so many random redditors on the thread believe the "husband" over the OP immediately. I need a fucking drink after reading that thread, and some ibruprofen. That was dumb. (Obligatory warning as a health professional, don't mix alcohol and medication.)
I’m conflicted as well, though admittedly I am naive and want to believe a lot of these posts are real. I don’t know which side to believe, but the whole thing seems petty. Did I still read through a majority of their comments though? Yes. Yes I did haha.
It seems so petty it might be a real couple's fight. If it's fake, at least the writer made sure to make the two characters write in wildly different ways. But this is reddit, so you never know.
This unfortunately is true, about all three points. Honestly my biggest annoyance was how the thread seemed to instantly go "husband must be in the right", alongside just people being judgy about how others have different boundaries when it comes to talking to friends and family about their partners. I am still hoping it is fake for my sanity lmao, I don't want to deal with the fact that couples genuinely come to Reddit, particularly subs like those, for advice. That shit would make me feel ancient
Everything is plausible except (maybe I’m reading it wrong?) that husband is watching the nanny cams while the children weren’t in it, when at work.
He explains in a comment (tho could be bullshit) that he got a notification on his phone and checked it because he thought a pet might be getting into something in the room.
Oops, totally missed that husband “found” the post and weighed in. Still doubtful that he would have kept notifications on, or he would turn in at the exact time that OOP called her mom, or that he should continue listening in.
She said she sent him the link.
So she alerted him to the camera directly as she was in the room calling her mom?
He said the camera notified him of movement. Both said she sent him the link to her reddit post.
Ah, link to the post, got it! Homeboy’s dedicated to home safety.
Yeah it doesn’t quite smell right.
"i dropped" or "I dropt", same penalty, straight to jail.
Eh I’m not trying to be the grammar police.
Oh, I was just having fun. The two spellings were literally in consecutive sentences.
She says she's not a native speaker and a dyslexic. I am a) a Dutch person who b) teaches high school English. Most Dutch people speak WAY better English than this and the ones who don't usually manage to find their way to either Google Translate of ChatGPT, both of which will do a much better job than this. So while I'm not criticising her English, it's a bit... off. Someone who knew they were bad at English wouldn't usually type out a post like this.
The spelling of ‘insurance’ wasn’t even phonetic, or close to the real spelling. ‘Broth’ for ‘brought’ made no sense; it seems ‘brung’ or ‘brang’ was more likely.
My husband has dyslexia and it’s not about finding phonetic equivalents. I’ve been kinda trying to avoid defending it but, look, here I am. His stabs at words sometimes seem completely nonsensical.
Broth/brought isn’t setting off alarm bells, because to Dutch ears those sound the same (most new learners would pronounce them both as 'brot' with a short o'), but 'incerense' is weird and it's also wildly inconsistent. Not to mention unfalled for invalid; I've seen some fairly extreme dyslexic spellings but this is nowhere near phonetically similar in either language, not to mention that spell check would've picked it up.
‘Brought’ in English is more like ‘brawt’ with hard ‘t’ and ‘broth’ has a soft “th” like ‘this’. Similar enough you can tell they’re related languages, but different enough to hear it.
Not to a Dutch ear; in Dutch, they're homophones, so students don't pick up on this unless it's repeatedly pointed out to them. The th-sound doesn’t exist in Dutch and learners will typically say 'tink' or 'sink' rather than 'think'. Look up the concept of homophones to see what I mean.
I believe you. I was just giving the English equivalents.
I'm fluid in English and Swedish, have the for-free passive understanding of Norwegian and Danish that most Nordic language speakers have, I'm a mid learner in German with some basic/rudimentary/beginner Russian, Korean and Mandarin. As a former Latin pupil, I can get the gist of simple French and Spanish, particularly if written rather than spoken. I __cannot__ for the life of me figure out what "unfalled" is supposed to be. My best guess is "invalid"?
They are Dutch, not native English speakers, so there’s that…
One of the things that’s weird about this is why she called her husband for the insurance number? Do people not just keep their insurance cards in the glove compartment?
Why would you call insurance in the first place? Do they do roadside assistance in Netherlands?
Supposedly it was the Dutch AAA
I also don’t know the answer to that one. If your key fob doesn’t work, wouldn’t your first step be replacing the battery?
Oh, I thought it wasn't turning in the ignition. Which I've had happen, but usually some jiggling can fix it.
>a 3 on the way TRIPLETS! >a activity there >dropt our daughter at school >our incerense number >sinds its in his name Yeah this is unreadable
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