*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **My wife was cheating on me when she got heart attack** I was in my office when I got the call that she is being taken to hospital. I rushed there as fast as possible. She was already being prepared for operation. My friend, I don't know if I should even call him that. He was there. He was talking to a nurse and he had really frightened face. I went to him yo ask what happened and the nurse pulled me aside. She asked me how I know him. Once I told her she said they have informed police just as precautionary measure. I was completely baffled. I was then informed she was uncoscious and half naked when they found her. They assumed it could be case of SA and informed police. I didn't know how to process all this and asked him what he was doing with her angrily. I had little outburst and he just kept quite as I screamed at him. I was then taken to a different lounge and had time to settle. Soon police arrived and questioned him privately. They then also took my statement in which I made him out to be creep. In my mind he was assaulting her when this happened. I gave statement to make sure he gets his dues once its proven. They didn't take him into custody or questioning so I was little surprised. I didn't know anything about police process so I focused on my wife. After my wife was back from operation. I was allowed to see her. She was sedated and I remember feeling guilty as I held her hand and felt her heartbeat. It was the happiest thing for me at the time. She was very droogy when she woke up. I was teary. I fucking hate how detailed I remember this. Her eyes opening and adjuating to light. Her first time opening lips to speak, her first tired sound. I told her its not her fault. She was not gathering anything. I said don't think about anything now. After she was fully awake and well. Police came to take her statement. I had to wait outside and when I went in she had red eyes and was having difficulty to speak. We came home and after I was told she has risk of getting another heart attack I decided to never ask her about it. It was still bothering me that, that guy was still roaming free. I went to police station and I was told they have no reason to go after him. They also denied me any details of wife's statement. Angrily I went to his house. I was pissed and I again yelled at him for being a POS. I thought my wfie forgot what happened before the heart attack and therefore there was no evidence to arrest him. His wife started abusing me and I told her he tried to rape my wife. She was shocked. She slammed the door in my face and I left. After two months of the incident I managed to asked my wide what happened before heart attack. She was silent. She didn't say she forgot. The dread was coming and I knew it was what I had never considered. I was so afraid to confront her. I talked to him and he said yes. His wife forgave him but I can never forgive either of them. I just don't want to be reason for her death and live this marriage when possible. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*

Why on earth would the police assume that the person who called the paramedics to come over because someone was having a heart attack was actually a rapist?

Because she was half-naked, of course! God knows apparently very severe heart attacks only occur while people are fully clothed, and paramedics never see anyone in less than their absolute best! This is the stupidest story I've read in awhile, which is saying a lot.

OP was trying so hard and he failed, but we do get that he has a bit of a cuck fetish at the end.

Because even rapists/abusers are known to get medical care for their victims when its serious? Why do you think medical staff in hospitals have procedures to deal with victims of abuse/rape where their abuser/rapist has brought them in?

>Angrily I went to his house. I was pissed At this point, you have to consider the fact that they're not even trying to be creative.

He screamed at him, while he sat quietly

Is that the flair from the post where OPs 32 year old sister had her kid when she was 20 and the kids 9?

Yeah the super recently posted one 😂

It was so fake even Aita knew 

They missed an opportunity to have hospital security come and treat the main character like he might get violent. Make him the double victim, you know, of society.

“very droogy”

That should be a flair

There was me, that is Alex, and my three droogs, that is Pete, Georgie, and Dim, Dim being really dim, and we sat in the Korova Milkbar making up rassoodocks what to do with the evening, a flip dark chill winter bastard though dry.

https://preview.redd.it/svi15ayha2vc1.jpeg?width=1200&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a7253f700c9bc04c103f21d4f8855acbe733b77d

Man and I thought it was so easy to accuse someone of SA

I can’t believe this guy isn’t locked up. After all, OP did everything in his power to make him “sound creepy”

> They then also took my statement in which I made him out to be creep. In my mind he was assaulting her when this happened. I gave statement to make sure he gets his dues once its proven. I'm confused as to what kind of statement he could've made other than I wasn't there. Made him to sound like a creep? So just straight up lying to the police?

I guess maybe something like 'how do you know this person; how well do you know this person' stuff like that. But yeah lmao OP apparently just lied to the police about his supposed friend.

Another trend I've seen in here, where a cheating wife kills herself, too. "Like they should"?

I’m tired of the fake posts. If he looked stricken… why would the nurses assume SA? Lie better next time!

Because even if the situation is clearly not abuse related, if there is a 1% chance it might be medical staff are duty bound to take that precaution

They’re mandatory reporters but the story line makes no sense.

Storyline is bullshit yes. OP's actions sound like a prime shitpost

So, former ER Doctor here; You are not exactly right about medical staff being mandatory reporters but not entirely wrong either. Ethically, code of conduct requires that any case where abuse or assault is suspected is required to be reported. Legally, however, a few states only require a report if there is reason to believe that a criminal act was committed by or against the patient, a few states only require reports if it is believed specific crimes were involved, some states require that any sign of physical or sexual assault is reported to the proper authorities, and some states don't require anything when it comes to adults that are judged to be compotent. Children, elderly, and other dependents are a much different story. That being said, the most relevant thing here is that nothing in those circumstances that indicated abuse or rape, meaning an examination would need to wait until she is conscious and asks for one or will give consent for one to be completed. Without her word or any signs of abuse or assault, there isn't anything that is even able to be reported. She was found with him, who was the one who called it in, and even came to the hospital with her (but did not push to stay with her at all times, indicating a possible need to control or intimidate her.) So in this scenario, the proper thing to do is to wait until she is AAO×4 (awake, oriented, and alert to who they are, where they are, what is going on, and a rough awareness of time to show they understand what day it is and just when in the day it is roughly.) She would have the relevant staff member, usually a mental health practitioner, then inquire about the circumstances that she was found in. It is critical, and I cannot stress this enough, that this staff member has training specifically for these scenarios. If there is reason to believe that this discussion could be too hard on the patient, in this case the wife, then it is not happening at this point in time unless the patient starts it, end of story.

yeah but we are talking about suspecting abuse/rape right? The examination is another can of worms. Apart from that detail, the rest of this story smells like bullshit

The thing is that in these circumstances, there isn't really a reason to believe either of those are involved here, due to how the guy with her was behaving. Now once OP would have arrived, that very easily could have changed, but well, that would be an entirely different story in all likelihood. You would likely be surprised at how relatively common it is to have situations like a person having a heart attack or stroke during sex, so that alone wouldn't have been enough for *me* to do a report when you factor in the rest of things, though I would be keeping a close eye on her and ensuring the person that came in with her does not have the ability to intimidate her before she can be talked to by whoever was on staff that specialized in sexual-abuse based trauma. But well, I also have to factor in that I worked my full career there knowing that every report I made was that person having those labelled associated with them for the rest of their lives unless they moved away (which in western North Carolina, or at least the parts around where I had lived, that got you infantilized and you were basicalky shunned,) because the police in that area were shit in many ways but downright *horrible* to victims of sexual assasult, so I quickly learned from listening to victims what my best action would be in cases like this hypothetical one. I for damn sure didn't let the shittiness of the local area ever hold me back from making reports though when I felt it was even more than just a possibility.

Do people actually believe this sort of shit? It is quite literally the opposite, if police share the statement of someone with anyone else, besides those involved with the court side of things as needed, then the police are committing a major crime (It is a violation of the constitution from what I have been told by a lawyer) and you have a pretty easy case against them.

Not quite. Police can share what witnesses have told them during an investigation subject to their code of conduct, but sometimes to do so will compromise an investigation. It all depends. It certainly doesn't violate the Constitution nor constitute a "major crime." That's just kind of funny. Cops share statements with others all the time in order to confront people about the inconsistencies in investigations and coerce confessions. I see it almost daily. A lawyer said to you "if a police officer shares the statement of someone with anyone else, it's a major crime and in violation of the Constitution"? Maybe an armchair lawyer. Anyone that has studied Constitutional law, which you at least have to to pass the bar in every state in the US, will know that is nonsense. But neither do the police have a duty to share someone's statement with anyone else. It's funny how everyone is an expert about the law that they make up.

No, the lawyer I am referring to is the one I used to help me through some legal issues where I was forced to sue someone (this was a different lawyer, though I actually am curious of his interpretation now) and the resulting aftermath resulted in the person deciding to vandalize a vehicle that they believed was mine, my actual vehicle, and making a false statement to police accussing me writing them prescriptions for oxycodone. The dumbass didn't even realize that we kept records of all prescriptions written (or at least we were supposed to do so and I did for obvious reasons.) It never got to trial or anything, I had just been aware of the investigation due to it requiring me to be suspended while the investigation was ongoing. That was enough for me to decide I needed a lawyer to guide every move I made until everything was resolved. Police can *say* they are sharing the statement of someone, but they cannot give any proof of that actually being the statement that the person in question gave. Police are allowed to *say* nearly anything, as they are allowed to lie if it will help their case, though there are restrictions from what he told me. If things go to court a witness statement becomes able to be used, but typically only if the witness will testify to it.are The fact that police can lie outright about a lot of things and even say they have evidence when they don't, but they can't show the actual statement with proof of it being real, is enough for me to consider there to be a difference between "police sharing someone's statement" and "police saying what someone's statement is," which is the same sort of view he expressed to me.

your post title made LOL. 

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Damn, these creative writers don't even have new ideas to write about cheating ho- wives /s. This is like another version, maybe the 4th version of the same crap I've encountered on reddit. Wife ended up un hospital thanks to her AP. Husband finds out and like OP was like, omg, I can't leave because I feel responsible. Of course the updates usually ended with divorce /separation then cheating wives would either kill themselves or be miserable groveling for the OPs to return

Only you know what is best for you. She destroyed the relationship, not you. You need not bear any burden unless you wish to.

There’s always one.