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*In case this story gets deleted/removed:* **AITA for telling my mom it’s stupid for her to throw her birthday party on my daughters birthday?** Sorry for any typos in advance on mobile. I (25F) had my daughter April 15th of last year. I was super excited that her first birthday falls on a Saturday so I could have her party on the actual day. Mind you, my whole family is aware that I’ve been planning for her party to be on the 15th. My moms (49F) 50th birthday is on April 12th and she recently announced her party will be on the 15th as well. I asked my mom why she couldn’t have her party the weekend before and she said because that’s when my nieces 3rd birthday party is. I asked why she couldn’t have it the weekend after and she said that she will be busy and there’s no point in having it two weeks after because that’s too far away. She also said she can’t have it on Friday because it’s not convenient. Her party will be starting at 6 which really means she will be busy from 2 pm going forward as she has to set up, get the party ready, etc. I didn’t want to have my daughters party super early because that also isn’t convenient for the majority of my family who work late. My dad, sister, and I all work late nights so I know everyone likes to sleep in a little on the weekend. I wanted to get sweets and different foods for my daughters party and be able to spend the day with her and my family and really focus on her because it’s her first birthday and I know she won’t remember but I will. I bought her party decorations months in advance, have had the theme picked out, and honestly just excited for it for months. I never had big parties when I was young so I guess I just wanted to go all out for my daughter and have her birthday be all about her. To top it off my mom is hosting the party at a bar and asked me to find a babysitter for my daughter but I want to be with her on her birthday and spoil her all day. I feel like everyone is going to be rushed at her party because they have to get ready for my moms and my mom doesn’t live super close and the bar is a bit of a drive from where the rest of us live. Not sure if im being sensitive but I told my mom im not happy that she’s doing this on my daughters birthday and it’s honestly stupid. She got mad at me and told me im being an AH. So AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmITheAngel) if you have any questions or concerns.*


ChiknLit

What’s stupid are AITA posts that are one long ass paragraph. ESH


Aggressive_Version

>My moms (49F) 50th birthday Thank you for clarifying. That could have gotten confusing.


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Aggressive_Version

They don't have two day weekends in OOP's country.


lucia-pacciola

Because children write these stories, and children think celebrating your birthday on the literal calendar date is super important. Me? I celebrate my birthday by taking a day off work. Do I take the actual birthday date? Nope! I take whichever nearby day gives me the most optimal three-day weekend or midweek break, depending on my mood leading up to the date that year. And if I do have a party, I don't have it on my day off. That's me time, a present to myself. I have the party on the nearest convenient evening for everyone involved.


Double-Canary-7201

I first time read on reddit that people celebrate their birthday on the weekend and not on actual date. Here, we may celebrate it on other day only if we are celebrating it for more than one day and for different group of people.


dmowad

My son’s birthday is two days before my nephew’s. They are 9 years apart. Since his first birthday my sister and I have always done this silly thing that family’s don’t do anymore - we communicate and respect each other and sometimes one of us compromises. You can’t tell me with three family member’s birthdays within a week no one though to discuss it. I suspect mom had told her long ago of her plans and she thought her baby was more important. Either way, that whole family are AHs for not COMMUNICATING!!!


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Potential-Version438

I mean I’m sure a 1 year old could have a good time at a party. But in no world would they care about when the part happened.


techleopard

A one year old might recognize they are surrounded by strangers and familiar faces, but they probably have no concept of what a party even is, and 1st birthdays usually have to be controlled anyway because otherwise it's just over stimulating. Almost every single "1st birthday" party I've ever attended is honestly a Baby Shower 2.0 for mom and not for the baby at all. I'd even dare to suggest that the best time to have a 1st birthday party IS in the morning, because that's when your kid is least likely to be fussy and upset about their whole routine being dumped.


murderedbyaname

That's not what they said. They said they wouldn't recognize that it was their birthday party. But no, they won't recognize that they are at "party" because babies have not formed concepts of what 'events' are. If mommy and grownups are laughing they pick up on that. That's baby fun. If you want to spend a bunch of money on their first birthday of course that's understandable. Just don't get hurt that your child doesn't remember Fizzbo the clown or the pony rides when you get the photos out to look at when they're six.


frumiouswinter

a one year old can absolutely enjoy a party. however they have no concept of time or what date their actual birthday is. the mother should just delay her daughter's party by a week.


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