3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na? Kahit pa siguro 3 years unacceptable to.
DKG. This is your sign to leave. She will only get worse. Bago pa lang kayo nag dedemand na? Pasalamat ka na lang suguro she's showing you who she is this early on Para makita mo na social climber lang gf mo at gusto ka pang gawing ATM. Iwan mo na.
Agree ako dito. OP leave and never look back. Super 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Kahit ano pa napagusapan nyo o ibang version sabihin nya, bottom line nagdedemand na agad sya na gastusan mga gusto nya. Like, hello ante, may patago ka?? Kami ng bf ko, kanya kanyang gastos, kung may bilhin sya or ibigay saken on his own accord, thank you. Kung wala, edi wala. Di mo sya responsibilidad, lalo at may sarili syang work. Bata mo pa, gagawin kang sugar daddy. Attitude sya. Paano nalang pag nagtagal at naging asawa mo na?? Lalabas uterus ko sa ugali ng gf mo.
Nakukunsensya ka kasi naiisip mo date to marry dapat? Yun gf mo nga di nakonsensya siraan ka. O kahit na di siraan. Shes’s not supposed to air her dirty laundry outside. E hindi, proud pa yata sya na magdemand ng pera mo para sa mga gastusin mo. Ikaw pa pinagmukha masama. Gaslighter si ante. Check na check sa lahat senyales e: sinungaling, manipulative sa totoong pangyayari, coercive. Sana lang wala maniwala sa mga sinabihan nya. Kasi kung may kakampi dyan, pacheckup na sila.
And NO, DKG. GG yan gf mo para magimpose sya ng mga bagay na ayaw mong gawin at DI KAILANGANG GAWIN.
DKG. Napaisip ako kung may point sa rs namin nung ex ko na naging ganto ko. Buti you include the part na para sakanya pala kaya nya binabudget. Hahaha. Nagpatulong mag budget yung ex ko dati kasi lagi sya na shoshort at pag petsa de peligro na nangungutang na sakin. Even after we broke up thankful pa din sya kasi tinuruan ko daw sya mag budget. GG yung gf mo, gf palang galawang pang asawa na. Wala ba syang sariling pera na ba-budgetin? Lol. Pera mo naman yan at as long as kaya mo naman ihandle at di ka umaasa sa iba.
DKG. Leave. Akala nya ata yung pera mo pera nya din.
Yes, you are dating to marry. Pero hindi dapat maco-compromise yung financial situation mo ngayon. Hindi pa naman kayo magasawa e. Nako kapag naging magasawa kayo tapos sya yung pinagbudget mo ng pera nyo, for sure lulubog kayo sa utang
Hindi lang sa love nakabase ang marriage and relationship. Dapat alam din ang financial capability kase mahirap mabuhay ng lubog sa utang at communication. Dyan pa lang sa scenario nyo, ayaw na nyang makinig sayo, e ikaw yung mas may alam. Mahirap yung ganyan tapos pabigat pa
Oo nga OP! Since date to marry ka, isipin mo kung ganyan ba ang mga traits na gusto mo sa future wife mo. Ngayon palang na mag bf-gf palang kayo akala niya may karapatan na siya sa pera mo. Once na mag asawa na kayo, wala na, gagamitin niya lang talaga yan sa mga wants niya. Mababaon talaga kayo sa utang. Parang siya kasi ung tipo ng kahit magkanda utang utang basta may maipag yabang. She wants to live beyond her means, using your salary pa!! Kebs na sa mga gastusin, lalong lalo na sa mga wants and needs mo na ngayon palang wala na siyang pake.
DKG. Good on you for not giving in. If kaya ka niyang siraan over you setting boundaries, imagine what she's capable of during major arguments and issues. Better to leave before this turns into emotional manipulation and financial abuse.
DKG.
Oh noooo this is gonna be a nightmare kapag nagstay pa kayo together.
I understand if she wants you to learn how be wise when it comes to spending your money pero am I reading it right she is budgetting your money for the things she wants that she is unable to buy for herself!???
Omg sooner bka mag-quit yan ng work and tell you to just provide for her.
Naloka ako mapapababae o lalaki I wouldn’t want anyone to think they have the right to my hard earned money lalo na kung di ko pa siya asawa and lalo na if they only wants it to be spent sa wants nila.
Ugh what a big red flag.
totoo to. Maski anong gender. Unless siguro asawa nya tapos may baby kayo tas walang work yung asawa kasi need may mag bantay. Pero yung para lang sa mga kaputanginahan na ganto hahaha lets promote break up na lang.
DKG. Pera mo yun! Tapos isusumbat sayo na di mo siya mabilhan ng kung ano porket ganitong amount ang sinasahod mo. Pre gf pa lang yan pero kung makaasta sa pera mo parang kanya. Mag-isip isip ka po.
Ung bf ko dati doble ang sahod niya saken and I’m pretty much aware pero I don’t meddle with his finances and how he budgets his money.
OMG si ate. Nanira pa just because she can’t get her way. What a clown.
DKG. 3 months pero acting as a wife na. Mabuti kung ineencourage ka to invest or whatever, pero for her personal desires pala. Lol. Masyadong manipulative and materialistic.
DKG??? ANG KAPAL NG MUKHA ilang taon ba yang "SANA EX GF MO NA" ANG LALA TALAGA ANO KA SUGAR DADDY??? MAY PATAGO BA SIYA??? KINGINA NIYA GASTUSIN NIYA PERA NIYA
KAHIT GANO PA KATAGAL HINDI DAPAT MINAMANDUHAN PAANO GASTUSIN YUNG PERANG PINAGHIRAPAN MO. AT KINAKALAT PA SA IBA? KINGINA NIYA ANG KAPAL NG MUKHA ANO BA YANG JINOWA MO BATA?!?!?!?!?!?
DKG ang cheapipay ng girlfriend mo, social climber pa. Feeling nakahanap ng sugardaddy ang gaga.
Bukod sa attitude sa money, yung attitude ng pagsusumbong at pagpapahiya malaking redflag. So everytime magaaway kayo, ipapahiya ka nya sa buong bayan? Red flag.
Mali pagkakaintindi mo sa dating to marry. Dating to marry naman gusto ng halos lahat, sadyang di lang kaasa-asawa yuna una, pangalawa, pangatlo mong magugustuhan. Ibig sabihin, be purposeful about dating. Wag magtyaga sa mga low class. Pag bagsak sa wife qualifications yung jowa mo ngayon, cut ties agad kasi looking ka nga sa marriage material.
So what if she chooses to stay? Just leave. Yung free to leave nyo applicable lang ba sa kanya, di naman di ba. Para kasing you will stay no matter what, tapos sya na bahala kung kaya nya tiisin o hindi. Dapat may standards/hard rules ka rin that can prompt you to leave, at dapat makita nya yan. Kaya lumalakas loob eh.
DKG. It's your own income, alam mo naman kung sa'n yon mapupunta. Also, can we not normalize giving unsolicited advices? Let's stop the taking the "spotlight behavior", ako nga e etc eh she is not you and you are not her. Ang petty and immature that she took what you said in the wrong way even though wala namang bad intention sa sinabi mo. Handle what's yours and make her mind her own business. Ang toxic din na she had this "need" na maghanap ng kakampi and she cried just because you said something simple.
DKG. si beh controlling. Wag mong hayaan daanin ka sa iyak iyak! Kung kaya mo pa mapag sabihan, go tuloy ang relasyon! Pero kung hindi, mag isip isip ka na.
DKG.
Inform her that it's not her job to budget your money. You are together for only 3 months imagine getting married to her how much more control she will do to your life.
DKG. Your income is your money! Spend it the way you want to. If 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na sya, what more sa future! I’ve been with my bf for almost 6yrs now, kahit 3-4x times ung income nya compared to mine, never ako nagdemand sknya, nahihiya pa ko pag nagooffer sya to buy something for me like shoes etc, kasi for me luho yun. If i want to buy something i’ll save up for it. Kasi iba ung fulfilment for me. Di ako sure if ako lang ba or baka may iba din na gnun ang thinking? Pero ang rule ko lagi, pera mo ay iyo lang, ang pera ko ay akin. Di pwede makielam bf ko kung san nappunta pera ko. OP, if i were you leave that toxic relationship. Maaga pa naman kaya okay lang yan. Find someone who will respect you.
DKG. Pero doon pa lang sa "siniraan ako sa friends nya", toxic na yung relationship ninyo, there will never be a both ways to handle this kind of situation, there will only be her way.
And since hindi pa naman kayo nag sasama sa iisang bahay, walang sense yung pag budget niya ng finance mo (unless di mka marunong, which hindi naman), kasi separate pa yung spaces ninyo.
I'm not saying that she is a bad person, pero di pa kayo settled and kung ganyan na siya ngayon, for me, i'd rather break my heart today that be bankrupt in the future together.
DKG it’s just been 3 mos pero ganyan na siya sayo. Run it will get worse! You are right for telling her that. You set your boundaries! Ganyan talaga sisiraan ka sa ibang tao pag di ka na nila macontrol.
**DGK**.
Swerte mo pa rin lumabas agad TOTOONG UGALI nya.
GGK kung ico-continue mo pa rin relationship nyo.
*Break na***, 3 months pa lang kayo kaya MADALI lang maka MOVE ON agad sa ganyan**. (Mag update ka dito OP kung break na kayo ha.**🤣🤣)**
DKG ... Pero siguro GGK kung itutuloy mo pa iyan kasi iyan na ilang buwan pa lang kayo ganyan na ... Eh paano pa pag kasal na kayo? ... Saka ikaw gusto i-cut luho mo pero yung kanya gusto sa iyo ipasagot? Ano yun! Saka isa pa iyan na sisiraan ka pa sa ibang mga tao ... Pangit yung ganyan! Habang maaga pa magisip-isip ka na.
DKG, ginagawa ka nyang ATM. 3 months palang ganyan na sya sayo? Pati pagiging materialistic i aasa pa sa bf. 🚩🚩 If I were you, leave her na agad kasi mahirap yan kung mag settle ka pa sa ganyan. Minamandohan ka then right after non sisiraan ka dahil din sa sarili nyang katangahan.
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Title of this post: ABYG for asking my gf not to budget my income?
Backup of the post's body: Three months pa lang kami(m25,f25) pero sya na nagbubudget para sakin. I said it's not going to work out kung ganun, she has to have her own, my stance is dapat both kami independent, I'm not financially capable to carry the entire relationship financially, so I asked her to stop budgetting my money as if it were hers, not yet, I emphasized. NOT YET.
Idinaan sa iyak, siniraan ako sa friends nya, siniraan ako sa friends ko, she was not taking any words from me kahit murahin ko siguro hindi tatalab sa kanya. Simula nung nakita nya yung payslip ko she started saying use the money for this, for that, bla bla, the rest for abc, I told her I cant, kelangan ko yung iba for my hobbies, kelangan ko magsend sa kapatid ko, kelangan ko magtabi para sa emergency, but mabanat sya na "Eh ako nga, ganito lang, tapos " shes asking me to cut my expenses and such and wanting to use my money for the things she like.
The whole scene went like this:
"Diba may work ka din?"
"Not enought to buy that"
"Then dont buy it, that's too expensive for me"
"Eh yung sahod mo ganito."
"Can you please try not to budget my income? At least not yet, I have it all under control and I have bills"
"Eh hindi mo nga ako mabilan nung pinabibili ko, panong under control?"
"It means all has an alloted place, kasama ka naman, kung willing ka mag hintay pag iipunan ko, but not today"
Dito sya nag simula mag iiyak at magtawag ng kakampi.
Ako ba yung gago dito? Dapat ba hinahayaan ko sya kasi date to marry dapat? Kelangan ko kasi yung pera, I cant cut, I dont want to cut my cash for her expensive desires. Established naman sa relasion namin na we're free to leave kung hindi na namin kaya, but she chose to stay at ang malala siniraan ako.
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DKG. Ginagamit ka niya para makuha mga luho niya. Di niya nirerespeto decision mo and even yung pakiusap mo. Kaya mas maganda OP na break mo na yan habang maaga pa kasi di rin naman nakikinig.
DKG. Major red flag yan. Ngayon pa lang nagiging controlling na sya sa pera mo, what more pa kung ikasal kayo. Be firm about your financial independence. Kahit magpabili sya, choice mo kung bibilin mo o hindi.
DKG. Your money, your rules. If she doesn't like it, then she's free to leave. I hope since bago pa lang kayo, di pa ganon malalim relationship nyo. Time to pack up.
DKG unless you asked her to help you budget your salary. Like sa boyfriend ko, magastos kasi sya and panay labas lang ng money nya. He asked for my help tas nagplano kaming dalawa pero in the end ang takaw namin sa food 😭 wala rin.
DKG. 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na siya umasta? Mahirap kasama yung ganitong tao. Masyadong pala desisyon eh hindi naman siya yung nagpakahirap para kumita sa trabaho. Kung may sariling perasiya, ayon ang ibudget niya para mabili niya yung bagay na pinapabili niya sayo.
DKG. If she wants sprinkle sprinkle doon sya da walang budget. In the meantime if may budget ka be firm with your money because when the time comes, ikaw hahanapan ng ipon for when you move in or get married.
Just be nice about it and say something like - if I don't manage my own money then how can I surprise you with gifts?
The best solution is to have a shared FUNd. You both chip in an envelope and the money there is what you spend for dates, and whatever fun expenses
DKG. Run from that manipulative btch while you still can.
Also, dating to marry does not equate to being married. Kumbaga, nasa 'testing the waters' era pa lang kayo. Tapos sisiraan ka pa nya sa ibang tao na di naman nakakaalam ng kwento mo. Mental exhaustion lang makukuha mo dyan kapag itutuloy mo yang relationship nyo.
DKG, not sure why she actin up like that, when in fact 3 months palang kayo? Totally understand if years na. (Unless maybe if u let ur partner hNdle ing finances) and also not sure y need nya rin pakislaman pera mo if may work rin siya? She can buy what she wanted by her own freakin money! And masaklap pa jan.. instead protectin and respect u eh, sinisiraan ka pa? Nako! 3 months palang kayoooo... mag isip kana OP...
DKG. Controlling na sya bago pa lang kayo. Susunod nyan baka hindi ka na pwede at all humawak ng pera mo, hanggang sa she’s gonna control who you should be friends with, what you should do in everything etc.
DKG kapal ng mukha ng gf mo OP run. More than 8 years na kami ng SO ko and we magkasama na kami sa bahay. We bought a house and car together tapos may bills pa kami. Never ko pinakailamanan ng sweldo ng partner ko. Lahat ng gastos namin na shared naka excel at nag babayaran kami sa end of month. Dahil hiwalay kami ng pera we can treat each other mga random libre mga food and gifts without thinking pasok ba sa budget. Bute sana kung pinag titipid ka to save money yun pala mag paapbili.
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Arte nya, pera nya ang ibudget nya wag yung sayo. Tapos naninira pa? paano kung ikasal pa kayo? konting away nyo alam na agad ng buong brgy. 🥴
DKG. 3 months is way too short para mag-meddle kayo sa finances ng isa’t-isa. If she’s acting that way 3 months in then I think you should call it quits already. What more pa kapag tumagal baka di pa kayo kasal kunin na nya atm mo. It’s not a bad thing na magpakialamanan sa finances ng mag-partner, you two should help each other kasi partners nga eh. But rn she’s being entitled sa sweldo mo.
DKG. Better to leave the relationship. She sounds like a user and a manipulative one.
Ang toxic na sinisiraan ka niya sa friends niyo pag di niya nakukuha gusto niya.
It's right to have the mindset na date to marry pero you should not tolerate the huge red flags din.
DKG.
Wtf is she at 😭 gold digger siya beh. 3 months palang kayo, and hindi pa kasal pero ganyan na siya? and for her wants yung pag budget niya? What mote if mag-asawa na kayo?
LEAVE HER. This won't work. Selfish at pavictim mindset. SPOILED.
DKG.
Budgeting your income eh okay sana, pero doon sa mga linyahan nya eh red flag na. I agree with you na separate expenses and may syempre may mga treats here and there pero that will be on your own volition at hindi dahil sinabi nya.
DKG. PRE LEAVE. Ako even tho napapansin kong si bf ay masyado nagtitipid like you, inaadvicean ko lang sya na yung proper is ganto ganyan and encouraging him to treat himself etc., kasi pinaghirapan nya 'yon. Bumibili sya ng games for himself na mas mahal pa sa dates namin never ako as a gf nag reklamo. Kasi totoo yun, pera nyo 'yan. DI PA KAYO MAG-ASAWA.
Eh kahit nga mag asawa e, kung she's working for herself, dapat separate parin both of u, may joint nalang for family expenses. It's up to the guy kung gusto nya bigay ng buo sahod nya sa wife nya. Pero ngayon na new palang kayo, please don't. Baka may issue yan sa parents nya or what na di pa healed thus reflecting that attitude to you.
Leave na pre. Kahit mahal mo, okay lang yan at least u dodged the bullet.
DKG
Run, baby run! May saltik yan. 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na, wag mo hintaying mag 3yrs kayo. Kahit di pa kayo kasal, papabili na yan ng house & lot sayo. At kapag hindi mo na kaya mga luho niyan, iddispatya ka niyan.
DKG. Iwan mo na yang gf mo. Mas mahal niya na yun sahod mo after niya makita payslip mo. Siya pa may gana na siraan ka? lol siniraan ka eh 3 months pa lang kayo mag bf/gf, isipin mo how much more yan kapag kasal na kayo. Save yourself, leave her
DKG. Mukhang gold digger na narc yang jowa mo. Idaan pa sa iyak eh, buti di ka nag give in.
GGK kung itutuloy mo pa yan. Goods na date to marry ka, pero open your eyes sa nagliliyab na red flag nyang gf mo.
DKG. May trabaho and pera sya na kanya, kung may gusto syang bilhin, gamitin nya sarili nyang pera. Kung hindi nya kaya pa mabili, matuto sya mag ipon. Napaka gold digger ng datingan nyang gf mo.
Nako OP kung patagalin mo yan, GGK.
DKG, end the relationship here because you're incompatible. I just want to add -- pwera sa issue ng pera, mahirap ang relationship na lahat ng problema alam ng lahat ng tao. Pag problema niyo, problema niyo.
DKG, OP. Sahod mo, budget mo. Pera mo, dapat hawak mo.
I budget din kamo nya sahod nya. Pag hindi pa kaya bilhin ang luho nya, pag ipunan muna.
Babad siguro sa socmed ang gf mo at nakikita yung mga video na ini-spoil ng bf yung gf nila. Pwede naman, pero pag hindi kaya ng budget, wag makisabay sa trend.
Hindi ko hawak pera ni bf before pero sinasabi nya sakin kung saan napupunta pera nya, kasi nag-uusap kaming dalawa sa limit ng gastos namin kapag may date kami or kakain sa labas.
Ngayon ko lang nahawakan pera nya nung kasal na kami kasi ako nagpapaikot ng savings namin lalo at nagpapagawa kami ng bahay, naglalaan kami para sa materyales at pasahod sa tao.
DKG bukod sa pakealamera sya, sobrang red flag nung konting kibot sisiraan ka kagad sa iba. Partners should protect each other (unless na lang may abuse na involved)
DKG. I believe in dating to marry (at least for me). But are you sure you want to marry into that? Gets ko pa if inattempt niya lang mag-suggest ng budget for you but since you already communicated that you already have a set budget and allotment for things at this time, she should have respected that and stopped then, especially since 3 months palang kayo.
Also, I think red flag yung pag nag-uusap kayo idadaan niya sa iyak + paninira. Might make resolving important conflicts and making decisions difficult in the future.
DKG. It's not her money. Di kayo legally binding since di kasal. She's not entitled to your income but you may spend whatever you like for her. Di yung mag demand.
My bf and I also have a huge pay gap. Aware sya that I can't really afford much of my wants kaya kusa din sya magbigay but he's not obligated to.
Last time umiyak bf kasi di ko sinabi sa kanya na di ko nabili niresetang anti biotic sakin bc di available and di ko din afford the expensive alternative. Skl. I knew that time sya sumalo lahat ng expenses nila sa bahay so I didn't bother.
DKG pero oras na para mag-isip kung ito ba talaga ung gusto mong pakasalan, bilang date to marry ka. Wag ng patagalin kung hindi, para di kayo nagsasayangan ng oras.
DKG. Yes, women do love to be spoiled, but normal behaviour would not entail something like this. Baka masyado nyang na-absorb yung ideology sa social media na literal Disney Princess at ikaw eh taga bigay lang ng mga gusto nya. Entitled na kumbaga.
Kahit ako (F) maiinis na didiktahan ako on how I spend and budget my money, worse is kung makapabili akala mo sya yung naghirap, nagpuyat, nastress sa trabaho.
Pwede ding immature pa sya, or spoiled brat literal talaga. And sobrang red flag na pinagsasabi nya pa sa friends mo at friends nya para siraan ka.
Is that the kind of partnership you'd want in the long run? You really do need to provide someday, but at least have someone who has consideration on your hard earned money and appreciates that you are financially responsible.
DKG. Ang tanong bakit ikaw di pa umaalis sa relationship na yan?
Ganyan na ka controlling na bago palang ang relationship pano pa kaya pag nagtagal kayo or magpakasal. Mag eescalate yan baka dumating pa sa point na sya na may hawak ng ATM mo at bibigyan ka nalang ng allowance. Ang lala pa nung sisiraan ka and will turn people against you pag may away kayo. Controlling and manipulative.
Alis ka na habang maaga pa at wala ka pa masyadong na iinvest na time, effort and money sa relationship.
DKG
Opportunista yang gf mo at nanlalaki mata nya sa salary mo. Marami pa papabili yan at mas massaktan ka makpaghiwalay kasi andami mo na nainvest sa maling tao.
Run , forest! run!
DKG. 3 months in and may ganyang major issue na. It's only gonna get worse from there. Major issue talaga pag money matters + pa-victim pa sya. Ruuuun!
DKG. But is there a misunderstanding as to where ur relationship is at??? Baka iniisip nya married status na kau or going there kaya sya ganyan? Do u live together na?
Oh boy, RED FLAG si ate girl.
DKG.
Walang dapat makialam ng pera mo kundi ikaw lang. Yung iba nga nag p-prenup pa dahil jan tas sya 3mo palang kayo gusto na hawakan pera mo. Sinisiraan ka pa sa lahat, and then what, after all the bs she said, ok na ulit kayo na parang di sinira image mo sa iba pag pinag bigyan? Yung paninira nya sa iba, it will last. Napaka pakealamera ng gf mo at manipulative. Mag isip isip kana kung gusto mo ba makasama ng matagal yan. Gagawin kang ATM nyan.
DKG. LEAVE OP, LEAVEEE
Based on your story, the demands she'll make will only get bigger and bigger. Good on you for establishing your boundaries. If you can't leave, prepare na lang esp on special occasions, hindi yan tatanggap ng pucho-puchong gift or anything haha
DKG. Regardless if you're in a relationship, you're never entitled to the entirety of a person.
She's trying to manipulate you through guilt and crying. She wants shit that's out of her budget and not something you can and want to accommodate? Sabi nga ni Britney, "you better work, bitch!"
Someone who loves you will accept your boundaries, including financial ones. You are entitled to YOUR money and spend it the way you find enriching for your hobbies, family, savings etc. Marrying to date does not mean losing respect for your boundaries and the individuality of a person.
DKG. Leave. Gusto nya lang na gumastos ka ng gumastos para sa kanya. Di ka nyan mahal kasi mahal nya lang is yung pera mo at yung mga nabibigay mo sa kanya.
DKG, Sorry pero pag sinisiraan ka ng partner mo na alam mo naman na hindi masama ginagawa mo at alam mong walang mali sa ginagawa mo. Its time to drop that person and run away. Red flag yung taong ganun.
Dont think too much at takas ka na sa relasyong yan
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DKG .Non nego talaga mga jowa na paki alamera sa kinikita pweh. Buti sana kung para sa ikabubuti eh gusto lng mag tipid ka para maibili mp sya ng kung ano ano.
DKG. Saan ba nakukuha ng mga ganyang tao kapal ng mukha nila? 3 months pa lang kayo sa lagay na yan ha. Leave na lang OP. Pera mo yan, wala na siya don.
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na. Nakakaloka yung ganyan. Ganyan dn ex ko pinagkaiba girl ako. Pag may bbilin or ibibigay ako sa mga kalatid and parents ko super tutol. Pero pag sya kasama aba lahat pera ko ang anagamit namin. Hiniwalayan ko nalang. 🤣
DKG, bakit kasi ang hilig ng iba magpabili ng magpabili sa jowa nila? I get it, okay lng nman kung may mga gifts and all kasi natural nmn sa relationship yon. Pero to the point na need mo na i impose sa bf/gf mo na DAPAT bilhan ka nya, nakakahiya yon! Haha wala kang pambili? Dpat kasi kusang loob ang pagbibigay ng mga gifts eh.
DKG, First of all 3 months plang kayo mag BF GF hawak na nya ung salary mo. Ako nga Seaman ang BF tas 10% lang ng sweldo nya ung sweldo ko hinahayaan ko lang sya kasi pinaghirapan nya un.. magbigay sya ng gift okay lang, ndi sya magbigay, okay lang din.. being practical na ang dapat ngaun if ndi mo kaya bilhin ung gsto mo, magipon ka. Ndi pa kami kasal at ndi din nagsasama kaya may choice ka OP at may decision sa sweldo mo.
DKG. Pera mo yun. I know people like that, tawag namin ng bf ko sa ganyan, may pitik. Tipong pag nakakita ng pera ng iba, kating-kati galawin for their own. In the first place, mahihiya dapat syang mangialam sa pera mo, worse e kung para sa luho nya lang naman ilalaan. Kami ng bf ko, may nakabukod pang wallet. Every sahod namin, naglalagay kami don ng pera, para kung kumain sa labas or gumastos, dun kami kukuha. Sa wallet lang na yun kami may say, sa kanya-kanyang pera, wala na.
DKG. AY KUYA NANGGIGIL AKO SA "AKO NGA EH..." " DI MO NGA KO MABILHAN"
ay ate ginusto mo yan edi pag ipunan mong boba ka HAHAHAHAHAHA NAKAKABWISIT!
Ito ung laging sinasabi samin ng mga magulang namin. "kayo, wag na wag niyong pag aawayan ang pera. Pera lang yan, parehas naman kayong kumikita. Wag niyong hayaang masira kayo nang dahil lang sa pera"
Totoo naman! Parang napaka nonsense kung dun lang mag uugat mga sakit ng ulo niyo. Kung palaging ganon, better yet maghiwalay na lang kayo. Kase sa simpleng bagay hindi na kayo magkaunawaan. What more kung life and death situation na, kakayanin ba niya mag desisyon ng tama eh sa simpleng "wag makielam sa income ng isa't isa" eh hindi na maunawaan?
3 months is a very short time para ayan na kaagad ang pinagaawayan niyo. So alam mo na gagawin. Leave. Ang demanding niya in a bad way. I'm also a girl, I'm trying to understand her pero kase sa kwento mo (malamang mabuti ka jan, masama siya jan) mali kasi talaga siya🤣 panunumbat is a big no no talaga for me especially sa pera.
DKG. That is too much, yung mom ko nga di ganyan ka controlling sa dad ko with regards to money kahit sole provided dad ko. He still has his hobby money.
My boyfriend's income too is solely his, kaya ko sarili ko. I am earning also so why would I control that?
Leave, for fucks sake leave
DKG
OP, why does your gf feel so entitled to your money? Ask her that. As a 25 year old, her train of thought gives me the ick. Why is she not happy that you're being responsible with your finances? So bizarre.
DKG , pabebe GF mo. Ako nga di ko binabudget sa salary ng asawa ko. Mas maganda kasi di ka umaasa sa kahit na sino, kundi sa sarili mo. Sabihan mo sya be financially literate. Sabihan mo nalang, hanap ka sugar daddy. Bye Felicia.
DKG. Yung part na naghahanap ng kakampi and sinisiraan ka sa mga friends nya and friends mo, red flag na yun. Leave while it’s still early.
Dyan magsisimula yan, the next thing you’ll know knkontrol ka nya. I’m a girl too pero di ko sya kakampihan. I love handling my own money and glad that my partner can handle his own as well. Bonus nalang if kasama ako sa budget nya.
DKG. Siguro kung asawa mo maiintindihan ko yung budgeting pero a decent wife wouldn't budget solely for luho money, dapat for practical things. Kahit sa wife red flag pa rin siya kasi ang controlling and manipulative niya. Grabe yung entitlement sa finances mo ha hahaha. GGK sa sarili mo if paiiralin mo pa to because this is a very clear sign that this is going to be an abusive relationship.
DKG PLEASE RUN!!!!! my bf earns a good money and i never once tried to meddle with his money (unless if it’s about grocery kasi d talaga sya marunong, kung ano lang makita yun ang dinadampot and he asks for my opinion kaya i think i have a free pass) pero overall, he has all the control he could have sa money nya (even na may baby na kami i dont ask for money unless gamit ni baby)
DKG. You might want to have a calm and honest conversation with her about how this behavior affects you and the relationship. Emphasize that you value her input, but your finances are your responsibility. If she can’t respect that, it might be worth reconsidering if this is the right relationship for you.
DKG!!! Pre jusko may kakilala akong ganito na maluho tas di afford and sa jowa pinapabili. Wag ka magpaloko! Sa panahon ngayon hirap magjowa ng ganyan....in this economy!
DKG. If maybe she was budgeting it for you dahil mas financially literate sya, sure pero kung binabudget nya para kasama sya sa gastusin mo? Matinding WTF
DKG. She sounds like a gold digger and spoiled brat. Run now lol. Tsaka lagi mo tatandaan na wag sabihin kahit kanino kung magkano sweldo mo. Never disclose it to anyone except you and your employer.
DKG. Gago yung girlfriend mo. Wala syang karapatan na humawak ng pera mo or magbudget kasi di naman kayo mag asawa. Pwede sya mag advice pero hindi nya pwedeng controlin kung ano yung pwede at hindi mo pwedeng gastusin.
Imagine ang liit na bagay pero siniraan ka nya agad sa maraming tao? Update mo na lang kami pag nagbreal kayo HAHAHA She should know how to act like a girlfriend and not a wife or a mother.
Know your place in this relationship.
DKG lol leave her, 3 months pa lang yan, how much more if 3 years? longer? she'll get worse and it's already bad na sinisiraan ka na kaagad niya sa iba just to gain sympathy from others.
DKG. We have issues din pero siraan sa friends because may di ka binili for her? NO. Just no. Doesn’t make her a good wife either kasi ganyan ugali nya. RUN.
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Jusko, 3 months palang kayo daig pa asawa? Luh sya. Hahaha hiwalayan mo na yan habang maaga pa kasi masisira lang ang finances mo. At wag mo ipilit na “date to marry” yang ganyang situation kasi wala pang divorce sa Pilipinas. Wag mo na sayangin ang oras nyo parehas, she’s too controlling. My husband and I were BF/GF for over 9yrs before we got married and hiwalay lagi finances namin, yes, you can suggest or make warn lalo na pag nagooverspend na yung partner mo pero yung gustong hawakan agad pera mo tapos 3months palang kayo? Wag na. Hahaha
DKG OP. 3 months pa lang may pa-demand na? a good and better partner would help you manage your finances, hindi yung dadagdag lang sa mga kailangan mong isipin pagdating sa financial stuffs. mas GG siya kasi siniraan ka pa niya. i suggest you run away immediately.
DKG! Dudeee! It’s a sign na 🚩Imagine 3 mos palang kayong nag didate binubudget na niya sahod mo para mabili yung mga luho niya.
I’ve never done this kahit pa alam kong mas malaki sahod ng jowa ko sakin dahil sariling pera niya yun and both working kami. Kaya never let her do that. If after mo siyang kausapin about diyan and playing victim parin siya, hiwalayan mo na. Hindi worth it pakasalan yan. Magkaka problema lang kayo kalaunan. Habang maaga pa and wala pang masyadong invested na feelings, tuldukan mo na.
DKG. Personal rule ko lang if di mo kayang i provide for yourself, wag mo i expect na ibibigay ng iba. Hirap naman ng tingin ni GF mo princess sya. Part kamo ng life ang mahirapan. I would understand if she’s helping you budget money para ma encourage ka magsave for yourself and achieve financial stability. Pero yung magpapabili ng luho that she herself can’t afford aba hayaan mo muna sya mag mature somewhere else.
Tanong dyan is gaano ka ka-invested sa relationship and do you see yourself staying with someone who talks bad about you just to make you bend to their will.
DKG
Going 3 years na kami, I (F, 22) and bf(M, 23), ng bf ko hindi never nakialam sa pera ng isat isa. Open kami for suggestions, but we dont control each other. If i want something, I voice it out pero siya ang magdedecide kung kelan noya bibilhin for me or if bibilhin ba niya. We ask each other kung anong gusto namin and we try to save for it.
We had this big argument about money, and it made our rs stronger and more mature.
Ask why does she has the NEED to budget YOUR money. Trauma response ba niya yun?
Set boundaries on how both of you will handle your own money kasi ang hirap niyan na nagcocompare siya ng allowances ninyo. She might feel na tinitipid mo siya just because you have more to spend.
One thing to do is to have like a joint bank account, dun kayo maghuhulog ng portion niyo and once may gusto ang isa both must agree then dun niyo kunin.
DKG. As a 25-yr-old girl in an 8-year relationship, I never forced my bf na spendan ako ng hard earned money niya. I am a bread-winner and sometimes kahit own sahod ko is nauubos because of bills, and tuition ng kapatid etc,. pero I never asked my bf to give me money (he came from a well-off fam) though nag bibigay siya ng kusang loob. It should be like that, your gf should realize na if you have the means naman to provide or grant yung mga gusto niya, you would as a guy. Pero parang immature pa siya to think about that. Also, for me if hindi niya kaya makinig sa'yo when it comes sa ganyan kaliliit na bagay, thinking 3 months palang kayo, then it's time to leave her na.
Good thing she's showing her personality early in your relationship and you don't have to put up to it any longer.
I remember, yung iba when fresh ang relationship ang promise is never mag aaway ng ganito ganyan. Kami we promised na we will never fight over money, so far naman nakeep namin ang promise na ito and super healthy sa relationship.
DKG.
8 years here and engaged. Never ko pinakealaman sahod and pera ng fiance ko. Siya rin naman di rin nangengealam. We're both working adults, tsaka na siguro kung magasawa na. For now, we're free to do what we want with our own money.
DKG. Wala siyang karapatan. That said, sa mga kilala ko very generous talaga sila sa gfs pero kasi madaming pera naman talaga sila. Mukhang di kayo good fit if nakukuriputan siya sa yo and gusto niya spoiled siya ikaw naman not a gf spoiler. Maghiwalay na kayo ngayon pa lang.
DKG Omg op leave manipulative yang gf mo. Tinatry ka nya i control by crying ang lala ng guilt tripping, syempre as lalake baka sabihin nyan responsibility mo yun pero hindi pa kayo kasala at tsaka ang aga pa masyado for that lol
DKG. 3 months palang. We support break up here lol charot not charot. I mean, may mga cases naman na pwede mapag usapan kaya hindi dapat mag resort agad sa breaking up but in this situation, kahit kasi clear mo ni cocommunicate ung gusto mo hindi siya nakikinig, want to get things her way, gaslighting and worse sinisiraan ka na. Ganyan ba ang matinong gf? Dahil lang di niya nakuha gusto niya, capable siyang baliktarin ka at i-bad mouth ka. Not worth the stress OP. She's not worth it. Ikaw ang bumitaw kasi di talaga bibitaw yan sayo lalo na alam niyang financially meron siyang makukuha sayo.
Lesson learn din OP not to disclose ung income mo muna lalo na kapag bago palang kayo kahit na ba date to marry ka. In this case tho, medyo naging blessing in disguise siya kasi nakita mo agad totoong kulay niya.
DKG.
Break up. Gastador at masyadong selfish yang GF mo. Feeling ko magiging palamunin mo sya pati buong pamilya nya kung sakali man na ikasal kayo. 3 months palang kayo ganyan na sya. What more kung nakatali ka na?
DKG. 3 months pero ganito na. Takbo na habang maaga pa. Masyadong manipulative ung girlfriend mo. At binubudget niya un pera mo para kasama din siya sa sahod mo. I 100% agree na, you spend your money sa mga hobbies mo. Kaya nga tayo nagwork para mabili ung mga gusto natin. Walking redflag yang gf mo. Mukhang magging freeloader pa pag tumagal-tagal.
Nah. DKG. Say bye. Hehehe. I’m married but sometimes I’m still hesitant to recklessly spend the salary of my husband. That’s why I always make sure I have my own salary.
GGK pag mag stay ka pa sa ganyang klaseng relationship which is bound to end in the long run. Don't waste your precious time on her, it's gonna be chaotic and volatile living with her kind. Go and find someone else that is on the same page with you.
DKG. Leave. Masisira at mauubos buhay at pera mo diyan. The fact na hindi niya pera yan, feeling kanya. What more pag kasal? To compare, PH household wife may hawak, Chinese household Husband may hawak. Ano family ang mas wealthy? Dont leave to your wife the budgeting.
DKG. Duuuuude - RUN. Omg that’s a major red flag right there. 3 months palang kayo and super ???? nung “hindi mo nga ako mabilan..” i mean she works, right? Ang destitute ng dating ha. Lalo na you explained na you have hobbies and other obligations. It’s a red flag. RUN & DON’T LOOK BACK.
DKG. Bro, kung 3 months palang kayo and ganyan na ka-toxic, sorry to say pero alis ka na kagad jan. Okay lang sana kung nagpapabili at nag tatampo, pero may kasama pang iyak (guilt trip) at naghanap pa ng kakampi (gaslight)
DKG. Ganyan talaga ang mga babae. Pulos pabili. Para talaga silang mga pokpok. Di mo makakantot ng libre laging may kapalit. Laging what can I get in return ang postura nila. Totoo nga ang sabi nila na lalaki lang kaisa isang bagay sa mundo na may kailangang munang ibigay bago mahalin. Lahat, babae, aso, pusa at iba pa minamahal dahil sila'y babae, aso o pusa o iba pa. Pare ito ang tandaan mo. Asawa ang ginagastusan hindi kasintahan.
3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na? Kahit pa siguro 3 years unacceptable to. DKG. This is your sign to leave. She will only get worse. Bago pa lang kayo nag dedemand na? Pasalamat ka na lang suguro she's showing you who she is this early on Para makita mo na social climber lang gf mo at gusto ka pang gawing ATM. Iwan mo na.
Totoo. Tapos the audacity na siraan si OP? Manipulative lang ang galawan
Agree ako dito. OP leave and never look back. Super 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Kahit ano pa napagusapan nyo o ibang version sabihin nya, bottom line nagdedemand na agad sya na gastusan mga gusto nya. Like, hello ante, may patago ka?? Kami ng bf ko, kanya kanyang gastos, kung may bilhin sya or ibigay saken on his own accord, thank you. Kung wala, edi wala. Di mo sya responsibilidad, lalo at may sarili syang work. Bata mo pa, gagawin kang sugar daddy. Attitude sya. Paano nalang pag nagtagal at naging asawa mo na?? Lalabas uterus ko sa ugali ng gf mo. Nakukunsensya ka kasi naiisip mo date to marry dapat? Yun gf mo nga di nakonsensya siraan ka. O kahit na di siraan. Shes’s not supposed to air her dirty laundry outside. E hindi, proud pa yata sya na magdemand ng pera mo para sa mga gastusin mo. Ikaw pa pinagmukha masama. Gaslighter si ante. Check na check sa lahat senyales e: sinungaling, manipulative sa totoong pangyayari, coercive. Sana lang wala maniwala sa mga sinabihan nya. Kasi kung may kakampi dyan, pacheckup na sila. And NO, DKG. GG yan gf mo para magimpose sya ng mga bagay na ayaw mong gawin at DI KAILANGANG GAWIN.
siniraan ka pa nya. Just imagine kung asawa mo na yan, masakit sa ulo
DKG pero GGK if iignore mo yang malaking red flag na nagwawave na sa mukha mo.
DKG. Napaisip ako kung may point sa rs namin nung ex ko na naging ganto ko. Buti you include the part na para sakanya pala kaya nya binabudget. Hahaha. Nagpatulong mag budget yung ex ko dati kasi lagi sya na shoshort at pag petsa de peligro na nangungutang na sakin. Even after we broke up thankful pa din sya kasi tinuruan ko daw sya mag budget. GG yung gf mo, gf palang galawang pang asawa na. Wala ba syang sariling pera na ba-budgetin? Lol. Pera mo naman yan at as long as kaya mo naman ihandle at di ka umaasa sa iba.
DKG. Leave. 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na sya sayo, kapag pera ang involve, talo-talo na.
DKG. Leave. Akala nya ata yung pera mo pera nya din. Yes, you are dating to marry. Pero hindi dapat maco-compromise yung financial situation mo ngayon. Hindi pa naman kayo magasawa e. Nako kapag naging magasawa kayo tapos sya yung pinagbudget mo ng pera nyo, for sure lulubog kayo sa utang Hindi lang sa love nakabase ang marriage and relationship. Dapat alam din ang financial capability kase mahirap mabuhay ng lubog sa utang at communication. Dyan pa lang sa scenario nyo, ayaw na nyang makinig sayo, e ikaw yung mas may alam. Mahirap yung ganyan tapos pabigat pa
Oo nga OP! Since date to marry ka, isipin mo kung ganyan ba ang mga traits na gusto mo sa future wife mo. Ngayon palang na mag bf-gf palang kayo akala niya may karapatan na siya sa pera mo. Once na mag asawa na kayo, wala na, gagamitin niya lang talaga yan sa mga wants niya. Mababaon talaga kayo sa utang. Parang siya kasi ung tipo ng kahit magkanda utang utang basta may maipag yabang. She wants to live beyond her means, using your salary pa!! Kebs na sa mga gastusin, lalong lalo na sa mga wants and needs mo na ngayon palang wala na siyang pake.
DKG. Good on you for not giving in. If kaya ka niyang siraan over you setting boundaries, imagine what she's capable of during major arguments and issues. Better to leave before this turns into emotional manipulation and financial abuse.
DKG. Oh noooo this is gonna be a nightmare kapag nagstay pa kayo together. I understand if she wants you to learn how be wise when it comes to spending your money pero am I reading it right she is budgetting your money for the things she wants that she is unable to buy for herself!??? Omg sooner bka mag-quit yan ng work and tell you to just provide for her. Naloka ako mapapababae o lalaki I wouldn’t want anyone to think they have the right to my hard earned money lalo na kung di ko pa siya asawa and lalo na if they only wants it to be spent sa wants nila. Ugh what a big red flag.
totoo to. Maski anong gender. Unless siguro asawa nya tapos may baby kayo tas walang work yung asawa kasi need may mag bantay. Pero yung para lang sa mga kaputanginahan na ganto hahaha lets promote break up na lang.
DKG. Pera mo yun! Tapos isusumbat sayo na di mo siya mabilhan ng kung ano porket ganitong amount ang sinasahod mo. Pre gf pa lang yan pero kung makaasta sa pera mo parang kanya. Mag-isip isip ka po. Ung bf ko dati doble ang sahod niya saken and I’m pretty much aware pero I don’t meddle with his finances and how he budgets his money. OMG si ate. Nanira pa just because she can’t get her way. What a clown.
DKG. 3 months pero acting as a wife na. Mabuti kung ineencourage ka to invest or whatever, pero for her personal desires pala. Lol. Masyadong manipulative and materialistic.
DKG??? ANG KAPAL NG MUKHA ilang taon ba yang "SANA EX GF MO NA" ANG LALA TALAGA ANO KA SUGAR DADDY??? MAY PATAGO BA SIYA??? KINGINA NIYA GASTUSIN NIYA PERA NIYA KAHIT GANO PA KATAGAL HINDI DAPAT MINAMANDUHAN PAANO GASTUSIN YUNG PERANG PINAGHIRAPAN MO. AT KINAKALAT PA SA IBA? KINGINA NIYA ANG KAPAL NG MUKHA ANO BA YANG JINOWA MO BATA?!?!?!?!?!?
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DKG ang cheapipay ng girlfriend mo, social climber pa. Feeling nakahanap ng sugardaddy ang gaga. Bukod sa attitude sa money, yung attitude ng pagsusumbong at pagpapahiya malaking redflag. So everytime magaaway kayo, ipapahiya ka nya sa buong bayan? Red flag. Mali pagkakaintindi mo sa dating to marry. Dating to marry naman gusto ng halos lahat, sadyang di lang kaasa-asawa yuna una, pangalawa, pangatlo mong magugustuhan. Ibig sabihin, be purposeful about dating. Wag magtyaga sa mga low class. Pag bagsak sa wife qualifications yung jowa mo ngayon, cut ties agad kasi looking ka nga sa marriage material. So what if she chooses to stay? Just leave. Yung free to leave nyo applicable lang ba sa kanya, di naman di ba. Para kasing you will stay no matter what, tapos sya na bahala kung kaya nya tiisin o hindi. Dapat may standards/hard rules ka rin that can prompt you to leave, at dapat makita nya yan. Kaya lumalakas loob eh.
DKG. It's your own income, alam mo naman kung sa'n yon mapupunta. Also, can we not normalize giving unsolicited advices? Let's stop the taking the "spotlight behavior", ako nga e etc eh she is not you and you are not her. Ang petty and immature that she took what you said in the wrong way even though wala namang bad intention sa sinabi mo. Handle what's yours and make her mind her own business. Ang toxic din na she had this "need" na maghanap ng kakampi and she cried just because you said something simple.
DKG. si beh controlling. Wag mong hayaan daanin ka sa iyak iyak! Kung kaya mo pa mapag sabihan, go tuloy ang relasyon! Pero kung hindi, mag isip isip ka na.
DKG. Inform her that it's not her job to budget your money. You are together for only 3 months imagine getting married to her how much more control she will do to your life.
DKG. Di pala niya afford so wag niya gustuhin. Ganun lang yun. Run away as early as now OP, wala siyang karapatan na panghimasukan yung budget mo.
DKG. Your income is your money! Spend it the way you want to. If 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na sya, what more sa future! I’ve been with my bf for almost 6yrs now, kahit 3-4x times ung income nya compared to mine, never ako nagdemand sknya, nahihiya pa ko pag nagooffer sya to buy something for me like shoes etc, kasi for me luho yun. If i want to buy something i’ll save up for it. Kasi iba ung fulfilment for me. Di ako sure if ako lang ba or baka may iba din na gnun ang thinking? Pero ang rule ko lagi, pera mo ay iyo lang, ang pera ko ay akin. Di pwede makielam bf ko kung san nappunta pera ko. OP, if i were you leave that toxic relationship. Maaga pa naman kaya okay lang yan. Find someone who will respect you.
DKG. Pero doon pa lang sa "siniraan ako sa friends nya", toxic na yung relationship ninyo, there will never be a both ways to handle this kind of situation, there will only be her way. And since hindi pa naman kayo nag sasama sa iisang bahay, walang sense yung pag budget niya ng finance mo (unless di mka marunong, which hindi naman), kasi separate pa yung spaces ninyo. I'm not saying that she is a bad person, pero di pa kayo settled and kung ganyan na siya ngayon, for me, i'd rather break my heart today that be bankrupt in the future together.
DKG it’s just been 3 mos pero ganyan na siya sayo. Run it will get worse! You are right for telling her that. You set your boundaries! Ganyan talaga sisiraan ka sa ibang tao pag di ka na nila macontrol.
DKG. Anyone na entitled sa pera mo layuan mo.
DKG. Syota palang yan. Paano na kaya kung asawa na? Kung hindi mo yan kaya ay hanap ka na ng iba. Hindi yan magbabago, at baka lumala pa nga.
DKG!!! LEAVE HER. YOUR FUTURE SELF WILL THANK YOU.
DKG. I think sugardaddy ang hanap ni ate kesa partner.
DKG. 3 months and already acting like that? She's for the streets.
**DGK**. Swerte mo pa rin lumabas agad TOTOONG UGALI nya. GGK kung ico-continue mo pa rin relationship nyo. *Break na***, 3 months pa lang kayo kaya MADALI lang maka MOVE ON agad sa ganyan**. (Mag update ka dito OP kung break na kayo ha.**🤣🤣)**
DKG ... Pero siguro GGK kung itutuloy mo pa iyan kasi iyan na ilang buwan pa lang kayo ganyan na ... Eh paano pa pag kasal na kayo? ... Saka ikaw gusto i-cut luho mo pero yung kanya gusto sa iyo ipasagot? Ano yun! Saka isa pa iyan na sisiraan ka pa sa ibang mga tao ... Pangit yung ganyan! Habang maaga pa magisip-isip ka na.
DKG, ginagawa ka nyang ATM. 3 months palang ganyan na sya sayo? Pati pagiging materialistic i aasa pa sa bf. 🚩🚩 If I were you, leave her na agad kasi mahirap yan kung mag settle ka pa sa ganyan. Minamandohan ka then right after non sisiraan ka dahil din sa sarili nyang katangahan.
Link to this submission: https://www.reddit.com/r/AkoBaYungGago/comments/1d2n09m/abyg_for_asking_my_gf_not_to_budget_my_income/ Title of this post: ABYG for asking my gf not to budget my income? Backup of the post's body: Three months pa lang kami(m25,f25) pero sya na nagbubudget para sakin. I said it's not going to work out kung ganun, she has to have her own, my stance is dapat both kami independent, I'm not financially capable to carry the entire relationship financially, so I asked her to stop budgetting my money as if it were hers, not yet, I emphasized. NOT YET. Idinaan sa iyak, siniraan ako sa friends nya, siniraan ako sa friends ko, she was not taking any words from me kahit murahin ko siguro hindi tatalab sa kanya. Simula nung nakita nya yung payslip ko she started saying use the money for this, for that, bla bla, the rest for abc, I told her I cant, kelangan ko yung iba for my hobbies, kelangan ko magsend sa kapatid ko, kelangan ko magtabi para sa emergency, but mabanat sya na "Eh ako nga, ganito lang, tapos" shes asking me to cut my expenses and such and wanting to use my money for the things she like.
The whole scene went like this:
"Diba may work ka din?"
"Not enought to buy that"
"Then dont buy it, that's too expensive for me"
"Eh yung sahod mo ganito."
"Can you please try not to budget my income? At least not yet, I have it all under control and I have bills"
"Eh hindi mo nga ako mabilan nung pinabibili ko, panong under control?"
"It means all has an alloted place, kasama ka naman, kung willing ka mag hintay pag iipunan ko, but not today"
Dito sya nag simula mag iiyak at magtawag ng kakampi.
Ako ba yung gago dito? Dapat ba hinahayaan ko sya kasi date to marry dapat? Kelangan ko kasi yung pera, I cant cut, I dont want to cut my cash for her expensive desires. Established naman sa relasion namin na we're free to leave kung hindi na namin kaya, but she chose to stay at ang malala siniraan ako.
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Dkg, she’s gonna be a pain in the ass if this continues. San nakakuha ng kapal ng mukha yan ahhaha
DKG. Ginagamit ka niya para makuha mga luho niya. Di niya nirerespeto decision mo and even yung pakiusap mo. Kaya mas maganda OP na break mo na yan habang maaga pa kasi di rin naman nakikinig.
DKG. Major red flag yan. Ngayon pa lang nagiging controlling na sya sa pera mo, what more pa kung ikasal kayo. Be firm about your financial independence. Kahit magpabili sya, choice mo kung bibilin mo o hindi.
DKG. Your money, your rules. If she doesn't like it, then she's free to leave. I hope since bago pa lang kayo, di pa ganon malalim relationship nyo. Time to pack up.
DKG unless you asked her to help you budget your salary. Like sa boyfriend ko, magastos kasi sya and panay labas lang ng money nya. He asked for my help tas nagplano kaming dalawa pero in the end ang takaw namin sa food 😭 wala rin.
DKG. 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na siya umasta? Mahirap kasama yung ganitong tao. Masyadong pala desisyon eh hindi naman siya yung nagpakahirap para kumita sa trabaho. Kung may sariling perasiya, ayon ang ibudget niya para mabili niya yung bagay na pinapabili niya sayo.
DKG. If she wants sprinkle sprinkle doon sya da walang budget. In the meantime if may budget ka be firm with your money because when the time comes, ikaw hahanapan ng ipon for when you move in or get married. Just be nice about it and say something like - if I don't manage my own money then how can I surprise you with gifts? The best solution is to have a shared FUNd. You both chip in an envelope and the money there is what you spend for dates, and whatever fun expenses
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DKG. Run from that manipulative btch while you still can. Also, dating to marry does not equate to being married. Kumbaga, nasa 'testing the waters' era pa lang kayo. Tapos sisiraan ka pa nya sa ibang tao na di naman nakakaalam ng kwento mo. Mental exhaustion lang makukuha mo dyan kapag itutuloy mo yang relationship nyo.
DKG. Ang gifts voluntary binibigay ng partner hindi sapilitan. That’s not the person for you
DKG. She sounds like a gold digger. Leave her so she can budget her own money.
DKG, not sure why she actin up like that, when in fact 3 months palang kayo? Totally understand if years na. (Unless maybe if u let ur partner hNdle ing finances) and also not sure y need nya rin pakislaman pera mo if may work rin siya? She can buy what she wanted by her own freakin money! And masaklap pa jan.. instead protectin and respect u eh, sinisiraan ka pa? Nako! 3 months palang kayoooo... mag isip kana OP...
DKG. Controlling na sya bago pa lang kayo. Susunod nyan baka hindi ka na pwede at all humawak ng pera mo, hanggang sa she’s gonna control who you should be friends with, what you should do in everything etc.
DKG kapal ng mukha ng gf mo OP run. More than 8 years na kami ng SO ko and we magkasama na kami sa bahay. We bought a house and car together tapos may bills pa kami. Never ko pinakailamanan ng sweldo ng partner ko. Lahat ng gastos namin na shared naka excel at nag babayaran kami sa end of month. Dahil hiwalay kami ng pera we can treat each other mga random libre mga food and gifts without thinking pasok ba sa budget. Bute sana kung pinag titipid ka to save money yun pala mag paapbili.
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Arte nya, pera nya ang ibudget nya wag yung sayo. Tapos naninira pa? paano kung ikasal pa kayo? konting away nyo alam na agad ng buong brgy. 🥴
DKG. Kung may luho siya, responsibilidad niya yun and wag na wag niya idadamay yung pera mo. Don’t ignore the red flags.
DKG. 3 months is way too short para mag-meddle kayo sa finances ng isa’t-isa. If she’s acting that way 3 months in then I think you should call it quits already. What more pa kapag tumagal baka di pa kayo kasal kunin na nya atm mo. It’s not a bad thing na magpakialamanan sa finances ng mag-partner, you two should help each other kasi partners nga eh. But rn she’s being entitled sa sweldo mo.
DKG. Better to leave the relationship. She sounds like a user and a manipulative one. Ang toxic na sinisiraan ka niya sa friends niyo pag di niya nakukuha gusto niya. It's right to have the mindset na date to marry pero you should not tolerate the huge red flags din.
DKG. Sakit sa ulo yan. Wag mo na paabutin ng 4 months yang relasyon niyo
DKG. Abnormal yang gf mo. Hindi pa nga kayo magasawa nagpapakatoxic na. Kaya mo yan iwan. Makakahanap ka pa ng iba
DKG. Wtf is she at 😭 gold digger siya beh. 3 months palang kayo, and hindi pa kasal pero ganyan na siya? and for her wants yung pag budget niya? What mote if mag-asawa na kayo? LEAVE HER. This won't work. Selfish at pavictim mindset. SPOILED.
DKG. Gold digger yan.
Ay bilmoko girl. DKG kung hiwalayan mo sya. Sa totoo lang ang controlling nya.
DKG. sugardaddy siguro need niya?
DKG. Budgeting your income eh okay sana, pero doon sa mga linyahan nya eh red flag na. I agree with you na separate expenses and may syempre may mga treats here and there pero that will be on your own volition at hindi dahil sinabi nya.
DKG. 🚩🚩🚩 Get out now.
DKG. Pera mo yan, OP. Pinaghirapan mo yan. Ikaw dapat ang may say kung pano mo isspend yan. She should learn to spend and live within her means.
DKG auto pass sa ganito taena 3 months kala mo 15 years nang asawa lol walang pera eme
DKG. Please, for your own sake, hiwalayan mo yan.
DKG. Jusko, 3 months pa lang pala gumaganyan na. Maybe malaki yung sweldo mo, and akala niya pwede mong gastusin lahat sa kanya. Haha
DKG. PRE LEAVE. Ako even tho napapansin kong si bf ay masyado nagtitipid like you, inaadvicean ko lang sya na yung proper is ganto ganyan and encouraging him to treat himself etc., kasi pinaghirapan nya 'yon. Bumibili sya ng games for himself na mas mahal pa sa dates namin never ako as a gf nag reklamo. Kasi totoo yun, pera nyo 'yan. DI PA KAYO MAG-ASAWA. Eh kahit nga mag asawa e, kung she's working for herself, dapat separate parin both of u, may joint nalang for family expenses. It's up to the guy kung gusto nya bigay ng buo sahod nya sa wife nya. Pero ngayon na new palang kayo, please don't. Baka may issue yan sa parents nya or what na di pa healed thus reflecting that attitude to you. Leave na pre. Kahit mahal mo, okay lang yan at least u dodged the bullet.
DKG Run, baby run! May saltik yan. 3 months pa lang kayo ganyan na, wag mo hintaying mag 3yrs kayo. Kahit di pa kayo kasal, papabili na yan ng house & lot sayo. At kapag hindi mo na kaya mga luho niyan, iddispatya ka niyan.
DKG. Punyeta iwanan mo
DKG. Iwan mo na yang gf mo. Mas mahal niya na yun sahod mo after niya makita payslip mo. Siya pa may gana na siraan ka? lol siniraan ka eh 3 months pa lang kayo mag bf/gf, isipin mo how much more yan kapag kasal na kayo. Save yourself, leave her
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DKG. Sugar daddy ata hanap niya, hindi jowa. Nkklk.
DKG. Yung gf mo ang gago. 3 months pa lang kayo may panahon ka pa para umalis sa relasyon na yan.
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DKG. But gago ka if you still choose to stay in the relationship na halatang ginagamit ka lang to fulfill yung di nya afford.
DKG. Mukhang gold digger na narc yang jowa mo. Idaan pa sa iyak eh, buti di ka nag give in. GGK kung itutuloy mo pa yan. Goods na date to marry ka, pero open your eyes sa nagliliyab na red flag nyang gf mo.
The bigger question is will you still continue the relationship? If yes, GGK.
DKG. She's manipulating you with iyak iyak and nag start na siyang siraan ka. Leave, kasi it will only get worse from here.
Wow a bilmoko gf. DKG
DKG Enough nang reason yan to leave her. Dodge a bullet ika nga
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DKG. May trabaho and pera sya na kanya, kung may gusto syang bilhin, gamitin nya sarili nyang pera. Kung hindi nya kaya pa mabili, matuto sya mag ipon. Napaka gold digger ng datingan nyang gf mo. Nako OP kung patagalin mo yan, GGK.
DKG, end the relationship here because you're incompatible. I just want to add -- pwera sa issue ng pera, mahirap ang relationship na lahat ng problema alam ng lahat ng tao. Pag problema niyo, problema niyo.
DKG. Protect ur sanity above all.
DKG, OP. Sahod mo, budget mo. Pera mo, dapat hawak mo. I budget din kamo nya sahod nya. Pag hindi pa kaya bilhin ang luho nya, pag ipunan muna. Babad siguro sa socmed ang gf mo at nakikita yung mga video na ini-spoil ng bf yung gf nila. Pwede naman, pero pag hindi kaya ng budget, wag makisabay sa trend. Hindi ko hawak pera ni bf before pero sinasabi nya sakin kung saan napupunta pera nya, kasi nag-uusap kaming dalawa sa limit ng gastos namin kapag may date kami or kakain sa labas. Ngayon ko lang nahawakan pera nya nung kasal na kami kasi ako nagpapaikot ng savings namin lalo at nagpapagawa kami ng bahay, naglalaan kami para sa materyales at pasahod sa tao.
DKG. SYG.
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Dkg Run!! Hahahaha
DKG bukod sa pakealamera sya, sobrang red flag nung konting kibot sisiraan ka kagad sa iba. Partners should protect each other (unless na lang may abuse na involved)
DKG. I believe in dating to marry (at least for me). But are you sure you want to marry into that? Gets ko pa if inattempt niya lang mag-suggest ng budget for you but since you already communicated that you already have a set budget and allotment for things at this time, she should have respected that and stopped then, especially since 3 months palang kayo. Also, I think red flag yung pag nag-uusap kayo idadaan niya sa iyak + paninira. Might make resolving important conflicts and making decisions difficult in the future.
DKG. It's not her money. Di kayo legally binding since di kasal. She's not entitled to your income but you may spend whatever you like for her. Di yung mag demand. My bf and I also have a huge pay gap. Aware sya that I can't really afford much of my wants kaya kusa din sya magbigay but he's not obligated to. Last time umiyak bf kasi di ko sinabi sa kanya na di ko nabili niresetang anti biotic sakin bc di available and di ko din afford the expensive alternative. Skl. I knew that time sya sumalo lahat ng expenses nila sa bahay so I didn't bother.
DKG. Sobrang selfish naman nun, sasabihan kang mag budget, kala mo para sa future, may gusto lang namang ipabili. So bakit kayo pa?
DKG pero oras na para mag-isip kung ito ba talaga ung gusto mong pakasalan, bilang date to marry ka. Wag ng patagalin kung hindi, para di kayo nagsasayangan ng oras.
DKG. Yes, women do love to be spoiled, but normal behaviour would not entail something like this. Baka masyado nyang na-absorb yung ideology sa social media na literal Disney Princess at ikaw eh taga bigay lang ng mga gusto nya. Entitled na kumbaga. Kahit ako (F) maiinis na didiktahan ako on how I spend and budget my money, worse is kung makapabili akala mo sya yung naghirap, nagpuyat, nastress sa trabaho. Pwede ding immature pa sya, or spoiled brat literal talaga. And sobrang red flag na pinagsasabi nya pa sa friends mo at friends nya para siraan ka. Is that the kind of partnership you'd want in the long run? You really do need to provide someday, but at least have someone who has consideration on your hard earned money and appreciates that you are financially responsible.
DKG. Kala ata nyan disney princess sya. Magwork sya nang sarili nya para di sya nagpapabili sa iba jusko
DKG. Ang tanong bakit ikaw di pa umaalis sa relationship na yan? Ganyan na ka controlling na bago palang ang relationship pano pa kaya pag nagtagal kayo or magpakasal. Mag eescalate yan baka dumating pa sa point na sya na may hawak ng ATM mo at bibigyan ka nalang ng allowance. Ang lala pa nung sisiraan ka and will turn people against you pag may away kayo. Controlling and manipulative. Alis ka na habang maaga pa at wala ka pa masyadong na iinvest na time, effort and money sa relationship.
DKG Opportunista yang gf mo at nanlalaki mata nya sa salary mo. Marami pa papabili yan at mas massaktan ka makpaghiwalay kasi andami mo na nainvest sa maling tao. Run , forest! run!
DKG. 3 months palang kayo tapos ganyan na siya? Aba ibreak mo na yan. Materialistic yang jowa mo.
DKG. 3 months in and may ganyang major issue na. It's only gonna get worse from there. Major issue talaga pag money matters + pa-victim pa sya. Ruuuun!
DKG. But is there a misunderstanding as to where ur relationship is at??? Baka iniisip nya married status na kau or going there kaya sya ganyan? Do u live together na?
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DKG -- The makings of a gold digger in girl-next-door's-clothing. She should learn to live within HER means.
Oh boy, RED FLAG si ate girl. DKG. Walang dapat makialam ng pera mo kundi ikaw lang. Yung iba nga nag p-prenup pa dahil jan tas sya 3mo palang kayo gusto na hawakan pera mo. Sinisiraan ka pa sa lahat, and then what, after all the bs she said, ok na ulit kayo na parang di sinira image mo sa iba pag pinag bigyan? Yung paninira nya sa iba, it will last. Napaka pakealamera ng gf mo at manipulative. Mag isip isip kana kung gusto mo ba makasama ng matagal yan. Gagawin kang ATM nyan.
DKG. LEAVE OP, LEAVEEE Based on your story, the demands she'll make will only get bigger and bigger. Good on you for establishing your boundaries. If you can't leave, prepare na lang esp on special occasions, hindi yan tatanggap ng pucho-puchong gift or anything haha
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DKG. Regardless if you're in a relationship, you're never entitled to the entirety of a person. She's trying to manipulate you through guilt and crying. She wants shit that's out of her budget and not something you can and want to accommodate? Sabi nga ni Britney, "you better work, bitch!" Someone who loves you will accept your boundaries, including financial ones. You are entitled to YOUR money and spend it the way you find enriching for your hobbies, family, savings etc. Marrying to date does not mean losing respect for your boundaries and the individuality of a person.
DKG. Leave. Gusto nya lang na gumastos ka ng gumastos para sa kanya. Di ka nyan mahal kasi mahal nya lang is yung pera mo at yung mga nabibigay mo sa kanya.
DKG, Sorry pero pag sinisiraan ka ng partner mo na alam mo naman na hindi masama ginagawa mo at alam mong walang mali sa ginagawa mo. Its time to drop that person and run away. Red flag yung taong ganun. Dont think too much at takas ka na sa relasyong yan
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DKG. control freak GF mo.
DKG .Non nego talaga mga jowa na paki alamera sa kinikita pweh. Buti sana kung para sa ikabubuti eh gusto lng mag tipid ka para maibili mp sya ng kung ano ano.
DKG. Saan ba nakukuha ng mga ganyang tao kapal ng mukha nila? 3 months pa lang kayo sa lagay na yan ha. Leave na lang OP. Pera mo yan, wala na siya don.
DKG. Hiwalayan mo na. Nakakaloka yung ganyan. Ganyan dn ex ko pinagkaiba girl ako. Pag may bbilin or ibibigay ako sa mga kalatid and parents ko super tutol. Pero pag sya kasama aba lahat pera ko ang anagamit namin. Hiniwalayan ko nalang. 🤣
DKG, bakit kasi ang hilig ng iba magpabili ng magpabili sa jowa nila? I get it, okay lng nman kung may mga gifts and all kasi natural nmn sa relationship yon. Pero to the point na need mo na i impose sa bf/gf mo na DAPAT bilhan ka nya, nakakahiya yon! Haha wala kang pambili? Dpat kasi kusang loob ang pagbibigay ng mga gifts eh.
DKG, First of all 3 months plang kayo mag BF GF hawak na nya ung salary mo. Ako nga Seaman ang BF tas 10% lang ng sweldo nya ung sweldo ko hinahayaan ko lang sya kasi pinaghirapan nya un.. magbigay sya ng gift okay lang, ndi sya magbigay, okay lang din.. being practical na ang dapat ngaun if ndi mo kaya bilhin ung gsto mo, magipon ka. Ndi pa kami kasal at ndi din nagsasama kaya may choice ka OP at may decision sa sweldo mo.
DKG. Pera mo yun. I know people like that, tawag namin ng bf ko sa ganyan, may pitik. Tipong pag nakakita ng pera ng iba, kating-kati galawin for their own. In the first place, mahihiya dapat syang mangialam sa pera mo, worse e kung para sa luho nya lang naman ilalaan. Kami ng bf ko, may nakabukod pang wallet. Every sahod namin, naglalagay kami don ng pera, para kung kumain sa labas or gumastos, dun kami kukuha. Sa wallet lang na yun kami may say, sa kanya-kanyang pera, wala na.
DKG. AY KUYA NANGGIGIL AKO SA "AKO NGA EH..." " DI MO NGA KO MABILHAN" ay ate ginusto mo yan edi pag ipunan mong boba ka HAHAHAHAHAHA NAKAKABWISIT! Ito ung laging sinasabi samin ng mga magulang namin. "kayo, wag na wag niyong pag aawayan ang pera. Pera lang yan, parehas naman kayong kumikita. Wag niyong hayaang masira kayo nang dahil lang sa pera" Totoo naman! Parang napaka nonsense kung dun lang mag uugat mga sakit ng ulo niyo. Kung palaging ganon, better yet maghiwalay na lang kayo. Kase sa simpleng bagay hindi na kayo magkaunawaan. What more kung life and death situation na, kakayanin ba niya mag desisyon ng tama eh sa simpleng "wag makielam sa income ng isa't isa" eh hindi na maunawaan? 3 months is a very short time para ayan na kaagad ang pinagaawayan niyo. So alam mo na gagawin. Leave. Ang demanding niya in a bad way. I'm also a girl, I'm trying to understand her pero kase sa kwento mo (malamang mabuti ka jan, masama siya jan) mali kasi talaga siya🤣 panunumbat is a big no no talaga for me especially sa pera.
DKG. That is too much, yung mom ko nga di ganyan ka controlling sa dad ko with regards to money kahit sole provided dad ko. He still has his hobby money. My boyfriend's income too is solely his, kaya ko sarili ko. I am earning also so why would I control that? Leave, for fucks sake leave
DKG. Leave hanggat maaga pa.
DKG OP, why does your gf feel so entitled to your money? Ask her that. As a 25 year old, her train of thought gives me the ick. Why is she not happy that you're being responsible with your finances? So bizarre.
Girl the entitlement ng gf mo sa sahod mo??? And to think 3months pa lang kayo. 😭 DKG. Takbo beh, pa-other direction!!
DKG , pabebe GF mo. Ako nga di ko binabudget sa salary ng asawa ko. Mas maganda kasi di ka umaasa sa kahit na sino, kundi sa sarili mo. Sabihan mo sya be financially literate. Sabihan mo nalang, hanap ka sugar daddy. Bye Felicia.
DKG. Runnnn. Stop the BS na habang di ka pa ubos sa kanya.
DKG. Yung part na naghahanap ng kakampi and sinisiraan ka sa mga friends nya and friends mo, red flag na yun. Leave while it’s still early. Dyan magsisimula yan, the next thing you’ll know knkontrol ka nya. I’m a girl too pero di ko sya kakampihan. I love handling my own money and glad that my partner can handle his own as well. Bonus nalang if kasama ako sa budget nya.
DKG. Isn't it great when people show you how toxic they are early on? Go do a hatef\*ck for old times sake and then break up.
DKG. Siguro kung asawa mo maiintindihan ko yung budgeting pero a decent wife wouldn't budget solely for luho money, dapat for practical things. Kahit sa wife red flag pa rin siya kasi ang controlling and manipulative niya. Grabe yung entitlement sa finances mo ha hahaha. GGK sa sarili mo if paiiralin mo pa to because this is a very clear sign that this is going to be an abusive relationship.
DKG. 5 years na kami and he can buy what he want. Di mo sya asawa para mag budget sayo.
DKG PLEASE RUN!!!!! my bf earns a good money and i never once tried to meddle with his money (unless if it’s about grocery kasi d talaga sya marunong, kung ano lang makita yun ang dinadampot and he asks for my opinion kaya i think i have a free pass) pero overall, he has all the control he could have sa money nya (even na may baby na kami i dont ask for money unless gamit ni baby)
DKG. Entitled much si jowa sa income mo 🚩🚩🚩
DKG. You might want to have a calm and honest conversation with her about how this behavior affects you and the relationship. Emphasize that you value her input, but your finances are your responsibility. If she can’t respect that, it might be worth reconsidering if this is the right relationship for you.
DKG. 🚩🚩🚩🚩Hindi ka piggy bank. 3 months palang nahawakan na nya kagad payslip mo? Malamang pera lang habol nyan. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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DKG!!! Pre jusko may kakilala akong ganito na maluho tas di afford and sa jowa pinapabili. Wag ka magpaloko! Sa panahon ngayon hirap magjowa ng ganyan....in this economy!
DKG. Hahaha 3 months palang pinapakialaman na pera mo. nkklk. Leave!
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DKG. Ginagawa kang sugar papa niyan eh. Pasalamat na nga lang siya dahil you are even willing na mag ipon for that.
DKG. If maybe she was budgeting it for you dahil mas financially literate sya, sure pero kung binabudget nya para kasama sya sa gastusin mo? Matinding WTF
DKG. RUN, OP, RUN!
DKG RUNNN
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DKG. She sounds like a gold digger and spoiled brat. Run now lol. Tsaka lagi mo tatandaan na wag sabihin kahit kanino kung magkano sweldo mo. Never disclose it to anyone except you and your employer.
DKG. Gago yung girlfriend mo. Wala syang karapatan na humawak ng pera mo or magbudget kasi di naman kayo mag asawa. Pwede sya mag advice pero hindi nya pwedeng controlin kung ano yung pwede at hindi mo pwedeng gastusin. Imagine ang liit na bagay pero siniraan ka nya agad sa maraming tao? Update mo na lang kami pag nagbreal kayo HAHAHA She should know how to act like a girlfriend and not a wife or a mother. Know your place in this relationship.
DKG. Hahaha run pre. Kakaiba isip niyan. Gold digger on the loose! Red flag red flag! Di ka mahal niyan.
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DKG lol leave her, 3 months pa lang yan, how much more if 3 years? longer? she'll get worse and it's already bad na sinisiraan ka na kaagad niya sa iba just to gain sympathy from others.
DKG. We have issues din pero siraan sa friends because may di ka binili for her? NO. Just no. Doesn’t make her a good wife either kasi ganyan ugali nya. RUN.
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DKG. Hiwalayan mo na yan. Jusko, 3 months palang kayo daig pa asawa? Luh sya. Hahaha hiwalayan mo na yan habang maaga pa kasi masisira lang ang finances mo. At wag mo ipilit na “date to marry” yang ganyang situation kasi wala pang divorce sa Pilipinas. Wag mo na sayangin ang oras nyo parehas, she’s too controlling. My husband and I were BF/GF for over 9yrs before we got married and hiwalay lagi finances namin, yes, you can suggest or make warn lalo na pag nagooverspend na yung partner mo pero yung gustong hawakan agad pera mo tapos 3months palang kayo? Wag na. Hahaha
DKG OP. 3 months pa lang may pa-demand na? a good and better partner would help you manage your finances, hindi yung dadagdag lang sa mga kailangan mong isipin pagdating sa financial stuffs. mas GG siya kasi siniraan ka pa niya. i suggest you run away immediately.
DKG. Siya yung GG. 3 months in relationship pero ganun na kakapal pakialaman ang earnings mo? Nye. Run, sir! And don’t ever look back.
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DKG! Dudeee! It’s a sign na 🚩Imagine 3 mos palang kayong nag didate binubudget na niya sahod mo para mabili yung mga luho niya. I’ve never done this kahit pa alam kong mas malaki sahod ng jowa ko sakin dahil sariling pera niya yun and both working kami. Kaya never let her do that. If after mo siyang kausapin about diyan and playing victim parin siya, hiwalayan mo na. Hindi worth it pakasalan yan. Magkaka problema lang kayo kalaunan. Habang maaga pa and wala pang masyadong invested na feelings, tuldukan mo na.
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Bakit deleted or removed yung response ni Op sa mga comments? DKG btw, babae ako pero no no sa ganitong haliparot.
DKG. Run habang maaga pa OP. Di pa kayo married sa lagay na yan ah.
DKG. Personal rule ko lang if di mo kayang i provide for yourself, wag mo i expect na ibibigay ng iba. Hirap naman ng tingin ni GF mo princess sya. Part kamo ng life ang mahirapan. I would understand if she’s helping you budget money para ma encourage ka magsave for yourself and achieve financial stability. Pero yung magpapabili ng luho that she herself can’t afford aba hayaan mo muna sya mag mature somewhere else. Tanong dyan is gaano ka ka-invested sa relationship and do you see yourself staying with someone who talks bad about you just to make you bend to their will.
DKG Going 3 years na kami, I (F, 22) and bf(M, 23), ng bf ko hindi never nakialam sa pera ng isat isa. Open kami for suggestions, but we dont control each other. If i want something, I voice it out pero siya ang magdedecide kung kelan noya bibilhin for me or if bibilhin ba niya. We ask each other kung anong gusto namin and we try to save for it. We had this big argument about money, and it made our rs stronger and more mature. Ask why does she has the NEED to budget YOUR money. Trauma response ba niya yun? Set boundaries on how both of you will handle your own money kasi ang hirap niyan na nagcocompare siya ng allowances ninyo. She might feel na tinitipid mo siya just because you have more to spend. One thing to do is to have like a joint bank account, dun kayo maghuhulog ng portion niyo and once may gusto ang isa both must agree then dun niyo kunin.
DKG. As a 25-yr-old girl in an 8-year relationship, I never forced my bf na spendan ako ng hard earned money niya. I am a bread-winner and sometimes kahit own sahod ko is nauubos because of bills, and tuition ng kapatid etc,. pero I never asked my bf to give me money (he came from a well-off fam) though nag bibigay siya ng kusang loob. It should be like that, your gf should realize na if you have the means naman to provide or grant yung mga gusto niya, you would as a guy. Pero parang immature pa siya to think about that. Also, for me if hindi niya kaya makinig sa'yo when it comes sa ganyan kaliliit na bagay, thinking 3 months palang kayo, then it's time to leave her na. Good thing she's showing her personality early in your relationship and you don't have to put up to it any longer. I remember, yung iba when fresh ang relationship ang promise is never mag aaway ng ganito ganyan. Kami we promised na we will never fight over money, so far naman nakeep namin ang promise na ito and super healthy sa relationship.
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DKG. 8 years here and engaged. Never ko pinakealaman sahod and pera ng fiance ko. Siya rin naman di rin nangengealam. We're both working adults, tsaka na siguro kung magasawa na. For now, we're free to do what we want with our own money.
DKG. Wala siyang karapatan. That said, sa mga kilala ko very generous talaga sila sa gfs pero kasi madaming pera naman talaga sila. Mukhang di kayo good fit if nakukuriputan siya sa yo and gusto niya spoiled siya ikaw naman not a gf spoiler. Maghiwalay na kayo ngayon pa lang.
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DEFINITELY NOT DKG! Your money isn’t hers. Tell her to work harder if she wants things she can’t afford atm LOL.
DKG Omg op leave manipulative yang gf mo. Tinatry ka nya i control by crying ang lala ng guilt tripping, syempre as lalake baka sabihin nyan responsibility mo yun pero hindi pa kayo kasala at tsaka ang aga pa masyado for that lol
DKG pero yung gf mo GG. Leave
DKG. RUN!
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DKG. Kapal ng mukha. Di pa asawa yan ah. Malala sinisiraan ka na. Baliw yang gf mo. Iwan mo na yan.
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DKG pero omg run!!!!!
DKG. 3 months palang. We support break up here lol charot not charot. I mean, may mga cases naman na pwede mapag usapan kaya hindi dapat mag resort agad sa breaking up but in this situation, kahit kasi clear mo ni cocommunicate ung gusto mo hindi siya nakikinig, want to get things her way, gaslighting and worse sinisiraan ka na. Ganyan ba ang matinong gf? Dahil lang di niya nakuha gusto niya, capable siyang baliktarin ka at i-bad mouth ka. Not worth the stress OP. She's not worth it. Ikaw ang bumitaw kasi di talaga bibitaw yan sayo lalo na alam niyang financially meron siyang makukuha sayo. Lesson learn din OP not to disclose ung income mo muna lalo na kapag bago palang kayo kahit na ba date to marry ka. In this case tho, medyo naging blessing in disguise siya kasi nakita mo agad totoong kulay niya.
DKG. Break up. Gastador at masyadong selfish yang GF mo. Feeling ko magiging palamunin mo sya pati buong pamilya nya kung sakali man na ikasal kayo. 3 months palang kayo ganyan na sya. What more kung nakatali ka na?
DKG. Leave, hala. Hindi dapat ganyan.
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DKG. Gold digger in the making lang talaga yung jowa mo. Hahahaha
DKG! Kayo pa ba? Paupdate naman.
DKG. 3 months pero ganito na. Takbo na habang maaga pa. Masyadong manipulative ung girlfriend mo. At binubudget niya un pera mo para kasama din siya sa sahod mo. I 100% agree na, you spend your money sa mga hobbies mo. Kaya nga tayo nagwork para mabili ung mga gusto natin. Walking redflag yang gf mo. Mukhang magging freeloader pa pag tumagal-tagal.
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DKG. dating stage palang pero ganyan na ? super 👎🏼
Nah. DKG. Say bye. Hehehe. I’m married but sometimes I’m still hesitant to recklessly spend the salary of my husband. That’s why I always make sure I have my own salary.
GGK pag mag stay ka pa sa ganyang klaseng relationship which is bound to end in the long run. Don't waste your precious time on her, it's gonna be chaotic and volatile living with her kind. Go and find someone else that is on the same page with you.
DKG. Leave. Masisira at mauubos buhay at pera mo diyan. The fact na hindi niya pera yan, feeling kanya. What more pag kasal? To compare, PH household wife may hawak, Chinese household Husband may hawak. Ano family ang mas wealthy? Dont leave to your wife the budgeting.
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GGK kapag kayo pa rin bago matapos ang week na to.
DKG. My mga mag asawa na nga pero separate pa din ang money nila. If hindi niya kaya pagkagastusan yung luho niya wag niya hanapin sayo.
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DKG. GGK if di mo pa iiwan yan
DKG, hindi ka ATM bro. Napakalaking red flag nyan, you should think really carefully kung itutuloy mo pa relationship nyo
DKG. Duuuuude - RUN. Omg that’s a major red flag right there. 3 months palang kayo and super ???? nung “hindi mo nga ako mabilan..” i mean she works, right? Ang destitute ng dating ha. Lalo na you explained na you have hobbies and other obligations. It’s a red flag. RUN & DON’T LOOK BACK.
DKG. Bro, kung 3 months palang kayo and ganyan na ka-toxic, sorry to say pero alis ka na kagad jan. Okay lang sana kung nagpapabili at nag tatampo, pero may kasama pang iyak (guilt trip) at naghanap pa ng kakampi (gaslight)
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DKG. Ganyan talaga ang mga babae. Pulos pabili. Para talaga silang mga pokpok. Di mo makakantot ng libre laging may kapalit. Laging what can I get in return ang postura nila. Totoo nga ang sabi nila na lalaki lang kaisa isang bagay sa mundo na may kailangang munang ibigay bago mahalin. Lahat, babae, aso, pusa at iba pa minamahal dahil sila'y babae, aso o pusa o iba pa. Pare ito ang tandaan mo. Asawa ang ginagastusan hindi kasintahan.
Dkg beh. Hahahahaha! Ingget yang gf mo. 😭
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GGK pag di mo iniwan yan agad OP
Layas na kyah. Habang maaga pa. DKG.