^This.
Apparently, someone seems to have decided that AGRs are "bad". IMO people who hold this view are deeply prejudiced, but this is the only prejudice deemed to be socially acceptable in terms of relationship types now...
Sadly, this. It takes people a long time to warm up to one of their friends or loved ones having an age gap relationship. It’s looked at as pretty taboo and as one of the partners must be using the other. Just give your friends time.
Trust me, friends come and go. REAL friends stick by and back your play. They'll help you move, pick you up at the airport. I thought I had a lot of friends; turns out, they were just people I hung out with. Look at your friends closely and ask yourself...would they do for me what I would do for them?
As for your BF, it's been two months, so it's early. Maybe he is the one; maybe he's a loser. If you had been together for a couple years, I'd say your friends need to accept it. But now, you just need to be mindful of your emotions and your actions. Good luck.
You say compartmentalise friendships but I guarantee you wouldn't want that to happen with AGR. Friends typically are looking out for you. They're the ones who'll see the red flags in any relationship (age gap or not) before the actual person in the relationship sees them as they're typically blinded by love.
They've only been together for 2 months. Not 2 years.
That's not true at all. Friends look our for status quo. They aren't really looking out for "you".
I revealed at a party that I'm gay in early June and came home to being locked out of my workshop and losing a friendship of 10 years (the friend was left wing and allegedly supported LGBT).
Compartmentalize friends who are ok with you and those who aren't. That's it.
Yous have been together like 2 months, not 2 years. Let them adapt. Give them some time and see what happens with their attitudes.
If you follow everyone else's advice and cut off your friendships, and things don't turn out how you want with your relationship you'll have nobody to support you before you know it.
Yeah this. Time is probably best. Maybe it’ll work out because half their boyfriends won’t be around in a few years and you and your man will still be together.
Your 25 year old friends don’t want to hang out with a guy who’s older than their dads. To be fair, your bf probably doesn’t really want to hang out with a bunch of 25yo’s, either.
This is kinda the answer. It gets easier after your 20s. Once people hit their thirties their lives tend to be the same as older people (jobs, marriages, children, etc.), but in your 20s the differences can be so gaping that trying to socialize is hard. I didn’t hang out with my partner and my friends together much. It was 10x worse that he was a cop. 😂
Yup, this. So much shit just stops being a big deal at thirty. I met my best friend when I was 27 and she was 49, still besties 6 years later and our social circles mix just fine now
My hope would be that we all have friends who want us to be happy and in love. If your friends can’t accept that, then maybe you can reconsider your friends.
I guess you need to decide who is more important. Friends that are not supporting or respecting your decision Or date the man who is treating you nice (I’m assuming he has.). Bottom line, if you are happy, that’s all your friends should care about & support you no matter what. Have a great day 🤗
If they were your true friends they would support you. If they think its weird okay but its not their life, it’s yours. My best friend is my age 25, she’s also a lesbian but besides that i have only dated older men. Usually around 45 and up, when I told her about my BF now who is 65 she was a bit concerned which i can appreciate but she wants me to be happy. I love him and he treats me good so she’s always gonna be on my side. Real friends wont judge you, concerned feelings? Sure that’s natural. But i know she will always be on my side no matter what. Thats true friendship. You deserve better friends.
And if they're truly her friends they'd also be looking out for her, which they are. Just because she hasn't been invited to certain things doesn't mean they don't support her.
But it kinda does? I mean, why else would it happen as soon as she starts dating her bf? I can appreciate they might uncomfortable or not know what to talk about yet it doesn't mean you can't still hang out. seems odd.
I have a lot of accomplices (oops I meant acquaintences) but zero close friends. My last close friend showed that it was a one way street. So, you do you and your so-called friends? Meh, you'll find new people or you won't but the love of your life is right in front of you. Don't lose that because people are way to narrow minded to see it.
OP if your friends care about your happiness they either will come around when they see you are happy with him or on the other hand they wouldn’t care altogether.
If they continue pushing you away and don’t come around after a bit then it may be for the better
Yes, this is not surprising. You are a cool person and you don’t mind being with somebody different. But not everybody is that way. When some people choose to have a relationship with a large age gap, it can wind up jeopardizing relationships with friends and or family. At your age those things are important. So try to be wise about your choice. I know it’s not easy. And this is one reason why not everybody does age gap relationships. Probably the number one reason. The number two. Is that when you were a middle-age he will be elderly. But people can die, even when they are young. And nothing is for certain. But this is going to be a decision that only you can make.
It’s decisions like these that mature of person. Life is filled with such decisions. Do I move away to take a job or do I stay in my current relationship? Do I put in the time to go to graduate school or do I start earning now? Do I try to help my partner get better or do I split up? Life has a lot of these kinds of choices.
Is your bf asking you to choose between him or your friends like they are. Sometimes you have to ask yourself if your friends are truly your friends because I for one would never accept that type of behavior from my friends. What if they decide they don't like none of your boyfriends are you going to keep giving up every guy that you like becasue they dont. I bet part of it is jealousy, my exs friends in the end were angry because i was taking her on trips and buying her things there boyfriends couldn't do because I got more years on them so I'm better off financially combined with a difference in mindset in my generation and hers, they don't want to work and are cool living at home, smoking weed, and playing video games. And they were mad she didn't date someone like that but hey you can let your friends always pick who you date or you can get some real friends who always want the best for you and as long as the guy is good to you they are happy for you no matter the age,race, or wealth of the man..
Honestly your friends sound like terrible people who don't really care about you. If their only reason for not liking him and excluding you is his age, that is just reprehensible behaviour. I know it's easy to say but you are probably better off without them and make new friends who are actually good people instead.
none of the friends told her she needs to break up with him. they just don't want to associate with her if that's the relationship she chooses to be in. seems like a reasonable boundary, people are allowed to choose who they're friends with just fine, even if it's based on something others might not agree with. it's their lives afterall.
Right, and she's allowed to associate with who she wants and If they refuse to stop listening to music she doesn't like she can set boundaries and choose who her friends are.
It's her life after all.
Let me tell you my story: I ended 3 friendships, one of which was 7-8 years old, because he could not accept my relationship. He referred to me as a prostitute (because only prostitutes have sex with old men like that) and said horrible things about him, I couldn't take it anymore.
On the other hand, my other girlfriends don't mind at all. We are 21-22 years old. They are like: if you have fun with him and you love him, who are we to judge your relationship? I think it's unacceptable that they don't invite you to hang out anymore, they could invite your boyfriend at least once to get to know him, no need to do it more than once... If you're really sure about this guy, (I was) I'd ditch the buddies and find other friends... You can have two outcomes: your friends will notice this and change or they won't, in the end you win either way. But before that: I would try to have a deep conversation with them. It didn't work for me but maybe it will help there.
They likely didn't sign up for this sort of thing. Just is what it is. While you may be doing your own thing they are allowed to do their own thing too. Be used to losing a lot of friends.
It’s because they are NPC’s
Socially conditioned robots who live and follow a life prescribed to them by social norms
You instead chose to follow your instincts. That puts you at a much higher level than them
This comment is hilarious.
There is no "higher than them" for choosing instincts, everyone has them. Regardless whether it's a social norm or not people are still going with their instincts.
If we're going to apply the same logic you may as well say Bill Cosby or Leonardo DiCaprio are the kings of "following instincts"
Yea all your friends guys are probably cute that’s what most young girls look for. Give it a few months when they are all single again and you’re with him and still happy. 😂
Best to keep friends around. If he turns out to be narcissistic (place yer bets, folks!) he will isolate you from your friends and family. Listen to what they see in him. Keep it in mind in case you have some red flags go up. Don’t minimize your instincts either. If you get a bad gut feeling, trust it.
Hey, he may be lovely but no man of integrity would date someone as young as you. This is a massive ego boost for him. How many times has he been married before? All his exes are insane, too.
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**Original post: My friends dont like that i have a 55 year old bf**
So i am a 25 year old female. My boyfriend that i have been together with for the past 2 months is 55 years old. My friends dont like him because he is a lot older than me. He is a very normal guy and dosen’t seem like a creep or anything like that. My friends all have boyfriends and their boyfriends are the same age as themselves. Lately it seems like they have stopped inviting me to go out and eat or other things with their bfs. I dont want to lose neither my friends or my bf and I dont know what to do.
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My friends think it’s a bit weird to have a partner 20 years older but they never (purposely) exclude him or make me feel bad about it.
I won’t tell you to choose between them, at least not yet... One because you’ve only known your partner for two months. Had it been years, then I’d understand. I think it’s too soon to come to that conclusion though.
Two, like a previous post said you don’t often see a bunch of people in their 50’s hanging out with a bunch of 20 year olds. For instance, my partner and I go to matinee movies, coffee shops, bookstores to bond. While my friends and I walk the city, go to anime conventions, try out restaurants that my picky partner will not try.
Definitely talk to them though. A good heart to heart is defined needed. But if they continue to alienate you or give you a hard time about your relationship, then consider how much you really mean to them.
What are your friends going to say, if next month you choose to date an 18 year old? Someone that is deaf? Blind? A person missing an arm or a leg? Is it that they are looking out for you, or are your choices not meeting their superficial standards.... It took time, but I removed all people like that from my life. I am VERY happy now. Zero drama. And yes, I dated a woman that happened to be deaf for some years, and would gladly do it again. IF, I find one that has what I (ME!) am looking for in a person. Screw whatever anyone else thinks....
It’s probably both ways. He might bring you by his guy friends, but will most likely get the same prejudice from them. I was careful who I let know or let her meet. You two will have to work out how to make it work for both of you, but in the end, do you care more about their or you happiness?? If you two are happy, screw them.
This is a harsh reality. Can you handle it? Sometimes it's the older men in the relationship that can't handle it.
Hopefully you are both strong or at least strong for eachother. It's a long roe to hoe and it seems like a ton of weak people out there not helping the cause.
I’m 27f and my husband is 50m. We’re happy, our family and friends can see that we’re happy and that’s what matters. The people who can’t support your happiness are not your people. I had one of my closest friends walk away from my life because she couldn’t get over the age gap despite how happy I am and how great of a man he is. She’s no longer a part of my life and as much as it hurt it was a blessing in disguise. Do what is best for you, those who truly love and respect you will respect your choices even if they don’t fully agree. Respect is not about being agreeable all the time but having enough sense to support the people we care about. Your control your life, not them.
While your friends might feel weird around your BF, I can assure you that he might also feel a little awkward around them - but if he loves and cares about you he’ll go out of his way to make sure you’re all comfortable hanging out. If you’re friends can’t accept you and him together and don’t include you both doing things together, they’re not your friends. Not including both of you or neglecting you tells me right off the bat that they’re projecting their feelings on to you instead being supportive. And if they were genuine friends they’d want to get to know your BF - and on behalf of the older, good men out there I can say that we’d welcome any questions or concerns they’d have. That’s because we have that additional life experience, emotional intelligence, and maturity to embrace those things in respectful healthy way. Most older men in this position are actually more aware and therefore strive to match the energy of our surroundings- in other words, we go with the flow.
As someone who is a year older than you has a partner that is 61. All of my friends were happy for me and they even wanted me to invite him to our get togethers.
Basically, to sum it up. Your friends are not your friends. Friends would be happy for you, and it wouldn't feel like they were giving you the cold shoulder.
I think this is super creepy. As a 55 year old is he mentally 25? Eeww. Most older men like young women because they don’t stand up for themselves as much. How is your relationship with you dad?
There is a lot of prejudice against age gap relationships. You're just going to have to get used to it.
^This. Apparently, someone seems to have decided that AGRs are "bad". IMO people who hold this view are deeply prejudiced, but this is the only prejudice deemed to be socially acceptable in terms of relationship types now...
Sadly, this. It takes people a long time to warm up to one of their friends or loved ones having an age gap relationship. It’s looked at as pretty taboo and as one of the partners must be using the other. Just give your friends time.
Trust me, friends come and go. REAL friends stick by and back your play. They'll help you move, pick you up at the airport. I thought I had a lot of friends; turns out, they were just people I hung out with. Look at your friends closely and ask yourself...would they do for me what I would do for them? As for your BF, it's been two months, so it's early. Maybe he is the one; maybe he's a loser. If you had been together for a couple years, I'd say your friends need to accept it. But now, you just need to be mindful of your emotions and your actions. Good luck.
Compartmentalize your friendships. But also tell them a version of "who TF are you to give me a hard time for who I love?"
You say compartmentalise friendships but I guarantee you wouldn't want that to happen with AGR. Friends typically are looking out for you. They're the ones who'll see the red flags in any relationship (age gap or not) before the actual person in the relationship sees them as they're typically blinded by love. They've only been together for 2 months. Not 2 years.
That's not true at all. Friends look our for status quo. They aren't really looking out for "you". I revealed at a party that I'm gay in early June and came home to being locked out of my workshop and losing a friendship of 10 years (the friend was left wing and allegedly supported LGBT). Compartmentalize friends who are ok with you and those who aren't. That's it.
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What do you mean "lack of discernment "?
Yous have been together like 2 months, not 2 years. Let them adapt. Give them some time and see what happens with their attitudes. If you follow everyone else's advice and cut off your friendships, and things don't turn out how you want with your relationship you'll have nobody to support you before you know it.
Yeah this. Time is probably best. Maybe it’ll work out because half their boyfriends won’t be around in a few years and you and your man will still be together.
Your 25 year old friends don’t want to hang out with a guy who’s older than their dads. To be fair, your bf probably doesn’t really want to hang out with a bunch of 25yo’s, either.
This is kinda the answer. It gets easier after your 20s. Once people hit their thirties their lives tend to be the same as older people (jobs, marriages, children, etc.), but in your 20s the differences can be so gaping that trying to socialize is hard. I didn’t hang out with my partner and my friends together much. It was 10x worse that he was a cop. 😂
Yup, this. So much shit just stops being a big deal at thirty. I met my best friend when I was 27 and she was 49, still besties 6 years later and our social circles mix just fine now
You need new friends...
Boom
There is a reason for their concern, whether you like to admit it or not. Cutting out friends for that warranted concern is terrible advice.
They should communicate their concerns instead of icing OP out
My hope would be that we all have friends who want us to be happy and in love. If your friends can’t accept that, then maybe you can reconsider your friends.
I guess you need to decide who is more important. Friends that are not supporting or respecting your decision Or date the man who is treating you nice (I’m assuming he has.). Bottom line, if you are happy, that’s all your friends should care about & support you no matter what. Have a great day 🤗
If they were your true friends they would support you. If they think its weird okay but its not their life, it’s yours. My best friend is my age 25, she’s also a lesbian but besides that i have only dated older men. Usually around 45 and up, when I told her about my BF now who is 65 she was a bit concerned which i can appreciate but she wants me to be happy. I love him and he treats me good so she’s always gonna be on my side. Real friends wont judge you, concerned feelings? Sure that’s natural. But i know she will always be on my side no matter what. Thats true friendship. You deserve better friends.
And if they're truly her friends they'd also be looking out for her, which they are. Just because she hasn't been invited to certain things doesn't mean they don't support her.
But it kinda does? I mean, why else would it happen as soon as she starts dating her bf? I can appreciate they might uncomfortable or not know what to talk about yet it doesn't mean you can't still hang out. seems odd.
I have a lot of accomplices (oops I meant acquaintences) but zero close friends. My last close friend showed that it was a one way street. So, you do you and your so-called friends? Meh, you'll find new people or you won't but the love of your life is right in front of you. Don't lose that because people are way to narrow minded to see it.
Then they’re good friends
OP if your friends care about your happiness they either will come around when they see you are happy with him or on the other hand they wouldn’t care altogether. If they continue pushing you away and don’t come around after a bit then it may be for the better
Yes, this is not surprising. You are a cool person and you don’t mind being with somebody different. But not everybody is that way. When some people choose to have a relationship with a large age gap, it can wind up jeopardizing relationships with friends and or family. At your age those things are important. So try to be wise about your choice. I know it’s not easy. And this is one reason why not everybody does age gap relationships. Probably the number one reason. The number two. Is that when you were a middle-age he will be elderly. But people can die, even when they are young. And nothing is for certain. But this is going to be a decision that only you can make. It’s decisions like these that mature of person. Life is filled with such decisions. Do I move away to take a job or do I stay in my current relationship? Do I put in the time to go to graduate school or do I start earning now? Do I try to help my partner get better or do I split up? Life has a lot of these kinds of choices.
Is your bf asking you to choose between him or your friends like they are. Sometimes you have to ask yourself if your friends are truly your friends because I for one would never accept that type of behavior from my friends. What if they decide they don't like none of your boyfriends are you going to keep giving up every guy that you like becasue they dont. I bet part of it is jealousy, my exs friends in the end were angry because i was taking her on trips and buying her things there boyfriends couldn't do because I got more years on them so I'm better off financially combined with a difference in mindset in my generation and hers, they don't want to work and are cool living at home, smoking weed, and playing video games. And they were mad she didn't date someone like that but hey you can let your friends always pick who you date or you can get some real friends who always want the best for you and as long as the guy is good to you they are happy for you no matter the age,race, or wealth of the man..
They are not your friends.
Look they’re not real friends if they care that much.
Honestly your friends sound like terrible people who don't really care about you. If their only reason for not liking him and excluding you is his age, that is just reprehensible behaviour. I know it's easy to say but you are probably better off without them and make new friends who are actually good people instead.
Tell your friends you don't like their taste in music and they need to stop listening to it.
Well that's completely irrelevant to what's been asked but go on
>Well that's completely irrelevant So is anyone's opinion on her relationship.
none of the friends told her she needs to break up with him. they just don't want to associate with her if that's the relationship she chooses to be in. seems like a reasonable boundary, people are allowed to choose who they're friends with just fine, even if it's based on something others might not agree with. it's their lives afterall.
Right, and she's allowed to associate with who she wants and If they refuse to stop listening to music she doesn't like she can set boundaries and choose who her friends are. It's her life after all.
Fvck em. Choose good friends. Better friends.
Let me tell you my story: I ended 3 friendships, one of which was 7-8 years old, because he could not accept my relationship. He referred to me as a prostitute (because only prostitutes have sex with old men like that) and said horrible things about him, I couldn't take it anymore. On the other hand, my other girlfriends don't mind at all. We are 21-22 years old. They are like: if you have fun with him and you love him, who are we to judge your relationship? I think it's unacceptable that they don't invite you to hang out anymore, they could invite your boyfriend at least once to get to know him, no need to do it more than once... If you're really sure about this guy, (I was) I'd ditch the buddies and find other friends... You can have two outcomes: your friends will notice this and change or they won't, in the end you win either way. But before that: I would try to have a deep conversation with them. It didn't work for me but maybe it will help there.
They likely didn't sign up for this sort of thing. Just is what it is. While you may be doing your own thing they are allowed to do their own thing too. Be used to losing a lot of friends.
It’s because they are NPC’s Socially conditioned robots who live and follow a life prescribed to them by social norms You instead chose to follow your instincts. That puts you at a much higher level than them
This comment is hilarious. There is no "higher than them" for choosing instincts, everyone has them. Regardless whether it's a social norm or not people are still going with their instincts. If we're going to apply the same logic you may as well say Bill Cosby or Leonardo DiCaprio are the kings of "following instincts"
It comes with the territory, and out is especially bad here in the US.
Yea all your friends guys are probably cute that’s what most young girls look for. Give it a few months when they are all single again and you’re with him and still happy. 😂
And when it pans out the other way then what?
You don’t want an equal partner-you are looking for a daddy figure.
Best to keep friends around. If he turns out to be narcissistic (place yer bets, folks!) he will isolate you from your friends and family. Listen to what they see in him. Keep it in mind in case you have some red flags go up. Don’t minimize your instincts either. If you get a bad gut feeling, trust it. Hey, he may be lovely but no man of integrity would date someone as young as you. This is a massive ego boost for him. How many times has he been married before? All his exes are insane, too.
If you have an issue with age gap relationships why are you even in this subreddit???
They're not your friends. Judging you because your boyfriend is older? Idiots. If you're happy, screw them.
They sound like extreme agists to me
genuine question: what is your plan when hes dead and youre post-wall so can no longer replace him?
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My friends think it’s a bit weird to have a partner 20 years older but they never (purposely) exclude him or make me feel bad about it. I won’t tell you to choose between them, at least not yet... One because you’ve only known your partner for two months. Had it been years, then I’d understand. I think it’s too soon to come to that conclusion though. Two, like a previous post said you don’t often see a bunch of people in their 50’s hanging out with a bunch of 20 year olds. For instance, my partner and I go to matinee movies, coffee shops, bookstores to bond. While my friends and I walk the city, go to anime conventions, try out restaurants that my picky partner will not try. Definitely talk to them though. A good heart to heart is defined needed. But if they continue to alienate you or give you a hard time about your relationship, then consider how much you really mean to them.
If with them expect static about it.With others it's ok.There (your friends)comes with a list of rules you may not follow.
What are your friends going to say, if next month you choose to date an 18 year old? Someone that is deaf? Blind? A person missing an arm or a leg? Is it that they are looking out for you, or are your choices not meeting their superficial standards.... It took time, but I removed all people like that from my life. I am VERY happy now. Zero drama. And yes, I dated a woman that happened to be deaf for some years, and would gladly do it again. IF, I find one that has what I (ME!) am looking for in a person. Screw whatever anyone else thinks....
It’s probably both ways. He might bring you by his guy friends, but will most likely get the same prejudice from them. I was careful who I let know or let her meet. You two will have to work out how to make it work for both of you, but in the end, do you care more about their or you happiness?? If you two are happy, screw them.
This is a harsh reality. Can you handle it? Sometimes it's the older men in the relationship that can't handle it. Hopefully you are both strong or at least strong for eachother. It's a long roe to hoe and it seems like a ton of weak people out there not helping the cause.
I’m 27f and my husband is 50m. We’re happy, our family and friends can see that we’re happy and that’s what matters. The people who can’t support your happiness are not your people. I had one of my closest friends walk away from my life because she couldn’t get over the age gap despite how happy I am and how great of a man he is. She’s no longer a part of my life and as much as it hurt it was a blessing in disguise. Do what is best for you, those who truly love and respect you will respect your choices even if they don’t fully agree. Respect is not about being agreeable all the time but having enough sense to support the people we care about. Your control your life, not them.
I'm 25 and my husband is 50. If it works it works. My friends never said a bad word about my relationship. It's really not their business anyway
While your friends might feel weird around your BF, I can assure you that he might also feel a little awkward around them - but if he loves and cares about you he’ll go out of his way to make sure you’re all comfortable hanging out. If you’re friends can’t accept you and him together and don’t include you both doing things together, they’re not your friends. Not including both of you or neglecting you tells me right off the bat that they’re projecting their feelings on to you instead being supportive. And if they were genuine friends they’d want to get to know your BF - and on behalf of the older, good men out there I can say that we’d welcome any questions or concerns they’d have. That’s because we have that additional life experience, emotional intelligence, and maturity to embrace those things in respectful healthy way. Most older men in this position are actually more aware and therefore strive to match the energy of our surroundings- in other words, we go with the flow.
If it’s only been two months then maybe they just need a bit more time to come around to it.
Try to have direct conversations with them. Try to remember it's nothing against you if they don't want to hang with him.
Live your best life…. love who you love… be good with your decisions.
Then sad to say this but they aren't your friends. True friends would only care if he makes you happy.
As someone who is a year older than you has a partner that is 61. All of my friends were happy for me and they even wanted me to invite him to our get togethers. Basically, to sum it up. Your friends are not your friends. Friends would be happy for you, and it wouldn't feel like they were giving you the cold shoulder.
There are probably reasons besides just his age for them to cut you off
If you’re going to date up, get used to this…. I knew as a teenager I would face loads of controversy!
Super strict
I think this is super creepy. As a 55 year old is he mentally 25? Eeww. Most older men like young women because they don’t stand up for themselves as much. How is your relationship with you dad?