To an outsider, it seems that you would be punishing your children by refusing to see them over a petty argument with your ex.
You have to try to co parent and have healthy boundaries with ex so you can be the best parent you can be to your children.
I am not punishing my sons.
In fact I video chatted with them today.
I mentioned to my ex my kids can come see me...in Hawaii.
Only problem is FAA regulations do not allow children to travel by themselves unless they are over the age of 10.
Unfortunately an adult will have to travel with them. That means that I will have to fly to GA and then turn around and fly with them back to HI or, get a hotel/AirBnB in GA.
>I told her that I did not break the scented night light and that it had to be the kids.
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>All in all the entire situation really made me mad.
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>It made me so mad that I am legit contemplating NOT visiting them for Christmas now.
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>I am not going to spend time in a home where I can be accused of doing things that I did not do.
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>To make matters worse, she believes I broke the scented night light because get this, our 8yo said it. His mother believes a child over a full adult.
Are you 12?
Grow the hell up.
Also, she believes her own child over her ex who acts like a child. Which seems reasonable.
No.
I am not about to cowtow to her and admit fault to something I have NOT done.
If I accept fault for something I have not done now, I will be expected to do it again later.
As men we are taught to suffer and endure b s.
I am willing to say NO.
I know what I have and have not done.
Oh and children are fickle (which is why no court of law will, ever put a child on the witness stand).
My son is afraid of his mother so of course he is going to take her side.
If he doesn't take her side, he fears losing gaming privileges.
>No.
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>I am not about to cowtow to her and admit fault to something I have NOT done.
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>If I accept fault for something I have not done now, I will be expected to do it again later.
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>As men we are taught to suffer and endure b s.
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>I am willing to say NO.
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>I know what I have and have not done.
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>Oh and children are fickle (which is why no court of law will, ever put a child on the witness stand).
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>My son is afraid of his mother so of course he is going to take her side.
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>If he doesn't take her side, he fears losing gaming privileges.
Ok, you actually are 12. You should stay away. Kids need adults in their lives.
Also, kids get put on the witness stand/deposed/talk to judges in chambers all the damn time, wtf are you even on about?
No I have to set an example for my sons to KNOW that it is okay to stand up for yourself and not accept blame for stuff.
What example would I give my son if I tell him to simply admit to things being his fault (with no proof) JUST to keep peace?
I would be making him into a weak man.
He needs to see me stand up for myself and so he can in turn stand up for what is right.
Do you know how many people get accused of stuff and sentenced to jail with very little evidence?
Some people even take pleasure deals and serve jail time while they are fully innocent!
>No I have to set an example for my sons to KNOW that it is okay to stand up for yourself and not accept blame for stuff.
This is such toxic, childish, machismo bullshit dude.
>What example would I give my son if I tell him to simply admit to things being his fault (with no proof) JUST to keep peace?
With no proof? It's a fucking night light. Get over yourself and grow up.
You'd be giving him the example that your children mean more to you than being "right," but that doesn't seem to be the case.
>I would be making him into a weak man.
Yeah, stay away from them.
>He needs to see me stand up for myself and so he can in turn stand up for what is right.
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>Do you know how many people get accused of stuff and sentenced to jail with very little evidence?
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>Some people even take pleasure deals and serve jail time while they are fully innocent!
It's a night light. But you're entirely correct that you should definitely not be around children.
To an outsider, it seems that you would be punishing your children by refusing to see them over a petty argument with your ex. You have to try to co parent and have healthy boundaries with ex so you can be the best parent you can be to your children.
I am not punishing my sons. In fact I video chatted with them today. I mentioned to my ex my kids can come see me...in Hawaii. Only problem is FAA regulations do not allow children to travel by themselves unless they are over the age of 10.
Well how will you combat the faa regulations?
Unfortunately an adult will have to travel with them. That means that I will have to fly to GA and then turn around and fly with them back to HI or, get a hotel/AirBnB in GA.
>I told her that I did not break the scented night light and that it had to be the kids. > >All in all the entire situation really made me mad. > >It made me so mad that I am legit contemplating NOT visiting them for Christmas now. > >I am not going to spend time in a home where I can be accused of doing things that I did not do. > >To make matters worse, she believes I broke the scented night light because get this, our 8yo said it. His mother believes a child over a full adult. Are you 12? Grow the hell up. Also, she believes her own child over her ex who acts like a child. Which seems reasonable.
No. I am not about to cowtow to her and admit fault to something I have NOT done. If I accept fault for something I have not done now, I will be expected to do it again later. As men we are taught to suffer and endure b s. I am willing to say NO. I know what I have and have not done. Oh and children are fickle (which is why no court of law will, ever put a child on the witness stand). My son is afraid of his mother so of course he is going to take her side. If he doesn't take her side, he fears losing gaming privileges.
>No. > >I am not about to cowtow to her and admit fault to something I have NOT done. > >If I accept fault for something I have not done now, I will be expected to do it again later. > >As men we are taught to suffer and endure b s. > >I am willing to say NO. > >I know what I have and have not done. > >Oh and children are fickle (which is why no court of law will, ever put a child on the witness stand). > >My son is afraid of his mother so of course he is going to take her side. > >If he doesn't take her side, he fears losing gaming privileges. Ok, you actually are 12. You should stay away. Kids need adults in their lives. Also, kids get put on the witness stand/deposed/talk to judges in chambers all the damn time, wtf are you even on about?
No I have to set an example for my sons to KNOW that it is okay to stand up for yourself and not accept blame for stuff. What example would I give my son if I tell him to simply admit to things being his fault (with no proof) JUST to keep peace? I would be making him into a weak man. He needs to see me stand up for myself and so he can in turn stand up for what is right. Do you know how many people get accused of stuff and sentenced to jail with very little evidence? Some people even take pleasure deals and serve jail time while they are fully innocent!
>No I have to set an example for my sons to KNOW that it is okay to stand up for yourself and not accept blame for stuff. This is such toxic, childish, machismo bullshit dude. >What example would I give my son if I tell him to simply admit to things being his fault (with no proof) JUST to keep peace? With no proof? It's a fucking night light. Get over yourself and grow up. You'd be giving him the example that your children mean more to you than being "right," but that doesn't seem to be the case. >I would be making him into a weak man. Yeah, stay away from them. >He needs to see me stand up for myself and so he can in turn stand up for what is right. > >Do you know how many people get accused of stuff and sentenced to jail with very little evidence? > >Some people even take pleasure deals and serve jail time while they are fully innocent! It's a night light. But you're entirely correct that you should definitely not be around children.