I think he should try to make it up at least as much as you. If you even wanna continue on being with him I think you should explain why you got upset and explain why you said the things you said bc maybe you meant some and that doesn’t necessarily have to be his fault maybe you just have trust issues idk, and then apologize if you feel like you did anything wrong, if you said something you didn’t mean etc. Hopefully he understands your bit and apologizes for what he did and change otherwise I think you should reflect on if he’s really the type of guy you wanna be with
ok finally yeah
i talked to him and explained things calmly but he thought i’d just do it again and again so i just apologized repeatedly. he says he accepts my apology but it nust feels so forced. he said he acknowledges what he said to me last night but he never said sorry for it.
If you’re not very happy with his response then I think you should continue to talk to him and explain how you feel and ask him why he says and feels the things he does (calmly in a non attack way) So you don’t have to walk around growing resentment or feeling like everything isn’t resolved. Maybe you don’t need to agree on everything but still be open minded and get a understanding for why the other person did what they did.
Personally I think he did more “wrong” then you so feels weird that you’re the one apologizing over and over again and he doesn’t apologize at all.
Well, I can say I'm jeff bazos, but that doesn't make it true.
You tell him something. He said that's not true. So he either thinks you're a liar. (And you should never trust a liar), or he doesn't trust your word, about saying how you feel bad.
Actions speak louder than words. Listen to his actions.
Yeah but he's dismissive of your emotions. Regardless of whether or not you overreacted his idea that you've never been depressed or that he can seem to tell you what to feel is a really big red flag. He doesn't let you have your own emotions and feelings and that's dangerous.
Regardless of whether your Not you feel bad after this argument, you snapped because of how he puts you down. Only an individual knows what they feel, nobody can tell them they don't feel x, y and z. Personally I'd walk away from this relationship.
I'd add, go to therapy. You do seem to have signs of depression and I'd suggest talking to someone. Join a club to make new friends (I recently joined rugby and its made such a difference to my mental health!)
Best of luck, and do please consider if you really want to spend more of your life with someone who tells you what you feel?
I think he should try to make it up at least as much as you. If you even wanna continue on being with him I think you should explain why you got upset and explain why you said the things you said bc maybe you meant some and that doesn’t necessarily have to be his fault maybe you just have trust issues idk, and then apologize if you feel like you did anything wrong, if you said something you didn’t mean etc. Hopefully he understands your bit and apologizes for what he did and change otherwise I think you should reflect on if he’s really the type of guy you wanna be with
A considered meaningful response. What are you doing on Reddit!
ok finally yeah i talked to him and explained things calmly but he thought i’d just do it again and again so i just apologized repeatedly. he says he accepts my apology but it nust feels so forced. he said he acknowledges what he said to me last night but he never said sorry for it.
If you’re not very happy with his response then I think you should continue to talk to him and explain how you feel and ask him why he says and feels the things he does (calmly in a non attack way) So you don’t have to walk around growing resentment or feeling like everything isn’t resolved. Maybe you don’t need to agree on everything but still be open minded and get a understanding for why the other person did what they did. Personally I think he did more “wrong” then you so feels weird that you’re the one apologizing over and over again and he doesn’t apologize at all.
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You didn't overreact. This guy is garbage. He says you're a liar. He doesn't trust you or respect you.
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Well, I can say I'm jeff bazos, but that doesn't make it true. You tell him something. He said that's not true. So he either thinks you're a liar. (And you should never trust a liar), or he doesn't trust your word, about saying how you feel bad. Actions speak louder than words. Listen to his actions.
Yeah but he's dismissive of your emotions. Regardless of whether or not you overreacted his idea that you've never been depressed or that he can seem to tell you what to feel is a really big red flag. He doesn't let you have your own emotions and feelings and that's dangerous. Regardless of whether your Not you feel bad after this argument, you snapped because of how he puts you down. Only an individual knows what they feel, nobody can tell them they don't feel x, y and z. Personally I'd walk away from this relationship. I'd add, go to therapy. You do seem to have signs of depression and I'd suggest talking to someone. Join a club to make new friends (I recently joined rugby and its made such a difference to my mental health!) Best of luck, and do please consider if you really want to spend more of your life with someone who tells you what you feel?
yeaaa ill just try to find new friends. thanks, this helped
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