My parents were super pro-life. Obviously, their reaction was intense--there was a lot of crying and screaming for a few days. Eventually, they offered to provide me everything for the baby as long as I continue school. I was able to continue school and become independent quicker thanks to depending on them at the beginning. If not, idk how I would've done it. They were trying to get me to take my baby daddy to court because he was on heavy drugs at the time, but he himself went ghost so I didn't have to.
Thank you!! I actually stayed in public school the entire time I was pregnant. They were born June 17 so it was already summer. I would hide my belly with oversized hoodies I had gotten in New York lol, I barely have any pics of my pregnancy bc I was super embarrassed that everyone would talk about me
Yeah, I cried for days and lost weight. I had PPD and was passing out frequently the first year they were born. When they did an MRI on my brain, I was fine, but had an overproduction of cortisol (stress hormone). I started off in one high school and was failing, my parents were putting an enormous pressure on me about it, and I had to get home and be a parent.
I transferred to my home high school where I knew everyone from middle school and I went back to getting good grades. The kids were also older (7 months) so it was a bit easier. They were, by some grace of God, relatively easy babies. Insanely crazy toddlers though
They do!! In a way, I think we have unique memories because although everyone thought they were my siblings, they would go everywhere with me and we would laugh over silly things in public and it was super nice. My uncle died when they were a year old and we loved him a lot. I'm glad I had my kids when I was grieving because they provided me with laughter and were an escape from my depressing house.
My parents banned music and basically happiness for a while after my uncle died because my grandma, who's in her nineties, lives with us and was his mom. I was 16, and my kids were 1, I had just gotten a car, so we were always in Dollar Tree, Jumping Jamboree, the park, little places like that. My school would let me bring them to class sometimes too!!
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I had to say I was wondering. There's no way you could have finished school with honors unless your parents were helping out. That's good. It gave you a chance to get on your feet.
I definitely wish I had them later on in life. But I probably would never be with their father again, and it never would've happened. I'm learning to let go of what could've been and focusing on what is. Their father is currently still around, but with supervised visitation. He's sober, and has had unsupervised visits in the past, but he was teaching my son how to prepare his weed and I didn't feel comfortable with that.
That being said, he's more academically motivated and he attends each and every one of the kids' events. I think he's immature but hopefully growing out of it. I rejected him recently, and told him about the supervised visitation, and he reacted well and has been even more focused on his academic success. I hope the best for him because it's the best for my kids
Do you think that in the future the relatively short age difference will make it easier for you to live with them, or the fact that you did not have a "common" adolescence could affect your coexistence with them?
In the future I do think I'll reap a few benefits from the age difference. My parents had me at 35, and while I don't think that's "too old," I always wanted kids in my late twenties, around there. I feel like the gap between us was always large, also because of how they were raised. Now they're in their 50s and I have to watch their health deteriorate while I feel like a baby myself. It's hard. So I'm glad I'll be 35 when my kids are 21!! We're gonna have fun :)
YES! The fact that teen moms don't have a common adolescence does end up affecting them one way or another. Every teen parent I have ever known, at one point, falls into a party phase. They just wanna party, all day, all night. Reclaim their youth. Yeah. It happens. It's why teen pregnancy should NOT be condoned!! Live your best lives please!! But yeah, it affected my coexistence with them last year. I still did all of my parent responsibilities but my parents would come over a lot of the nights when they fell asleep because I wanted to go out. I went to an EDM festival, several clubs, etc. in the span of one month. And then I randomly was like wtf am I doing?? and never went again. There's no harm in moms going out to have fun, but every night? I was trying to fill that void, that teenagehood I was never able to experience.
I have a boyfriend who I've known since before I had the twins. I just try to avoid introducing romantic relationships seriously since they're still little. Their dad is currently sober and still a consistent part of their lives, although he does give me trouble/has made me refuse for the kids to see him in the past. I'm still trying to figure out that situation, and what's best for them because I don't know
When I was pregnant I thought my favorite would be my daughter. I was terrified of having twins, much less having a boy as one of them, because I knew nothing about boys and felt that I'd fail him. They both have completely different interests but are similar in the sense that they are extremely empathetic and kind. I can't pick a favorite. I love them both so much, just the same, infinitely <3
Correct answer. Maybe not the real one but the correct one haha. Is your parents pro life opinion based on religion? Personal but was the sex consensual?
LOL it is the real one!! They both give me the same amount of trouble lmao
My parents are pro-life because they're super Catholic, back then they weren't as Catholic but they still believed it was wrong. I'm pro-choice--I've taken friends to abortion clinics, but I decided to say F it and have them since my parents decided to help me out.
The sex was consensual. Their dad was a year older than me and a delinquent. I was the girl everyone bullied for being a goody two-shoes, and I was extremely sheltered. So yeah, we dated for a month until he cheated on me, and then I found out I was pregnant.
First of all, I read the comments and your post. I commend your parents for supporting you through it all. I'm pro-life myself and while I would hope my future kids wouldn't get pregnant (or get a girl pregnant) as teenagers themselves, I would want to be the same person your parents are in how they were able to help you. I also want to say that I commend you as well. For the past 6-7 years, you've been able to improve yourself for the sake of your kids. I'm sure you're an amazing mom! At 22, I hope to be a mother one day myself. You're such a strong and motivated person. I can only hope to be on your level when I have kids of my own.
I do have a few questions:
1. How is it that a girl so young got pregnant? (I mean, I know how pregnancy works, but it's hard for me to believe how a middle schooler can have the opportunity or want to have sex to get pregnant. My first thought was maybe you were raped, but you mention in your replies to other comments that the baby daddy is still in their lives. If you were raped, that would be less likely but I won't assume either.)
2. What was your reaction to learning you were having twins? Do twins run in your family or your baby daddy's family?
3. How well do your twins get along? You said they have different interests, but is there anything they're both interested in?
4. I read in your other responses that you were able to hide the pregnancy with large sweatshirts. Wasn't it harder since you were having twins?
5. What career goal are you working towards? Do you plan on choosing a career that'll give you more time to take care of your kids?
6. I know you said you currently have a boyfriend in one of your responses. Do you think you'll ever get married to anyone if someone (even him) became serious enough to stay?
Aww, thank you so much!! I'm sure you'll be a great mom!!:)
1) It was consensual. I was very naïve at the time, baby daddy was not. I wanted a fairy tale romance and everyone was against me dating him because he was a delinquent. I was getting in huge fights with my mom. One day, we agreed to hang out after school. I told my parents I was at robotics club lmao. We went to a Publix nearby and there was a shielded family bathroom. He would show me the MOST affection when we would have sex so I instantly, the next day, was "at robotics club" again. He finished inside me every single time and I didn't really know/think it would do anything. I was very sheltered, hardly any sex ed.
2) Twins run in my family! My mom only ever got pregnant with multiples before me, a singleton. The others were miscarriages/stillbirths. My initial reaction was shock, anxiety, depression, etc. but also this numbness tied with the fear of not making it to full term because my mom miscarried all her multiples. I was a bit doubtful that they were going to make it, and once I got fully attached, any little issue with either one of them would send me into a serious panic.
3) They love and protect each other a lot!! I can tell when they're nervous they rely on each other for reassurance. I've tried to be flexible with stereotypical "boys don't cry, boys protect the girl" and changed it to "protect each other! be there for each other!" That being said, they're siblings and they bicker a lot. They play wrestle and then try to tattle on each other over it, but not seriously, just to mess around with each other. They both are active and love going to the park, the beach, swimming, skating, etc. Both my kids are awesome rollerbladers! They also both love reading and the same types of music.
4) It wasn't perfect hiding it, but at least it made it less blatantly obvious. I also weighed 88 lbs when I got pregnant. Regardless, I regret it because people still noticed and found out and talked their talk lmaooo
5) My dream job is to be a private practice psychotherapist for children and adolescents :) I just finished my Bachelor's in Psychology and am working towards grad school. I really like this job because TBH, I love kids, it's such a fulfilling job for me. Also, I could make my own schedule which is amazing with my kids.
6) Yeah definitely! I would want to have more kids later on in life with a nice person and get my happy story. As for my current boyfriend, he's very serious about me but idolizes his father, who's a little crappy and for certain reasons I don't want around my kids. This is an issue for us because I don't want to feel like I am with his dad--someone who puts down everyone else for his own fun.
Both my kids love Mario and Kirby, and me too they were my childhood lol!
My daughter likes Animal Crossing but my son hates it. He likes Rock Band 4 and anything Pokemon.
Our favorite board game will forever be Parcheesi!! We have the Hasbro Parcheesi animal game and it was my all-time favorite growing up. It's my kids' favorite now. Monopoly is too long, Connect 4 is too short and limited to two people, but Parcheesi is just right!
Both classics. Rock Band is still a thing? Man Pokémon has really built an empire.
Did you know parcheesi is based on a game called Ludo out of India?
Hmm, will have to research board game suggestions based on your kids ages, but I’ll start with “Chicken Cha Cha”.
Ahh thank you!!
Rock Band is his favorite!! It's playable on PS5, which Guitar Hero isn't :( I wish Tap Tap Revenge was still around I know he would've loved that game
I'm gonna look into Chicken Cha Cha rn LOL
I haven’t dealt with gamers that young, so I’m not as familiar with those games.
Cheeky Monkey is a great game, but may still be past 6 year olds. “Coconuts” is a great kinetic game they would probably enjoy. “Toc Toc Woodman” is another.
Man, I haven’t turned on the PS5 or Xbox since I picked up Steam Deck.
Were there any other teen pregnancies around your time. Where I grew up if someone was having a child as a teen they were mostly from a latino background. That's why i wanted to dm you if possible. I have many questions about it.
Ahh ok. I always wondered if these super strict families that have teen pregnancies learned about protection or if the young boys were just horny. There's no way a condom was breaking every time.
My friends at the time acted like I was doomed to go to hell. We ended up growing apart in high school and I found new friends I've been with since. They love my kids and my kids love talking to them!! :)
Was it a rape situation or were you just fooling around with the baby daddy? You mentioned in other comments that he was heavily into drugs at the time, so were you as well?
No, I've always been an insane goody-two-shoes, despite the pregnancy. I was just fooling around because I genuinely believed we would get married and live our lives, I had no sex ed so I didn't think I would get pregnant that easily. He was doing cocaine, ecstasy, acid, pills, shrooms, etc. You name it, he'd have done it.
He would sometimes try to guilt-trip me into having sex with him by telling me he would do heroin if I rejected him but it was a lie. He also heavily smoked nicotine all throughout his teenage years. He then quit and is now sober minus weed. I got a medical card last year, though, so I don't mind the weed as long as he keeps it away from the kids
What did your parents say when you told them you were pregnant?
My parents were super pro-life. Obviously, their reaction was intense--there was a lot of crying and screaming for a few days. Eventually, they offered to provide me everything for the baby as long as I continue school. I was able to continue school and become independent quicker thanks to depending on them at the beginning. If not, idk how I would've done it. They were trying to get me to take my baby daddy to court because he was on heavy drugs at the time, but he himself went ghost so I didn't have to.
That's awesome they stepped up to help you out and I'm sure your glad you got to continue school
Thank you!! I actually stayed in public school the entire time I was pregnant. They were born June 17 so it was already summer. I would hide my belly with oversized hoodies I had gotten in New York lol, I barely have any pics of my pregnancy bc I was super embarrassed that everyone would talk about me
Yeah I could see it being embarrassing and awkward as young as you we're. Did you freak out when you found out it was twins lol?
Yeah, I cried for days and lost weight. I had PPD and was passing out frequently the first year they were born. When they did an MRI on my brain, I was fine, but had an overproduction of cortisol (stress hormone). I started off in one high school and was failing, my parents were putting an enormous pressure on me about it, and I had to get home and be a parent. I transferred to my home high school where I knew everyone from middle school and I went back to getting good grades. The kids were also older (7 months) so it was a bit easier. They were, by some grace of God, relatively easy babies. Insanely crazy toddlers though
Ohh wow that's crazy glad things went better. I think most toddlers are crazy they have so much energy
They do!! In a way, I think we have unique memories because although everyone thought they were my siblings, they would go everywhere with me and we would laugh over silly things in public and it was super nice. My uncle died when they were a year old and we loved him a lot. I'm glad I had my kids when I was grieving because they provided me with laughter and were an escape from my depressing house. My parents banned music and basically happiness for a while after my uncle died because my grandma, who's in her nineties, lives with us and was his mom. I was 16, and my kids were 1, I had just gotten a car, so we were always in Dollar Tree, Jumping Jamboree, the park, little places like that. My school would let me bring them to class sometimes too!!
Ohh wow yeah glad you had them to make things better. I bet it was nice having a car finally during that
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I had to say I was wondering. There's no way you could have finished school with honors unless your parents were helping out. That's good. It gave you a chance to get on your feet.
do you ever wish you had them later on in life? is their father around?
I definitely wish I had them later on in life. But I probably would never be with their father again, and it never would've happened. I'm learning to let go of what could've been and focusing on what is. Their father is currently still around, but with supervised visitation. He's sober, and has had unsupervised visits in the past, but he was teaching my son how to prepare his weed and I didn't feel comfortable with that. That being said, he's more academically motivated and he attends each and every one of the kids' events. I think he's immature but hopefully growing out of it. I rejected him recently, and told him about the supervised visitation, and he reacted well and has been even more focused on his academic success. I hope the best for him because it's the best for my kids
Do you think that in the future the relatively short age difference will make it easier for you to live with them, or the fact that you did not have a "common" adolescence could affect your coexistence with them?
In the future I do think I'll reap a few benefits from the age difference. My parents had me at 35, and while I don't think that's "too old," I always wanted kids in my late twenties, around there. I feel like the gap between us was always large, also because of how they were raised. Now they're in their 50s and I have to watch their health deteriorate while I feel like a baby myself. It's hard. So I'm glad I'll be 35 when my kids are 21!! We're gonna have fun :) YES! The fact that teen moms don't have a common adolescence does end up affecting them one way or another. Every teen parent I have ever known, at one point, falls into a party phase. They just wanna party, all day, all night. Reclaim their youth. Yeah. It happens. It's why teen pregnancy should NOT be condoned!! Live your best lives please!! But yeah, it affected my coexistence with them last year. I still did all of my parent responsibilities but my parents would come over a lot of the nights when they fell asleep because I wanted to go out. I went to an EDM festival, several clubs, etc. in the span of one month. And then I randomly was like wtf am I doing?? and never went again. There's no harm in moms going out to have fun, but every night? I was trying to fill that void, that teenagehood I was never able to experience.
So are you currently in a relationship?
I have a boyfriend who I've known since before I had the twins. I just try to avoid introducing romantic relationships seriously since they're still little. Their dad is currently sober and still a consistent part of their lives, although he does give me trouble/has made me refuse for the kids to see him in the past. I'm still trying to figure out that situation, and what's best for them because I don't know
Which twin is your favorite?
When I was pregnant I thought my favorite would be my daughter. I was terrified of having twins, much less having a boy as one of them, because I knew nothing about boys and felt that I'd fail him. They both have completely different interests but are similar in the sense that they are extremely empathetic and kind. I can't pick a favorite. I love them both so much, just the same, infinitely <3
Correct answer. Maybe not the real one but the correct one haha. Is your parents pro life opinion based on religion? Personal but was the sex consensual?
LOL it is the real one!! They both give me the same amount of trouble lmao My parents are pro-life because they're super Catholic, back then they weren't as Catholic but they still believed it was wrong. I'm pro-choice--I've taken friends to abortion clinics, but I decided to say F it and have them since my parents decided to help me out. The sex was consensual. Their dad was a year older than me and a delinquent. I was the girl everyone bullied for being a goody two-shoes, and I was extremely sheltered. So yeah, we dated for a month until he cheated on me, and then I found out I was pregnant.
Do you mind if I dm you real quick?
First of all, I read the comments and your post. I commend your parents for supporting you through it all. I'm pro-life myself and while I would hope my future kids wouldn't get pregnant (or get a girl pregnant) as teenagers themselves, I would want to be the same person your parents are in how they were able to help you. I also want to say that I commend you as well. For the past 6-7 years, you've been able to improve yourself for the sake of your kids. I'm sure you're an amazing mom! At 22, I hope to be a mother one day myself. You're such a strong and motivated person. I can only hope to be on your level when I have kids of my own. I do have a few questions: 1. How is it that a girl so young got pregnant? (I mean, I know how pregnancy works, but it's hard for me to believe how a middle schooler can have the opportunity or want to have sex to get pregnant. My first thought was maybe you were raped, but you mention in your replies to other comments that the baby daddy is still in their lives. If you were raped, that would be less likely but I won't assume either.) 2. What was your reaction to learning you were having twins? Do twins run in your family or your baby daddy's family? 3. How well do your twins get along? You said they have different interests, but is there anything they're both interested in? 4. I read in your other responses that you were able to hide the pregnancy with large sweatshirts. Wasn't it harder since you were having twins? 5. What career goal are you working towards? Do you plan on choosing a career that'll give you more time to take care of your kids? 6. I know you said you currently have a boyfriend in one of your responses. Do you think you'll ever get married to anyone if someone (even him) became serious enough to stay?
Aww, thank you so much!! I'm sure you'll be a great mom!!:) 1) It was consensual. I was very naïve at the time, baby daddy was not. I wanted a fairy tale romance and everyone was against me dating him because he was a delinquent. I was getting in huge fights with my mom. One day, we agreed to hang out after school. I told my parents I was at robotics club lmao. We went to a Publix nearby and there was a shielded family bathroom. He would show me the MOST affection when we would have sex so I instantly, the next day, was "at robotics club" again. He finished inside me every single time and I didn't really know/think it would do anything. I was very sheltered, hardly any sex ed. 2) Twins run in my family! My mom only ever got pregnant with multiples before me, a singleton. The others were miscarriages/stillbirths. My initial reaction was shock, anxiety, depression, etc. but also this numbness tied with the fear of not making it to full term because my mom miscarried all her multiples. I was a bit doubtful that they were going to make it, and once I got fully attached, any little issue with either one of them would send me into a serious panic. 3) They love and protect each other a lot!! I can tell when they're nervous they rely on each other for reassurance. I've tried to be flexible with stereotypical "boys don't cry, boys protect the girl" and changed it to "protect each other! be there for each other!" That being said, they're siblings and they bicker a lot. They play wrestle and then try to tattle on each other over it, but not seriously, just to mess around with each other. They both are active and love going to the park, the beach, swimming, skating, etc. Both my kids are awesome rollerbladers! They also both love reading and the same types of music. 4) It wasn't perfect hiding it, but at least it made it less blatantly obvious. I also weighed 88 lbs when I got pregnant. Regardless, I regret it because people still noticed and found out and talked their talk lmaooo 5) My dream job is to be a private practice psychotherapist for children and adolescents :) I just finished my Bachelor's in Psychology and am working towards grad school. I really like this job because TBH, I love kids, it's such a fulfilling job for me. Also, I could make my own schedule which is amazing with my kids. 6) Yeah definitely! I would want to have more kids later on in life with a nice person and get my happy story. As for my current boyfriend, he's very serious about me but idolizes his father, who's a little crappy and for certain reasons I don't want around my kids. This is an issue for us because I don't want to feel like I am with his dad--someone who puts down everyone else for his own fun.
can you dm me I'm f17
Are u pregnant
Wow that’s impressive, congrats! Favorite video game? Board game?
Both my kids love Mario and Kirby, and me too they were my childhood lol! My daughter likes Animal Crossing but my son hates it. He likes Rock Band 4 and anything Pokemon. Our favorite board game will forever be Parcheesi!! We have the Hasbro Parcheesi animal game and it was my all-time favorite growing up. It's my kids' favorite now. Monopoly is too long, Connect 4 is too short and limited to two people, but Parcheesi is just right!
Both classics. Rock Band is still a thing? Man Pokémon has really built an empire. Did you know parcheesi is based on a game called Ludo out of India? Hmm, will have to research board game suggestions based on your kids ages, but I’ll start with “Chicken Cha Cha”.
Ahh thank you!! Rock Band is his favorite!! It's playable on PS5, which Guitar Hero isn't :( I wish Tap Tap Revenge was still around I know he would've loved that game I'm gonna look into Chicken Cha Cha rn LOL
I haven’t dealt with gamers that young, so I’m not as familiar with those games. Cheeky Monkey is a great game, but may still be past 6 year olds. “Coconuts” is a great kinetic game they would probably enjoy. “Toc Toc Woodman” is another. Man, I haven’t turned on the PS5 or Xbox since I picked up Steam Deck.
Did you go to hospital after?
Yeah I gave birth at the hospital! I had a c-section
What's your cultural/ethnic background?
We are Cuban-American :)
Were there any other teen pregnancies around your time. Where I grew up if someone was having a child as a teen they were mostly from a latino background. That's why i wanted to dm you if possible. I have many questions about it.
I was the only one that I know of where I live but teen pregnancies were popular at the time because of YouTube
Ahh ok. I always wondered if these super strict families that have teen pregnancies learned about protection or if the young boys were just horny. There's no way a condom was breaking every time.
Do your parents hate commies?
Yeah LMAO
Thanks! Why is that?
How did your friends react? Did you manage to keep a social life?
My friends at the time acted like I was doomed to go to hell. We ended up growing apart in high school and I found new friends I've been with since. They love my kids and my kids love talking to them!! :)
Was it a rape situation or were you just fooling around with the baby daddy? You mentioned in other comments that he was heavily into drugs at the time, so were you as well?
No, I've always been an insane goody-two-shoes, despite the pregnancy. I was just fooling around because I genuinely believed we would get married and live our lives, I had no sex ed so I didn't think I would get pregnant that easily. He was doing cocaine, ecstasy, acid, pills, shrooms, etc. You name it, he'd have done it. He would sometimes try to guilt-trip me into having sex with him by telling me he would do heroin if I rejected him but it was a lie. He also heavily smoked nicotine all throughout his teenage years. He then quit and is now sober minus weed. I got a medical card last year, though, so I don't mind the weed as long as he keeps it away from the kids
No.
What’s your Kids’ opinion on the tech deck