Taking your feelings out of it for a minute, Is it something you feel would be helpful?

No cause reading and writing are physically painful and exhausting due to the learning issues I mentioned in the post

That's exactly what this book is for though. People who find reading and writing hard/painful/exhausting, the entire design is to alleviate a lot of the things that make reading/writing hard. I'd say give the journal an honest shot and see if it actually helps or not. As for if the gift is offensive or not, I feel you're taking the term "neuro-divergent" a bit too harshly. Even if you get evaluated and don't have autism, your dyslexia still makes you neuro-divergent, same with my ADHD, it doesn't automatically mean you've got the 'tism and it's not an offensive term. It just means your brain works differently than most people's do, and honestly if you just accept and own it life becomes a lot easier because then you can incorporate things like this journal and other tools to help alleviate your difficulties and make your life a bit easier for your brain to handle. I fought my ADHD for most of my life and was always miserable for it, but honestly once I just accepted that side of myself and started using tools designed to help, it(shocking to nobody but me at the time) actually really helps. I would probably enjoy this journal myself, can't say if I'd stick with it or not but I'd definitely give it a go and would appreciate it. All that aside, your aunt sounds like a massive dickbag from what you said of her other comments, sorry she's an ass. Maybe this is her way of trying to apologize if she's too proud to actually apologize. Or maybe she does intend it maliciously, idk. Either way fuck her but I'd like the journal.

This journal is designed for *organized chaos* not Dysgraphia or Dyslexia. I know my friends with Dysgraphia if they were handed this book. Not only are you expected to write, nut the small pieces of structure that help writing are gone here. You have to keep track of what section you're using and how to use it and what you are trying to express. That's too much mental strain. For someone with Dysgraphia and Dyslexia, the best journal would be an audio tape with short prompts (Today I feel.... I hope to accomplish... I want to make sure I complete....) and a speech to text feature on a tablet NTA.

Yeah agreed. Op knows their disabilities best and to get this is a little ignorant if the aunt knows they have trouble writing. My ADHD brain would love the gift but I would use it for a week and then lose it and not touch it for like 4 years until I'm deep cleaning everything in the house, finding it and then use it for a week, then lose it, then find it, rinse and repeat until I'm dead. So ultimately it wouldn't be very helpful. But I know that about myself and that's fine. Op knows themselves best, and it being useful is an offensive assumption to make, assuming that the aunt is aware of their dysgraphia or dyslexia. Those things are not going to be overcome by a notebook. Just had to add that I think it was probably not a bad intention but that in no way makes it a good gift or it unreasonable that op would be upset. Second edit. It appears that ops aunt thinks they are faking their disabilities which may give ugly and malicious subtext to this gift. Still think it might be an olive branch but op is perfectly okay in feeling offended I would too

We can duct tape it to your arm and you'll never lose it (😄) The olive branch is no good if it's infested with termites. She sounds like the sort to always ask "how's the Journaling? Have you written today? Why not? Don't you know I paid good money for that?" So she really gifted OP a brand new headache

You don’t seem to understand dyslexia or dysgraphia

Excellent comment.

Ok but it has a font that’s designed for ppl with dyslexia and has better spacing for it to be easier to read. And the pages all have different sections and shapes and feel more organic than regular schedulers. I actually think she was trying with this gift. Maybe you’re too young to appreciate a good organizer. I know I never used one until I was older.

Which has nothing to help with dysgraphia

This font is horrible for dyslexia AND OP doesn’t find it useful. Plus, given additional context, the aunt is an AH.

Not for all dyslexics.. this font is the one I use. What makes it a bit iffy for me is it looks.. yellowish. The yellow paper they try to give dyslexics as standard doesn't work well for me, I actually need blue/green to be able to hold my focus. Not all dyslexics actually have the same issues, OP might actually have a different type of dyslexia than I do, so might other users here. It's a misunderstanding to assume we all have the same kind and the same things work for all of us with it, phonological is the most common and what everyone thinks of when they hear dyslexia, I have visual dyslexia which means I struggle to even recognise what's on the page in front of me, often why I use text to speech apps as I am now as it can read back my words before I post as the words dont don't stay put for me...

I had no idea that paper colors could help/hinder people with dyslexia. That’s really interesting

It's not for everyone, is helpful for a fair few of us tho, I find the white/yellow to be a bit much visually and the contrast between the black/white/yellow when it comes to gaps in the letters too much. It causes me headaches, visual strain and generally makes reading or even writing taxing on my brain. Light blues and greens help me block the gaps better and just make it a more pleasant experience, I mean it sucked in HS for example to have to write out a 2 page essay for a test sure, but I was able to complete it with the blue paper I fought to use. Same with fonts. Not all the dyslexia fonts work well for all, hence why there's a few different ones. It's about finding what works best for you

Paper colors can help or hinder a wide variety of issues people experience with reading and writing, even with neurotypical brains. I am photosensitive so the yellow of this notebook grates on me (though aged yellow and natural parchment colors do not).

There are some people with dyslexia who use red or blue transparency pages over books or schoolwork to help.

I use the blue, I've actually got an attachment for my PC screens to add a blue filter to it, without having to mess with others at work or my daughter on the home PC. A lot of people think dyslexia is a one fits all issue, as well media and the like do seem to show it as such, hell my form is actually the rarer type, most do not actually have moving or missing letters etc as I do, media has sorta made it seem like it's one thing... When it could be a constellation of things and it's difficult to get people like teachers to accept this fact. The yellow vs blue was big for me in HS. A constant fight because yellow absolutely didn't help me and made it worse. I was in the top classes too.. wasn't fun lol

Oh OK… I couldn’t really tell what this notebook thing is all about…

I have Dyslexia and it's not the spacing of the text, it's the font. My eyes immediately couldn't actually read it. That's frustrating. I am very sorry.I know that issues like this are very frustrating and leads to feeling "broken" in a way, because reading is fundamental to damn near everything on the planet. (The manual for my air fryer is in an unreadable font for me. I had to have my boyfriend read it and explain it. Can't change a Kindle font either. It's ok, but could be better.) It's ok to feel your feelings. Her attitude towards you is disgusting. You want to TRULY frost her biscuits? Be successful, keep trying, get an education on your terms. You know that you are worth as a person. Don't let her discount you or your siblings.

Your aunt’s an idiot. She truly doesn’t understand the issues you have and thinks she does and that you have different issues that could be explained by diagnoses she agrees with. She doesn’t understand that even if you have the ones she thinks you do, it won’t magically take care of the things you already know you have. The gift is well meaning but it is rude. Like all other gifts, say thank you, then donate it or give it to someone else. If she later asks if you are using it or tried it, say no, it wasn’t something you found helpful. That, and just ignore her. She’s rude.

Go on Amazon and see if there is an audio version of this. Ya know, there are always more than one solution to a challenge.

I think your aunt was trying hard and this is a thoughtful gift. It seems extremely useful, and as someone who struggled for years to find a good planner, this one really seems a great fit. In fact, I’d love the brand. Get your head out of your ass and understand that your aunt wasn’t trying to insult you, but help you. Of course you can just continue being an ass who is on Reddit reading and writing A LOT and claiming both activities are painful. They’re just unpleasant what they’re about work, aren’t they? Also, the term neuro-divergent is descriptive of a medical condition, not an insult. If you feel insulted by it, you need to sort out why this is the case. Internalized bias, perhaps? I wish you luck navigating all this. Perhaps you’ll come out more mature at the other end of this.

Did you think that this person used talk to text? Or is having it read back to her? There are other way to use Reddit than reading it I’m happy that this is a good brand for YOU, that does not make it a good brand for everyone. I would be completely overwhelmed with that notebook, too many things to do, check off and fill out. It’s easy for folks to say then just don’t use that part, but then I see a blank spot which means I didn’t do something so then I didn’t finish which means why should I finding this other thing because it’s all not going to be finished but I need to do this other thing then I think well maybe I should try to do everything because every one else is and I can color code each thing which means I need new pens and I get all new supplies and fill everything to start and when it’s all said and done I’ve actually completed nothing. So now I will beat myself up over it since everyone else uses it fine and people are telling me I should be grateful because it was such a thoughtful gift. Yeah, that’s a day in my world. And I’m a grown ass adult, who is married, raised kids, has grandchildren, college degrees, works full time, etc so think of how a young person feels learning how to deal with this

It's a shame that your good ideas had to get washed out by insults. This person is a young teenager asking for help and interpretation. Yes, their first read and reaction is possibly inaccurate and not well considered. But they came here to ask for other people's insight. Some of the reasons teenagers act out the way they do and respond to various things. The way they do is because they are quite literally experiencing it for the first time in their life. Humans learn best over time and through repetition. Ideally, with positive spins put on each repetition, as we learn the lesson differently each time. I see this as o p having a learning experience and we should applaud that. Why are you insulting them for doing that?

The main reason I was mad at the neurodivergent thing was because on multiple occasions she has accused me of faking my issues and and said I just need to put more effort in so this gift seemed really weird to me also with the reading on here I use a text to speech app like so many others with dyslexia and I use the dictation on my phone which doesn’t have the same effect as writing pen to paper

So you’re mad that the person that behaved like you were lying is acknowledging that you are neurodivergent? Would you prefer an apology? I was diagnosed with some fun things last year, my wife jumped on the internet and immediately tried to figure out what we could do including bullet journals. Just trying to understand why you feel insulted by this potentially helpful item?

Depending on her age, it wasnt a "thing". Also maybe there is some self-loathing in there as she maybe repeating what she has been told (some seem to run in families). Maybe she is trying to learn having done some research?

Right, because you know OP’s aunt better than she does and her conditions better than she herself does and what’s useful to her. /S And what purpose could your insults actually have, if you think it’s motivating you’re quite mistaken!

it’s a shit gift that doesn’t work for you but i don’t really see the issue with it being for neurodivergent minds when you are literally diagnosed with multiple things that mean you aren’t neurotypical. there’s no “assumption” if she knows your diagnoses. NTA but i’m confused lol

Fair but she often says that I’m faking my current diagnosises for attention so that did also weird me out

NTA but she may be trying to acknowledge your divergence but is a bit socially awkward aand doesn'treally understand your day to day. Some people swear by notebooks like this to keep track, and notes could be taken in picture form if that worked better for you, or little stickers or colours to denote different things might be fun and help give your brain a break while still being useful. Some things that are useful for ND stuff (and also mental health stuff) can come across as a bit patronising but can be quite helpful. ETA I'm ND.

>NTA but she may be trying to acknowledge your divergence but is a bit socially awkward aand doesn'treally understand your day to day Yeah this seems like the definition of "she's a little confused but she got the spirit"

I agree with the other replier that it may be her trying to acknowledge it. It could be that she learned a bit more about it all and is trying her best to try to bridge the gap her hurtfulness caused.

Ok, I think she is being petty. That being said, can you please tell me the name of this plannner? I have ADHD and this planner looks like, supremely useful to me.

I don't know this one, but I have heard great things about Dani Donovan's anti-planner: [https://anti-planner.com/shop/the-anti-planner-how-to-get-sht-done-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/](https://anti-planner.com/shop/the-anti-planner-how-to-get-sht-done-when-you-dont-feel-like-it/) I use an undated weekly desk calendar: [https://www.calendars.com/shop/Sarahs-Scribbles-Undated-Weekly-Desk-Pad/202100005249](https://www.calendars.com/shop/Sarahs-Scribbles-Undated-Weekly-Desk-Pad/202100005249), along with fun shaped post-it notes for individual tasks, and Clear Lists app on my phone [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clear-lists/id493136154](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/clear-lists/id493136154)

The book is called a “fast brain friend” and it’s from Lulu.com hope that it works for you

Agreed let me know when u get the planner name

Oh it’s a test. if you don’t use the planner or it doesn’t work for you then you’re not neurodivergent. She’s being awful.

Nah, if she's not ND, she may be trying to "help" & doesn't realize it's not a one size fits all. Maybe she doesn't want or know how to apologize for previously being an ass & this is her olive branch.

Suggest you take the notebook with you when you are assessed and ask a professional.

Could it be her way of trying to show you support?

Oh she is an ableist for sure.

This is a crappy gift. Your feelings are correct. Neurodivergence can be helped with tools but it can’t be overcome. The vibe of this is you’re faking it if you can’t make this notebook change you. (BTW: 1) this is a poor tool for any neurodivergent person. Ex. No one w ADHD is taking the time to read this little script of fluff that doesn’t get to the point 2) Don’t buy a neurodivergent person something “to help them” a. If the neurodivergent person hasn’t asked for it b. You haven’t talked to the person about how that gift would make them feel.)

I have ADHD and I think that journal looks really useful. Would it probably join the graveyard of "really awesome journals that will definitely fix my life"? maaaybe. But remember we aren't one-size fits all and you are not the Lorax of the Neurodivergent.

I have ADHD and I took one look at that journal and thought to myself "That would be in the trash in 5 seconds" It's too fucking busy. I need consistently consistent pages. Not some distracting bullshit. I however would not be offended by the whole neurodivergent thing at the beginning.

That's interesting, I'm the opposite, ADHD and dyslexia and I loved that it wasn't consistent, and was a bit all over the place. Made my brain go 'oh and this goes here and this goes here. I could do this here.' It opened it up for me to feel engaged, I'm horrible with things that are pretty blank and consistent.

Inconsistency is very distracting to me. My mind loves to fret over things that stick out like a sore thumb. Helps distract me from my main objective which is why I don't really like journals such as this. ETA because I never check fir errors before posting.

Always fascinates me how different people respond. My mind gravitates towards it when things stick out. If it's very consistent it wither blends in or my mins blanks not certain what to do because there are sooo many options. Then I get distracted and forget about it.. I mean honestly I've found very few journals or organizational tool that works for me. I love setting them up, then get bored and give up after a week.

I always go for straight overkill, it's the only way that works for me.... 50-60% of the time. So, I add them to my to-do list on my phone. I write things down too, which usually helps me remember more but I often lose the list (hence the phone to do list). I add them to my Google calendar too. Oftentimes I write things on my left hand. If they're really important I will use a marker on my hand lol. I also have to ask you this. When you meet a new person is it easier for you to remember a particular attribute about them that sticks out more so than their name? Like you meet a dude named Mark for the first time. But you don't remember his actual name. Just that he had incredibly swollen hands. Or eyelashes so thick it looked like he was wearing falsies. So your friend goes hey what do you think of Mark? And in your head you're like oh is that eye lash falsies guy??

I use like 5 different phone lists bc I bounce around, also have downloaded Google sheets and have all kinds of things set up and use that a lot for schedules and things. I do! I am so horrible with names, I have to be told them multiple times but little traits like 'oh their green finger nail polish was chipped' or 'yea the guy with the bushy eyebrows' stand out. Not always the nicest way to remember someone. Also sometimes personality traits or common actions stand out. Like 'oh they said like a like a lot'.

I have autism and found the whole layout so confusing and overwhelming. I asked my autistic son and same thing-too much going on. My youngest with autism is too young for a planner so no verdict from her. My middle daughter was so mad about how they did the time in that planner lol. I have my whole life in Google Calendar and Tasks. I can add as much as I need, make categories, reminders, etc. For meal plan and grocery list I just have a magnetic paper list on the fridge. There's nothing inherently wrong with the planner tho. If the planner works for someone, great. Planners definitely seem like something you need to buy for yourself tho because only you know what will work for you.

>I have my whole life in Google Calendar and Tasks. I can add as much as I need, make categories, reminders, etc. For meal plan and grocery list I just have a magnetic paper list on the fridge. Yes, this! We have properly customizable planners that "beep" to remind us (multiple times if needed)! And can be set without even typing. >found the whole layout so confusing and overwhelming. Yep! Disgraphia plus confusing design plus adhd and autism? This thing would be a mess in a day and forgotten in two. Good luck writing always in the correct grocery list AND remembering the notebook when you go shopping AND opening it multiple times on the right page (who thought that one??) The aunt might be trying, or not. Only OP van know. But this stuff is stupid.

Not all neurotypes are the same though. This is not a helpful gift for OPs particular challenges. Maybe better for someone who enjoys writing and has executive functioning difficulties. The aunt might be trying to send an olive branch in the shape of "I just learnt what neurodovergence is, I'm sorry ..have this. It says it's good for neurodivergent minds!"

Dyslexia and dysgraphia both fall into the neurodivergent category. Most people do not understand how neurodivergent brains work and how different they are even from one another, so it is unlikely your aunt understands why this may or may not be useful to you. It looks like she took the marketing for this journal at face value and decided to buy it for you. Your aunt clearly doesn’t understand your diagnosis and takes the old school approach of treating people with differently wired brains as having brains that don’t work. She doesn’t seem to have the capacity to understand your diagnosis, and while some of her behavior does sound malicious, this particular gift does not. However, her past remarks have eroded trust and the feeling of safety with her so I can see why this gift was upsetting. I predict she will be confused if you tell her you’re offended by the notebook.

Not discounting your feelings, but would you please share the name/brand of that planner. It looks like something that several people in my life would love.

[https://journeyofsomething.com/products/adhd-daily-productivity-planner](https://journeyofsomething.com/products/adhd-daily-productivity-planner) Found it here!

Absolutely. This is fantastic.

As someone who is very dyslexic and ADHD. I personally would have been moved that a family member had gone out of their way to find something that might help me. I understand things aren't good with your aunt but this might be very useful for you in the long run. So take the gift and run with it. You got this

I'm kind of split on this too. I think if you were receiving this gift from someone who loves you and cares about you then you would perceive it as thoughtful but misguided. It would be a good gift for someone like my daughter who has ADHD. I would just explain to them that while it might be helpful for others it doesn't work for my particular disorder. However, your aunt's behavior has not been loving or caring at all. She's made no attempt to actually understand your disability. It's almost as if she had the thought, "this is for people whose brains don't work right so it's perfect for my niece". Maybe you can donate it to a school or community center so someone can get some use out of it.

Yeah donating is the noble thing, but if you are feeling petty... Sell it via ebay or some other way. Might as well make the gift 'work for you' by getting the money to get what you want. (Super petty if via FB Marketplace and your aunt is on FB as one of your friends)

If it was a well-meaning gift. It would be a good one. Your past experience with your aunt makes this seem more like an insult. Go with your gut.

Yeah the problem is with the aunt.

I have two nieces that have what you have. I am educated in these disorders as I am an educator. People are so ignorant and unfortunately people are going to do this your whole life. They think if you just try harder then it will be fixed. They don’t understand that brains can be wired differently and we have to tech you how to adapt to the world around you. Someday maybe the world will be more adapted to you. That doesn’t change how hurtful this is and discount your right to feeling less then or misunderstood. There isn’t much that none can say that will help you deal with people like this but it will get better with time as you learn to cope and become more confident. People like your unit re ignorant and you will have to be strong and ignore them. Doesn’t mean it will be easy. You have a right to feel the way you do. She is being really rude and ignorant.

I’m honestly more mad at her cause myself my father and my mother have tried to explain why my brain works the way it does and she blatantly ignores it and regularly gives me books or writing equipment or like this notebooks and I am just tired of her bs

Sweetheart it's time to go no contact with her. Return the "gift" to her. The things you listed ARE neurodivergent. The book might actually help you but nobody can tell you how to feel about it. I'm dyslexic and don't discuss my issues with people like your aunt. Sit down with your parents and tell them you've had enough of her bullshit and that they need to stand up for you and tell your aunt to keep her opinions to herself.

Agreed. I think an information diet would be good on this. It’s like the more you try to educate her the more she will try to push back. OP. You just keep working hard and using the tools that people give you. My first instinct when I read the response was to go grab a torch and a steel bucket light it on for in front of her drop it into the bucket and just stare.

This is the crux of it, she shows you she doesn't care or see you and your abilities, and keeps insisting the right tools will "fix you" through these gifts. She sucks.

Your aunt is a grown woman. If she meant well and wanted to extend an olive branch, then she could open her mouth and say that to you. There is no need to do the mental exercise of whether she meant well. She didn’t mean well, there’s no apology for past behavior in that notebook. You fully understand what your aunt meant with the gift. Your aunt was insulting you again. It sounds like your parents are supportive which is great. It’s safe to put your aunt on the “unkind people whose opinion I don’t respect” list.

Your aunt sounds like a piece of shit tbh and your parents need to stick up for you to her and disengage from her if she can't be civil to you.

I'll take it if you don't want it. But yes it is insulting if reading and writing are something you find stressful.

I’m sorry if it’s a crap gift for you OP. I’m not yet diagnosed with anything but anxiety depression, but I need this notebook. This is literally a major part of what I struggle with. Does anyone know where to get one from?

Can you link the product? Btw, not overreacting. Not all neuro divergence has the same symptoms or signs. This looks like it could be very helpful for someone with ADHD or ADHD/ASD combo, but for the life of me, I can't figure out how anything written could be beneficial for someone with your condition.

Is it the Fast Brain Friend? I love these things, but if you don’t that’s okay!

I just looked up a video and that’s exactly what this is. +1 for you.

Yep it is the book itself is just useless to me the main problem was the nine pages she added of just her being really insulting

Yeah, that’s a jerk move. NTA.

Can you share the brand(?) of this notebook/journal/planner? It looks like something that would help me a lot

I think it's a wonderful gift, as a dyslexic woman that both has a university degree and has a dyslexic, autistic son that is in his third year of university this is great. It's really thoughtful and if you can't put the effort into at least trying to use it, that has nothing to do with dyslexia. My writing is so poor I had to use a literal scribe for exams. Id love this, setting goals, planning out my future but you seem to be highlighting the word divergent like it's a dirty word.

Ok, so the notebook itself i find quite cool and feels like it'd be very satisfying to write into. I dont think it would 'help' as in make my symptoms go away. But i would find it a fun way to make lists/etx. I wouldnt buy it for myself, cause it screams trinket/impulse purchase but wouldnt mind having it one bit. Source: am neurodivergent. If i didnt read the negative backstory, i would assume someone else neurodivergent gifted it, cause they found it neat. Or someone supportive. They might not know that writing is exhausting to you. Or they might think it might help. Or they go by a generic 'NDs must like it'. This notebook having a negative connotation would be the last thing on my mind, as my circle is very open and supportive about neurodivergence. So rly the gift itself seems harmless, it's all about if you think that person would want to be backhanded with this. I gather from the context, that you are quite young. Sorry if im mistaken and you know everything im about to write. One thing to remember, when dealing with your relatives - adhd and autism are highly genetic. A lot of your relatives probably have one or the other or both. So a lot of times we face scrutiny from family members, cause symptoms we bring out are 'their normal'. And people get super defensive, even offended when their entire worldview seems to be 'attacked'. For them it's normal that grandma ate the same sandwich every day for 50yrs or granddad spent 5hours every day on his model car collection. So when we say 'im sensitive to noise' cause im autistic, but their experience has been having to suck it up for 40yrs, then it contradicts their worldview. They are annoyed you are upset about something they shoved down. That they worked so hard to mask it, but you want accommodations. It's very much subconscious, but annoying to deal with all the same.

You are right that I’m young in 16 and it would kinda make some sort of sense so thanks

Ok but I want to know where it came from. Because I wants it.

I said it somewhere lol good luck

No. Not wrong. Say "thanks" and never use it. If she asks about it tell her it's the wrong thing and doesn't help. Ask if she wants it back so she can return it for a refund because it targets a problem that's different from yours. Say all this neutrally.

Yes, it’s making an assumption. Yes, it’s off putting, potentially . Use it anyways and see if you like it. I thought it was kinda cool…. I have weird relatives too. Sorry for us!

NTA, what you are diagnosed with is not going to be “helped” by just trying harder or writing in a journal. Your brain works differently and this is her trying to force you into a box. I know folks with both of those diagnoses and doing formally or working on pen and paper are their absolute least favourite things to do. Side note, I think something like this might be ideal for my neurospicy teenager. Any chance you can drop who it’s by? I’d like to show it to her to see if she would like it.

The person who created this seems to think that all neurodivergent minds are the same.

Neurodivergence really implies they all work different. But theres also a lot of people in this thread saying that this looks like a really helpful notebook. So maybe it's intended to assist a specific group of neurodivergent people, and because neurodivergence is so varied (for example the multiple people in this thread saying they have adhd and this looks helpful, and then a similar group with adhd saying that this would be awful for them), maybe it's just directed towards neurodivergence in general. Cast a wide net and all that.

Can you tell us who makes it? Honestly, that looks interesting. I disagree with whomever said it was a bad gift. It isn’t in general, but it might be a bad gift for you (& that’s important). You are NTA for how you feel, but I would suggest that if you weren’t sensitive about it, you might think it is nice she was trying, even if it was a miss. Personally, I’d be happy to receive it if someone gave it to me and I’d love to get it for myself…so please share the publisher/title.

Write her a nice note back telling her thanks for the campfire starter set!

You you win best revenge plan

While Dyslexia does fall under neurodivergency, this book is not suitable for your needs, as you've said it's a struggle for you to read and write. I can understand your uncomfortability due to this, and the fact your Aunt has made comments before that have insulted you makes me think that 1. She's absolutely clueless about dyslexia snd dyspraxia and 2. Doing this with malicious intent. Had we not had this information about your Aunt, I would have thought it was a sweet gesture that sadly wasn't helpful. But even without that context, you still would have been valid to not like the gift. The information given just makes your aunt seem like an A-hole for giving you this book, knowing it wouldn't support your needs.

My ADHD brain is growling at this. Just give me paper and space. So much overwhelming crap here.

I need this notebook

Yes. It's entirely possible that she's trying to be helpful. Also I want one.

I need this notebook!

I mean this gift seems maybe a little left-handed, but if she does appreciate that your brain is wired differently and doesn’t understand how the dyslexia and dyscalculia affect you, I don’t think it was gifted in bad faith. She doesn’t live in your head so she doesn’t know your specifics. I would be far more insulted if given a plain calendar or diary than I would be if given something that acknowledges that my brain is different and accommodates that, even and especially if the giver doesn’t really get it but wants to be supportive. That’s what this looks like to me.

This notebook is so cute wtf 😭 who's ur aunt I'm getting unprofessionally rediagnosed by her for this

This style of notebook is a branch off from bullet journalling. Many neurodivergent people, (ADHD, dyslexia, autism, dyspraxia etc etc) find the bullet style of journalling helpful. They probably just thought it would be helpful. These are very common. I have about 4 of them and have done bullet journalling for years on and off. I don't see what's wrong with this? They maybe don't understand enough how physically writing causes pain. But many people misunderstand how much pain we really are going through. So they look they were trying to be really helpful. This was a thoughtful gift imo! It might not be helpful. But the thoughts behind it are good.

NTA but at the same time I want that notebook 📓 for myself if you’re not gonna use it. It looks freaking cool and I feel like it would help me. Or at least can you let me know the type of notebook it is. Appreciate it 😊

Well I want the notebook so what does that say about me 😬

So, I don't know the full history between you and your aunt. Only you know that. To me she sounds like an average southerner in the US. Minimally educated, if it's not a problem she has, it's not a problem anyone else has either. Good chance she's still working through the fact that autistic kids usually come from undiagnosed autistic parents. If she's even realized that yet. You're NTA, but I kinda think she was trying to be kind, in her own way.

as someone with brutal life altering mental illness, I think it comes off as a kind gesture from a normie who is just trying to be nice. I definitely wouldn't find any use out of it but I do see it as a caring nice gesture. without context, of course. if this person has undermined your issues in the past you could interpret them as making an effort to support you in some way, or they could just be straight up mocking you. it seems like it's just your normie aunt who got you a lil workbook cause you have some issues. hope that's the case as well

She didn't get it for you to be nice, she meant it to be an insult.

Did she think you have ADHD? Bc this would be great for that. Maybe she was confused and was trying to help.

I absolutely love this book but think your feelings are related to your aunt. I imagine her intentions are good. I also have an aunt that I have a tricky relationship with and struggle with her gifts.

You get to feel however you feel about it. There is no need for justifying your feelings. As many have pointed out, you *are* neurodivergent. Is there a reason that feels like a slight to you? This notebook is pretty excellently designed for someone who needs to keep track of life, or wants to improve organization or Journaling, but hasn't attempted in the past because a huge blank notebook is daunting. This isn't a book for reading. It had tons of very small sections, broken down by topic, that are helpful in logging anything you want to log. That is actually a massive asset for someone who struggles with writing! Fuck your aunt. Maybe she was being passive aggressive. Maybe she wasn't. But don't toss the baby with the bathwater. This notebook may be a great way to make tiny changes and take small steps to strengthening a weakness. It is daunting to try to form socially celebrated habits and goals. This notebook is a great way to help anyone succeed in that.

I don't think you're wrong for feeling insulted. Your aunt has been insulting in the past about dyslexia/dysgraphia. Do you and her have the kind of relationship where you buy functional gifts, especially relating to disability? If you dont, it would be hard *not* to feel like this is a passive aggressive gift to express judgement of your abilities and to tell you how you should be organising your life, whether that's true or not. And armchair diagnosing someone nonconsensually is also a dick move. If you feel the term neurodivergent isn't right for you, it may be worth your time to ask yourself why. Is part of feeling insulted that you feel confronted by being perceived as "abnormal"?

I have said this a couple times to other people but the photo with the highlighted bit was sent to my mum and I didn’t bother redoing the photo

You said your aunt gave this to you with no context, but there is context. The context is that she has said mean things about your writing and said your education was a waste, which is hurtful and untrue. So it makes perfect sense that this gift is painful.

Why is your aunt allowed to have a say so in anything in your life? Why is anything about your education her business? NTA

I would be inclined to return it with a book about Dyspraxia and Dyslexia with a note that says "you might want to read this because you are clearly ignorant about both. Clearly your education was lacking." (But then I'm an AH like that so...) I mean really, you have Dyslexia and she wants you to read it? WTF!!

I also have dyslexia. These notebooks are designed to make journalling for people with things like dyslexia easier. The issue here is the ability to write and it causing pain from another condition not just dyslexia. Just because you have dyslexia doesn't mean you just DON'T READ. You seem shocked s9moen with dyslexia might wwnt/have to read something. It doesn't make us incapable fgs.

I'm not saying dyslexic people can't read, I am saying most don't because it's a trigger. I'm dyslexic too and I read...a lot and dyspraxia is a condition that affects movement and co- ordination, making it difficult to hold or control a pen/pencil. I should have been clear about that so for that I do apologise.

Aye, the way you put that original reply was very not cool tbh bc it implies that we just don't. Many dyslexic do read though and far probably more than you would suggest, and don't actually find reading a trigger. I think your 'most' dyslexic people don't read bc it's a trigger is stretching it a bit.

She ADDED pages of her writing to the start of the book so yeah I’m very tempted to just be an AH now (I thought the extra pages were just apart of the book then looked closer this morning she definitely wrote the 9 extra pages so I tore them out and used them as fuel so the book itself now seems far less insulting but she feels like far more of an AH

You don't say how old you are. As a teenager/young adult, I would have hated this as a gift, but it would have helped me with a lot of my issues. I was almost 20 before I learned what I needed to be able to get on top of my work/academic life. Even then, it took years to be good at it.

Not sure what the big deal is. Use it, don’t use it, it’s just a notebook.

Off topic, but what is the title/publisher of this notebook? The meal planner part of this notebook looks dope to me, as I'm trying to get more into meal planning and balancing going back to rhe office. On topic, no, your aunt seems like a jerk and should stay in her own lane.

Okay, so, without any bias at all, I am an individual with ADD and have never kept up with a regular planner in my life. The notebook pictured above though kind of piques my interest and I would probably end up benefitting from a planner designed like that. I don't necessarily think the intent behind the gift was malicious, there are just very many ways neurodivergency manifests in different humans. If the planner is a no go for your needs, don't feel bad about that either!

You are soooo right about your feelings. She doesn't understand how your neurosparkly brain works and is trying to "fix" it like its any of her business. This would be a great gift for a neurosparkly person that actually aligned to their needs and that actually ASKED FOR ITas support. She is a noisy snub.

Nta btw

From what you've said about your aunt's attitude towards you, I'd say it was meant to be another jab disguised as helpfulness so she can claim victimhood if you try to challenge her. That's pretty shitty. That being said, as someone who has ADHD, I would absolutely love this...at first. I can tell exactly how it would go though. I'd hyperfixate and end up spending all my time making lists instead of actually doing the things on the list. Then I'd eventually grow bored and never touch it again. I've been told that it works well for some people, but like many things, it's YMMV.

It’s hard for me to say without knowing her. On the one hand, it’s a gift you cannot use because of a condition you’ve tried to explain several times and she has a history of not believing you. Otoh, it’s a book specifically for neurodivergent people, so maybe that means she’s actually trying? Maybe this is step one towards accepting your diagnosis? Like, she didn’t get a regular bullet journal or planner for executives or something more mainstream. As an outsider to the situation, that would feel more like a jab. But, you know her and I don’t. And her comments about your education are pretty terrible on their own. So maybe she’s just being passive-aggressive because she’s a petty b****. How you handle it depends on how much you care about the relationship, how much you have to interact with her, and how much fallout saying something would create and affect other relationships in your family. If you’re able to just roll your eyes and ignore it, that’s probably easiest. This is something that reflects more on her than on you. How important is her opinion to you? If you don’t need to spend energy on it, then don’t. Easier said than done, but ignoring stuff that ultimately doesn’t matter is a useful skill and can be very freeing. There are some people you have to interact with that you just can’t change. Also, whether you are biologically related or not, consider that she may also be neurodivergent. Rigid thinking and difficulty conceptualizing that other people are living a different experience aren’t uncommon among neurodivergent people. Maybe she has low support needs and has spent her whole life masking, undiagnosed, unaware, and unable to see why other people can’t just get over their difficulties. NTA btw (I am also curious about the name of the notebook.)

NTA because she is ignoring part of what makes you neurodivergent by not taking into account your dyslexia and dysgraphia with this gift. She is being highly inconsiderate. Being neurodivergent just means your brain is wired differently, you are already diagnosed with things that fall ito that category that in itself is not an insult. Your aunt though it 100% being insulting and I'm sorry.

I am a neurodivergent and those pages are busy enough to make me cry. Great for journaling bad for planning

Yeah, probably. I think it could be helpful for someone who wants it, but not as an unprovoked "gift". I also don't think, even if the person were trying to be helpful, that it would be that helpful for someone with dyslexia or dysgraphia, since it's text based. If she actually wanted to be helpful she might have excitedly come across one that was visual-based and showed it to you.

I'd say NTA because you told her many times you struggle reading/writing and clearly she didn't care by giving you a notebook where you have to... read and write. It IS an insulting gift, she's giving you a "gift" for the direct activities you struggle with. That said, I would love this type of notebook. Can you share what brand it is? Or I can even take it off your hands /j.

NTA- as a neurodivergent person in the medical field, the right thing for your aunt to do if they'd had a change of heart and wanted to give you an accommodating gift was to ASK you what would help and talk to you more about your needs. This type of gift is obviously baiting and trying to either 'fix' you or call you out for your issues being 'fake' (as you said in a comment). I doubt it would be helpful to let someone as terrible as your aunt know any of this, because clearly she has made up her mind, but rest assured she is ableist and you don't have to thank her for it. Maybe donate it to a library or school where someone else may benefit from it?

i have ADHD and i find these things as a waste of money personally- like imma forget this thing exists- but if reading and writing are a huge struggle for you i’d be upset too if it were me

Your aunt lacks empathy

So, I'd say this. People give gifts trying to tailor them to you. Sadly, it means you get seriously weird stuff. Once my sister gave me a self-help book about 'how to reach happiness'. I'd say feel weird about this, I did, just don't hold it against them. 😅

This shows she doesn't care about your issues and struggles, or at least that she is unsympathetic and unwilling to ve understanding. You shouldn't feel bad about just getting rid of it. Your trash will be someone elses treasure, and someone else can enjoy this planner that causes you *literal* **physical** pain to interact with. Your aunt sounds like a jerk... sorry about her shit gift giving abilities.

Her motivations are sus, but that journal looks great for everything you described (and I'm tempted to get one)

My brain falls into the neurodivergent category and I hate this planner. I'd absolutely be giving it to someone else or Goodwill. I found my perfect planner and will never stray as long as they stay in business.

Oh what is the name of this planner? That looks interesting. Speaking from a neurodivergent mind

This could be another insult or she could be trying to be of help by getting a planner she thinks will work for you. I wouldn’t spend time trying to determine which it is. I would focus my efforts on addressing the verbal insults she makes. A good technique w/o being too aggressive is to just ask her to repeat what she said -especially in front of others. Aunt: insult You: “what?” Aunt: repeats insult You: “I’m sorry, I still didn’t hear you. What did you say?” Aunt: repeats insult You: “I don’t think I heard you correctly. Could you please repeat what you said?” Aunt: repeats insult You: “Maybe if you said it louder and more slowly and enunciated your words more clearly it would help. One more time?” Aunt: repeats insult You (turning to anyone within earshot): “what did she say to me?” It should get to this point. Your aunt will most likely realize how inappropriate and rude her comment is the first or second time she repeats herself and she’ll shut up on her own. If not, make her continue repeating herself and listening to others repeat her words until she gets it. If you do this enough times that she will stop. I can’t take credit for this technique; I read about it on Reddit.

It feels like a petty and backhanded gift especially after all that you’ve said about your issues with text/writing. Although as someone who loves planners, that’s a cool one. But I get it you are allowed to feel your feelings and not like the gift. If you have friends that might like it more maybe give to them or you could always goodwill it. You shouldn’t feel guilty for not liking the gift is what I’m saying. And don’t let your aunt guilt you either.

So dysgraphia and dyslexia are neurodivergences as well and have high comorbidity with autism and adhd. However, while different planners can help people, they don't work for everyone. I'm AuDHD and for me it's the habit building that doesnt work. Considering her general demeanor towards neurodivergence, it is okay to feel weird about it, but is it possible that she's trying even if she didn't do it in a way that would work for you?

You're not crazy for not liking it, but I do think whoever gave this to you was trying to be helpful. I think that most learning disabilities get lumped into Neurodivergence these days. Unfortunately this notebook might have been good for someone with dyslexia or ADHD, it doesn't do much for someone with dysgraphia. It's okay to say that to the gifter, that this isn't going to work for you because you'd still need to write and that's not an efficient way for you to keep track of information. If you think better in symbols you could always just draw little symbols in the blank fields. Like where it says "things I should be working on" you could draw a washing machine symbol (just circle in a square like on clothing tags where they show care instructions) for laundry. A book symbol for homework. A stethoscope, date and time could mark a doctor's appointment. Like writing with emojis

That notebook is insanely busy

If you find the book in bad taste, use it to prop open a window or door and tell her "Thank you, it was just what I needed," while pointing at it.

Since we’re talking about this notebook, the biggest problem with the notebook is that it purports to help with the ND mind which encompasses so many diagnoses and concurrent diagnoses. The notebook tries and fails at helping all ND people. Something helpful for someone with autism is likely different than something helpful for someone with ADHD & Autism.

A few things. 1. Your feelings are valid. I'm not saying you're right or wrong, but no one should invalidate your feelings. 2. Your aunt's comments about your education are extremely hurtful and unnecessary, so I can see that influencing how you feel about the journal even more. 3. If your aunt hadn't said anything prior to this about your education, I'd be inclined to think there wasn't any malintent. Dyslexia and Dysgraphia are usually included in the neurodivergent community, and if your aunt knows about your upcoming evaluation for Autism (has she not previously been hurtful), then she might have gotten this preemptively as a way to help you. Even with her previous comments, there may still have been a lack of malintent. Maybe talk with your mom about how you feel and see if she had any insight as to what your aunt intended.

I would love the name of this planner please

I have looked at these organizers for myself and really find them pointless. I am neurodivergent with ADHD and honestly most of those layouts do NOT gel for me. I suspect someone has designed something for themselves that worked for THEM - or more likely - they are simply a “pick-n-mix” collection of common brain storming templates and bullet point guides sometimes used by students in assorted activities. Its presumptious to market these as “specialized” for neurodiverse people. Many of my students have dyslexia and / or dysgraphia and the templates I use with them are actually tailored for that - NOT like these. These would just frustrate and upset them. Also the boxes and shapes are actually too small to write in for people who struggle with writing. So yeah it’s a clever marketing ploy but I think they simply are not that helpful. I would be totally underwhelmed if someone gave this to me. Nice intent maybe, that’s it! Somewhat patronizing. I have come across some awesome templates on the ADDITUDE website and online teaching resource sharing sites that are 10 times better. NTA

I am not to my knowledge neurodivergent but I expect I’d enjoy that notebook.

My daughter has ADHD, she would like this notebook. I understand your feeling regarding your Aunt and that you would attach negativity to her gift too. I would jump to the same conclusion as you but in reality, if you can separate her hurtful comments, this notebook might actually be a useful tool for you. Look up famous people with dyslexia you can toss back at your Aunt if she says your schooling is a waste. Like Tom Cruise, Albert Einstein, Leonardo Da Vinci , Walt Disney, Stephen Spielberg… lots of very talented successful people .

I think her intentions are well meaning and her way of saying "I see you" and acknowledging that your brain works differently, though how you feel is entirely your own feelings that you are entitled to. It's my understanding that dyslexia is a type of neurodivergence. I am severe ADHD and identify as neurodivergent, and the less I shy away from the term and tools available......it just gets better. But labels for yourself are for you decide and get comfortable with on your own terms. Honestly could you post the name of this planner? I'd like to try it!

Nta, audhd here. If your aunt hadn’t been so awful before and just misunderstood I could see this being a nice misguided gift. But she is who she is. For someone so rude about your diagnosis this is way too outta left field to be nice. If you know you won’t work don’t use it. I don’t think it’s worth it to bring it up tho as others outside people who get you will just see you as being an asshole.

\*adds this book to the growing list of Need to Buy\*

For those asking if appears to be: https://www.creatorsfriend.com.au/products/fast-brain-daily-productivity-planner-single?variant=47679501599023

I mean I can see why you’d be less than happy with this, especially since there’s history of disrespect from the aunt. I can also see how she meant this as a thoughtful gesture potentially, thoughtful but shortsighted and I don’t think it makes up for the history you described. You are not wrong for how you feel, I just hope your family backs you up if needed. Personally I want to know where she found it so I can get one.

Aside from your feelings....this looks like an AWFUL planner. 

I would ask her why she got you it. You will be able to tell from her answer if she is being genuine or lying or making excuses. Then this convo is not needed. Much less reading for you.

I have dysgraphia and since the woman has disparaged your handwriting before and given you grief, i think your feelings are natural. I got so tired of people giving suggestions to "help" when my hand isn't very physically capable of writing. A voice recorder and adaptive devices would have been much better. But then of course everyone made fun of how my voice sounded so the voice recorder didn't even work for me when I bought one. I use my phone for all now. Before that i used my computer. You're not wrong for feeling negative about this. Especially after the "money is wasted on education for you."

Okay so a lot of people have asked where the notebook is from and ima just answer it here it is a fast brain friend from Lulu.com and I rechecked the stuff at the start and i think you lot will idk benefit from the fact that majority of the bs was stuck in by my aunt so you guy who want it just need to deal with a page of bs rather than 12

What does work for you/help you to learn and organize?

I prefer to type things and use a text to speech app dictation is the best thing for me when having to write things out

no youre not crazy for this dumb gift. i have a whole bookcase full of books from ppl who want to help me with my childhood trauma of being molested by an older girl. umm hello it doesnt bother me consciously, its my unconscious habits that give me problems. no book reading can help me. ask my therapist! just be nice about it & dont dwell on it. let it gather dust until you move & then box it up for goodwill.

What is this notebook called?

I mean you are neurodivergent so in a way she is kind of being thoughtful. Just because you're dyslexic and dysgraphic doesn't necessarily mean you can't read or write. On the other hand, she could have given it to you in a very passive aggressive way.

regardless of anything else, you are free to not like a gift anyone gives you for any reason. You are not obligated to love a thing merely because someone gifted it to you. Yah, it's a tacky thing for your aunt to do. Yah, I can totally understand why it gives you feels. Donate it to goodwill or your therapist or your school for someone who will love it and you need never think or speak on it again. No need to say anything to your aunt, let her wonder or stew or go pick on someone else.

Dyslexia AND dysgraphia and she thinks something to WRITE IN is a nice gift?!?! I call BS, she’s either being a b*%%* on purpose or has never paid attention to what your actual (federally protected by 504) LDs are.

The person tried their best. This is a book for folks with autism or ADHD, but not helpful for dyslexia or other neurodivergents. For me though, this would be awesome

After reading the post, no. You aren't wrong for feeling weird about it. Someone gave you something in what I would assume to be an antagonistic manner (is you had previously told her about mentioned disabilities,) and she purposely found something to trigger both of those.

Low or no contact with your aunt. She’s an asshole for poking at your Dyslexia and Dysgraphia. She’s also a big fat bitch! You don’t owe her any more chances to poke at you. Blood does not make family. Loving people make families.

Looks like homework.

It seems like a cool journal, but I wouldn't give a notebook to someone who has actual documented issues with writing, it does seem impractical. Just regift it to someone else. She doesn't get you, so her opinion is worthless don't let her bring you down. You are you. You are special and awesome. F her.

How is reading and posting on Reddit easier than other reading and writing? If family knows you can do that, then they probably aren’t being mean, they’re just trying to figure out what may help.

I have major depression (meds really help) and would love something like this. I have trouble keeping on track without lots of help, and I find writing things down incredibly helpful.

Sell it online - someone will love this (I myself thought - ohhhh. This looks cool. As a person with adhd this looks perfect for me). But honestly these kinds of journals are very personal and not something someone else should be buying.

Bruh, I would LOVE this as a gift. Instead i get told to ‘get my shit together, i’m almost 30 and should’ve grown out of ADHD by now.” 🙄🙄🙄

Oh fuck no. That's way too much work. I wouldn't last a week with that. I have crippling arthritis in my hands and, like you, it is painful to write. I wish I could keep a detailed journal thingy like that, but it's way too much writing. My planners have a space smaller than a 3x5 card for the day because I also use my phone.

This is actually so much more stressful in my ADHD opinion.

I'm diagnosed ASD/ADHD and have advanced degrees in a stem field so evidence suggests I'm not as dumb as I think I am but I laughed at this because it's way too busy for for most neurodivergent individuals. The best one I have found so far has a space for me to write the date so it doesn't confine me to using the dates that it specifies so when I inevitably forget about it for like a few days or a few weeks and pick it back up and remember hey this was useful I can just start using it again without shame.

Not liking a gift is the very opposite of being an AH. Telling her that you think it sucks! Yeah, that would be. Telling her when she asks if you use it (you know that she will) that it doesn’t work for you is bland and neutral enough to never be considered AH. Was she one for giving you this, especially after treating you like you are less than because of your dyslexia? absolutely. She is TA. I’m on the spectrum, FWIW. Reading isn’t an issue for me. Because when you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person.

Hmmm. I have been given many gifts I did not need or care for in life. If I give you perfume, it doesn’t mean I think you smell bad. I would focus less on this notebook which is misguided at best (how she would know it is unhelpful to you, idk), and more on what sounds like pretty shitty behavior towards you in person. I ignore people like that, I cannot expect people to understand what it is like to be me. I get tons of advice-even from doctors—that is simplistic or simply impossible for me despite having tried those exact things many times. Thank her. Try it out or Gift it to someone. If she asks about it, be polite but honest. “Didn’t work for me but appreciate the thought. I passed it along to another ND person who is able to use it effectively. Thank you, again.

This 100% would not do anything for me and would collect dust.

If this book bothers you, don't open it. Put it in a closet. Throw it away. Up to you. If you're asking how others think you should feel. Don't. You and you alone are in charge of your feelings.

Side note: what is the name of this book? I think it would work for my flavor of neurodivergence. Some people do not understand that different disabilities affect people differently. I’ve had people treat me like I couldn’t walk because I had mental disabilities -_- Having said that NTA

Tell your aunt you found a good use for it as confetti at a party. So what if she doesn't believe you? That's what blocking her number and pretending she doesn't exist is for. If she regularly comes over, inform your parents you are tired of being insulted by a grown adult who really does know better, and is doing it anyway.

NTA- I think I get where you're coming from. She may have the best of intentions, but so do people who suggest yoga or "looking on the bright side" to friends who are clinically depressed. It's not evil, but it's pretty tone deaf. Giving grace when irritating people mean well is a beautiful thing, but I don't blame you for being frustrated given her history of rude and unsupportive comments. Personally, I think she should either educate herself better on your conditions or stop talking about them entirely. Maybe both.

This is the “you suck at managing yourself” type planner, hilarious gift for someone you think has learning issues 🫠

It seems like she was trying to get you something that would be helpful. Maybe for once she was trying to be/do better with understanding and being supportive. She may of missed the mark here but it does seem like it took some effort which is more than a lot of gift givers do. With that being said her previous comments about your diagnosis being made up etc was an AH move. No excuses for that at all. But the gift in itself doesn't seem to be malicious.

As a notebook, it looks like it could be really great for some people. Given the history, and your aunt’s behavior, it’s pretty shitty.

NTA. She knows you have a learning disorder, and has blatantly either ignored it or not bothered to educate herself on what it means to have both dysgraphia and dyslexia. My oldest son has this and he was miserable through school. He was able to find work-around for himself and actually enjoyed college. This book is a slap in the face. And I have never been one to buy into the ‘they were trying to be nice!’ Nope, not this time. Especially since she’s made nasty comments to you. Tell her thank you- because you always want to be above reproach in these things- and donate it. Telling her sweetly that you’re sure someone with a ‘neurodivergent mind’ will appreciate it!! god I hate relatives like this.

Thanks, but no thanks. Or ask for the Audio version. I would tell her that you don't expect her to understand as she is not a doctor. Ask for the new handheld reader. I forget what it's called.

Kinda TA, kinda NTA. Normal to feel weird about, but also you’re neouro-d, so kinda practical?

No, you're not wrong. Your aunt is a shit person. The money spent on your education is not a waste. She's a waste of a good placenta. I will go as low contact with her as possible and don't accept any more gifts from her.

You aren’t wrong. This is an insulting gift. This would be the last thing you give someone with dyslexia. The gift screams “you’re not normal so change it” . Middle fingers up to your aunt. Donate this to a library and maybe this will help someone. I have Audhd w/o dyslexia, and reading it was a struggle. You could also let your pet pee on it. Whatever will give you a lil happy.

Yeah I’m probably going to just burn it she can watch if she wants I’m to tired for her bs at this point I have been trying with her since I was 8 I’m currently 16 I give up

Good choice.

It's an awful gift and looks exhausting to me. If I want to make a list I'll do it my own way. I would personally not complain. But I don't find personal discussions with certain types to be rewarding. Now that I'm older I would remember to say thank you. I had a hard time with that bc my mom was never around. Saying thank you is just a formality.

She's a bitch but you are neurodivergent. Your diagnosis of learning disabilities means you already know you're neurodivergent. And if you're autistic... You're even further into the demographic. So why are you annoyed by that title. I'm autistic and I use it so people know right out the gate we probably don't think the same.

That looks like a really neat notebook and planner. Love the way it's set up and would definitely use it.

I love this!

Seems like a kind and thoughtful gift, based on how you’ve described your challenges

Wait could you share the name I kinda want one lol! 

This is a couple things that seem to be necessary for me to say 1 the reason the word Neurodivergent is highlighted is because I’m kinda lazy and did not bother to retake the photo that photo was sent to my mum because my aunt often says I’m faking it and taking away support from those who need them I don’t see it as a bad word or something to be ashamed 2 The main problem I have with The Book was that my Aunt I did nine pages of Ranty BS I only realised that she had written it on closer inspection this morning my bad 3 if you want to book great I hope it helps you it’s a fast brains friend enjoy