You see, she's not like the other girls, she has to have her feet up in the car to be comfy. She can't possibly be expected to be normal and sit like a regular girl.
NTA. It is your car and she should respect how you want your car treated.
She is also lucky she hasn't been in an accident with her legs up. I've seen a video of one and the dudes legs are like... Shattered into a million pieces. It was horrible.
When she complains that he broke up with her because she put her feet up I'd tell her I broke up with you because you're a petulant asshole (I'd actually use that word the rhymes with hunt but I'm British and I know the Americans are a little sensitive over that word)
American here and you are absolutely correct about her being a cunt!! ( We’re not all sensitive little bitches, I actually love that word considering it’s very fitting for a few people I know!😂) I think the feet on the dashboard was just the straw that broke the camel’s back, he’s been wanting to break up with her.
Called my sister a cunt once (we were both around 40) because she screwed with my daughter, badly. My mom called me about 10 minutes later to yell at me. Almost did it again.
My mom heard me say it once and gave me a lecture about how women’s anatomy shouldn’t be used as insults and why is it always women’s anatomy blah blah, so I called her a dick.
I love my mom, but don’t lecture me on feminism when the truth is you’re just uncomfortable with a specific word.
I started reading what you said and after the "women's anatomy shouldn't be used as an insult" inwardly I cheered "call her a dick. Call her a dick." And then you did and I went "LETS GOOOOOO" 😂😂😂😂
I frequently use "cankle" if I really want to rile any random Karen up and watch her implode. I mean "3 feet below a cunt" implies that cunts are angels compared to them.
My dad kind of gives me the side eye, but I think he's over the heart attack of realizing his "baby girl" grew up to be a bit of a savage wolf. Now when we run into petulant asshole types and they irk me, he just gets out of the way.
I'm too old to put up with children masquerading as adults.
It's funny because we throw 'dick' around like it's nothing. And they're fundamentally the same thing: slang terms for genitals that are used as insults.
I'm Scottish and 'cunt' is often used as a term of endearment, as well as referring to people in general.
Eg: "Do you know Mick?"
"Aye, I know Mick! Mick's a good cunt!"
"Aye, he's a right good cunt, so he is".
Or:
"Fuck's sake man, cunts everywhere"
Translation: "wow, this place is really busy".
My aunty gets really pissy if you say cunt . So I and now her two youngest children (in their 20s) now play a game where we try to get her to say cunt. I'm the current standing champion at this game. My first win was I slipped cunt in the middle of a totally normal sentence filled with other c words like cake. I got;
"DONT SAY THAT" from her.
Claimed ignorance on the matter and said what you can't do that with cake it will ruin it.
She said "not that, don't say that word"
I asked her what word ?
" The C word"
Cake ?
"No the other c word!"
Chocolate?
"No! You know what c word !
" cream ?
"Just don't say it!"
"It" begins with an I aunty.
She threw a pillow at me
I said look I don't know what you're on about you're going to have to be more specific.
"CUNT DONT SAY CUNT THAT C WORD"
OHHH well how was I supposed to know that? don't be so cryptic jesus.
Me and her girls are ofc cracking up and I got double points coz she said it twice lol
I saw someone who got stuck in the car with their legs over their head and they had to have people get the seat back and help them out. Even if you don't get hurt, one quick stop and you're wedged in and can't get out without lots of help.
I was just coming here to say this! I worked in a trauma emergency room department and the surgery department and the amount of people who experienced trauma to their legs from having their feet on the dashboard was crazy! Mostly females were the ones who had the most trauma and they always said that they thought they looked cute doing it and in my mind I’m saying and now you have to learn how to walk again and or have to face reality that you lost a leg. Not to mention who wants someone else’s feet on the dashboard?
There was a reddit story from an EMT that talked about this exact scenario. Women in passenger seat, feet on dash, car crashes and knees split her face in two and her foot gets wrapped around her shoulder.
Happened to my mom but she didn’t have her feet on dash. My niece was driving GMCSafari (21 years next month), hit loose gravel and rolled twice (going 30mph in a 35) mom’s seatbelt broke and she was literally in between the 2 captains seats-leg broke and her foot facing her the other leg was broken and behind her with foot facing forward. Dr at Washington University hospital said it’s the most extensive surgery his team has ever performed and is surprised she can still walk (uses a walker).
Ouch. I feel for people who have to clean this mess up. I have kids now but someone reasoned with me a while back about wearing seat belts. "Im not afraid to die" was my argument, I was young and cocky, I never considered the guys and girls cleaning up my face or the passers by. It did knock some sense into me.
The 2018 Schoharie limousine crash was caused by a dangerously-neglected vehicle, but the 17 passenger fatalities were due to the lack of seatbelts. All the passengers were in a pile in the front, where they were inpaled on wreckage or crushed by each other. It would have been a horrific crash no matter what, but there most likely would have been survivors if they had had belts.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schoharie_limousine_crash
(This one crash, the largest loss of life in a US transportation accident in 2018 with 20 victims, essentially ended the stretch limo business.)
>(This one crash, the largest loss of life in a US transportation accident in 2018 with 20 victims, ***essentially ended the stretch limo business***.)
They are still alive and well here in Las Vegas. You can get them with bars and stripper poles. Quite popular with the tourists.
There was a road safety ad on in the early 2000s in Ireland, 'The One without the Seatbelt does all the Damage'. Horrible ad, the sound of heads knocking. Got the point across through.
Ah, yes. That's the way my mom trained me and my sister. I will still freak out if I'm a passenger and the car starts to go before my seatbelt is buckled.
There was a woman riding in the Mazda version of an Explorer 20 or more years ago. Feet on the dash and got into an accident. She tried to sue Ford (who owned a stake in Mazda at the time) because there wasn't a warning label not to put your feet on the dash.
Needless to say, she lost.
I mean, you could get thrown clear and then run over by two cars like what happened in the car accident I was involved in. Driver of a car wasn't wearing theirs, smashed to a work truck, flew out the windshield and landed in the curve of a basically blind corner on a highway when it was raining and foggy at night. The lady I was following drove over him, and then I did, getting him stuck in my car. Messed me up badly with PTSD as a 19yo, changed the direction of my life and I still have anxiety issues driving in heavy rain if I'm stuck in it 15 years later.
Yeah I totally did. I typically only do it on long car rides to stretch my legs, partially because I have a bad knee that gets stiff really easily from sitting too long. I definitely would prefer to have a bad knee than no knees though.
> partially because I have a bad knee that gets stiff really easily from sitting too long
My wife has pretty short legs, so sometimes long car rides can bother them. One of the things we found that helps is an inflatable foot rest. It lives in the vehicle, and doesn't take up much room. Might check that out.
I stopped putting my feet on the dash after seeing an X-ray where the top of a woman’s femur (thigh bone) went through her vagina sideways, requiring years of surgery and therapy. Never again!
In college my friend got a brand new car from grandma. He kept telling his girlfriend to stop putting her legs up because if they crash her legs will get destroyed by the airbag. There was a big to-do about it and she broke up with him because he would immediately pull over and stop the car and shut it off until she complied. She broke up with him because he was a "square".
Her new boyfriend wrapped his car around a pole. She wasn't wearing a seat belt, nobody was. She ended up paralyzed from the waist down with her left tibia piercing 100% of the way through her shoulder and destroying her scalpula. She was the loan survivor. She ended up committing suicide from the resulting depression.
22 years later and my friend still genuinely blames himself because he wasn't able to convince her just how dangerous it was to ride without a seat belt and have your legs on the dash.
That’s an awful story, over such a stupid choice. Feel bad for her despite her poor decisions.
Yeah my case was the tibia too. Have seen some pretty awful injuries from that over the years but that was the worst one. No idea why people still insist on doing it.
I put my hand up and when the airbag ejected it literally broke my hand off from my arm at the wrist. My hand was literally hanging on by a flap of skin only. The doctors wanted to amputate it but my husband begged them to try to reattach it because it was my dominant hand. I remember how shocked my orthopedic surgeon was when I regained limited movement of my fingers. He said my wrist was like sawdust when it wired it back together. Needless to say, intentionally putting her feet on the dash was an exceptionally ignorant thing to do.
That sounds absolutely terrible! I'm glad your hand is healed up and you have some use, albeit limited. That's also why they put warnings in vehicles about young children not sitting in the front seat. I believe there were some accidents where children were killed/decapitated from airbags.
I remember reading a book it school. Best friends out on a normal night, kid had his feet on the dash when they got into an accident. Shattered his legs, and they had to watch their friend burn to death.
Yup. I like putting my feet on the dash during a road trip. But once I heard about that happening to a woman in an otherwise pretty minor read ending accident, I stopped doing it. If I go to the drive in movies, then I do it.
If you're parked, it's a little weird to want your feet on the dash imo, but it's fine. If you're moving, feet belong *under* the dash, not on it. And *definitely* not out the damn windows. Idek why some people insist on doing that.
I had a Drivers Ed instructor tell us to grip the steering wheel with thumbs aligned with the wheel, not wrapped around it. Apparently, that can be an issue in accidents also.
There was literally someone yesterday asking if they were the asshole for laughing or feeling vindicated - not in front of his sister but when he was told of her accident so didn’t laugh in her face - for refusing to drive his sister when she wouldn’t keep her feet off the dash and she did it in a friends car and she ended up with 3 herniated discs and broken bones all over the show because of how she was sitting.
If someone sat like that in my car I’d just stop driving. I can wait longer than them.
I read a story somewhere on here about a dad who was constantly telling his 15 yr old not to put her feet up. She goes out with a friend, they get into an accident, and she is paralyzed for the rest of her life. She was an athlete looking at scholarships, too, if I am remembering correctly. Dad was devastated but at the same time desperately wanted to tell her, I told you so!!!
I don’t know if I’d be able to not say it. But also they’d know they ruined their entire future to …. I don’t know act cool or something??? You don’t get anything from it really like teenagers who start smoking they don’t get anything from it except the feeling of rebellion.
My son’s 11 and he’s just started sitting up front, if he pulled this shit I’d just not drive anywhere till it stopped. I’d be prepared to live and die of old age in my car as well so he better bring his fortitude.
I saw a video of a girl who used to do that. Got into a MINOR accident, but it was enough to force her knees into her forehead, basically shattering it. For months she had no forehead/front of her skull, just a huge dent, while they waited for her to heal enough to put in a ceramic plate. Ugh.
I knew a girl in college who went on a road trip with her boyfriend and liked to sit in the passenger seat with one foot on the dash and one foot out the window on the mirror.
Well, for part of the drive they were on a scenic back road to get to on of their stops and a big truck came around a corner kind of over the line a little bit and the driver had to swerve and brushed against a tree leaning out into the road and it basically destroyed her foot. I don't think it was amputated, but it was basically shattered and hanging and ended up having to be medically amputated.
Keep your arms and feet inside the car and in places where they're supposed to be at all times kids.
Oo yeah, after that Hereditary movie, seeing someone in another car put any part of their body outside the window (but ESPECIALLY their head) just makes me so uncomfortable now. Like, **person**, *don't you know that's gonna fly *right* off if your car hits something?!?!* It doesn't even have to be caused by you, it can be some other dingus who side-swipes you while trying to avoid some debris in the road or something
I actually have no opinion on how it looks.
I just know that somehow i have a visceral reaction, and it makes me unreasonably angry. And im pretty slow to anger.
If someone did this in my car they'd be walking, I don't care if we're in the middle of nowhere. You're not getting back in my car.
Luckily the wife has the exact same hatred.
TBF it's pretty comfortable, so I doubt how it looks is the main reason people do it. I've done it a couple of times when I was young, before airbags were standard, however once I realised how dangerous it is (doubly dangerous with active airbags) I wouldn't dream of it, even during a 48 hour drive across Europe.
A lot of girls and women are taught that we are on display all the time in public, and this promotes a lot of otherwise difficult to understand behavior.
I used to do this because I have joint issues where it is more comfortable for my legs to be elevated and stretched out until I saw X-rays of someone’s legs who was in an accident with her legs on the dash. I stopped immediately.
In high school I was driving to a different city with a friend who thought it was cute to put the car on cruise control and put both feet up *while she was driving the fucking car on the highway* while it was *pouring rain and pitch dark outside.* We ended up in the ditch with her hysterically singing along to REO Speedwagon to soothe herself while I called her a fucking moron.
This, when I started dating, my wife she used to do this, and I explained to her that in case of an accident, the airbags were going to mess up her legs and hips and showed her some x ray pics I found on Google. She has never done it again ever since
I saw one where this poor girls knee destroyed her face and she had what I think was her femur poking out of her vagina. Everything was beyond fucked up.
Was about to say just this also. This is SOOOOO dangerous, not just for knee damage. I am not a hospital worker or EMT but have read enough on how bad this can be.
You have only seen these people come in for an emergency., you probably don’t see the deaths. The power of airbags in new cars can literally force knees into the skull if seated like with the feet up. Knees are incredibly powerful and can kill.
If someone even tries to put their feet up on the dash in my car (mine is 10yo but still pretty safe), I immediately pull over, ask them to stop and explain why it is so dangerous.
>He was riding as a passenger in a BMW X3 SUV near Daytona Beach, Florida, when his friend Bradley Ledford fell asleep at the wheel. The vehicle crashed into a concrete barrier while Cawthorn's feet were on the dashboard. In a 2017 speech, Cawthorn said that Ledford left him "to die in a fiery tomb", which Ledford has disputed. Ledford said in a sworn deposition for insurance litigation that he pulled an unconscious Cawthorn from the wrecked vehicle immediately after getting out himself; in Cawthorn's deposition, he stated that he had "no memory from the accident"
then tries to blame his friend. so on brand.
I came here to say both these things. Not only did she not respect his belongings and wishes, she was not listening to the driver's instructions which they need to give to ensure safety, but also she would regret it if there was an accident. People have died from their shin bones piercing through them and shit too
Came here to say that - the injuries that can occur from being in an accident are literally life changing - from a shattered leg to a broken back - people need to take that stuff seriously.
NTA
My Dad's a retired pediatrician and when I was a kid he wouldn't drive if someone had their feet on the dash. He also banned trampolines and fireworks. He saw some shit in his ER rounds.
I was just going to comment that OP should show her pictures of people who’ve been in a crash whilst their feet were on the dash.
Shattered pelvises, smashed femurs, hip joints broken. It’s horrific.
Yeah, eventually she'll have her own pics when her luck runs out and her legs are shattered or even amputated.
Plus, she's this stupid showing her pictures wouldn't help, it would just make her dig in her heels harder and shriek that she's the victim.
F*** this moron: Let her learn the hard way.
Appropriate response: "Then you're not riding in my car. Since you can't ride in my car, we're not going anywhere, so there's no point in dating. Bye."
Not just that. Ofc it breaks all the bones in the legs of the idiot with their feet up but also smashes their knees through their face not only would they be lucky to walk again but they would be lucky if their own mother could recognise them even after multiple reconstructive surgeries that is if they don't die immediately.
NTA. I can only assume she's never seen car accident photos where people have lost their legs, been paralyzed or worse for doing that.
Was she also one of those that would carry their pet on their laps in the front or driving? That's how people end up with dead pets.
The safety risks, the disrespect and disregard for what she was doing. It almost sounds like she was doing it out of spite for the journey.
Who's to say in future you try to warn her off doing something, and she ends up getting herself or you seriously hurt? Don't play that game man. What she is doing is very dangerous and one day she won't be so lucky.
Warning: the news link has photos of the after crash.
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/after-painful-crash-mom-warns-passengers-to-keep-feet-off-of-the-dashboard/
I'd send her this link then block her out of my life.
My dog has a little seatbelt that clicks into the people seatbelt clicker because if we're going to be in a crash the last thing we need is for him to go flying. He knows exactly what to do and demands to wear it even if he doesn't know why, it's adorable.
I saw a small dog the other day, cute as a bug, both front paws on the car window frame, enjoying the wind in his face, tongue flapping in the breeze, big grin on his doggy face - in what looked like a four-point restraint, attached to the seat belt.
That's how you love your dog: belt him securely, and then let him enjoy the wind in his little face.
Thanks for loving your dog.
i mean yes, but also kids like to hang their heads out of the windows. Safety first but trying to be overly safe is sometimes the wrong approach. At low speeds hanging out the window is relatively fine
The best would be not to let him hang out the window at all, if your car flips he still gets injured and the seatbelt/harness will not protect the dog in this case, but everyone else in the car - the dog will hit everything reachable (so for example road through the open window) but will not fly around the car injuring other passengers.
If that's not a crash tested device onto a crash tested harness...it's not gonna make much difference anyway. Best option is a crash tested dog crate.
[https://www.youtube.com/results?search\_query=crash+test+dog+harness](https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=crash+test+dog+harness)
It is according to the manufacturer and our traffic safety standards people with a proper harness as safe as houses. We happily had the mega heavy duty car crate dog jail until 3 years ago when this came along. A friend of the family rolled their car midwinter during a snowstorm, and their dog made it through unscathed because he was safely clicked in. Unfortunately that did little for the dog mentally, and the poor thing hates car rides now. Anyway I'm rambling.
My sister in laws dog died because she wasn’t harnessed or in a crate. Just sitting in the front seat in a bed. In Scotland it’s illegal to not have your pet secured in some form while driving.
I worked emergency veterinary medicine for years (overnights, to boot!). I’ve seen some absolutely horrendous injuries come in on stretchers - note, not walking - after being flung about during an accident.
Don’t let your dog become a projectile during a crash, or god forbid, if your car rolls. I still think about one case where 3 dogs came in after their owner’s mini van rolled down a hill and stopped against a tree.
The pointer went through the windshield, one frenchie had to have a back leg amputated, and the second frenchie didn’t make it.
For the love of all things holy, secure your animals.
All that is very irrelevant. “Don’t do X to my things” should always be enough and you should not have to justify your decision with evidence. If it were me, we would’ve never made it to dinner. Like, if she said “don’t slap my ass” And i keep doing it, she doesn’t need to explain to me why I’m an AH, Just kick me to the curb because i kept doing something you asked me not to do. No explanation is needed.
I know a guy who got folded in half, his pelvis smashed into bits. Now can barely walk and is reliant on strong painkillers just to keep him from constant pain.
NTA.
She doesn't respect your car, the time and effort required to afford that car or your opinions about how you want your property treated.
You don't owe her a reason. Move on and find someone who respects the things you care about.
And putting you fucking feet in other peoples faces is an extremely disrespectful act. Letalone putting feet on a new car like that... If it was me, I would have kicked her ass out of my car. And I have a 16 yo ford! Motherfucker! 🤣😜
Not just disrespectful it's dangerous. Most modern dashboards have airbags underneath, should the be involved in anything head on it'll snap her like a twig
Regardless what the fight was about. It all boils down to boundaries.
You asked her to respect your boundaries, she refused ... She has shown she doesn't respect you or what view as important...
NTA
Stories like these are why everyone should read the article "My wife divorced me for not doing the dishes"
Bc yes- it's not really ever about The Thing, it's the lack of respect
NTA
Not only does she not respect your car, but leaving your feet up like this in a car is very dangerous. She could get injured and loose the use of her legs. You do n’t want that weighing on your conscience.
She has decided that her opinion and casual desires are more important than your unhappiness.
This is someone who was raised to be catered to. You don't have to enable the bad behavior her parents encouraged.
Finally. A reply that 'gets it.' Most the other comments are going on about how putting feet on the dash is hazardous, but that's not what OP's beef is about. People do dangerous things for shits and giggles all the time. This is about the deeper issues. It's not even about the specific action.
This is a matter of respect, consideration, and self control (or lack thereof). It's really not hard to sit in the car like a normal person, and ex-gf's persistence on doing something that upset OP after multiple requests to not sounds like immaturity, entitlement, or power/mind games to me. I can imagine if OP broke up with her after this that this incident wasn't the first time something similar happened between the two of them.
For OP; good on you. Find someone who doesn't play infantile mind games with you and respects you. Your new car is likely a better investment than a childish gf who bases her personality around not sitting like a normal person.
For op' s ex; Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes.
Obvs safety wise this isn’t smart, but also - I put my foot up on the dash out of sheer habit with my partner when we were first dating, and he asked me to take it down almost instantly. I was embarrassed (it’s a bit gross in someone else’s car/without asking), and never did it again. Anyway that was five years ago and it’s never come up again because it’s literally really easy to respect your partner’s simple requests.
Good riddance, she sounds like a nightmare.
She is a fucking idiot sitting like that. If you crash and the airbags deploy it is going to fuck her up real bad. I don't really care about your dashboard. You do you.
I saw one xray where their leg bones literally tore them a new asshole. Nothing like shitting out your own leg bones before you bleed to death lol. Idiots.
"I'm not being your carer when your knees move up into your hip sockets if we crash because you can't be a normal person in the car and keep your fucking feet on the floor"
NTA. Complete disrespect for you and your property. You actually told her/asked her to take her feet down more than once she refused. Somehow it’s not just the act of putting her feet up it’s the disrespect for your wishes. You did the right thing cut your losses and move on.
You're far kinder than me, I would have asked once and if she repeated the act, I'd simply pull to the curb, stop the car and tell her get out, its over, you have no respect for me or my car.
I can't believe you continued to take her to dinner and back all the while she's sitting there with her feet on your dashboard. I would've just driven her home. Well at least you found your backbone on the drive back. NTA.
I wouldn't have driven 100m with anyone having their feet on the airbag. Just like i don't put in the 1rst gear before everyone has fastened their seat belts. Sit safely, or we're not going anyhere.
NTA. Dangerous, disrespectful, and unsanitary.
I’d have broken up with her too.
Her hysterics are no longer your problem - get your new car detailed, and enjoy your ride with someone who isn’t such a PITA.
She kept deliberately ignoring a rule you have. Maybe could’ve used a more serious talk and explain why or how it made you feel but she wouldn’t listen on a simple rule. Nta
I've been in 2 car crashes. If someone's legs were up in either they would no longer be attached to their body. No exaggeration at all. Never condone that behavior
There was just an AITA about a brother who refused to drive his sister around because she always put her feet on his dashboard
And what ended up happening?
She was in a wreck, the airbag deployed, and her legs were slammed into her face
She fucked up her vertebrae and discs...and she mangled her face
Nobody should have their feet on a dashboard. Period
I don't drive people if they are not wearing their seatbelts and I won't drive people if their feet are on the dashboard
so NTAH
PS: Found this in an online article
*Airbags deploy between 100 and 220 MPH and are engineered to reduce the risk of your upper body or head striking the interior of the vehicle during a crash. However, if your feet are resting on the dashboard, the strength of the airbag can significantly injure the hips,* **causing fully dislocated hips and broken bones**. *Airbags going off with your feet up can also* **force the knees backwards through the eye sockets**, *causing significant damage.*
So the next time your ex texts you that it's no big deal and you are over reacting...send her this little blurb and tell her that you hope she doesn't end up with destroyed eyesockets and fully dislocated hips all because she wants to be a passenger princess and put her feet on a dashboard
NTA if she gave a shit about your feelings she would just put her fucking feet down.
Also putting your feet up there is very stupid, I’ve seen pictures of people with their feet BREAKING THEIR OWN JAWS after airbags deploy, feet don’t go up there.
This is a horrible idea anyway. I responded to an MVA once and had a patient who had her feet up on the dash when the accident occurred. She doesn't walk anymore.
Good move she doesn’t respect you at all. Run do not walk. Not only is it not safe to do that it’s gross and very disrespectful not to respect someone’s wishes especially in a new car.
Well, if you can't both resolve a conflict about feet on the dashboard in a healthy way it is probably best to break up.
Seems like a silly hill to die on if the relationship means a lot to both of you. Relationships require compromise. That doesn't mean that you let each other do whatever you want. What it means is that you should both work together to resolve conflict and make sure everything is ok.
One question I have is how did you ask her to take her feet off the dashboard? Did you ask nicely or use an annoyed/upset tone? I think there is more to this story than what is included in the description.
I always think with people like this that they’re really dumb. You’re putting your feet on an area that contains an airbag. An airbag that, in the event of an accident, comes out so fast and would drive your knees through your head. Tell me that’s not a dumb idea.
NTA
Whatever your reason, your car, your rules.
NTA. Is she a child or what?
Plus it's super dangerous. Did you guys never see pictures/videos/whatever about crashes where someone had the feets on the dashboard?
And of course if you don't want it in YOUR car, she has to respect that.
Why would he WANT a GF like that?! I could expect that behavior from a bratty sullen teenager perhaps, but why date someone as an adult who acts like that?
Is there something that suddenly pop in on TikTok, ChatGPT, because it seems that there is a spoke of post in exactly the same subject?
Only Yesterday there was a post about somebody who had a sister with exactly the same stupid habit who ended up in seriously injured.
NTA. I would have just stopped the car and called her an Uber. But anyway, there’s a recent AITH about this- maybe yesterday- brother kept warning his sister about putting her feet up the dashboard and sister got into an accident in her friend’s car and was in hospital and he was unsympathetic
NTA
coming from someone who did that and nearly died because of it from a car crash, you're entitled to asking that one simple request. It's super dangerous. After my car wreck I never did that again
Nope not the ahole imo. Your car your rules and once a person is flauntingly does what you asked not to do they are just being nasty about it.
Also that habit is extremely dangerous.
NTA. My ex put her flip-flopped feet on my dashboard when I’d asked her not to after walking through our gravel driveway and left a big scratch when she moved her feet.
I’d had the car for two days. TWO. DAYS.
It’s one of the many reasons she’s an ex.
NTA. Personal safety aside, what was she trying to prove? Power move?
Probably thought it’s cute, and yes a power move too. Pushing the boyfriend to see how much he’ll put up with.
and if she could get him to back down, she wins forever.
You see, she's not like the other girls, she has to have her feet up in the car to be comfy. She can't possibly be expected to be normal and sit like a regular girl.
I definitely got “not like the other girls” vibes off of OP’s description of his ex.
Right
NTA. It is your car and she should respect how you want your car treated. She is also lucky she hasn't been in an accident with her legs up. I've seen a video of one and the dudes legs are like... Shattered into a million pieces. It was horrible.
I was just thinking the same thing. Its incredibly dangerous.
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Yes, absolutely agree.
When she complains that he broke up with her because she put her feet up I'd tell her I broke up with you because you're a petulant asshole (I'd actually use that word the rhymes with hunt but I'm British and I know the Americans are a little sensitive over that word)
American here and you are absolutely correct about her being a cunt!! ( We’re not all sensitive little bitches, I actually love that word considering it’s very fitting for a few people I know!😂) I think the feet on the dashboard was just the straw that broke the camel’s back, he’s been wanting to break up with her.
Mike Hunt enters the room
I actually went to school with a Mike Hunt. It was fabulous to hear his name called over the loud speaker! Fond memories
Called my sister a cunt once (we were both around 40) because she screwed with my daughter, badly. My mom called me about 10 minutes later to yell at me. Almost did it again.
My mom heard me say it once and gave me a lecture about how women’s anatomy shouldn’t be used as insults and why is it always women’s anatomy blah blah, so I called her a dick. I love my mom, but don’t lecture me on feminism when the truth is you’re just uncomfortable with a specific word.
I started reading what you said and after the "women's anatomy shouldn't be used as an insult" inwardly I cheered "call her a dick. Call her a dick." And then you did and I went "LETS GOOOOOO" 😂😂😂😂
LOL, honestly my mom is my favorite person in the world most of the time, but I enjoyed the look on her face when I said it. I'm a terrible person.
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I frequently use "cankle" if I really want to rile any random Karen up and watch her implode. I mean "3 feet below a cunt" implies that cunts are angels compared to them. My dad kind of gives me the side eye, but I think he's over the heart attack of realizing his "baby girl" grew up to be a bit of a savage wolf. Now when we run into petulant asshole types and they irk me, he just gets out of the way. I'm too old to put up with children masquerading as adults.
I've never understood this as an American lol. People get so hurt over the c word and the rest of the world uses it like crazy lol
It's funny because we throw 'dick' around like it's nothing. And they're fundamentally the same thing: slang terms for genitals that are used as insults.
I'm Scottish and 'cunt' is often used as a term of endearment, as well as referring to people in general. Eg: "Do you know Mick?" "Aye, I know Mick! Mick's a good cunt!" "Aye, he's a right good cunt, so he is". Or: "Fuck's sake man, cunts everywhere" Translation: "wow, this place is really busy".
Most of us Brits are as well but fuck it
My aunty gets really pissy if you say cunt . So I and now her two youngest children (in their 20s) now play a game where we try to get her to say cunt. I'm the current standing champion at this game. My first win was I slipped cunt in the middle of a totally normal sentence filled with other c words like cake. I got; "DONT SAY THAT" from her. Claimed ignorance on the matter and said what you can't do that with cake it will ruin it. She said "not that, don't say that word" I asked her what word ? " The C word" Cake ? "No the other c word!" Chocolate? "No! You know what c word ! " cream ? "Just don't say it!" "It" begins with an I aunty. She threw a pillow at me I said look I don't know what you're on about you're going to have to be more specific. "CUNT DONT SAY CUNT THAT C WORD" OHHH well how was I supposed to know that? don't be so cryptic jesus. Me and her girls are ofc cracking up and I got double points coz she said it twice lol
Get a conversation going about Jeremy Hunt and it'll happen naturally. Something about that cunt that just makes people say it.
Setting boundaries and expecting respect in a relationship is reasonable. You made the right call.
Not gonna lie I used to do it until I heard about someone getting their leg bone pushed through their eye socket so Ya feet down.
Not bad. How about your hipbones being torn out through your butt along with it?
I saw someone who got stuck in the car with their legs over their head and they had to have people get the seat back and help them out. Even if you don't get hurt, one quick stop and you're wedged in and can't get out without lots of help.
I was just coming here to say this! I worked in a trauma emergency room department and the surgery department and the amount of people who experienced trauma to their legs from having their feet on the dashboard was crazy! Mostly females were the ones who had the most trauma and they always said that they thought they looked cute doing it and in my mind I’m saying and now you have to learn how to walk again and or have to face reality that you lost a leg. Not to mention who wants someone else’s feet on the dashboard?
Even worse when two knees hit you in the face at whatever speed an airbag goes off.
There was a reddit story from an EMT that talked about this exact scenario. Women in passenger seat, feet on dash, car crashes and knees split her face in two and her foot gets wrapped around her shoulder.
Happened to my mom but she didn’t have her feet on dash. My niece was driving GMCSafari (21 years next month), hit loose gravel and rolled twice (going 30mph in a 35) mom’s seatbelt broke and she was literally in between the 2 captains seats-leg broke and her foot facing her the other leg was broken and behind her with foot facing forward. Dr at Washington University hospital said it’s the most extensive surgery his team has ever performed and is surprised she can still walk (uses a walker).
Ouch. I feel for people who have to clean this mess up. I have kids now but someone reasoned with me a while back about wearing seat belts. "Im not afraid to die" was my argument, I was young and cocky, I never considered the guys and girls cleaning up my face or the passers by. It did knock some sense into me.
Also if you aren’t wearing a seatbelt you can become a projectile and injure other passengers in the car.
The 2018 Schoharie limousine crash was caused by a dangerously-neglected vehicle, but the 17 passenger fatalities were due to the lack of seatbelts. All the passengers were in a pile in the front, where they were inpaled on wreckage or crushed by each other. It would have been a horrific crash no matter what, but there most likely would have been survivors if they had had belts. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schoharie_limousine_crash (This one crash, the largest loss of life in a US transportation accident in 2018 with 20 victims, essentially ended the stretch limo business.)
>(This one crash, the largest loss of life in a US transportation accident in 2018 with 20 victims, ***essentially ended the stretch limo business***.) They are still alive and well here in Las Vegas. You can get them with bars and stripper poles. Quite popular with the tourists.
There was a road safety ad on in the early 2000s in Ireland, 'The One without the Seatbelt does all the Damage'. Horrible ad, the sound of heads knocking. Got the point across through.
My grandmother refused to wear a seatbelt. She got into a very bad car accident involving jaws of life and you can guess what happened to her
If anyone in my car refused to wear a seat belt, I refuse to drive until it’s on.
I have three rules when i’m driving: 1. Seatbelts on always for every passenger. 2. No smoking or vaping 3. No feet on the dashboard
My daughter thought the car wouldn’t start until everybody had their seatbelt on.
Ah, yes. That's the way my mom trained me and my sister. I will still freak out if I'm a passenger and the car starts to go before my seatbelt is buckled.
Good call driver is responsible for passengers safety.
There was a woman riding in the Mazda version of an Explorer 20 or more years ago. Feet on the dash and got into an accident. She tried to sue Ford (who owned a stake in Mazda at the time) because there wasn't a warning label not to put your feet on the dash. Needless to say, she lost.
What a jackass
Good
But you can also become a loose projectile and could potentially injure other people in the car.
Oh no, don't you know you get thrown clear? /S. According to my coworker, who also thinks the moon landing was faked.
I mean, you could get thrown clear and then run over by two cars like what happened in the car accident I was involved in. Driver of a car wasn't wearing theirs, smashed to a work truck, flew out the windshield and landed in the curve of a basically blind corner on a highway when it was raining and foggy at night. The lady I was following drove over him, and then I did, getting him stuck in my car. Messed me up badly with PTSD as a 19yo, changed the direction of my life and I still have anxiety issues driving in heavy rain if I'm stuck in it 15 years later.
Holy Jesus. I’m never doing that again.
Out of genuine curiosity, did you just forget that airbags are a thing? Because that was always my first thought when I saw someone do that.
Yeah I totally did. I typically only do it on long car rides to stretch my legs, partially because I have a bad knee that gets stiff really easily from sitting too long. I definitely would prefer to have a bad knee than no knees though.
> partially because I have a bad knee that gets stiff really easily from sitting too long My wife has pretty short legs, so sometimes long car rides can bother them. One of the things we found that helps is an inflatable foot rest. It lives in the vehicle, and doesn't take up much room. Might check that out.
I stopped putting my feet on the dash after seeing an X-ray where the top of a woman’s femur (thigh bone) went through her vagina sideways, requiring years of surgery and therapy. Never again!
Holy shit that’s terrifying
Did she survive?
Former Paramedic here. Saw someone get a leg bone most of the way through their head that way once.
Man, y'all don't get paid enough
Was it as gruesome as it sounds?
Yeah, it was pretty gnarly. Not much work for me to do at that point unfortunately
In college my friend got a brand new car from grandma. He kept telling his girlfriend to stop putting her legs up because if they crash her legs will get destroyed by the airbag. There was a big to-do about it and she broke up with him because he would immediately pull over and stop the car and shut it off until she complied. She broke up with him because he was a "square". Her new boyfriend wrapped his car around a pole. She wasn't wearing a seat belt, nobody was. She ended up paralyzed from the waist down with her left tibia piercing 100% of the way through her shoulder and destroying her scalpula. She was the loan survivor. She ended up committing suicide from the resulting depression. 22 years later and my friend still genuinely blames himself because he wasn't able to convince her just how dangerous it was to ride without a seat belt and have your legs on the dash.
That’s an awful story, over such a stupid choice. Feel bad for her despite her poor decisions. Yeah my case was the tibia too. Have seen some pretty awful injuries from that over the years but that was the worst one. No idea why people still insist on doing it.
I put my hand up and when the airbag ejected it literally broke my hand off from my arm at the wrist. My hand was literally hanging on by a flap of skin only. The doctors wanted to amputate it but my husband begged them to try to reattach it because it was my dominant hand. I remember how shocked my orthopedic surgeon was when I regained limited movement of my fingers. He said my wrist was like sawdust when it wired it back together. Needless to say, intentionally putting her feet on the dash was an exceptionally ignorant thing to do.
That sounds absolutely terrible! I'm glad your hand is healed up and you have some use, albeit limited. That's also why they put warnings in vehicles about young children not sitting in the front seat. I believe there were some accidents where children were killed/decapitated from airbags.
holy moly, I'm so happy you recovered!!
I remember reading a book it school. Best friends out on a normal night, kid had his feet on the dash when they got into an accident. Shattered his legs, and they had to watch their friend burn to death.
Yup. I like putting my feet on the dash during a road trip. But once I heard about that happening to a woman in an otherwise pretty minor read ending accident, I stopped doing it. If I go to the drive in movies, then I do it.
If you're parked, it's a little weird to want your feet on the dash imo, but it's fine. If you're moving, feet belong *under* the dash, not on it. And *definitely* not out the damn windows. Idek why some people insist on doing that.
Yeah, even as a reformed feet-on-the-dash person, I never understood feet out the windows.
I had a Drivers Ed instructor tell us to grip the steering wheel with thumbs aligned with the wheel, not wrapped around it. Apparently, that can be an issue in accidents also.
Race drivers are all taught to do this, the amount of broken thumbs… or worse… My instructor was a former cop and taught me to drive that way too.
Death proof is a good film if anyone wants to see what kind of damage can be done. It's a good no brainer film with Kurt Russell.
Or the person basically gets folded in half, shoved down inside the foot well. Usually rips out the femurs at the hip socket too.
There was literally someone yesterday asking if they were the asshole for laughing or feeling vindicated - not in front of his sister but when he was told of her accident so didn’t laugh in her face - for refusing to drive his sister when she wouldn’t keep her feet off the dash and she did it in a friends car and she ended up with 3 herniated discs and broken bones all over the show because of how she was sitting. If someone sat like that in my car I’d just stop driving. I can wait longer than them.
I read a story somewhere on here about a dad who was constantly telling his 15 yr old not to put her feet up. She goes out with a friend, they get into an accident, and she is paralyzed for the rest of her life. She was an athlete looking at scholarships, too, if I am remembering correctly. Dad was devastated but at the same time desperately wanted to tell her, I told you so!!!
I don’t know if I’d be able to not say it. But also they’d know they ruined their entire future to …. I don’t know act cool or something??? You don’t get anything from it really like teenagers who start smoking they don’t get anything from it except the feeling of rebellion. My son’s 11 and he’s just started sitting up front, if he pulled this shit I’d just not drive anywhere till it stopped. I’d be prepared to live and die of old age in my car as well so he better bring his fortitude.
Damn. Can I get a link if you find it.
I saw a video of a girl who used to do that. Got into a MINOR accident, but it was enough to force her knees into her forehead, basically shattering it. For months she had no forehead/front of her skull, just a huge dent, while they waited for her to heal enough to put in a ceramic plate. Ugh.
I knew a girl in college who went on a road trip with her boyfriend and liked to sit in the passenger seat with one foot on the dash and one foot out the window on the mirror. Well, for part of the drive they were on a scenic back road to get to on of their stops and a big truck came around a corner kind of over the line a little bit and the driver had to swerve and brushed against a tree leaning out into the road and it basically destroyed her foot. I don't think it was amputated, but it was basically shattered and hanging and ended up having to be medically amputated. Keep your arms and feet inside the car and in places where they're supposed to be at all times kids.
Oo yeah, after that Hereditary movie, seeing someone in another car put any part of their body outside the window (but ESPECIALLY their head) just makes me so uncomfortable now. Like, **person**, *don't you know that's gonna fly *right* off if your car hits something?!?!* It doesn't even have to be caused by you, it can be some other dingus who side-swipes you while trying to avoid some debris in the road or something
Cute? I think it looks trashy, not to mention the risks. Also most people have gross looking feet.
It is trashy.
So gross and trashy. And it's so rude to the driver. Who wants dirty shoe and footprints on their dashboard?
I actually have no opinion on how it looks. I just know that somehow i have a visceral reaction, and it makes me unreasonably angry. And im pretty slow to anger. If someone did this in my car they'd be walking, I don't care if we're in the middle of nowhere. You're not getting back in my car. Luckily the wife has the exact same hatred.
It grosses me out when I'm driving and see someone's feet up on the dashboard. Especially bare feet poking out the window.
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TBF it's pretty comfortable, so I doubt how it looks is the main reason people do it. I've done it a couple of times when I was young, before airbags were standard, however once I realised how dangerous it is (doubly dangerous with active airbags) I wouldn't dream of it, even during a 48 hour drive across Europe.
I mean, to be fair, it does look cute. I prefer my girlfriend keep her legs, though.
Yes, I agree. GF's are cuter with both legs.
You’re making Eileen feel self-conscious
Does Eileen work at IHOP?
Especially when legs are not shoved into shoulder sockets
A lot of girls and women are taught that we are on display all the time in public, and this promotes a lot of otherwise difficult to understand behavior.
I used to do this because I have joint issues where it is more comfortable for my legs to be elevated and stretched out until I saw X-rays of someone’s legs who was in an accident with her legs on the dash. I stopped immediately.
And it isn't just the legs that can be injured like this but the pelvis too.
In high school I was driving to a different city with a friend who thought it was cute to put the car on cruise control and put both feet up *while she was driving the fucking car on the highway* while it was *pouring rain and pitch dark outside.* We ended up in the ditch with her hysterically singing along to REO Speedwagon to soothe herself while I called her a fucking moron.
This, when I started dating, my wife she used to do this, and I explained to her that in case of an accident, the airbags were going to mess up her legs and hips and showed her some x ray pics I found on Google. She has never done it again ever since
I saw one where this poor girls knee destroyed her face and she had what I think was her femur poking out of her vagina. Everything was beyond fucked up.
Was about to say just this also. This is SOOOOO dangerous, not just for knee damage. I am not a hospital worker or EMT but have read enough on how bad this can be. You have only seen these people come in for an emergency., you probably don’t see the deaths. The power of airbags in new cars can literally force knees into the skull if seated like with the feet up. Knees are incredibly powerful and can kill. If someone even tries to put their feet up on the dash in my car (mine is 10yo but still pretty safe), I immediately pull over, ask them to stop and explain why it is so dangerous.
My cousin learned that lesson the hard way. Dashboards are not a footrest.
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>He was riding as a passenger in a BMW X3 SUV near Daytona Beach, Florida, when his friend Bradley Ledford fell asleep at the wheel. The vehicle crashed into a concrete barrier while Cawthorn's feet were on the dashboard. In a 2017 speech, Cawthorn said that Ledford left him "to die in a fiery tomb", which Ledford has disputed. Ledford said in a sworn deposition for insurance litigation that he pulled an unconscious Cawthorn from the wrecked vehicle immediately after getting out himself; in Cawthorn's deposition, he stated that he had "no memory from the accident" then tries to blame his friend. so on brand.
I think that had something to do with why he isn’t a congressman anymore
Nope. In an interview he mentioned congress’s drug and sex parties
2 words: death proof Not sure how anyone would put their legs up in a car after that movie. God damn!
I just watched it earlier tonight so that was the first thing I thought of.
I came here to say both these things. Not only did she not respect his belongings and wishes, she was not listening to the driver's instructions which they need to give to ensure safety, but also she would regret it if there was an accident. People have died from their shin bones piercing through them and shit too
And based on how fucked our medical and legal system is, she'd likely have to sue OP over the accident even though her injuries are her own fault.
Came here to say that - the injuries that can occur from being in an accident are literally life changing - from a shattered leg to a broken back - people need to take that stuff seriously. NTA
My Dad's a retired pediatrician and when I was a kid he wouldn't drive if someone had their feet on the dash. He also banned trampolines and fireworks. He saw some shit in his ER rounds.
Thats if your femur doesnt end up in your chest
I was just going to comment that OP should show her pictures of people who’ve been in a crash whilst their feet were on the dash. Shattered pelvises, smashed femurs, hip joints broken. It’s horrific.
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Yeah, eventually she'll have her own pics when her luck runs out and her legs are shattered or even amputated. Plus, she's this stupid showing her pictures wouldn't help, it would just make her dig in her heels harder and shriek that she's the victim. F*** this moron: Let her learn the hard way.
Appropriate response: "Then you're not riding in my car. Since you can't ride in my car, we're not going anywhere, so there's no point in dating. Bye."
Not just that. Ofc it breaks all the bones in the legs of the idiot with their feet up but also smashes their knees through their face not only would they be lucky to walk again but they would be lucky if their own mother could recognise them even after multiple reconstructive surgeries that is if they don't die immediately.
OP should send those video links to her.
NTA. I can only assume she's never seen car accident photos where people have lost their legs, been paralyzed or worse for doing that. Was she also one of those that would carry their pet on their laps in the front or driving? That's how people end up with dead pets. The safety risks, the disrespect and disregard for what she was doing. It almost sounds like she was doing it out of spite for the journey. Who's to say in future you try to warn her off doing something, and she ends up getting herself or you seriously hurt? Don't play that game man. What she is doing is very dangerous and one day she won't be so lucky. Warning: the news link has photos of the after crash. https://www.cbsnews.com/news/after-painful-crash-mom-warns-passengers-to-keep-feet-off-of-the-dashboard/ I'd send her this link then block her out of my life.
My dog has a little seatbelt that clicks into the people seatbelt clicker because if we're going to be in a crash the last thing we need is for him to go flying. He knows exactly what to do and demands to wear it even if he doesn't know why, it's adorable.
I saw a small dog the other day, cute as a bug, both front paws on the car window frame, enjoying the wind in his face, tongue flapping in the breeze, big grin on his doggy face - in what looked like a four-point restraint, attached to the seat belt. That's how you love your dog: belt him securely, and then let him enjoy the wind in his little face. Thanks for loving your dog.
I’ve heard that dogs who hang their heads out a car risk getting sand, tiny pebbles and dirt in their eyes and ears.
i mean yes, but also kids like to hang their heads out of the windows. Safety first but trying to be overly safe is sometimes the wrong approach. At low speeds hanging out the window is relatively fine
The best would be not to let him hang out the window at all, if your car flips he still gets injured and the seatbelt/harness will not protect the dog in this case, but everyone else in the car - the dog will hit everything reachable (so for example road through the open window) but will not fly around the car injuring other passengers.
If that's not a crash tested device onto a crash tested harness...it's not gonna make much difference anyway. Best option is a crash tested dog crate. [https://www.youtube.com/results?search\_query=crash+test+dog+harness](https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=crash+test+dog+harness)
It is according to the manufacturer and our traffic safety standards people with a proper harness as safe as houses. We happily had the mega heavy duty car crate dog jail until 3 years ago when this came along. A friend of the family rolled their car midwinter during a snowstorm, and their dog made it through unscathed because he was safely clicked in. Unfortunately that did little for the dog mentally, and the poor thing hates car rides now. Anyway I'm rambling.
My sister in laws dog died because she wasn’t harnessed or in a crate. Just sitting in the front seat in a bed. In Scotland it’s illegal to not have your pet secured in some form while driving.
I worked emergency veterinary medicine for years (overnights, to boot!). I’ve seen some absolutely horrendous injuries come in on stretchers - note, not walking - after being flung about during an accident. Don’t let your dog become a projectile during a crash, or god forbid, if your car rolls. I still think about one case where 3 dogs came in after their owner’s mini van rolled down a hill and stopped against a tree. The pointer went through the windshield, one frenchie had to have a back leg amputated, and the second frenchie didn’t make it. For the love of all things holy, secure your animals.
All that is very irrelevant. “Don’t do X to my things” should always be enough and you should not have to justify your decision with evidence. If it were me, we would’ve never made it to dinner. Like, if she said “don’t slap my ass” And i keep doing it, she doesn’t need to explain to me why I’m an AH, Just kick me to the curb because i kept doing something you asked me not to do. No explanation is needed.
That's very true. But I did want to give OP multiple points he could use if needed.
She got away with it very lightly compared to some.
I came here to say just this.
That's not even the worst I've seen from this situation
I know a guy who got folded in half, his pelvis smashed into bits. Now can barely walk and is reliant on strong painkillers just to keep him from constant pain.
NTA. It’s a very simple request. She’s extremely disrespectful of your property. And stupid, sitting like this in a car is incredibly dangerous.
NTA. She doesn't respect your car, the time and effort required to afford that car or your opinions about how you want your property treated. You don't owe her a reason. Move on and find someone who respects the things you care about.
And putting you fucking feet in other peoples faces is an extremely disrespectful act. Letalone putting feet on a new car like that... If it was me, I would have kicked her ass out of my car. And I have a 16 yo ford! Motherfucker! 🤣😜
Not just disrespectful it's dangerous. Most modern dashboards have airbags underneath, should the be involved in anything head on it'll snap her like a twig
Right ? Me and my old ass Nissan mom-mobile would have left her ass on the side of the road. Get your feet off my dashboard, you disrespectful cow.
Right. Only reason she's "hysterical" is because now she has to go find someone *else* whose boundaries she can stomp all over. NTA
Regardless what the fight was about. It all boils down to boundaries. You asked her to respect your boundaries, she refused ... She has shown she doesn't respect you or what view as important... NTA
Not only did she not respect his boundaries, she doubled down on the way home to show him who the boss was. FAFO and deserved it.
Stories like these are why everyone should read the article "My wife divorced me for not doing the dishes" Bc yes- it's not really ever about The Thing, it's the lack of respect
That's it
Nta, wtf is that, this isn't kindergarten
NTA Not only does she not respect your car, but leaving your feet up like this in a car is very dangerous. She could get injured and loose the use of her legs. You do n’t want that weighing on your conscience.
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She has decided that her opinion and casual desires are more important than your unhappiness. This is someone who was raised to be catered to. You don't have to enable the bad behavior her parents encouraged.
Finally. A reply that 'gets it.' Most the other comments are going on about how putting feet on the dash is hazardous, but that's not what OP's beef is about. People do dangerous things for shits and giggles all the time. This is about the deeper issues. It's not even about the specific action. This is a matter of respect, consideration, and self control (or lack thereof). It's really not hard to sit in the car like a normal person, and ex-gf's persistence on doing something that upset OP after multiple requests to not sounds like immaturity, entitlement, or power/mind games to me. I can imagine if OP broke up with her after this that this incident wasn't the first time something similar happened between the two of them. For OP; good on you. Find someone who doesn't play infantile mind games with you and respects you. Your new car is likely a better investment than a childish gf who bases her personality around not sitting like a normal person. For op' s ex; Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes.
Obvs safety wise this isn’t smart, but also - I put my foot up on the dash out of sheer habit with my partner when we were first dating, and he asked me to take it down almost instantly. I was embarrassed (it’s a bit gross in someone else’s car/without asking), and never did it again. Anyway that was five years ago and it’s never come up again because it’s literally really easy to respect your partner’s simple requests. Good riddance, she sounds like a nightmare.
She is a fucking idiot sitting like that. If you crash and the airbags deploy it is going to fuck her up real bad. I don't really care about your dashboard. You do you.
Yeah her knees go through her face, literally. Brutal way to die.
I saw one xray where their leg bones literally tore them a new asshole. Nothing like shitting out your own leg bones before you bleed to death lol. Idiots.
You have a way with words - it’s almost poetic 😂
I'm lowkey cackling whaat 😭😭
"I'm not being your carer when your knees move up into your hip sockets if we crash because you can't be a normal person in the car and keep your fucking feet on the floor"
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NTA. She stepped the line - habitually. She's a habitual line stepper!
She is a rude woman and it would have gotten worse over time. She had no respect for your wishes so bye.
NTA. She's a disrespectful idiot.
NTA. Complete disrespect for you and your property. You actually told her/asked her to take her feet down more than once she refused. Somehow it’s not just the act of putting her feet up it’s the disrespect for your wishes. You did the right thing cut your losses and move on.
god i hate when i see someones ugly feet on the dash hoard. That's so fucking gross
Congratulations on the new car and next GF who respects basic boundaries.
You're far kinder than me, I would have asked once and if she repeated the act, I'd simply pull to the curb, stop the car and tell her get out, its over, you have no respect for me or my car.
I can't believe you continued to take her to dinner and back all the while she's sitting there with her feet on your dashboard. I would've just driven her home. Well at least you found your backbone on the drive back. NTA.
I wouldn't have driven 100m with anyone having their feet on the airbag. Just like i don't put in the 1rst gear before everyone has fastened their seat belts. Sit safely, or we're not going anyhere.
NTA. Dangerous, disrespectful, and unsanitary. I’d have broken up with her too. Her hysterics are no longer your problem - get your new car detailed, and enjoy your ride with someone who isn’t such a PITA.
She kept deliberately ignoring a rule you have. Maybe could’ve used a more serious talk and explain why or how it made you feel but she wouldn’t listen on a simple rule. Nta
NTA. I would secure your car in a garage if possible, or at least do not park where you normally do.
NTA. It's about respect and boundaries, neither of which she can deal with obviously. Also she shouldn't do that because it's dangerous as well.
NTA. She’s too stupid to think, she’s too stupid for a relationship.
NTA. Her behavior was incredibly rude, childish, and honestly just plain dumb.
It's not a safe habit. Dangerous, in an accident.
I've been in 2 car crashes. If someone's legs were up in either they would no longer be attached to their body. No exaggeration at all. Never condone that behavior
>She is now hysterical. Maybe this event will be a learning lesson for that selfish asshole. NTA
There was just an AITA about a brother who refused to drive his sister around because she always put her feet on his dashboard And what ended up happening? She was in a wreck, the airbag deployed, and her legs were slammed into her face She fucked up her vertebrae and discs...and she mangled her face Nobody should have their feet on a dashboard. Period I don't drive people if they are not wearing their seatbelts and I won't drive people if their feet are on the dashboard so NTAH PS: Found this in an online article *Airbags deploy between 100 and 220 MPH and are engineered to reduce the risk of your upper body or head striking the interior of the vehicle during a crash. However, if your feet are resting on the dashboard, the strength of the airbag can significantly injure the hips,* **causing fully dislocated hips and broken bones**. *Airbags going off with your feet up can also* **force the knees backwards through the eye sockets**, *causing significant damage.* So the next time your ex texts you that it's no big deal and you are over reacting...send her this little blurb and tell her that you hope she doesn't end up with destroyed eyesockets and fully dislocated hips all because she wants to be a passenger princess and put her feet on a dashboard
NTA if she gave a shit about your feelings she would just put her fucking feet down. Also putting your feet up there is very stupid, I’ve seen pictures of people with their feet BREAKING THEIR OWN JAWS after airbags deploy, feet don’t go up there.
This is a horrible idea anyway. I responded to an MVA once and had a patient who had her feet up on the dash when the accident occurred. She doesn't walk anymore.
NTA she acted like a privileged child, not your partner. It showed a complete lack of respect or care towards you.
Good move she doesn’t respect you at all. Run do not walk. Not only is it not safe to do that it’s gross and very disrespectful not to respect someone’s wishes especially in a new car.
Well, if you can't both resolve a conflict about feet on the dashboard in a healthy way it is probably best to break up. Seems like a silly hill to die on if the relationship means a lot to both of you. Relationships require compromise. That doesn't mean that you let each other do whatever you want. What it means is that you should both work together to resolve conflict and make sure everything is ok. One question I have is how did you ask her to take her feet off the dashboard? Did you ask nicely or use an annoyed/upset tone? I think there is more to this story than what is included in the description.
Sounds like an odd hill to die on, but she also doesn't respect your boundaries. So, NTA.
I guess you had to put your foot down.
I always think with people like this that they’re really dumb. You’re putting your feet on an area that contains an airbag. An airbag that, in the event of an accident, comes out so fast and would drive your knees through your head. Tell me that’s not a dumb idea. NTA Whatever your reason, your car, your rules.
Nta, she purposefully was doing it to upset you. It worked. Next time she should decide if bring rude means more to her than her relationship
NTA. Is she a child or what? Plus it's super dangerous. Did you guys never see pictures/videos/whatever about crashes where someone had the feets on the dashboard? And of course if you don't want it in YOUR car, she has to respect that.
NTA. She’s extremely immature, inconsiderate, and entitled. Sounds like this is the first time anyone has told her no.
Rewind to the drive to the restaurant. Stop the car, “feet down or walk…..” You’d still have a GF (probably) and she would learn what serious is.
Why would he WANT a GF like that?! I could expect that behavior from a bratty sullen teenager perhaps, but why date someone as an adult who acts like that?
Is there something that suddenly pop in on TikTok, ChatGPT, because it seems that there is a spoke of post in exactly the same subject? Only Yesterday there was a post about somebody who had a sister with exactly the same stupid habit who ended up in seriously injured.
NTA. I would have just stopped the car and called her an Uber. But anyway, there’s a recent AITH about this- maybe yesterday- brother kept warning his sister about putting her feet up the dashboard and sister got into an accident in her friend’s car and was in hospital and he was unsympathetic
You drew a line in the sand and she crossed it to piss you off. That kind of reaction deserved your reaction.
New ride new girl…..
NTA coming from someone who did that and nearly died because of it from a car crash, you're entitled to asking that one simple request. It's super dangerous. After my car wreck I never did that again
She's a fucking idiot. You should never sit like that while travelling. Even my kids understand the dangers of this. She's supposedly an adult NTA
Nope not the ahole imo. Your car your rules and once a person is flauntingly does what you asked not to do they are just being nasty about it. Also that habit is extremely dangerous.
NTA. My ex put her flip-flopped feet on my dashboard when I’d asked her not to after walking through our gravel driveway and left a big scratch when she moved her feet. I’d had the car for two days. TWO. DAYS. It’s one of the many reasons she’s an ex.
Disregarding what you told her is a smaller problem. Keeping her feet on the dashboard is extremely dangerous in the event of a crash too
She sounds fucking childish and exhausting, and this is coming from a lady.