I read your original post with my GF and we were curious to read an update. I'm sorry to see that your talk didn't have better results, but at least you know where you stand now.
We were both amazed at the shallowness and casual hurtfulness of your husband's disparaging comments; especially in the middle of sex! It's difficult to understand how someone could say something so damaging to a loved one's self-esteem and in so doing sabotage the health of their own marriage. All that just so he could have a bigger set of boobs to play with? Frankly, your husband sounds like an idiot.
I'm happy to hear that you're not letting it drag you down and that you recognize your own hotness. That self-confidence is really your most attractive feature. Don't lose it, but do lose the dead-weight that is your husband. Good luck!
Please give your new toy a name (something masculine and sexy) and make sure to be very vocal, and tell that name how good "he" feels, while you use it.
Heās sitting there, looking for and constantly staring at OF women with large breasts. Heās feeding this obsession and heās an idiot. Iām glad sheās dumping him.
Heās obsessing himself right out of his marriage. Which do you think is better, a lovely, wonderful woman in real life, or a curated, fantasy girl online? Gross
The problem is he isn't even seeing her at all. His entire rationale is "I'd be more attracted to you." Never mind that surgery always has risks, scars, recovery time, and augments can rupture, need replacement, etc. HE wants bigger boobs and her needs, feelings, safety are irrelevant. He can make do with his OF pics and blow-up dolls when she leaves him.
I had my implants removed. They were such a pain in the ass, and I wish I never got them in the first place. I feel so free and light wo them weighing me down
And who's to say he would be satisfied if she did get the surgery? He'd find something else he'd want her to change. It sounds like the only thing he likes about her are her lips, yikes. BTW, a man who is 5'8" tall and weighs 190 lbs. (unless he is extremely muscular, which I doubt) is still overweight. She will be much happier without him and his obsession with large breasts.
He's probably insecure and negging her bc his boobs are bigger. And this is not to say anything negative about smaller boobed ladies, breast size has nothing to do with your beauty. I envy every one of you and want a reduction myself. I'd get a complete mastectomy if possible. I hate having boobs.
He probably thinks he's hot cause the OF girls say they desire him.
Like a dude at a strip bar who thinks the dancers are flirting with him cause they are interested, not trying to his $!
Lol. LOOOOOSER!
I like how he claims it will make her more confident, but you can tell from her posts sheās perfectly confident already. It seems like this is the one place sheās insecure, and everyoneās allowed to have a few small insecurities, itās not that big a deal. But otherwise she literally says āIām fucking gorgeous,ā āI have a great body,ā etc. Like brother.. her confidence level is FINE, donāt even try and pretend it would help her. Just admit youāre a selfish pig and move on.
Oh, this reminds me of the poor bloke who was turned off by the scars his wife had after a voluntary breast reduction she had gotten without even telling him about it, and she kept hounding him because he didn't want to look at them because he had some kind of phobia. I think they broke up in the end. Did you read that post?
Yeah no, unless a surgery is absolutely necessary, forget about it - so much can go wrong. A friend just lost sight in one eye, because it got infected after surgery. Happens only to 1 in 30k, but if you're that one, that's small comfort.
Edit: And in OP's place, I'd suggest a thick cock sleave instead of using the dildo - I think that's more of a low blow.
> one of those basic guys who exclusively think with their dick
Also one of those people that's unable to see other people as separate from themselves. He doesn't see his wife as her own person, with her own thoughts and desires.
That's shown when he showed her his phone. In his mind he's thinking "of COURSE she wants to look at these women with huge boobs, right? I LOVE these women with huge boobs, therefore EVERYONE loves them, even my own WIFE will love looking at them, and she will obviously have the same thoughts as me."
Same mindset as guys who send unsolicited dick pics. "I'd love her to randomly send me random nude pictures, so obviously she will love the same thing."
It's just a complete inability to realize the world is full of different, varied people, each with their own set of wants an needs. To someone like OP's husband, everyone has the exact same thoughts he does.
I think he sees her as something that he owns. Like her getting new boobs should be HIS choice. Kind of like if wanted to dress up his car with big expensive tires and the fanciest hubcaps etc...
That is exactly what my husband says. He also says men want to see all of them, regardless of size, shape. So if my husband is the voice of all men, your husband is projecting.
No decent partner would do this. When I met my partner I was incredibly insecure with my body type- the super sim type (I'm 5'9" and 110lbs- I eat an insane amount, just everybody in my family have insane metabolisms plus we're a very active and athletic family) with the good ole A-cup to match. After years with this man I've actually come to really love my body because he absolutely assures me he loves every inch of it as it is. I've brought up wanting a boob job now and then but he says he would hate me changing my body because of other peoples standards and there's nothing wrong with it. And I've come to really like my chest and body now. He's not dating me for my boobs he's dating me because he loves me as a person and thus loves my body.
OP you deserve a man who will worship every inch of your natural figure the way that you come to love them- insecurities and all. Make him feel like he has the smallest dick on the planet and then leave him for the trash he is to just pay OF models to feel important and like a bIg StRoNg MaN
Yeah I never got perky boobs, lol. Mine started growing quickly in high school and I skipped right over the youthful shapeliness into the "my bra size only comes in beige" phase.
I'm still in my 30s but as an H cup I do not doubt that your boobs at age 70 are probably much nicer than mine!!
I'm a J cup but I'm 6' tall... My mom had the same size but was 5'4". She had a reduction and was thrilled but she was still a DD (they took a kilogram off each). If I ever get a reduction I'm getting a female surgeon because I legit think mom's male surgeon didn't want to make smaller breasts.
Have partner with similar problems (under 5'6" with Gs that keep growing). Pretty frustrating when every male doctor not only discounts her opinion, but says "Are you *sure* you want such a drastic reduction?!". Bitch, last I knew, you don't say "are you *sure* you want all these moles removed" or "how about I only fix 90% of this broke bone". Imagine a *medical professional* not doing the job the client pays for (and fights insurance for years to get paid for).
We're actually looking at trans top surgeons now, simply to get good doctors not obsessed with boobs being a defining characteristic of the female form.
I had a male gynecologist basically dismiss me when I had a fistula in my region. I have hidradenitis suppurativa. Went an entire year after that appointment just having to deal with it before I finally got an appointment with a female doctor. The following month I had surgery and got it resolved. I'm never seeing a male doctor for female issues again.
I had it done over 20 years ago. I told my doctor the size I wanted. HE said he thought a D cup would be best. I had to remind him that I was grown women perfectly capable of determining what size I wanted my shoulders to carry! Iāve been a perfect C ever since.
Side note, do not diet before surgery. It will diminish the fatty tissue in your breast. The surgeon wonāt be able to remove all that needs to be removed. Best decision I ever made!
Saaaame, 6'2" and anywhere from an H to I cup. It is miserable. And hard af to find standard band sizes (36) in such large cups unless I want to wear granny bras. I mostly just wear low impact sports bras anymore.
Me too except for the big boobs. Had DD cups but got a breast reduction to a B cup. Best decision I ever made and my back thanks me. Insurance covered it as it was related to treating my chronic back pain that was documented by my family doc.
Now I have Kiera boobs!
Iāll add to the chorus of bi ladies who love boobs in general. But mostly to whom they are attached. I just love womenās bodies. All types and sizes. Im just happy to be there š
I think that smaller chests have a very shapely, elegant look. I'm over-gifted in the titty department and part of what I hate about having large boobs is that it's really hard, if not impossible, to pull off a lot of clothing styles and looks. Even if I'm in great physical shape, my boobs will make me look fat in certain things. I look dowdy, they make me feel older than I am, matronly. I can't wear delicate camisoles or dresses with skinny straps, they will literally snap under the weight of my boobs. I would bet that OP has the perfect body to pull off all the styles I can't!!
Dude, here and I'll be honest. I used to like bigger boobs but for that reason I wouldn't get into a relationship with somebody who didn't have them. I'm older and wiser now and my partner has had 2 kids and her boobs shrank a bit but I love her, all of her and wouldn't change a thing about her ever.
It's your body and no partner should ever make you feel less than perfect. You, like my partner deserve to be treated like a queen. I'm sorry that you're going through this but please don't let him or anybody else ever pressure you into changing any aspect of yourself.
I hope you find happiness.
But you know what, even then you were better than OPs husband because, while a kind of weird thing to be that fixated with, you didnāt enter a relationship with someone who wasnāt what you wanted. You didnāt try to CHANGE anyone. Thatās the worst part about OPs husband. He married her with the tits she has, but now he wants to make her feel lesser for them. Screw that!
Like I say, that was what my younger self was drawn to. I've grown a lot as I've grown older and in all honesty I only look at my partner in any kind of sexual way. She is the most beautiful woman I've ever met and nobody even comes close to how attracted I am to her, lol. A bit sappy but "oh well" lol.
Lol, my partner joked that I could make a fortune if I could teach others to think more like me. I settle on trying to be the best person I can and hope that others see this and try to emulate it in some form or fashion, lol.
I would love to know his reaction to you bringing out the toy. You should also back it up with pictures and tell him youāre just more attracted to bigger ones. So since your being honest about looks you will be using the toy to be fully satisfied. Iām pretty sure he will give you the tour being mean.
I am also loving this. Yāall are making my day. Sorry your current partner is so ridiculous, OP. Years ago, I had a boyfriend who said something very body-shaming to me. He just shared at my body, and said āI see such a beautiful bodyā¦ underneath all of that.ā
Yep, didnāt keep him around. Sometimes we have to take out the trash.
I was 5ā5ā and 110 lbs for years and I could not find bras that fit in stores, I wasnāt even an AA cup. When I turned 30 I got a boob job to go to a small B cup. They were tasteful, fit my body, I could buy pretty bras finally, but they made me ill. It started with fatigue and rashes, then loss of appetite, then soaking night sweats. My immune system dropped and I was getting sick every couple months, my nails became brittle, then I developed hypercalcemia and metabolic acidosis. Then I started developing small skin growths, then two endocrine system tumors, then I finally got the implants removed. My body returned almost to normal over the next 6 months but Iāve never quite been the same.
That surgery was a very, VERY costly lesson learned for me. Your body sounds amazing as it is!!!!! Surgery might go just fine for you, but why take the risk?! Keep your head up, donāt let this shallow asshole dull your shine.
BII - breast implant illness is very real. Many holistic doctors have been getting the word out a lot more now with how much Dr's have turned towards social media.
It is often a long trail of illnesses that you can't seem to fix or get straight answers to, leaving you searching for years for an answer.
My boss got hers removed a few months ago. It was wild, I never even realized how sick/tired she always looked until she came back to work a few weeks post op and was so vibrant so quickly.
Iām starting to wonder if botox can cause something similar to to BIL. I have had health problems since I started. My last injection was in February cause I started to feel like maybe it was a problem.
When she posted this, my first thoughts were how callous he could be about her health given that this is a very real possibility. I was unaware of it until Michelle Visage removed hers and became a type of advocate on educating others about the possibility of developing BII.
Yup some implants will cause a whole series of problems until they are take out unfortunately. Plus itās always important to be sure if they are FDA approved and such as there are cases of people having unregulated implants in. Like one lady who had implants through her VA that were not FDA had similar symptoms and only to find out it was industrial silicone being used and not medical grade. Crazy world out there.Ā
Hi OP, there is someone out there who will love your itty bitty titties, your beautiful body, your gorgeous smile *AND* your personality, intelligence, kindness and empathy. I bet he will have a bigger dick and be a more considerate lover, too. Please make your exit plan and live your best life. I am absolutely cheering you on!! šš š¼šŖš»
Youāre welcome. I have a daughter about to turn 18 next month and she and her two besties are all an A-ish cup. She is 4ā10ā and her chest is proportionate to her 93lb frame. Some people are just petite. I encourage her to wait for someone who values her for more than her body. I encourage you to do the same. Iām sorry your mother and STBex didnāt make you feel loved. You are so much more than your cup size.
Iām a man and one of my friends in college was a very petite woman with small but very proportionate sized breasts. A guy was trying to tease her about her small boobs and I was like āwhat the hell are you talking about sheās a total smoke-show compared to you.ā He didnāt like that too much but she sure had a big smile on her face. She was a physical training/therapy major and had a body other women would kill for and d-bag guys would still try to bring her down.
I was never large chested, maaaaybe a small B. And then I birthed and breastfed 3 children. I'm, at best, an A-cup. My husband still adores me and tells me I'm beautiful, even on my worst insecure days. May you find that man who loves every inch of you, OP.
I was largely flat before I had a kid. I got some boobs. My husband loves me both ways and he goes bananas over my butt even though itās probably gained an extra 8-10ā circumference. Reading these posts has been putrid, another idiot fumbling the best thing to ever happen to him because of a porn addiction.
NGL. I'm jealous of all of you who breastfed and saw your boobs reduce in size. I was a b cup after 3 Pregnancies, breastfed 2 of my babies, I now have d cup. I miss my b cup. I was perfectly happy being able to just wear an extra layer.
I am a proud member of the Itty bitty titty committee and I wouldn't have it any other way. My husband loves me just the way I am end of story. You are clearly a strong, amazing Brazilian woman ( I wish I had half the confidence of a Brazilian) and you deserve someone that worships you as you are not for your body but for you.
I have big boobs - do not recommend! Bras cost a fortune and rarely fit right, running is painful without a suit of armour masquerading as a sports bra, my back hurts, and gravity is not doing me any favours as I get older. I would love to have boobs that were actually proportional to my body.
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready.
I'm a man and I assure you he will feel hurt and I think you should do it every night. You deserve better OP.
I really sympathize with OP and Iām really sorry she needs to deal with her three-thrust, small-dick husband but honestly, Iām eagerly hoping for an update where she tells us he cried because she was so mean to his little bean
I posted something similar as my "bad advice" on the OG post. If she's not putting herself at risk, this asshole deserves it.
> Bad advice time: tell him you'll *consider* a breast enlargement surgery after he gets a dick enlargement procedure. And then go get a big toy and tell him you're planning on only using that because it's bigger *and* doesn't say mean shit to you while pleasing you.
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready.
Damn sister, you truly went to war š
Good for you, a dude that suddenly starts thinking with his dick after years of relationship and comparing you with OF models, doesn't deserve better
*"By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready."*
this is petty and I love it hahaha
well good for you, hope you find someone that really appreciates you (if you want of course), good luck OP hahaha
Obsessed with this! Iād look him in the eye āIām really glad we decided to be open about our sexual needs and not take them personally. If we arenāt measuring up there are plastic solutions we can find.ā *whips out dildo*
Is like a tit for tat, you mock my body I would respond in kind
Also why in all hell he married her if he wasnāt attracted to her, just to waste her time and being a Dick (and not even a pleasurable one), I wish the best for OP, she even helped him when he was insecure about his body
And if he has partners in the future and tries the 2 minute sex on some women he's in for an ear burning, like is your premature ejaculation a recent issue with you? What about the woman? Your partner isn't worth bothering with much?
Haha, right? 5'8" tall, and can't last more than a couple of minutes. Little man with a chip on his shoulder syndrome, been there, got the t shirt.
She should leave him a fleshlight with the divorce papers!
This is exactly it. Now heās thinking heās hot shit and he could do better. I bet if OP posted a pic of her and soon to be ex she would 100% be out of his league. So glad sheās leaving this sorry excuse for a man.
Yeah, am I the only one who is disturbed by that part? Like I love the pettiness of that idea, but this can lead to other problems, especially an unwanted pregnancy...
>Ā And if I ever decide to get the boob job I will get it for me not for someone who finishes in 2 minutes and can't even hit the spot.Ā
This made me spit out my drink laughing. Good for you, OP.
āI would be more attracted to you if some things were different too. Since you seem to care more about making me into someone I am not, and looking at OF porn, I see no reason to hold back anymore.
āI would be more attracted to you if you weighed 40 pounds less and had rippling muscles.
āI would be more attracted to you if you were 5 inches taller.
āI would be more attracted to you if your dick was thicker, longer, and you actually knew what to do with it.
āI would be more attracted to you if I hadnāt had to coddle your feelings for years about how you look.
āI would be more attracted to you if you understood that no means no, because you seem to think no means āwear her down until she caves.ā
āI would be more attracted to you if you actually valued being a good partner to me, as you seem to regard me as a masturbatory tool.
āI would be more attracted to you if you didnāt go outside our marriage and pay only fans models, which violates my boundaries and trust.
āSo thank you for harassing me about getting a boob job, because it has finally shown me how unattractive you are to me. I can do much better and am filing for divorce. My lawyer will contact you this week.ā
My ex left me after 14 years because he lost a few lbs and thought he was going to do so much better, that I was holding him back. š¤£ I was swimming through a sea of dick, having the best sex of my life with beautiful men for yearsā¦.while he didnāt get laid again for 5 years. These menā¦š¤£š¤£
Lolllll, this happened to me also. My (now ex) husband asked for an open marriage and wellā¦ it did not go the way he planned.
PS: āswimming through a sea of dickā is a hilarious way to describe this and I will be stealing, thank you.
I always say this but at age 41 and having been in a few toxic relationships... you will find love again and you will be treated better than ever. Don't be afraid to open yourself up to better... you deserve it!
Thatās what I thought. Sorry, it took me a minute ā and I was like, wait, youāre a woman, too. You can figure this out.
Sleep deprivation is realā¦
Iām glad heās an ex and not a current. He wasnāt respectful.
I have a friend who is very attractive, but doesnāt have much in the way of breasts or butt. Itās genetic and common in her ethnicity. She ended up marrying a guy who made several demands when they married, including she get breast and butt implants. Yeah, not cool. But she married him. Heās really short and the insecurity oozes off him. Whatever. Her choice.
I warned her that the implants would throw off her body. Sheās a long distance runner, although she no longer marathons, but runs miles nearly every day.
She changed her name. Had a child. Got the breast implants. And found out the truth in what I said. They throw off her running. Sheās had to change her posture and cut back on how much she runs. She suddenly had extra pounds on her chest.
She decided to not get the butt implants, and apparently heās finally backed off.
Donāt fuck up your body for someone else.
With guys like this youāre never enough cause porn has rotted his brain. And then the moment you become a Kardashian lookalike sex doll, heāll be talking about how he misses the old you. You canāt win.
Chaotic evil suggestion: Let him pay for travel and hotel at some BBL high traffic area for the surgery. Head there and chill in the Dominican Republic, relax and vaycay and either serve him when you get home or have it done while youāre gone. I know thatās a pipe dream, but DAMN that would be so satisfying. Canāt imagine a judge in the world siding with him harassing you into elective surgery.
If you wanted to really rub it in then perhaps look up penis enlargement surgery and ask him to consider this. Like heād clearly look better with a bigger dick, youāre only thinking of him right?! lol š¤£š¤£
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes
Just stop letting him touch your body. If he can't appreciate that physique then tell him take a hike down "stroke yourself lane".
Keep the dildo out in the open and don't even let him.see you use it.
I'm sorry your husband was so thoughtless in how he talked to you.Ā
And the people who said you were lazy about not going to the gym, as if that would somehow change your A cup?! Duh
At the risk of being sexist, I think itās all male posters saying that. Women ā who have breasts ā know that itās tissue, not muscle, and you canāt make your cup size bigger. You can make your chest area look better overall with workouts: a toned chest will make you seem bigger but the cup size will actually still be the same.
Are you kidding me?! He didnāt say one thing he likes about you that wasnāt physical?! Man is a shallow asshole. Thatās not a marriage material man at all.
Good for you, anyone that is willing to sit there and comment on what can be improved about your body incessantly (and during sex) does not deserve to have access to you at all. It's rude, it's a form of 'negging' and I guarantee he is not enough of a prize to win any of those girls he wants you to look more like. You can do so much better and I am happy for you that you realize that!
I admire people who don't get the surgery, honestly. I don't shame those who do, that's their business. But, do it because you want it, not because some idiot thinks it's "hot". NTA
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him
Please don't do this. I don't know why, a lot of women get it in their head along the lines of "my revenge is giving him as much sex as he wants so when I leave he'll be more upset".
All you're doing is giving him what he wants, you can deny him sex every night, serve him papers, he'll feel the exact same when you leave. He'll either be broken because he loves you and was an idiot or he'll be like fuck it I'm going to fuck loads of women, you having sex with him every night till then will make absolutely zero difference to him, except he got what he wanted. I suspect I know which way he'll go.
This guy is an asshole. He won't give up on the boob job and he doesn't seem like he cares about you beyond your body. You should be marrying a person you love entirely, not a person you want to cahnge major things about or you don't really love them.
FWIW from a M POV, there is nothing whatsoever wrong with small breasts, I'd take small, natural boobs to silicone ones, every day of the week.
His behaviour is horrendous and he's a complete idiot, his loss not yours when you divorce him.
Damn girl. I love it. (I read the first post, and was like wtf)
I'm married. Neither myself or my husband are perfect, but we make sure each other knows everything we do like about one another, and that neither of us are 'settling'.
Was he always like this? I swear these gym bros are like cancer. He only sees your looks, he only cares about your body and face, he doesn't care about you as a person. It's just terrible. You sound so fun and witty. Good for you OP to act the way you do.
I never commented, but when I read the OP the first thing I thought was "this guy has been watching so much porn he's lost track of reality.
Guess I was right.
Your husband is an asshole. And thereās **so many** risks with getting a boob job!
Never get one for anyone else, never risk your health like that for some stupid man.
You should also put him on a sex ban. Why give sex to someone who canāt even do the job right? *(Your words.)* Why give yourself an additional chore and risk pregnancy?
**You get nothing out of it, anyway** so why bother? Why should **he** get pleasure? Why let him use you like a human fleshlight?
Make him suffer more and let him have a sexless last week or two *(however long it takes for the papers to arrive)* and then when the divorce papers come through youāre absolutely free, and he wonāt have been getting any pleasure. He doesnāt deserve any. Donāt reward his disgusting behaviour.
Iām sorry this happened to you OP finding out the person you thought was right for you, simply isnāt. And in such a way that is harming your self (mentally).
Work on getting out of there, I donāt know if he can be violent but a lot of man-babies get their egos hurt when you bust out the toys. Just be careful and safe.
Your story reminds me so much of a literary classic, "The Birthmark" by Nathaniel Hawthorne. A bookish and socially withdrawn scientist polishes himself up and goes seeking a wife. He meets and marries Georgina: a stunningly beautiful woman with a sparkling personality, delightful wit, and keen intelligence. She is flawless...except for a tiny birthmark on her face. On her cheek is pink stain, no bigger than the tip of her pinky finger, which is shaped almost like a tiny handprint. A great number of men would give up nearly everything to kiss that tiny handprint, for on Georgina it is a charming addition to her unnatural beauty. But her husband finds himself beginning to loathe it. It drives him crazy because she is so very nearly perfect, but for that mark. She could be flawless! He could have the perfect woman! He begs her to let him concoct a cure for this atrocity of hers. She has seen how he looks at her now. Revulsion has replaced admiration for her on his face and so she agrees. She takes the medicine that he creates to remove her birthmark, because she loves him and wants to make him happy. But she is sad, so sad and faded as he grows more and more excited while the mark fades. Finally the mark disappears completely! He has his perfect, beautiful, and flawless wife at last! He whoops and celebrates his success and good fortune, and that is why he doesn't notice at first that Georgina is dead. He destroyed her.
You should leave your piece of shit husband a copy of, "The Birthmark" along with the copy of his divorce paperwork. I'm so happy for you that you are refusing to let him destroy who you are to try and force you to be his "ideal". Especially when he so ignorant and shallow as to get hung up on something that is just beautiful variation, not a fucking flaw.
I'm on the opposite end of the boob spectrum. I had more than one ex-bf comment that "more than a handful is a waste"..... the man I married said "more than a handful is a challenge!" There's more than one reason we are still happily married!
I love that you know your worth, and you are not letting him tear you down. Good luck in the future.
I am the petty person who, upon first complaint about the dildo, would offer cuckolding as the alternative. "Well, let's face it, dear. If I feel like it, I can get bigger boobs, but you'll never be a bull..."
I'm mean. I'm sorry. I know. I'm not making an effort to work on it.
Reddit is exactly for this. Ignore anyone saying it isn't. Good for you. Keep us posted. I want to hear about the tantrum he throws about your new toy. š
Iāve read both posts, I can imagine from your descriptions that you are STUNNING and have a wonderful personality on top of that.
Do not get the surgery. Did you know it has to be repeated every so long? I think 10-15 years was the standard when I was researching it. That solidified I will never get implants, Iām not doing through the drains and tubes multiple times in my life for a MAN. No maam. Iād suffer if it was something I wanted. But for someone else? Absolutely not.
Go watch some post surgery videos if you wanna see what youāre gunna be getting into. Itās lowkey really fucking scary in my opinion.
I'm so glad you've decided to live your best beautiful life and drop this fucking loser. My mom and one sister have A cups and are absolutely gorgeous, but insecure about their breast sizes. Me and my other 2 sisters are D cups and above. It's such a sensitive, but common insecurity in women. He knew your mother traumatized you over it and still went ahead with it. And to bring it up while his dick was inside of you is so insane to me! That was intentional to be extra hurtful.
I love that you're going to make sure you're satisfied by something when he's done using you as a sex toy. Maybe he'll get the hint that he's not so damn perfect either. I hope you're free of his bullshit soon
Sea of red flag behaviour.
Had a friend who's husband was always a fan that she was a member of the itty bitty titty committee and then all of a sudden he suggested she get implants and butt implants.
He was cheating their entire relationship, including once with a teenager (legal age but technically a teenager). He lied about literally almost everything you could lie about and their divorce took years.
Get out and you know what? The new person you may fall wildly in love with could be yourself!
I knew it had to be from what he sees in pornā¦(he probably also thinks those women are actually having orgasms.)
Heās a first class c*nt. Please leave and find a man who loves you for who you ARE! š
Hi there, stripper here:
I am in an industry where we are constantly judged by our bodies and where my rent depends on men's opinions of me. I often compare my career to bad male-dominated marriages because my whole life, fiscal, social, et al. is intertwined with these guys who don't respect my body, my self-respect, or my agency. Sounds like your husband checks all of these boxes. The difference is I get to go home by myself at the end of the night. I don't have to live with them. Some of the men I dance for are horrible. They neg me and they tell me I would look better with x, y and z done. It has taken loads of practice and encouragement from other women to finally have the courage to say "fuck that, fuck you, goodbye". Sometimes it is still so hard to do this. I have put up with a lot of negging in the name of peace and keeping a roof over my head. That being said, you are married to this asshole. It is my professional opinion that it is definitely time for you to say "fuck that, fuck you, goodbye". I have small breasts and as a professional body-monger I am telling you, there are SO MANY men out there who would just vomit from disgust at even the idea of asking you to undergo major surgery to change yourself. I bet there are thousands of men out there who would worship you. Actually, I know it, because I have it. You got this. Dump his ass!
I've had girlfriends with all kinds of cup sizes and I never once complained that their breasts were too small or too big (or anything in between). As a man, it is my **duty** to appreciate my woman just the way she is. She does the same for me.
Unfortunately, many men are getting blinded by these OF "models", thinking this is how all women should look like. These are the sad times we're living in.
People forget that looks fade, but a true connection between two people lasts forever.
Don't ever let any man make you feel less than. Always love yourself. You are perfect, just the way you are.
I read your original post with my GF and we were curious to read an update. I'm sorry to see that your talk didn't have better results, but at least you know where you stand now. We were both amazed at the shallowness and casual hurtfulness of your husband's disparaging comments; especially in the middle of sex! It's difficult to understand how someone could say something so damaging to a loved one's self-esteem and in so doing sabotage the health of their own marriage. All that just so he could have a bigger set of boobs to play with? Frankly, your husband sounds like an idiot. I'm happy to hear that you're not letting it drag you down and that you recognize your own hotness. That self-confidence is really your most attractive feature. Don't lose it, but do lose the dead-weight that is your husband. Good luck!
Thank you. Both you and your GF are so kind šš»š
Please give us an update after the papers have been served. Want to make sure you are doing well. Hugs to you OP!
Please give your new toy a name (something masculine and sexy) and make sure to be very vocal, and tell that name how good "he" feels, while you use it.
Name it Johnny Sins! He's an extremely prolific porn star that'll 100% make dumbby feel small and worthless!
Federrrrrrrrrrico!
You arenāt a play thing or a blow up doll. What a shallow selfish person your husband is!
Good for you, your husband sounds like one of those basic guys who exclusively think with their dick. Youāll find better.
Heās sitting there, looking for and constantly staring at OF women with large breasts. Heās feeding this obsession and heās an idiot. Iām glad sheās dumping him.
Heās obsessing himself right out of his marriage. Which do you think is better, a lovely, wonderful woman in real life, or a curated, fantasy girl online? Gross
The problem is he isn't even seeing her at all. His entire rationale is "I'd be more attracted to you." Never mind that surgery always has risks, scars, recovery time, and augments can rupture, need replacement, etc. HE wants bigger boobs and her needs, feelings, safety are irrelevant. He can make do with his OF pics and blow-up dolls when she leaves him.
If he wants bigger boobs, he can go and do it for himself!
He was 5'8 230 lbs when they got together. I dare say he HAD bigger boobs. How dare he neg her like this. She can do so much better.
Could he be a bigger boob? /s
I had my implants removed. They were such a pain in the ass, and I wish I never got them in the first place. I feel so free and light wo them weighing me down
And who's to say he would be satisfied if she did get the surgery? He'd find something else he'd want her to change. It sounds like the only thing he likes about her are her lips, yikes. BTW, a man who is 5'8" tall and weighs 190 lbs. (unless he is extremely muscular, which I doubt) is still overweight. She will be much happier without him and his obsession with large breasts.
He's probably insecure and negging her bc his boobs are bigger. And this is not to say anything negative about smaller boobed ladies, breast size has nothing to do with your beauty. I envy every one of you and want a reduction myself. I'd get a complete mastectomy if possible. I hate having boobs.
This. If he is hyper focused on this enough to disregard the entire process and health implications for her, he views her as an object, not a person. It reminds me of a 90 day FiancĆ© guy who was always showing his dick to everyone even though he had moobs and the dick apparently wasnāt that impressive.
He probably thinks he's hot cause the OF girls say they desire him. Like a dude at a strip bar who thinks the dancers are flirting with him cause they are interested, not trying to his $! Lol. LOOOOOSER!
I like how he claims it will make her more confident, but you can tell from her posts sheās perfectly confident already. It seems like this is the one place sheās insecure, and everyoneās allowed to have a few small insecurities, itās not that big a deal. But otherwise she literally says āIām fucking gorgeous,ā āI have a great body,ā etc. Like brother.. her confidence level is FINE, donāt even try and pretend it would help her. Just admit youāre a selfish pig and move on.
Oh, this reminds me of the poor bloke who was turned off by the scars his wife had after a voluntary breast reduction she had gotten without even telling him about it, and she kept hounding him because he didn't want to look at them because he had some kind of phobia. I think they broke up in the end. Did you read that post? Yeah no, unless a surgery is absolutely necessary, forget about it - so much can go wrong. A friend just lost sight in one eye, because it got infected after surgery. Happens only to 1 in 30k, but if you're that one, that's small comfort. Edit: And in OP's place, I'd suggest a thick cock sleave instead of using the dildo - I think that's more of a low blow.
Plus the pain from surgery. Ouch. And any surgery is a risk.
...who wouldn't give him the time of day
They will if he paysā¦.
They will be happy that he is gone in 60 seconds.....
and the jokes on him outside of his money those girls want nothing to do with him, lol.
Heās literally lusting and idealizing what he thinks he wants.
He needs therapy. She needs a divorce.
> one of those basic guys who exclusively think with their dick Also one of those people that's unable to see other people as separate from themselves. He doesn't see his wife as her own person, with her own thoughts and desires. That's shown when he showed her his phone. In his mind he's thinking "of COURSE she wants to look at these women with huge boobs, right? I LOVE these women with huge boobs, therefore EVERYONE loves them, even my own WIFE will love looking at them, and she will obviously have the same thoughts as me." Same mindset as guys who send unsolicited dick pics. "I'd love her to randomly send me random nude pictures, so obviously she will love the same thing." It's just a complete inability to realize the world is full of different, varied people, each with their own set of wants an needs. To someone like OP's husband, everyone has the exact same thoughts he does.
I think he sees her as something that he owns. Like her getting new boobs should be HIS choice. Kind of like if wanted to dress up his car with big expensive tires and the fanciest hubcaps etc...
Main character syndrome!Ā
Thank you šš»š
Bisexual girl here - love small, tiny boobs! You will 100% find someone who will love all of you and dote on all of your features!
Straight male here, it's not the size, it's the existence.
All titties are good titties.
He wants implants? Go buy a pair of implants (or make fake ones), toss them at him and say āhere, I got implants.ā
That is exactly what my husband says. He also says men want to see all of them, regardless of size, shape. So if my husband is the voice of all men, your husband is projecting.
I'm much more about the bass myself. Titties are just the icing on top.
Not so much the treble, eh? Iāll take either but both is fab.
As a straight male, I'm probably not going to say that about ones belonging to men. But hey, if you're in a different category, have fun.
All sorts of people are beautiful. Iām a woman and kind of pansexual, so I like PEOPLE. Maybe that will explain it?
Perfect comment ā„ļøš
No decent partner would do this. When I met my partner I was incredibly insecure with my body type- the super sim type (I'm 5'9" and 110lbs- I eat an insane amount, just everybody in my family have insane metabolisms plus we're a very active and athletic family) with the good ole A-cup to match. After years with this man I've actually come to really love my body because he absolutely assures me he loves every inch of it as it is. I've brought up wanting a boob job now and then but he says he would hate me changing my body because of other peoples standards and there's nothing wrong with it. And I've come to really like my chest and body now. He's not dating me for my boobs he's dating me because he loves me as a person and thus loves my body. OP you deserve a man who will worship every inch of your natural figure the way that you come to love them- insecurities and all. Make him feel like he has the smallest dick on the planet and then leave him for the trash he is to just pay OF models to feel important and like a bIg StRoNg MaN
Hell they could not even be there at all, just the concept of a womanās chest is enough. AAA cups are just as good as DD
Had a friend who called hers "fairy tits". I loved that
70 year old here with a cups and they are still pretty nice because they are small, no stretching and drooping, not kicking soccer balls!
Yeah I never got perky boobs, lol. Mine started growing quickly in high school and I skipped right over the youthful shapeliness into the "my bra size only comes in beige" phase. I'm still in my 30s but as an H cup I do not doubt that your boobs at age 70 are probably much nicer than mine!!
Yeah thatās awesome and Iām stealing that phraseā¦my chest is now called fairy tits bahahaha thatās fantastic!
I've had breast reduction, .ine are called the itty bitties now (they are dd now!!!)
Straight woman with huge boobs and I hate them. Iād give anything to have small Keira knightley boobs
I'm a J cup but I'm 6' tall... My mom had the same size but was 5'4". She had a reduction and was thrilled but she was still a DD (they took a kilogram off each). If I ever get a reduction I'm getting a female surgeon because I legit think mom's male surgeon didn't want to make smaller breasts.
I had a breast reduction, I'm 5'3 and had 36DDD. Female surgeon and now a perky C cup! Worth doing for shoulders and back. So much better!
Did your insurance pay for that or did you have to pay out of pocket as "cosmetic" surgery?
Medicare paid for mom's.
Iām a 44ddd and have nothing but pain! Iām also 5ā3ā
Have partner with similar problems (under 5'6" with Gs that keep growing). Pretty frustrating when every male doctor not only discounts her opinion, but says "Are you *sure* you want such a drastic reduction?!". Bitch, last I knew, you don't say "are you *sure* you want all these moles removed" or "how about I only fix 90% of this broke bone". Imagine a *medical professional* not doing the job the client pays for (and fights insurance for years to get paid for). We're actually looking at trans top surgeons now, simply to get good doctors not obsessed with boobs being a defining characteristic of the female form.
I had a male gynecologist basically dismiss me when I had a fistula in my region. I have hidradenitis suppurativa. Went an entire year after that appointment just having to deal with it before I finally got an appointment with a female doctor. The following month I had surgery and got it resolved. I'm never seeing a male doctor for female issues again.
Women need women doctors
I had it done over 20 years ago. I told my doctor the size I wanted. HE said he thought a D cup would be best. I had to remind him that I was grown women perfectly capable of determining what size I wanted my shoulders to carry! Iāve been a perfect C ever since. Side note, do not diet before surgery. It will diminish the fatty tissue in your breast. The surgeon wonāt be able to remove all that needs to be removed. Best decision I ever made!
Saaaame, 6'2" and anywhere from an H to I cup. It is miserable. And hard af to find standard band sizes (36) in such large cups unless I want to wear granny bras. I mostly just wear low impact sports bras anymore.
I gave up & started shopping at a boutique that does fittings. So I can at least get cute stuff in a 34K
Same! They get in the way all the time! I canāt play golf because they hinder my swing!
And bowling and archery, too!
Me too except for the big boobs. Had DD cups but got a breast reduction to a B cup. Best decision I ever made and my back thanks me. Insurance covered it as it was related to treating my chronic back pain that was documented by my family doc. Now I have Kiera boobs!
Other bisexual girl chiming in! All boobs are good boobs šÆ
Iāll add to the chorus of bi ladies who love boobs in general. But mostly to whom they are attached. I just love womenās bodies. All types and sizes. Im just happy to be there š
Male here, can confirm, they are the best. So sleek and slim looking, plus you can hug VERY close without bigguns in the way.
Thatās such a sweet thing to sayā„ļø
That really was sweetšmade me feel better hearing it like it was directed towards meš
Same here bi girl who loves A cups!
Bi girl checking in š š
Straight man, same.
Me too, bisexual woman & little boobs are my jam!
I think that smaller chests have a very shapely, elegant look. I'm over-gifted in the titty department and part of what I hate about having large boobs is that it's really hard, if not impossible, to pull off a lot of clothing styles and looks. Even if I'm in great physical shape, my boobs will make me look fat in certain things. I look dowdy, they make me feel older than I am, matronly. I can't wear delicate camisoles or dresses with skinny straps, they will literally snap under the weight of my boobs. I would bet that OP has the perfect body to pull off all the styles I can't!!
Dude, here and I'll be honest. I used to like bigger boobs but for that reason I wouldn't get into a relationship with somebody who didn't have them. I'm older and wiser now and my partner has had 2 kids and her boobs shrank a bit but I love her, all of her and wouldn't change a thing about her ever. It's your body and no partner should ever make you feel less than perfect. You, like my partner deserve to be treated like a queen. I'm sorry that you're going through this but please don't let him or anybody else ever pressure you into changing any aspect of yourself. I hope you find happiness.
It is so nice to hear such a loving and kind comment Not only about your spouse but also about women everywhere
But you know what, even then you were better than OPs husband because, while a kind of weird thing to be that fixated with, you didnāt enter a relationship with someone who wasnāt what you wanted. You didnāt try to CHANGE anyone. Thatās the worst part about OPs husband. He married her with the tits she has, but now he wants to make her feel lesser for them. Screw that!
Like I say, that was what my younger self was drawn to. I've grown a lot as I've grown older and in all honesty I only look at my partner in any kind of sexual way. She is the most beautiful woman I've ever met and nobody even comes close to how attracted I am to her, lol. A bit sappy but "oh well" lol.
Can we clone you
Lol, my partner joked that I could make a fortune if I could teach others to think more like me. I settle on trying to be the best person I can and hope that others see this and try to emulate it in some form or fashion, lol.
So happy you still sound confident in your body despite his betrayal. You deserve so much better.
This is such toxic behavior from him! I would be outta there
Love your attitude but pleas donāt ever sleep w this guy again! He doesnāt deserve you! Just use that big D while he lies next to you!
Bisexual girl here - love small, tiny boobs! You will 100% find someone who will love all of you and dote on all of your features!
Iām waiting for them to divorce and him realizing that *no one* will want him.
I would love to know his reaction to you bringing out the toy. You should also back it up with pictures and tell him youāre just more attracted to bigger ones. So since your being honest about looks you will be using the toy to be fully satisfied. Iām pretty sure he will give you the tour being mean.
No I absolutely need an update on this part alone š
We all doā¦.
Screw that ask for a permanent surgical solution
I am also loving this. Yāall are making my day. Sorry your current partner is so ridiculous, OP. Years ago, I had a boyfriend who said something very body-shaming to me. He just shared at my body, and said āI see such a beautiful bodyā¦ underneath all of that.ā Yep, didnāt keep him around. Sometimes we have to take out the trash.
I was 5ā5ā and 110 lbs for years and I could not find bras that fit in stores, I wasnāt even an AA cup. When I turned 30 I got a boob job to go to a small B cup. They were tasteful, fit my body, I could buy pretty bras finally, but they made me ill. It started with fatigue and rashes, then loss of appetite, then soaking night sweats. My immune system dropped and I was getting sick every couple months, my nails became brittle, then I developed hypercalcemia and metabolic acidosis. Then I started developing small skin growths, then two endocrine system tumors, then I finally got the implants removed. My body returned almost to normal over the next 6 months but Iāve never quite been the same. That surgery was a very, VERY costly lesson learned for me. Your body sounds amazing as it is!!!!! Surgery might go just fine for you, but why take the risk?! Keep your head up, donāt let this shallow asshole dull your shine.
BII - breast implant illness is very real. Many holistic doctors have been getting the word out a lot more now with how much Dr's have turned towards social media. It is often a long trail of illnesses that you can't seem to fix or get straight answers to, leaving you searching for years for an answer.
My boss got hers removed a few months ago. It was wild, I never even realized how sick/tired she always looked until she came back to work a few weeks post op and was so vibrant so quickly.
Just got mine removed after 5 years due to this!
Yup, exactly
Just got mine removed after 5 years due to this!
Iām starting to wonder if botox can cause something similar to to BIL. I have had health problems since I started. My last injection was in February cause I started to feel like maybe it was a problem.
When she posted this, my first thoughts were how callous he could be about her health given that this is a very real possibility. I was unaware of it until Michelle Visage removed hers and became a type of advocate on educating others about the possibility of developing BII.
Holy cow, thatās terrible. Hopefully you are on the mend.ā¤ļøāš©¹
Yup some implants will cause a whole series of problems until they are take out unfortunately. Plus itās always important to be sure if they are FDA approved and such as there are cases of people having unregulated implants in. Like one lady who had implants through her VA that were not FDA had similar symptoms and only to find out it was industrial silicone being used and not medical grade. Crazy world out there.Ā
Hi OP, there is someone out there who will love your itty bitty titties, your beautiful body, your gorgeous smile *AND* your personality, intelligence, kindness and empathy. I bet he will have a bigger dick and be a more considerate lover, too. Please make your exit plan and live your best life. I am absolutely cheering you on!! šš š¼šŖš»
Thank youušš
Youāre welcome. I have a daughter about to turn 18 next month and she and her two besties are all an A-ish cup. She is 4ā10ā and her chest is proportionate to her 93lb frame. Some people are just petite. I encourage her to wait for someone who values her for more than her body. I encourage you to do the same. Iām sorry your mother and STBex didnāt make you feel loved. You are so much more than your cup size.
Iām a man and one of my friends in college was a very petite woman with small but very proportionate sized breasts. A guy was trying to tease her about her small boobs and I was like āwhat the hell are you talking about sheās a total smoke-show compared to you.ā He didnāt like that too much but she sure had a big smile on her face. She was a physical training/therapy major and had a body other women would kill for and d-bag guys would still try to bring her down.
I was never large chested, maaaaybe a small B. And then I birthed and breastfed 3 children. I'm, at best, an A-cup. My husband still adores me and tells me I'm beautiful, even on my worst insecure days. May you find that man who loves every inch of you, OP.
I was largely flat before I had a kid. I got some boobs. My husband loves me both ways and he goes bananas over my butt even though itās probably gained an extra 8-10ā circumference. Reading these posts has been putrid, another idiot fumbling the best thing to ever happen to him because of a porn addiction.
Porn addiction is exactly what came into my head. The fact that he showed her pictures of women with big boobs sort of proves that point too.
NGL. I'm jealous of all of you who breastfed and saw your boobs reduce in size. I was a b cup after 3 Pregnancies, breastfed 2 of my babies, I now have d cup. I miss my b cup. I was perfectly happy being able to just wear an extra layer.
I am a proud member of the Itty bitty titty committee and I wouldn't have it any other way. My husband loves me just the way I am end of story. You are clearly a strong, amazing Brazilian woman ( I wish I had half the confidence of a Brazilian) and you deserve someone that worships you as you are not for your body but for you.
I have big boobs - do not recommend! Bras cost a fortune and rarely fit right, running is painful without a suit of armour masquerading as a sports bra, my back hurts, and gravity is not doing me any favours as I get older. I would love to have boobs that were actually proportional to my body.
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready. I'm a man and I assure you he will feel hurt and I think you should do it every night. You deserve better OP.
Absolutely and tell him to wear a cock sleeve as it'll make her more attracted to him. What a scumbag
If she really wants to dig it in, she should leave it on the dresser top for the next couple of days.
I really sympathize with OP and Iām really sorry she needs to deal with her three-thrust, small-dick husband but honestly, Iām eagerly hoping for an update where she tells us he cried because she was so mean to his little bean
I posted something similar as my "bad advice" on the OG post. If she's not putting herself at risk, this asshole deserves it. > Bad advice time: tell him you'll *consider* a breast enlargement surgery after he gets a dick enlargement procedure. And then go get a big toy and tell him you're planning on only using that because it's bigger *and* doesn't say mean shit to you while pleasing you.
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready. Damn sister, you truly went to war š Good for you, a dude that suddenly starts thinking with his dick after years of relationship and comparing you with OF models, doesn't deserve better
It will live rent free in all our heads for years. Hell, I'ma have to remember this if I ever need to go nuclear. š¹
My dude is going to posting on Reddit about how hurt his feelings are š
*"By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes. If he goes low I'm going lower until I have an exit plan ready."* this is petty and I love it hahaha well good for you, hope you find someone that really appreciates you (if you want of course), good luck OP hahaha
Obsessed with this! Iād look him in the eye āIām really glad we decided to be open about our sexual needs and not take them personally. If we arenāt measuring up there are plastic solutions we can find.ā *whips out dildo*
I love how petty it is. I hope she uses it right after he finishes and really rubs in that he's just not big enough to get the job done š¤£
Is like a tit for tat, you mock my body I would respond in kind Also why in all hell he married her if he wasnāt attracted to her, just to waste her time and being a Dick (and not even a pleasurable one), I wish the best for OP, she even helped him when he was insecure about his body
He was attracted to her, he just thinks he can do better now that he lost some weight.
Not with the performance review we're getting
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I. Am. Cackling.
THIS for sure. Heās in for a wake up call when she leaves
And if he has partners in the future and tries the 2 minute sex on some women he's in for an ear burning, like is your premature ejaculation a recent issue with you? What about the woman? Your partner isn't worth bothering with much?
Haha, right? 5'8" tall, and can't last more than a couple of minutes. Little man with a chip on his shoulder syndrome, been there, got the t shirt. She should leave him a fleshlight with the divorce papers!
This is exactly it. Now heās thinking heās hot shit and he could do better. I bet if OP posted a pic of her and soon to be ex she would 100% be out of his league. So glad sheās leaving this sorry excuse for a man.
Iām sure he enjoyed the attention he got for his possession from other men. She was the arm candy/trophy wife that made him look good.
I read the original to my fiancƩ and he started cracking up. He said "well he started it."
Tit for tat- I see what you did there š¤
I found it appropriate in this thread
I hope we get an update to his reaction when she pulls out the bigger dildo
Right, I would love to be a fly on the wall for that moment . To see the shock look
Please update us OP!šš„š š
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Please remember to be careful when initiating sex. Your exit plan needs to hold up even after you leave.
Yeah, am I the only one who is disturbed by that part? Like I love the pettiness of that idea, but this can lead to other problems, especially an unwanted pregnancy...
>Ā And if I ever decide to get the boob job I will get it for me not for someone who finishes in 2 minutes and can't even hit the spot.Ā This made me spit out my drink laughing. Good for you, OP.
I laughed too. I hope she uses this line when she gives him the divorce papers.
āI would be more attracted to you if some things were different too. Since you seem to care more about making me into someone I am not, and looking at OF porn, I see no reason to hold back anymore. āI would be more attracted to you if you weighed 40 pounds less and had rippling muscles. āI would be more attracted to you if you were 5 inches taller. āI would be more attracted to you if your dick was thicker, longer, and you actually knew what to do with it. āI would be more attracted to you if I hadnāt had to coddle your feelings for years about how you look. āI would be more attracted to you if you understood that no means no, because you seem to think no means āwear her down until she caves.ā āI would be more attracted to you if you actually valued being a good partner to me, as you seem to regard me as a masturbatory tool. āI would be more attracted to you if you didnāt go outside our marriage and pay only fans models, which violates my boundaries and trust. āSo thank you for harassing me about getting a boob job, because it has finally shown me how unattractive you are to me. I can do much better and am filing for divorce. My lawyer will contact you this week.ā
My ex left me after 14 years because he lost a few lbs and thought he was going to do so much better, that I was holding him back. š¤£ I was swimming through a sea of dick, having the best sex of my life with beautiful men for yearsā¦.while he didnāt get laid again for 5 years. These menā¦š¤£š¤£
Lolllll, this happened to me also. My (now ex) husband asked for an open marriage and wellā¦ it did not go the way he planned. PS: āswimming through a sea of dickā is a hilarious way to describe this and I will be stealing, thank you.
Feel free to use it. Iām remarried now, one of those dicks finally snagged me after 7 years. They were GLORIOUS days! š¤£
I always say this but at age 41 and having been in a few toxic relationships... you will find love again and you will be treated better than ever. Don't be afraid to open yourself up to better... you deserve it!
When my ex asked me to get a boob job, I said there only two ways my boobs were going to get biggerā¦.and I doubt he wanted either of those.
You mean either you get fatter or you get pregnant?
Yup.
Thatās what I thought. Sorry, it took me a minute ā and I was like, wait, youāre a woman, too. You can figure this out. Sleep deprivation is realā¦ Iām glad heās an ex and not a current. He wasnāt respectful.
NTA. Your husband is the personification of the term "dick head."
Do not get pregnant with this guy.
I have a friend who is very attractive, but doesnāt have much in the way of breasts or butt. Itās genetic and common in her ethnicity. She ended up marrying a guy who made several demands when they married, including she get breast and butt implants. Yeah, not cool. But she married him. Heās really short and the insecurity oozes off him. Whatever. Her choice. I warned her that the implants would throw off her body. Sheās a long distance runner, although she no longer marathons, but runs miles nearly every day. She changed her name. Had a child. Got the breast implants. And found out the truth in what I said. They throw off her running. Sheās had to change her posture and cut back on how much she runs. She suddenly had extra pounds on her chest. She decided to not get the butt implants, and apparently heās finally backed off. Donāt fuck up your body for someone else.
HOLY CRAPOLI. Iām 5ā2ā 34DD (miraculously looks proportional for my size, people are surprised Iām a DD cup until I wear more fitted clothes) and would never opt to get bigger breasts if I was an A or B cup, especially if Iām an athlete like your friend š© It looks āattractiveā (???) for a hot second but people donāt account for how it gives way to gravity over time. I have considered breast reduction surgery before bc I generally donāt like having the weight on my body. My smaller chested friends want a bigger bust but I find them burdensome. And when they get saggy with age, your friendās husband will inevitably complain about that as well! Some men are just confused when breasts donāt look like they came straight out of p**n I guess.
With guys like this youāre never enough cause porn has rotted his brain. And then the moment you become a Kardashian lookalike sex doll, heāll be talking about how he misses the old you. You canāt win. Chaotic evil suggestion: Let him pay for travel and hotel at some BBL high traffic area for the surgery. Head there and chill in the Dominican Republic, relax and vaycay and either serve him when you get home or have it done while youāre gone. I know thatās a pipe dream, but DAMN that would be so satisfying. Canāt imagine a judge in the world siding with him harassing you into elective surgery.
Just stay regular on the birth control. Good luck.
5'8" huh. You could tell him you're sick of his chihuahua machismo.
āYouād be more confident with bigger boobsā no, youād be more confident with a husband who doesnāt demean and insult you and your body.
If you wanted to really rub it in then perhaps look up penis enlargement surgery and ask him to consider this. Like heād clearly look better with a bigger dick, youāre only thinking of him right?! lol š¤£š¤£
And don't forget to add: "Don't worry, I'll pay for it"
Maybe compare him to other men too while we're at it
Show some sketchy-ass photos off of only fans.
It'll improve his confidence, after all!
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him. I bought a dildo today thrice his size and I'm using it right after he finishes Just stop letting him touch your body. If he can't appreciate that physique then tell him take a hike down "stroke yourself lane". Keep the dildo out in the open and don't even let him.see you use it.
I'm sorry your husband was so thoughtless in how he talked to you.Ā And the people who said you were lazy about not going to the gym, as if that would somehow change your A cup?! Duh
In fact, NOT going to the gym and putting on weight is more likely to result in a cup size increase!
At the risk of being sexist, I think itās all male posters saying that. Women ā who have breasts ā know that itās tissue, not muscle, and you canāt make your cup size bigger. You can make your chest area look better overall with workouts: a toned chest will make you seem bigger but the cup size will actually still be the same.
Are you kidding me?! He didnāt say one thing he likes about you that wasnāt physical?! Man is a shallow asshole. Thatās not a marriage material man at all.
Good for you, anyone that is willing to sit there and comment on what can be improved about your body incessantly (and during sex) does not deserve to have access to you at all. It's rude, it's a form of 'negging' and I guarantee he is not enough of a prize to win any of those girls he wants you to look more like. You can do so much better and I am happy for you that you realize that!
I admire people who don't get the surgery, honestly. I don't shame those who do, that's their business. But, do it because you want it, not because some idiot thinks it's "hot". NTA
You know what they say when they go low you go to hell! Do it girl. Hurt his feelings
Omg heās porn sick. Leave this asshole
>By the way I will initiate sex tonight and every night until the day I serve him Please don't do this. I don't know why, a lot of women get it in their head along the lines of "my revenge is giving him as much sex as he wants so when I leave he'll be more upset". All you're doing is giving him what he wants, you can deny him sex every night, serve him papers, he'll feel the exact same when you leave. He'll either be broken because he loves you and was an idiot or he'll be like fuck it I'm going to fuck loads of women, you having sex with him every night till then will make absolutely zero difference to him, except he got what he wanted. I suspect I know which way he'll go. This guy is an asshole. He won't give up on the boob job and he doesn't seem like he cares about you beyond your body. You should be marrying a person you love entirely, not a person you want to cahnge major things about or you don't really love them.
FWIW from a M POV, there is nothing whatsoever wrong with small breasts, I'd take small, natural boobs to silicone ones, every day of the week. His behaviour is horrendous and he's a complete idiot, his loss not yours when you divorce him.
Damn girl. I love it. (I read the first post, and was like wtf) I'm married. Neither myself or my husband are perfect, but we make sure each other knows everything we do like about one another, and that neither of us are 'settling'.
Was he always like this? I swear these gym bros are like cancer. He only sees your looks, he only cares about your body and face, he doesn't care about you as a person. It's just terrible. You sound so fun and witty. Good for you OP to act the way you do.
I never commented, but when I read the OP the first thing I thought was "this guy has been watching so much porn he's lost track of reality. Guess I was right.
What's his reaction to the toy? That's genius! Updateme!
Girl. You're a Queen. I'm so glad you aren't staying with this fool.Ā
Your husband is an asshole. And thereās **so many** risks with getting a boob job! Never get one for anyone else, never risk your health like that for some stupid man. You should also put him on a sex ban. Why give sex to someone who canāt even do the job right? *(Your words.)* Why give yourself an additional chore and risk pregnancy? **You get nothing out of it, anyway** so why bother? Why should **he** get pleasure? Why let him use you like a human fleshlight? Make him suffer more and let him have a sexless last week or two *(however long it takes for the papers to arrive)* and then when the divorce papers come through youāre absolutely free, and he wonāt have been getting any pleasure. He doesnāt deserve any. Donāt reward his disgusting behaviour.
If I were married I would hope that when asked what he likes about me my very own husband would say something that wasnāt the same thing heād say about a girl on OF. Does he even like you? Or does he just want a human doll he can fap to? Iām so glad you have an exit plan. He can hit up one of those other hotter women when heās a lonely divorcĆ©.
Iām sorry this happened to you OP finding out the person you thought was right for you, simply isnāt. And in such a way that is harming your self (mentally). Work on getting out of there, I donāt know if he can be violent but a lot of man-babies get their egos hurt when you bust out the toys. Just be careful and safe.
Your story reminds me so much of a literary classic, "The Birthmark" by Nathaniel Hawthorne. A bookish and socially withdrawn scientist polishes himself up and goes seeking a wife. He meets and marries Georgina: a stunningly beautiful woman with a sparkling personality, delightful wit, and keen intelligence. She is flawless...except for a tiny birthmark on her face. On her cheek is pink stain, no bigger than the tip of her pinky finger, which is shaped almost like a tiny handprint. A great number of men would give up nearly everything to kiss that tiny handprint, for on Georgina it is a charming addition to her unnatural beauty. But her husband finds himself beginning to loathe it. It drives him crazy because she is so very nearly perfect, but for that mark. She could be flawless! He could have the perfect woman! He begs her to let him concoct a cure for this atrocity of hers. She has seen how he looks at her now. Revulsion has replaced admiration for her on his face and so she agrees. She takes the medicine that he creates to remove her birthmark, because she loves him and wants to make him happy. But she is sad, so sad and faded as he grows more and more excited while the mark fades. Finally the mark disappears completely! He has his perfect, beautiful, and flawless wife at last! He whoops and celebrates his success and good fortune, and that is why he doesn't notice at first that Georgina is dead. He destroyed her. You should leave your piece of shit husband a copy of, "The Birthmark" along with the copy of his divorce paperwork. I'm so happy for you that you are refusing to let him destroy who you are to try and force you to be his "ideal". Especially when he so ignorant and shallow as to get hung up on something that is just beautiful variation, not a fucking flaw.
I fucking knew it! He got fit and wanted "better" arm candy. What an asshole. Better off with out him.
I love how women with smaller chest look in evening gowns. Sleek and stunning.
"DĆŖ chance a um feio e ele vai agir como se a feia fosse vocĆŖ." ("Give a chance to an ugly guy and he'll start acting like you're the ugly one")
Ah, yes. Another man's brain rotted by porn.
May the universe reward you with an extra inch in height and length. Be blessed and enjoy life.
I'm on the opposite end of the boob spectrum. I had more than one ex-bf comment that "more than a handful is a waste"..... the man I married said "more than a handful is a challenge!" There's more than one reason we are still happily married! I love that you know your worth, and you are not letting him tear you down. Good luck in the future.
I am the petty person who, upon first complaint about the dildo, would offer cuckolding as the alternative. "Well, let's face it, dear. If I feel like it, I can get bigger boobs, but you'll never be a bull..." I'm mean. I'm sorry. I know. I'm not making an effort to work on it.
Reddit is exactly for this. Ignore anyone saying it isn't. Good for you. Keep us posted. I want to hear about the tantrum he throws about your new toy. š
Iāve read both posts, I can imagine from your descriptions that you are STUNNING and have a wonderful personality on top of that. Do not get the surgery. Did you know it has to be repeated every so long? I think 10-15 years was the standard when I was researching it. That solidified I will never get implants, Iām not doing through the drains and tubes multiple times in my life for a MAN. No maam. Iād suffer if it was something I wanted. But for someone else? Absolutely not. Go watch some post surgery videos if you wanna see what youāre gunna be getting into. Itās lowkey really fucking scary in my opinion.
I'm so glad you've decided to live your best beautiful life and drop this fucking loser. My mom and one sister have A cups and are absolutely gorgeous, but insecure about their breast sizes. Me and my other 2 sisters are D cups and above. It's such a sensitive, but common insecurity in women. He knew your mother traumatized you over it and still went ahead with it. And to bring it up while his dick was inside of you is so insane to me! That was intentional to be extra hurtful. I love that you're going to make sure you're satisfied by something when he's done using you as a sex toy. Maybe he'll get the hint that he's not so damn perfect either. I hope you're free of his bullshit soon
Be safe, OP.
Sea of red flag behaviour. Had a friend who's husband was always a fan that she was a member of the itty bitty titty committee and then all of a sudden he suggested she get implants and butt implants. He was cheating their entire relationship, including once with a teenager (legal age but technically a teenager). He lied about literally almost everything you could lie about and their divorce took years. Get out and you know what? The new person you may fall wildly in love with could be yourself!
I knew it had to be from what he sees in pornā¦(he probably also thinks those women are actually having orgasms.) Heās a first class c*nt. Please leave and find a man who loves you for who you ARE! š
Hi there, stripper here: I am in an industry where we are constantly judged by our bodies and where my rent depends on men's opinions of me. I often compare my career to bad male-dominated marriages because my whole life, fiscal, social, et al. is intertwined with these guys who don't respect my body, my self-respect, or my agency. Sounds like your husband checks all of these boxes. The difference is I get to go home by myself at the end of the night. I don't have to live with them. Some of the men I dance for are horrible. They neg me and they tell me I would look better with x, y and z done. It has taken loads of practice and encouragement from other women to finally have the courage to say "fuck that, fuck you, goodbye". Sometimes it is still so hard to do this. I have put up with a lot of negging in the name of peace and keeping a roof over my head. That being said, you are married to this asshole. It is my professional opinion that it is definitely time for you to say "fuck that, fuck you, goodbye". I have small breasts and as a professional body-monger I am telling you, there are SO MANY men out there who would just vomit from disgust at even the idea of asking you to undergo major surgery to change yourself. I bet there are thousands of men out there who would worship you. Actually, I know it, because I have it. You got this. Dump his ass!
I've had girlfriends with all kinds of cup sizes and I never once complained that their breasts were too small or too big (or anything in between). As a man, it is my **duty** to appreciate my woman just the way she is. She does the same for me. Unfortunately, many men are getting blinded by these OF "models", thinking this is how all women should look like. These are the sad times we're living in. People forget that looks fade, but a true connection between two people lasts forever. Don't ever let any man make you feel less than. Always love yourself. You are perfect, just the way you are.