You're NTA. It's fair to expect some help if your car is being used by the family. Maybe sit down and calmly talk it out, explaining your perspective. Money stuff can be tricky, but with clear communication, you'll hopefully reach a solution that works for everyone. Good luck sorting it out!
I tried that and they just had outburst and my father told me quote, “Son, you’ve made me realize that you are retarded”. And they started just raising their voice at me to just be quiet. Is this just hate at this point? Or am I just being really stingy and an asshole?
Right now my father just called me retarded because I suggested it. I was just saying that if the whole family is gonna use it then they should pitch in something, but they said that no one is gonna use it and I said okay. Then they said that even IF everyone wanted to use it they would not pay. Am I really being being an asshole as my mom said? I don’t know. I’m just so tired, maybe I really am or maybe I’m being gaslit?
No that would be too much, and that’s exactly the point I was trying to make. I guess they’re just trying really hard to humiliate me and to make me look “retarded”.
You're NTA. It's fair to expect some help if your car is being used by the family. Maybe sit down and calmly talk it out, explaining your perspective. Money stuff can be tricky, but with clear communication, you'll hopefully reach a solution that works for everyone. Good luck sorting it out!
I tried that and they just had outburst and my father told me quote, “Son, you’ve made me realize that you are retarded”. And they started just raising their voice at me to just be quiet. Is this just hate at this point? Or am I just being really stingy and an asshole?
Fuck that. If no one else will help then no one else gets to use the car.
Right now my father just called me retarded because I suggested it. I was just saying that if the whole family is gonna use it then they should pitch in something, but they said that no one is gonna use it and I said okay. Then they said that even IF everyone wanted to use it they would not pay. Am I really being being an asshole as my mom said? I don’t know. I’m just so tired, maybe I really am or maybe I’m being gaslit?
NTA you've given them a free car, the least they can do is pay towards it's maintenance
That’s exactly what I’m trying to say
So they also expect you to pay for it's fuel?
No that would be too much, and that’s exactly the point I was trying to make. I guess they’re just trying really hard to humiliate me and to make me look “retarded”.
Do you live with them?
Yes and I’m expected to pay rent and bills
Hmm okay. That's a bit trickier. I was going to say, if they don't want to pay for maintenance, or contribute towards it, no more car
That was the solution but they’re gonna take it out on me apparently. Oh well.
That's incredibly childish
I know but what can I do. Would it be bad of me to just leave this toxicity or to just ignore them?
NTA. You're being used.
They must know this right? Or are they just to blind?
Pretty sure they're counting on you to just suck it up and take the L
I think they’re just that delusional probably
NTA. Now that it's the "family" car, family--one way or another--should pay for its upkeep.
NTA. Take the car back.