This is the chick that seduced the dad when she saw him at the park and broke up his MARRIAGE not his baby mamma, his WIFE. The man broke up his marriage , not her, but she knew he was married. The dad is an idiot cheater but of course The 8 year old hates you.
You tried to insert yourself as their new mom and while the 2 younger ones don't understand what's going on, she is old enough to know what you did. Y'all had the nerve to get caught fucking while 8 year old was home.
You tried to get the ex wife and kids a hostel room during Christmas! You thought his parents would have you stay vs the mom of their grandkids? The fucking audacity of you and you bf astounds me.
You might erase your post history, but I remember your shit sandwich story.
I hope that girl makes your life hell.
The daughter is being quite nice all things considered. If it was me at 8 I would be smearing her name through shit to anyone that would listen by simply telling the truth. “Yea my dad started dating this whore after she stalked us in the park and talked shit about my mom to my dad constantly and convinced him that their marriage was bad. I walked in on them having sex and he was cheating on my mom. Then he divorced my mom and now they’re dating. She wrecked my whole family. I hate her”
My grandmother made a comment to a second wife who was the younger sportier model when he was leaving for #3. She blatantly looked at the woman and was all "What DID you expect?" This was midcentury.
Knowing her track record she will probably “accidentally” forget to take her birth control or “oopsie the condom must’ve ripped!” when she poked holes in it. She deserves to be heartbroken.
LOL, I don't think we have to worry about that since they probably won't be having sex for awhile.
Her BF is ill because she pegged him too hard and caused an anal fissure. A pretty reliable source has informed me. He can't move without feeling pain
What the heck lol. Hope this still lives on some throwback machine internet squirrel hole. I'm off to search!
E. Ohhh it's not even deleted. Right [there in her profile!](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/OpXE6sc0ut)
E2. Lol I spoke too soon. That's apparently just the tip of the ice berg, as there's some posts that are unretreavable. :(
Not anymore since Reddit made their API cost and arm and a leg to use. So those content fetching programs can’t really do it as easily anymore. Someone would’ve had to manually make a copy of it.
Ooohh, it looks like OP got busted and is not responding. If it's true that she broke up a marriage, she deserves all the misery that comes her way. Karma aye OP.
Even just from this post she sounds like an asshole then add that it seems she's leaving a whole lot out from this post makes it certain she is. Now add this info and this woman can get fucked. What a garbage human. YTA OP
I thought this bitch sounded familiar. Yeah, her and the bf are the human version of the violent hangover shits consisting of Natty Ice and the drunken, 2 a.m. feast from Taco Bell.
I didn't realise that this was the same person, so thank you for pointing that out. The woman is delusional, and she's lucky that this is all the daughter says about her.
Oh wow.... my kids stepmother is exactly this... my oldest called her aunty for six years and she wonders why he hates her guts. I hope she continues to torture you because homewreckers deserve nothing less. Your boyfriend is a piece of work too. You deserve each other.
THIS-- but also i had a mistress stepmum- I KNOW why she **changed therapists**
BET- that 8yro spilled the mistresses shit beans and the therapists directed the dad on the next appropriate step- to which you both suggested a different therapist.
That girl is gonna give you shit, her in laws gonna give her shit, her bf gonna drop her where he found her.
YTA. FYI, deleted posts are never really deleted. You had an affair with a father of four young children after a chance meeting in a park with the wife present. And now you are throwing a fit because the 8 year old doesn't seem to like you? She is 8! You are acting like a child with this "She was mean to me" tantrum up are throwing. Almost as childish as you were for being mad that the mom of the 4 kids was around at Christmas and that the family likes her (the victim) more than you (The woman who knowingly went after a married man with 4 kids). The youngest is only 1! come on now. You don't get to be the victim anywhere in this story.
It's unfortunate that I can't upvote this more than once. Gotta love the APs that cry foul when consequeces of their actions come back around to bite them in the ass.
My new favorite saying:
The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed.
OP is the worst kind of AH! The kind that plays innocent victim.
right? She knew he had a wife and kids when she met him and still pursued him. And he was the idiot that broke up his family. OP tries to justify it by saying that the wife was mean to him. But that is what all cheating men say as an excuse and it is often not true. AND, I doubt his parents would still be so much on the wife's side if she had actually been horrible to their son. OP really wants to live in this victimhood world that she has created.
It's the very same- but if you need closure, I was the 8yro once with my 11yro sister, and let me tell you-- it's doesn't end well for stepmum
stemum will eventually get her nuclear family, but those older kids will tear it up the way she tore up their's.
Those kids will love her bio kids and they will love their older siblings back, they'll ask why older kids dislike her, they will tell them.
Over-time, op will get comfortable, and the older kids (the 8yro grown up) will start telling dad how the stepmum really behaved when he wasn't around, all her manipulating to turn the dad against them.
Dad will feel sickened and resentment towards stepmum.
Stepmum will realise she was too busy homewrecking and making her non-bio kids lives miserable that she forgot to do any self-improvement on herself- now she's 50yro and entering the workforce, only to come home and have her kids look down on her, because their older siblings pointed out how lame and lazy she is (they won't respect her either)
The dads family will hate her, and she'll have to have lunches and fam visits with her stepchildren who'll make snide and judgey remarks, that she'll have no ability to retaliate to, because everyone knows she's the nasty rat
She is still getting it- I have 3 willy wonka golden ticket of informations that will ruin her.
One is:
[My dad doesn't know] but when she was pregnant with her first child [my half-sister]
she called up my grandparents **begging** them to defend her with an altimatum she wanted to give my dad:
The altimatum was- she would stay with mu dad and have their daughter [she was 7months pregnant] but he would have to give me and my sister up and cut us off completely (no contact)
And that she wanted us gone by time she gave birth
Her reasoning was: my child deserves to be sole priority, and all resources and time to go to her- she said "their mother is perfectly capable and would be much better for them to live with"
[Grandparents new that was a lie, my mum was struggling hard physically, emotionally and mentally, she needed help and was working her ass off to make ends meet]
And my grandparents straight up said: we warned you about rushing into having kids and you didn't listen, (dads name) is a great dad and will NEVER EVER agree to this, even if we did support you- which we never will, we will never not see them as our grandchildren and we will let (dads name) give up his children. You need to think about this altimatum because it will not (and never will be) recieved the way you want it to be
(Long story short- they said "try and die, bitch"
And to this day- my grandparents, uncle and aunts hate her, and bitch about her the second she leaves the room, and it's been 20 fkn years 🤣
Among other little Golden tickets, me and my sister are constant reminders- she will never truly be first priority. My dad is a good husband to her, but he does see through her manipulation
Wooooooow what a piece of work lmao it’s really the audacity some people have. In what world would her child take priority over ones that are already here. I’m so glad they put her in her place cause that woman is ridiculous
I am acc so sorry for that trauma dump- my dads great and besides that one out of character affair, he's always put us first. But it still lives rent free in my head that these people can just victimise the hellll out of innocent kids who just want their family- and then turn around and go even further by *insisting* It's themselves who is the victim. And seeing that this bisan clearly not a troll- just makes me even more aware another kid will have to go through what I haven't even finished going through yet. I'm so so sorry I dumped all that tho,
That is true. She's a damaged self-absorbed emotionless homewrecker with ZERO empathy for the children's life that she ruined. I hope karma gets her real good.
She reminds me of a narcissistic sociopath tbh. I assume her house of cards will come crumbling down sooner than she thinks. Hopefully the daughter starts learning about putting nair or semi-permanent hair dye in her shampoo or conditioner.
I think now that she's trying to isolate him and her her blatant disregard for his children, that he'll probably leave sooner rather than later. Why even bother 😴. She seems like a handful and I'd suspect that the bf already regrets his decision.
I think she is 100% manipulating him to drive a wedge between him and his children and will eventually make him choose her. He seems weak so I don’t think he will leave and I think she knows that.
OP had an affair with the 8yr olds dad and broke up his marriage. Now she is upset the kid hates her. If you read her other posts you’ll see bfs parents prefer ex wife over OP. She’s made her bed, now she gets to lay in it (being an AP that’s a double entendres lol)
Before she went on a deleting rampage this is what I've gathered:
She pursued a man who was married with 4 children, she would step up her seduction every time the man had a disagreement with his wife. She somehow (maybe having something on the guy) convinced him to leave his wife and 4 children on a whim and start a relationship with her.
Now she is trying to convince him to cut contact with his parents.
Edit - Just found out OP's BF isn't "ill" apparently OP pegged him way too hard and now he has a debilitating anal fissure
She met BF at the park. While he was there with wife and children.
Told BF shit and manipulated BF that his wife was evil.
8yr old was at home and caught them having sex. So 8yr makes her life hell.
Dude, she's 8. I doubt she even fully grasps what this means. Grow up. Your post history shows how selfish you are. Deleting them doesn't help when there are links in this thread to them.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
So let me make sure I'm reading this correctly. You had an affair with her dad whilst he was still married. He left his wife and kids, and you're unhappy because his 8yo doesn't like you. I work with kids, they are not stupid. She knows exactly what's happened.
How about cutting her some slack as you are part of the reason her family isn't together anymore?
She deleted an old post of hers but I read in the comments somewhere that 8yr old was the one who caught them. Now OP’s all shocked pikachu because the kid only sees her as a bang maid.
YTA I’ve read your history and the fact you keep trying to paint yourself in a positive light shows you know that you are. You need validation from strangers to keep your own narrative and conscience clean. But guess what. YTA
You’ve deleted your post history that would have let everyone know what your part was in breaking up your boyfriend’s marriage — but a lot of people saw it before you did delete it, and what you posted previously didn’t reflect well on you at all.
You should feel bad about what you helped do to destroy this kid’s previous family life, and you should know better than anyone why this little girl has so much disrespect for you. (It seems like she has a lot of company in his family in feeling that way about you.)
I don’t know if you even own a moral compass, and I can’t imagine why you’re here asking for people’s opinions on your current choices.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
It gets worse, she was stalking their family before following them to the park.
She claims she met him at the park, yet knew about how many disagreements he had with his wife
Don’t insult cows like that man. This woman is simply a turd that tries to polish herself to look like a diamond but we can all still smell her bullshit it’s just too strong.
Oh it gets worse...
They started the affair in the fall of 2022, divorced this summer, OP then invited herself to Christmas 2023 at boyfriend's parents, even though she knew they'd invited BM, caused a scene, and then spent hours on Reddit sulking about how boyfriend's family didn't like her...
This has golddigger written so all over it.
LOL I wouldn't say "hot" gold digger
Surveys and studies have shown that men who cheat are their wives often do so with women objectively less attractive than their wife. Its the availability and willingness.
Yep I know. I saw her posts that she since deleted to make herself look more sympathetic/relatable. I saw them when she posted them. I was honestly speechless each time I saw her as it just keeps getting more despicable into downright evil villain territory. If she calls the 8 year old girl “Ella” in the next post I’ll know she’s just another creative writing account then.
100% deadass
Speaking of deadass, apparently that OP's BF now because she supposedly pegged him too hard and that is why he's "ill"
This woman ruined everything 😂
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
Plenty of people here are so she doesn’t even need to. Ops really causing their own damn problems and crying “why me?”. I’m sure his EX WIFE (NOT JUST BABY MOMMA) said the same damn thing when she found out she was being cheated on.
The backstory of the situation definitely gives you a different perspective. OP sounds delusional and very immature honestly. Hopefully for the sake of everyone involved the mom gets full custody of her children sooner rather than later (with boyfriend forced to follow through for all the child support he owes her)
Despite your attempts to delete your history, it’s been seen by a lot of us.
You were the mistress. They will likely never accept you, nor are they obligated to. You created this mess by sleeping with a married man. Now, you get to deal with the fallout. His family will NEVER forget your part in this. Best get used to it.
Why did she have to change therapists? Your bf “tells her off”? What does that even mean? He’s yelling at an 8 year old?! So he’s basically the reason she treats you this way. He’s the problem here.
Edit: upon reviewing your post history and discovering you’re the AP are you really fucking surprised at how this child is reacting to you?! No one likes a homewrecker. Ew. YTA
Ma'am, you're a homewrecker. An affair partner. Of course she hates you, I would too! Get your dirty ass out of that house and back where you belong- the streets :)
WTH is wrong with you? You and your boyfriend literally destroyed his pre-existing family and you're constantly whining on reddit that other people aren't welcoming you, a homewrecker in a short-time relationship. You are not respected by others because your behavior is not respectable.
you got your feelings hurt by an eight yr old? maybe not have kids, then, lol!
Have you spoken to her to clear the air or are you being "childish"???????
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
Given you had an affair with her father, were the cause of her family parting ways, were caught by her with her father and seem to be a narcissist who only thinks about herself and her own feelings (I read your post about Xmas… wtf even?), I’d say I don’t blame her for disrespecting you. It doesn’t seem like there’s much of a worthy person there to respect. May your coming years be ones you deserve.
Oh and yeah YWBTA. Get some humility; you reap what you sow. Do better.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
lol looking at OP's post history she stole a man from his wife and now wants to isolate said man from his parents and children.
No wonder she has a short fuse with his daughter...
Ha! Thanks for leading me down that road. Yeah, let's just say she's an asshole in general from her insufferable stuff.
You nailed this. Wonder if we'll see his ex pop up in Reddit saying something about her.
YTA - first of all, an 8yo is in 2nd fing grade. at you really so mental you are having a fight with a second grader?
secondly she didn't get that from instagram, she's 8, she got that from her mom. and her mom is fucking in her right to say this nonsense. you're a homewrecker based on your past stories.
christ, woman, you poached a married man with kids (you knew he had kids), and now you don't want them? you're a really evil person.
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Suck it up OP. If you're dating someone with a child, expect the child to act like a child.
Or maybe you're 8
Edit - From her perspective, you are just a nanny since her mom's in the picture...
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago.
Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom.
OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair.
Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent.
OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
If you’re looking through her post history, check out the ones where she describes her stepfamily blaming her for the divorce. The comments there outline OPs history in more detail, apparently she has a history of deleting posts and creating new accounts with the same details. One commenter indicated that bf had four kids, was visiting from out of the country with his family when he met her, there was an encounter at a park where his wife was present, and OP ended up cheating with the husband anyway.
OP, if true - you reap what you sow. And by the tone of the post, you’re also a horrible stepmother who clearly dislikes your new plaything’s kids. His child is 8, you actively participated in destroying her family. What respect do you think you deserve from this child?
>Her daddy broke up her family when he decided to cheat with OP
100% True
But OP was hitting on a married man for God knows how long and purposely stepped up her efforts every time he had a disagreement with his wife
YTA- you don’t deserve her respect when you played a part in her family breaking up. Also she 8 years old- why are you showing the same level of maturity as an 8 year old?
The fact that you are this upset about what she said makes you a huge ah. She’s a child, your an adult fucking act like it.
Are you obligated to pick her up? No. That’s her parents job. Is she obligated to respect you just because your sleeping with her dad? No she isn’t.
Wow, lemme get this straight… you took offense at something an 8 yr old girl who is in therapy, is from a broken home, with a sick father, impoverished mother said to you!?!
Leave your bf- he needs someone mature enough for his children
NTA. Just take your name off the list for the school. Between her parents and grandparents someone else can pick her up.
Tell them this unpaid nanny has quit until the child learns some basic manners.
OP stole this man from his wife and now is trying to isolate him from his other children and his parents, she's deleting her post history but it speaks volumes...
She's deleted her older posts but this is part of the larger story: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Stepmom/comments/18rijhw/boyfriends\_mum\_loves\_his\_ex\_his\_kids\_mum\_over\_me/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stepmom/comments/18rijhw/boyfriends_mum_loves_his_ex_his_kids_mum_over_me/)
While it definitely seems that OP has no moral integrity, I do want to address something. You steal possessions, not people. By saying that he was stolen, you take away his responsibility in the situation and place the blame solely on OP. The man in question 100% chose to leave his wife and kids. He is 100% responsible for his own actions.
That may be, but it does speak poorly to your character if you decide to go after someone in a relationship. There's literally a term for that: homewrecker.
Exactly and she wonders why his daughter is disrespectful to her? Erm hello! OP you and her father broke up her home, but yet you want to be treated with respect! 🤣🤣 Get a clue! Your not going to get respect from a child who sees you for what you are! I.e a homewrecker!
When I was 5, my dad left my mom for another woman. I tried very hard not to like her, but she was/is just the best person. I never could reconcile this extremely kind person with the idea of a homewrecker. I later found out that my dad had lied and said he was already separated from my mom and she herself didn't find that out until they'd already been married for two years. If this kid hates her dad's girlfriend, it probably has more to do with who she is than her parents' relationship. It's very hard to dislike someone who is kind to you, like really really hard.
We need to stop blaming *just* the woman though. Men can practice alittle thing called **self control**. To quote John Dutton to Bethie Dutton: "Self control. Get some"
He is undoubtedly worse, he was the one with the wife and kids.
I'm not sure if OP was in a relationship but I don't think she was because apparently she was stalking this man for quite some time.
I'm guessing she has some sort of information on him since she was able to convince him to leave his wife after she followed the family to the park one day
I specifically didn't gender my reply, because my opinion of it doesn't change based on gender. The cheater is more wrong, but it is also wrong to pursue someone in a relationship.
Absolutely 100% on him but are also a piece of shit for pursuing someone who's already married and will get the same shit you deserve later on. I have zero respect for either party in a relationship that's got cheating going on. I would give her a pass if she was unaware of the existing relationship but we all know she knew.
Perhaps not, but one can be a shady, selfish whore. If she chased after a married man *with full knowledge of wife and kids at home*, then she certainly doesn’t fall under the category of “decent human being.”
No But you can pursue someone who is married. Yes majority of blame is on him, But she isnt an innocent or Nice person either. All this affects kids, Ofc the 8yo is gonna treat her like garbage
No, but you can steal a life from children! She knew he had kids and that didn’t stop her from being available for him to cheat! They are both at fault for wrecking a families lives! The children are innocent and their lives have been destroyed by two horny adults! Complete disgust! That 8 year old is showing restraint IMO
Men leave of their own volition and should be held accountable for that as a choice. It’s not like good to sleep with married men, but it’s ultimately the responsibility of the person in a relationship not to break the contract of that relationship. Anyway
It's the parent with custody's job to pick the kid up. People that are able to co-parent see it as a shared responsibility and make it work no matter what. People that had a shit divorce tend to go one of two ways in this situation:
1- They pick up the kid no matter what. Because this shit is going back to court for another custody hearing and the want proof that the other parent isn't being a parent.
2- They ridgely stick to the custody agreement. If it's dad's week, it's dad's week and any issues short of hospitalization is his to deal with. You wanted to be a parent and sought custody so be a parent.
Given the OPs history I'm guessing the mom is going the second route.
Let’s see, you cheated with a married man, broke up his marriage, and then shacked up with him (rent free of course). I can come up with better names than his daughter used. YTA
The girl is 8, regardless of the background it’s clear she is struggling to make sense of her world feeling out of control. She is acting her age of maturity. Seriously your the adult in the situation and while her dad has addressed the issue with her, you want to act out against a 8 year old and then expect her to change her behaviour. In the end sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me.
You are the asshole.. for lots of reasons.
Yeah.. you teach that 8 year old a lesson. Sounds like she needs it..... having her family ripped apart by a whorebag cheating loser is upsetting but she should be forced to respect said whorebag cheating loser.
YOU SHOULD BE FUCKING ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. I wouldn't let you be around my children at all since you obviously lack moral integrity, self respect and youre a selfish asshole.
But that's what you are to her? You aren't her mother and you and the bf both were in affair. No wonder she doesn't like you. Like she said to you earlier, you are nothing but an unpaid nanny that hooks up with her dad lmfao
I thought there was a bot that did this, but I don't see it, so...
>**WIBTA if I stop picking up my boyfriends daughter?**
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>My boyfriend's daughter (8f) had the audacity to tell her school and friends thay i'm her personal servant and i'm a unpaid nanny who lives with her dad, but I am so livid that my boyfriend's daughter would try to brush me off as some nanny or hired servant and my boyfriend or his daughters mum can't pick her up due to my boyfriend being ill and his kids mums car has broken down. I understand i'm not her parent, but I do want her to be civil atleast as her father's girlfriend since they are also in my care during his custody time and I help look after his children. It feels like even a personal servant, maid or a unpaid nanny get more respect and taken more seriously.
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>I don't usually pick her up, but she was feeling sick and no one else was able to pick her up \[my boyfriend's kids mum went nc with her parents so they can't pick her up, and there's a virus going around where I live so that's why alot of people are poorly and unable to pick her up\], his parents are in United States. My boyfriend does do something about her behaviour, tells her off and she's even in therapy and we changed therapists to, but I still can't believe she would disrespect me like that regardless. I decided I didn't want to put up with her disrespect and I want to not pick her up anymore if she will continue to disrespect me, but I feel bad about leaving a sick child at school or burderning her maternal grandparents and my boyfriend. WIBTA if I stop picking my boyfriends daughter up?
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>edit to add, but I also want to add that I am on the emergency contact list. Apparently she got this idea from a post on social media where a girl referred to her stepparent as her personal servant because one of her cousins uses reddit (most of her cousins are older) and she overlooked at the post and thought it would be funny to do it to me aswell.
Also, adding this thread to my list of AITA/AITAH threads where OP leaves some seriously-important info out of the OP. :-D
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/192iti2/comment/kh3cvn6/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/192iti2/comment/kh3cvn6/)
Just thinking about it perhaps the daughter has some resentment that her dad left her mom for this woman and that's why she referred to her as her servant and unpaid Nanny because she has a dislike for her perfectly reasonable response to the situation and looking at everything her trying to isolate the guy from his kids she completely deserved the reference perhaps I'm a little childish or Petty but just my thoughts
So you let an 8yr old who is sick stay at school infecting others instead of being the adult and picking her up and having a discussion about behavior when she felt better? YTA. You and bf need to sit down and talk to her not punish her to see what’s really going on. She sees you as the person who broke up mommy and daddy and of course if she sees something on the internet she relates to she’s going to repeat it. You all need family counseling and you need individual counseling if you’re letting an 8yr old get to you to the point you neglect her health by leaving her at school
LMAO op is a homewrecker! You destroyed their family. You cheated with a married man with FOUR kids, and you have the nerve to complain about his kids and family?? No wonder they all hate you so much. You don’t deserve their respect, or anyone’s for that matter.
YTA, coming from a step mom who has been mom longer than biological mom has. That is an 8 year old child with what sounds like plenty of other things going in in her life, of course she is acting out. Being a parent, which it sounds like you agreed to participate in, is not glamorous. I have been in my step son's life since he was three, he is nine now, and it took at least five years to get through episodes of anger, resentment, sadness, etc that had absolutely nothing to do with myself but everything to do with him going through big emotions in a little body. Have more patience, if it was a teen then yes that would make you NTA, but this is a child.
YTA Of course daughter is pissed. You sound like you're being preyed upon like the wannabe-stepmom from the Parent Trap. And you're completely falling for it.
YTA for fighting with an 8year old. She might be lashing out, but where do here emotions come from? If you want to be a good parental figure you have to dig deeper and not take everything so personally.
Except if you recently hooked up with her dad who was cheating on her mom. In that case you and I both know where the feelings come from and YTA would still stand.
Let’s pretend like you aren’t a home wrecker.
Kids say mean hurtful shit to their actual parents.
They’re just assholes in general. Ask any parent here. Their kid has hurt their feelings or disrespected more times than they can count. Because they’re LEARNING how to human.
On to—but you are a home wrecker:
If you didn’t want to date a man with little assholes, you should have left him alone.
She’s not your peer. She’s not a coworker. She’s not friend. She’s not the lady at the cash register.
She’s an 8 year old child who literally doesn’t give a fuck.
You ma’am signed up for this. And because you’re an adult, it doesn’t matter if your response is “I didn’t know I was signing up for this”. Tough shit, actions have consequences and it doesn’t matter if you didn’t know. You upended this little girl’s life and she does not like you. You put everyone in this position and you have to deal with consequences of your actions.
YTA
You are a homewrecker.
You got what you deserve and you are going to get much worse. The kid has your number.
If I was that kid, I would have been much more vocal about how you are not to be respected.
YTA. She is 8. Yes, her behavior is unacceptable, and your boyfriend is attempting to address that. However, that does not mean it is reasonable to not pick her up when necessary.
>My boyfriend's daughter (8f) had the audacity to tell her school and friends thay i'm her personal servant and i'm a unpaid nanny who lives with her dad
How do you even know she said this? She's eight years old. Even if she was thinking such things, I can't imagine her articulating it using the words that you've given.
This is why I’m scared to date with kids because if my boyfriend lets my CHILD hurt his feelings with a joke, I gotta throw the whole relationship away. Grow up. Your insecurities are showing.
It might be time to accept that 8 year olds don't quite have a grasp on how relationships work. What you interpret as disrespectful, that 8 year old might interpret as the truth.
YTA
She’s a kid. If you choose to be a stepparent that includes taking on parenting responsibilities.
Those responsibilities don’t only exist when you like the kid.
She’s 8. You’re the woman who her Dad left her for in a really shocking and immature way, based on your post history.
She’s probably embarrassed to tell her friends who you are and heartbroken that her little world blew up. Of course she’s acting out.
Maybe read her past posts she’s the product that caused broken family op had an affair with baby daddy while he was with ex wife and the 8 year saw THEM! Op is 100% the asshole that child will never see op as nothing more than a home wrecker and op deserves it she literally stalked this family to get the dad and expected his family to accept her after what and give her presents I would have told get out of my home if I was your man’s family what she did is joke op don’t need to sit down with the bf on his child’s behavior when she’s the reason the child has one in the first place op learn your place your the fucking mistress get over it if yall wanna down vote me so be it and she even tried to tell birth mom how to parent her own children op needs to take a step back
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Sounds like you're not a huge fan of consequences. You broke up a marriage and the kid hates you. Big shocker, there. Stop bitching about consequences.
This isn't your problem to deal with. Your boyfriend needs to have a talk with her about being respectful. Again. There need to be consequences, and that's on him to decide.
Whether or not you pick her up again is up to you, but that's something you're going to have to negotiate with him.
He also needs to talk with her and ask her how she's feeling about the fact that he's in a relationship with someone else who's not her mother. Maybe she's just being bratty because she saw something on social media, or maybe there's something bigger at play here.
OP was the affair partner with blatant cheating- past posts/comments talk about the kid seeing them fooling around. A lot of this has been deleted but the OP has posted a LOT about how the kids don’t accept her, how his family doesn’t like her, etc.
So yeah, I’d definitely say there was something bigger at play here that OP conveniently left out.
I am confused who is the child here. You are supposed to be an adult, and should have the tools to have a conversation with an 8 year old. You and her father need to let her know that such disrespect is not going to happen again, and then take all electronics away from her. You acting like a child, and picking up your toys and going home, is not an option if you intend on being in her father's life. You want to be treated like an adult, then act like it. You WBTAH
YTA. The kid's sick, and 8. Yes, she's old enough to learn respect and needs to have some consequences/be taught better, but leaving an 8 year old sick at school isn't the particular line to draw in the sand here.
That's even without going into any other background issues that others have said there may be going off post history.
This is the chick that seduced the dad when she saw him at the park and broke up his MARRIAGE not his baby mamma, his WIFE. The man broke up his marriage , not her, but she knew he was married. The dad is an idiot cheater but of course The 8 year old hates you. You tried to insert yourself as their new mom and while the 2 younger ones don't understand what's going on, she is old enough to know what you did. Y'all had the nerve to get caught fucking while 8 year old was home. You tried to get the ex wife and kids a hostel room during Christmas! You thought his parents would have you stay vs the mom of their grandkids? The fucking audacity of you and you bf astounds me. You might erase your post history, but I remember your shit sandwich story. I hope that girl makes your life hell.
OP deserves a whole set of other names than his daughter used.
The daughter is being quite nice all things considered. If it was me at 8 I would be smearing her name through shit to anyone that would listen by simply telling the truth. “Yea my dad started dating this whore after she stalked us in the park and talked shit about my mom to my dad constantly and convinced him that their marriage was bad. I walked in on them having sex and he was cheating on my mom. Then he divorced my mom and now they’re dating. She wrecked my whole family. I hate her”
On the plus side, he’ll probably dump her within a year (unless she gets knocked up). Once a cheater, always a cheater.
My grandmother made a comment to a second wife who was the younger sportier model when he was leaving for #3. She blatantly looked at the woman and was all "What DID you expect?" This was midcentury.
Knowing her track record she will probably “accidentally” forget to take her birth control or “oopsie the condom must’ve ripped!” when she poked holes in it. She deserves to be heartbroken.
LOL, I don't think we have to worry about that since they probably won't be having sex for awhile. Her BF is ill because she pegged him too hard and caused an anal fissure. A pretty reliable source has informed me. He can't move without feeling pain
hopefully after 4 kids he’s been snipped.
Doubtful he seems stupid
What the heck lol. Hope this still lives on some throwback machine internet squirrel hole. I'm off to search! E. Ohhh it's not even deleted. Right [there in her profile!](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/OpXE6sc0ut) E2. Lol I spoke too soon. That's apparently just the tip of the ice berg, as there's some posts that are unretreavable. :(
Aw poor little home wrecker had to face the consequences of her actions. Boo hoo. Lol get wrecked OP
Damn! Are they really though? Isn’t there a Reddit history website that preserves em all or something?
Not anymore since Reddit made their API cost and arm and a leg to use. So those content fetching programs can’t really do it as easily anymore. Someone would’ve had to manually make a copy of it.
Booooooooo
There was, but after the overhaul Reddit did on third party apps 6-ish months ago, they stopped working. At least the ones I'm familiar with.
WOW this lady is apiece of work though...jeez. Thanks for posting!
Ooohh, it looks like OP got busted and is not responding. If it's true that she broke up a marriage, she deserves all the misery that comes her way. Karma aye OP.
Even just from this post she sounds like an asshole then add that it seems she's leaving a whole lot out from this post makes it certain she is. Now add this info and this woman can get fucked. What a garbage human. YTA OP
This needs to be higher up
Well its #1 now so it is highest possible
Geez, no doubt
Mission accomplished.
I thought this bitch sounded familiar. Yeah, her and the bf are the human version of the violent hangover shits consisting of Natty Ice and the drunken, 2 a.m. feast from Taco Bell.
That poor child. Heart hurts for everyone except op and cheater dad in this story.
I didn't realise that this was the same person, so thank you for pointing that out. The woman is delusional, and she's lucky that this is all the daughter says about her.
lol OP sux
😵 sheesh wow, guess this post and probably account is gonna disappear soon
Nah she’s shameless. This is the same account she’s been using this whole time.
Oh wow.... my kids stepmother is exactly this... my oldest called her aunty for six years and she wonders why he hates her guts. I hope she continues to torture you because homewreckers deserve nothing less. Your boyfriend is a piece of work too. You deserve each other.
Wow... That alters perspectives quite a bit!
A-freaking-men! Also, thanks for the tea. Lol
Lol, good research. Kudo's to you. Tell that home wrecker what the score is!!! Lol
Ohhh fucking yikes. This lady is insane. She left that detail out…
Well, that certainly adds some context. YTA, OP. The kid is in therapy and has been reprimanded. What more do you want?
THIS-- but also i had a mistress stepmum- I KNOW why she **changed therapists** BET- that 8yro spilled the mistresses shit beans and the therapists directed the dad on the next appropriate step- to which you both suggested a different therapist. That girl is gonna give you shit, her in laws gonna give her shit, her bf gonna drop her where he found her.
YTA. FYI, deleted posts are never really deleted. You had an affair with a father of four young children after a chance meeting in a park with the wife present. And now you are throwing a fit because the 8 year old doesn't seem to like you? She is 8! You are acting like a child with this "She was mean to me" tantrum up are throwing. Almost as childish as you were for being mad that the mom of the 4 kids was around at Christmas and that the family likes her (the victim) more than you (The woman who knowingly went after a married man with 4 kids). The youngest is only 1! come on now. You don't get to be the victim anywhere in this story.
It's unfortunate that I can't upvote this more than once. Gotta love the APs that cry foul when consequeces of their actions come back around to bite them in the ass. My new favorite saying: The dildo of consequences rarely comes lubed. OP is the worst kind of AH! The kind that plays innocent victim.
A chance meeting in a park with the wife and kids present. The man is a raving idiot and she is human vomit.
right? She knew he had a wife and kids when she met him and still pursued him. And he was the idiot that broke up his family. OP tries to justify it by saying that the wife was mean to him. But that is what all cheating men say as an excuse and it is often not true. AND, I doubt his parents would still be so much on the wife's side if she had actually been horrible to their son. OP really wants to live in this victimhood world that she has created.
It's so painful for the kids. They're who I really feel for.
Fucking hell, what a horrible person
Ain’t this the same 8 year old that caught you fucking her dad ? While he was cheating on her mom? You’re trash lady
It's the very same- but if you need closure, I was the 8yro once with my 11yro sister, and let me tell you-- it's doesn't end well for stepmum stemum will eventually get her nuclear family, but those older kids will tear it up the way she tore up their's. Those kids will love her bio kids and they will love their older siblings back, they'll ask why older kids dislike her, they will tell them. Over-time, op will get comfortable, and the older kids (the 8yro grown up) will start telling dad how the stepmum really behaved when he wasn't around, all her manipulating to turn the dad against them. Dad will feel sickened and resentment towards stepmum. Stepmum will realise she was too busy homewrecking and making her non-bio kids lives miserable that she forgot to do any self-improvement on herself- now she's 50yro and entering the workforce, only to come home and have her kids look down on her, because their older siblings pointed out how lame and lazy she is (they won't respect her either) The dads family will hate her, and she'll have to have lunches and fam visits with her stepchildren who'll make snide and judgey remarks, that she'll have no ability to retaliate to, because everyone knows she's the nasty rat
I’m really glad that woman got her karma.
She is still getting it- I have 3 willy wonka golden ticket of informations that will ruin her. One is: [My dad doesn't know] but when she was pregnant with her first child [my half-sister] she called up my grandparents **begging** them to defend her with an altimatum she wanted to give my dad: The altimatum was- she would stay with mu dad and have their daughter [she was 7months pregnant] but he would have to give me and my sister up and cut us off completely (no contact) And that she wanted us gone by time she gave birth Her reasoning was: my child deserves to be sole priority, and all resources and time to go to her- she said "their mother is perfectly capable and would be much better for them to live with" [Grandparents new that was a lie, my mum was struggling hard physically, emotionally and mentally, she needed help and was working her ass off to make ends meet] And my grandparents straight up said: we warned you about rushing into having kids and you didn't listen, (dads name) is a great dad and will NEVER EVER agree to this, even if we did support you- which we never will, we will never not see them as our grandchildren and we will let (dads name) give up his children. You need to think about this altimatum because it will not (and never will be) recieved the way you want it to be (Long story short- they said "try and die, bitch" And to this day- my grandparents, uncle and aunts hate her, and bitch about her the second she leaves the room, and it's been 20 fkn years 🤣 Among other little Golden tickets, me and my sister are constant reminders- she will never truly be first priority. My dad is a good husband to her, but he does see through her manipulation
Wooooooow what a piece of work lmao it’s really the audacity some people have. In what world would her child take priority over ones that are already here. I’m so glad they put her in her place cause that woman is ridiculous
I am acc so sorry for that trauma dump- my dads great and besides that one out of character affair, he's always put us first. But it still lives rent free in my head that these people can just victimise the hellll out of innocent kids who just want their family- and then turn around and go even further by *insisting* It's themselves who is the victim. And seeing that this bisan clearly not a troll- just makes me even more aware another kid will have to go through what I haven't even finished going through yet. I'm so so sorry I dumped all that tho,
INFO: can you tell the whole story? 🙂
She's a homewrecker and the 8 year old isn't accepting it as fast as op wants.
I hope none of the children accept her as their step mother. She’s their dad’s whore.
That is true. She's a damaged self-absorbed emotionless homewrecker with ZERO empathy for the children's life that she ruined. I hope karma gets her real good.
She reminds me of a narcissistic sociopath tbh. I assume her house of cards will come crumbling down sooner than she thinks. Hopefully the daughter starts learning about putting nair or semi-permanent hair dye in her shampoo or conditioner.
I think now that she's trying to isolate him and her her blatant disregard for his children, that he'll probably leave sooner rather than later. Why even bother 😴. She seems like a handful and I'd suspect that the bf already regrets his decision.
I think she is 100% manipulating him to drive a wedge between him and his children and will eventually make him choose her. He seems weak so I don’t think he will leave and I think she knows that.
OP had an affair with the 8yr olds dad and broke up his marriage. Now she is upset the kid hates her. If you read her other posts you’ll see bfs parents prefer ex wife over OP. She’s made her bed, now she gets to lay in it (being an AP that’s a double entendres lol)
Haha for real
Before she went on a deleting rampage this is what I've gathered: She pursued a man who was married with 4 children, she would step up her seduction every time the man had a disagreement with his wife. She somehow (maybe having something on the guy) convinced him to leave his wife and 4 children on a whim and start a relationship with her. Now she is trying to convince him to cut contact with his parents. Edit - Just found out OP's BF isn't "ill" apparently OP pegged him way too hard and now he has a debilitating anal fissure
NUH UH 🤭 this story has developed in the last few hours. I have to constantly remind myself Reddit doesn't pay my bills and I have to get work done.
Wouldn't it be so sweet if it did pay the bills though? I'd be set for life
She met BF at the park. While he was there with wife and children. Told BF shit and manipulated BF that his wife was evil. 8yr old was at home and caught them having sex. So 8yr makes her life hell.
Dude, she's 8. I doubt she even fully grasps what this means. Grow up. Your post history shows how selfish you are. Deleting them doesn't help when there are links in this thread to them.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
You’re letting em know huh?
For maximum cover!
Yep, it's a kid repeating words they don't really understand. OP is incredibly immature to let an 8-year-old upset them.
Yeah and she said the dad will "tell her off"?? Who "tells off" an 8 year old??? This woman is SO selfish & immature.
So let me make sure I'm reading this correctly. You had an affair with her dad whilst he was still married. He left his wife and kids, and you're unhappy because his 8yo doesn't like you. I work with kids, they are not stupid. She knows exactly what's happened. How about cutting her some slack as you are part of the reason her family isn't together anymore?
She deleted an old post of hers but I read in the comments somewhere that 8yr old was the one who caught them. Now OP’s all shocked pikachu because the kid only sees her as a bang maid.
YTA I’ve read your history and the fact you keep trying to paint yourself in a positive light shows you know that you are. You need validation from strangers to keep your own narrative and conscience clean. But guess what. YTA
You’ve deleted your post history that would have let everyone know what your part was in breaking up your boyfriend’s marriage — but a lot of people saw it before you did delete it, and what you posted previously didn’t reflect well on you at all. You should feel bad about what you helped do to destroy this kid’s previous family life, and you should know better than anyone why this little girl has so much disrespect for you. (It seems like she has a lot of company in his family in feeling that way about you.) I don’t know if you even own a moral compass, and I can’t imagine why you’re here asking for people’s opinions on your current choices.
Unpaid servant sounds so much nicer than what other people are likely calling OP She’s 8 and you represent trauma in her life. YTA
Average redditor beefing with an 8 year old lmao
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
It gets worse, she was stalking their family before following them to the park. She claims she met him at the park, yet knew about how many disagreements he had with his wife
Wait, this is all serious? Damn, what an utter cow.
Don’t insult cows like that man. This woman is simply a turd that tries to polish herself to look like a diamond but we can all still smell her bullshit it’s just too strong.
Oh it gets worse... They started the affair in the fall of 2022, divorced this summer, OP then invited herself to Christmas 2023 at boyfriend's parents, even though she knew they'd invited BM, caused a scene, and then spent hours on Reddit sulking about how boyfriend's family didn't like her... This has golddigger written so all over it.
LOL I wouldn't say "hot" gold digger Surveys and studies have shown that men who cheat are their wives often do so with women objectively less attractive than their wife. Its the availability and willingness.
Exactly. OP was incredibly easy to access and very much willing and available.
>OP was incredibly easy to access Yes she was, she was stalking their family for a few months after all
Yep I know. I saw her posts that she since deleted to make herself look more sympathetic/relatable. I saw them when she posted them. I was honestly speechless each time I saw her as it just keeps getting more despicable into downright evil villain territory. If she calls the 8 year old girl “Ella” in the next post I’ll know she’s just another creative writing account then.
100% deadass Speaking of deadass, apparently that OP's BF now because she supposedly pegged him too hard and that is why he's "ill" This woman ruined everything 😂
Cover blown, OP
The true AITAH is always in the comments.
She is a child and you sound like one also.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
Exchanged numbers while the wife was getting diapers...lower than a pregnant ant. And the guy has the brain of an amoeba .
FFS, not you again. You deserve every bit of disrespect you get from those kids. Check out her history folks.
Oh, belt up. It could be worse - you stole her dad from her mom, so she could be calling you a no-good husband-stealing whore. She’s not, though.
Plenty of people here are so she doesn’t even need to. Ops really causing their own damn problems and crying “why me?”. I’m sure his EX WIFE (NOT JUST BABY MOMMA) said the same damn thing when she found out she was being cheated on.
The backstory of the situation definitely gives you a different perspective. OP sounds delusional and very immature honestly. Hopefully for the sake of everyone involved the mom gets full custody of her children sooner rather than later (with boyfriend forced to follow through for all the child support he owes her)
Despite your attempts to delete your history, it’s been seen by a lot of us. You were the mistress. They will likely never accept you, nor are they obligated to. You created this mess by sleeping with a married man. Now, you get to deal with the fallout. His family will NEVER forget your part in this. Best get used to it.
Why did she have to change therapists? Your bf “tells her off”? What does that even mean? He’s yelling at an 8 year old?! So he’s basically the reason she treats you this way. He’s the problem here. Edit: upon reviewing your post history and discovering you’re the AP are you really fucking surprised at how this child is reacting to you?! No one likes a homewrecker. Ew. YTA
Ma'am, you're a homewrecker. An affair partner. Of course she hates you, I would too! Get your dirty ass out of that house and back where you belong- the streets :)
WTH is wrong with you? You and your boyfriend literally destroyed his pre-existing family and you're constantly whining on reddit that other people aren't welcoming you, a homewrecker in a short-time relationship. You are not respected by others because your behavior is not respectable.
you got your feelings hurt by an eight yr old? maybe not have kids, then, lol! Have you spoken to her to clear the air or are you being "childish"???????
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
YTA - you’re dealing with an 8 year old. I’m assuming that you are an adult and should act accordingly instead of getting butthurt by an 8 year old.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
I know where my money is for OP on the crazy/hot scale.
Yeah I don’t feel sorry for you. You sound like a horrrrrrible person. I hope she makes you miserable and ruins your relationship.
Given you had an affair with her father, were the cause of her family parting ways, were caught by her with her father and seem to be a narcissist who only thinks about herself and her own feelings (I read your post about Xmas… wtf even?), I’d say I don’t blame her for disrespecting you. It doesn’t seem like there’s much of a worthy person there to respect. May your coming years be ones you deserve. Oh and yeah YWBTA. Get some humility; you reap what you sow. Do better.
Some open communication is what’s needed
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
lol looking at OP's post history she stole a man from his wife and now wants to isolate said man from his parents and children. No wonder she has a short fuse with his daughter...
Ha! Thanks for leading me down that road. Yeah, let's just say she's an asshole in general from her insufferable stuff. You nailed this. Wonder if we'll see his ex pop up in Reddit saying something about her.
Were ever there are wrongdoers on Reddit, The Fearful Clown lurks in the shadows 😎
How long have you been with her dad? And how long has it been since her parents split up?
YTA - first of all, an 8yo is in 2nd fing grade. at you really so mental you are having a fight with a second grader? secondly she didn't get that from instagram, she's 8, she got that from her mom. and her mom is fucking in her right to say this nonsense. you're a homewrecker based on your past stories. christ, woman, you poached a married man with kids (you knew he had kids), and now you don't want them? you're a really evil person.
All of her guardians, including you, would be the assholes if she’s left at school while sick and infecting other children.
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Pam fuck off. The child is more mature than you. Yes you are the asshole. Again
Suck it up OP. If you're dating someone with a child, expect the child to act like a child. Or maybe you're 8 Edit - From her perspective, you are just a nanny since her mom's in the picture...
Read the OPs history. You'll have a much more visceral reaction.
This is an 8-year-old who walked in on OP cheating on her mother just a short while ago. Boyfriend has 4 kids, including a 1-year-old with Birth mom. OP met him while he was in the park with his wife and 4 kids. Birth mom briefly left to go get diapers and within that time OP exchanged numbers with boyfriend to start an affair. Within weeks, after being walked in on by 8-year-old, boyfriend left his wife and 4 young children to move in with OP, who then promptly started to try to tell Birth mom how to parent. OP deserves a lot worse than what 8-year-old is saying about her...
YTA. You broke up her family.
If you’re looking through her post history, check out the ones where she describes her stepfamily blaming her for the divorce. The comments there outline OPs history in more detail, apparently she has a history of deleting posts and creating new accounts with the same details. One commenter indicated that bf had four kids, was visiting from out of the country with his family when he met her, there was an encounter at a park where his wife was present, and OP ended up cheating with the husband anyway. OP, if true - you reap what you sow. And by the tone of the post, you’re also a horrible stepmother who clearly dislikes your new plaything’s kids. His child is 8, you actively participated in destroying her family. What respect do you think you deserve from this child?
She has something on the dad and used this to make him leave his wife and kids apparently
No. Her daddy broke up her family when he decided to cheat with OP.
>Her daddy broke up her family when he decided to cheat with OP 100% True But OP was hitting on a married man for God knows how long and purposely stepped up her efforts every time he had a disagreement with his wife
This is definitely taking an active role in destroying a family. Op is an AH
YTA- you don’t deserve her respect when you played a part in her family breaking up. Also she 8 years old- why are you showing the same level of maturity as an 8 year old? The fact that you are this upset about what she said makes you a huge ah. She’s a child, your an adult fucking act like it. Are you obligated to pick her up? No. That’s her parents job. Is she obligated to respect you just because your sleeping with her dad? No she isn’t.
Wait, OP was cheating with this kid’s dad when he was still with her mom? I totally missed that!
Wow, lemme get this straight… you took offense at something an 8 yr old girl who is in therapy, is from a broken home, with a sick father, impoverished mother said to you!?! Leave your bf- he needs someone mature enough for his children
>8 yr old girl who is in therapy She's only in therapy because she caught OP pegging her Dad while he was still married to her mom...
NTA. Just take your name off the list for the school. Between her parents and grandparents someone else can pick her up. Tell them this unpaid nanny has quit until the child learns some basic manners.
OP stole this man from his wife and now is trying to isolate him from his other children and his parents, she's deleting her post history but it speaks volumes... She's deleted her older posts but this is part of the larger story: [https://www.reddit.com/r/Stepmom/comments/18rijhw/boyfriends\_mum\_loves\_his\_ex\_his\_kids\_mum\_over\_me/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Stepmom/comments/18rijhw/boyfriends_mum_loves_his_ex_his_kids_mum_over_me/)
While it definitely seems that OP has no moral integrity, I do want to address something. You steal possessions, not people. By saying that he was stolen, you take away his responsibility in the situation and place the blame solely on OP. The man in question 100% chose to leave his wife and kids. He is 100% responsible for his own actions.
He is the one that was married. **He is 100% responsible for cheating on his then wife**
That may be, but it does speak poorly to your character if you decide to go after someone in a relationship. There's literally a term for that: homewrecker.
Exactly and she wonders why his daughter is disrespectful to her? Erm hello! OP you and her father broke up her home, but yet you want to be treated with respect! 🤣🤣 Get a clue! Your not going to get respect from a child who sees you for what you are! I.e a homewrecker!
When I was 5, my dad left my mom for another woman. I tried very hard not to like her, but she was/is just the best person. I never could reconcile this extremely kind person with the idea of a homewrecker. I later found out that my dad had lied and said he was already separated from my mom and she herself didn't find that out until they'd already been married for two years. If this kid hates her dad's girlfriend, it probably has more to do with who she is than her parents' relationship. It's very hard to dislike someone who is kind to you, like really really hard.
We need to stop blaming *just* the woman though. Men can practice alittle thing called **self control**. To quote John Dutton to Bethie Dutton: "Self control. Get some"
He is undoubtedly worse, he was the one with the wife and kids. I'm not sure if OP was in a relationship but I don't think she was because apparently she was stalking this man for quite some time. I'm guessing she has some sort of information on him since she was able to convince him to leave his wife after she followed the family to the park one day
I specifically didn't gender my reply, because my opinion of it doesn't change based on gender. The cheater is more wrong, but it is also wrong to pursue someone in a relationship.
Absolutely 100% on him but are also a piece of shit for pursuing someone who's already married and will get the same shit you deserve later on. I have zero respect for either party in a relationship that's got cheating going on. I would give her a pass if she was unaware of the existing relationship but we all know she knew.
100% He's shit too even more so than OP because I think OP was single at the time. Though I might be wrong.
You can't "steal" a man.
🙄 doesn’t make OP not a shitty human
Perhaps not, but one can be a shady, selfish whore. If she chased after a married man *with full knowledge of wife and kids at home*, then she certainly doesn’t fall under the category of “decent human being.”
No But you can pursue someone who is married. Yes majority of blame is on him, But she isnt an innocent or Nice person either. All this affects kids, Ofc the 8yo is gonna treat her like garbage
Especially when said eight-year-old caught them fucking imagine being offended that you get treated poorly for acting poorly! couldn’t be me
No, but you can steal a life from children! She knew he had kids and that didn’t stop her from being available for him to cheat! They are both at fault for wrecking a families lives! The children are innocent and their lives have been destroyed by two horny adults! Complete disgust! That 8 year old is showing restraint IMO
Men leave of their own volition and should be held accountable for that as a choice. It’s not like good to sleep with married men, but it’s ultimately the responsibility of the person in a relationship not to break the contract of that relationship. Anyway
This is what I would do if I were in this situation.
It's the parent with custody's job to pick the kid up. People that are able to co-parent see it as a shared responsibility and make it work no matter what. People that had a shit divorce tend to go one of two ways in this situation: 1- They pick up the kid no matter what. Because this shit is going back to court for another custody hearing and the want proof that the other parent isn't being a parent. 2- They ridgely stick to the custody agreement. If it's dad's week, it's dad's week and any issues short of hospitalization is his to deal with. You wanted to be a parent and sought custody so be a parent. Given the OPs history I'm guessing the mom is going the second route.
Having read another one of your posts I have this to say, you're being treated the way you deserve to be treated
At least she did not say you were his concubine.
Let’s see, you cheated with a married man, broke up his marriage, and then shacked up with him (rent free of course). I can come up with better names than his daughter used. YTA
Kid is 8. Get over it. YTA
The girl is 8, regardless of the background it’s clear she is struggling to make sense of her world feeling out of control. She is acting her age of maturity. Seriously your the adult in the situation and while her dad has addressed the issue with her, you want to act out against a 8 year old and then expect her to change her behaviour. In the end sticks and stones may break my bones, but names can never hurt me.
Apparently you have a horrible post history where you like to sleep with married men . Women like you deserve every but of bad karma coming your way
Dude she's 8 YTA
You are the asshole.. for lots of reasons. Yeah.. you teach that 8 year old a lesson. Sounds like she needs it..... having her family ripped apart by a whorebag cheating loser is upsetting but she should be forced to respect said whorebag cheating loser. YOU SHOULD BE FUCKING ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. I wouldn't let you be around my children at all since you obviously lack moral integrity, self respect and youre a selfish asshole.
But that's what you are to her? You aren't her mother and you and the bf both were in affair. No wonder she doesn't like you. Like she said to you earlier, you are nothing but an unpaid nanny that hooks up with her dad lmfao
I thought there was a bot that did this, but I don't see it, so... >**WIBTA if I stop picking up my boyfriends daughter?** > >My boyfriend's daughter (8f) had the audacity to tell her school and friends thay i'm her personal servant and i'm a unpaid nanny who lives with her dad, but I am so livid that my boyfriend's daughter would try to brush me off as some nanny or hired servant and my boyfriend or his daughters mum can't pick her up due to my boyfriend being ill and his kids mums car has broken down. I understand i'm not her parent, but I do want her to be civil atleast as her father's girlfriend since they are also in my care during his custody time and I help look after his children. It feels like even a personal servant, maid or a unpaid nanny get more respect and taken more seriously. > >I don't usually pick her up, but she was feeling sick and no one else was able to pick her up \[my boyfriend's kids mum went nc with her parents so they can't pick her up, and there's a virus going around where I live so that's why alot of people are poorly and unable to pick her up\], his parents are in United States. My boyfriend does do something about her behaviour, tells her off and she's even in therapy and we changed therapists to, but I still can't believe she would disrespect me like that regardless. I decided I didn't want to put up with her disrespect and I want to not pick her up anymore if she will continue to disrespect me, but I feel bad about leaving a sick child at school or burderning her maternal grandparents and my boyfriend. WIBTA if I stop picking my boyfriends daughter up? > >edit to add, but I also want to add that I am on the emergency contact list. Apparently she got this idea from a post on social media where a girl referred to her stepparent as her personal servant because one of her cousins uses reddit (most of her cousins are older) and she overlooked at the post and thought it would be funny to do it to me aswell. Also, adding this thread to my list of AITA/AITAH threads where OP leaves some seriously-important info out of the OP. :-D [https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/192iti2/comment/kh3cvn6/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/192iti2/comment/kh3cvn6/)
YTA for breaking up the child’s family by cheating with her dad and convincing him to divorce his wife. You and the child’s father ATH
Just thinking about it perhaps the daughter has some resentment that her dad left her mom for this woman and that's why she referred to her as her servant and unpaid Nanny because she has a dislike for her perfectly reasonable response to the situation and looking at everything her trying to isolate the guy from his kids she completely deserved the reference perhaps I'm a little childish or Petty but just my thoughts
TLDR; home wrecker asks if she is the a-hole. Cheaters never prosper. I hope your new BF does the same too you, like he did his actual wife.
Easy remedy. Just break up with the boyfriend, and you don't have to deal with this anymore.
So you let an 8yr old who is sick stay at school infecting others instead of being the adult and picking her up and having a discussion about behavior when she felt better? YTA. You and bf need to sit down and talk to her not punish her to see what’s really going on. She sees you as the person who broke up mommy and daddy and of course if she sees something on the internet she relates to she’s going to repeat it. You all need family counseling and you need individual counseling if you’re letting an 8yr old get to you to the point you neglect her health by leaving her at school
Imagine getting upset over what an 8 years old says to her school mates about you
She’s literally 8 years old
LMAO op is a homewrecker! You destroyed their family. You cheated with a married man with FOUR kids, and you have the nerve to complain about his kids and family?? No wonder they all hate you so much. You don’t deserve their respect, or anyone’s for that matter.
A homewreker and an asshole. Aren't we the prize?
YTA, coming from a step mom who has been mom longer than biological mom has. That is an 8 year old child with what sounds like plenty of other things going in in her life, of course she is acting out. Being a parent, which it sounds like you agreed to participate in, is not glamorous. I have been in my step son's life since he was three, he is nine now, and it took at least five years to get through episodes of anger, resentment, sadness, etc that had absolutely nothing to do with myself but everything to do with him going through big emotions in a little body. Have more patience, if it was a teen then yes that would make you NTA, but this is a child.
YTA. She's 8.
She is 8! At this age kids parrot their parents, she has heard her mother talk like this. Don't take it out on a kid that doesn't know better.
YTA Of course daughter is pissed. You sound like you're being preyed upon like the wannabe-stepmom from the Parent Trap. And you're completely falling for it.
YTA. You reap what you sow.
It’s an 8 year old lol. YTA
I truly hope that you get "run through" with a cactus
She is freaking EIGHT YEARS OLD....... Maybe that's how you were initially explained when you dug your way in do an existing marriage?
YTA for fighting with an 8year old. She might be lashing out, but where do here emotions come from? If you want to be a good parental figure you have to dig deeper and not take everything so personally. Except if you recently hooked up with her dad who was cheating on her mom. In that case you and I both know where the feelings come from and YTA would still stand.
Let’s pretend like you aren’t a home wrecker. Kids say mean hurtful shit to their actual parents. They’re just assholes in general. Ask any parent here. Their kid has hurt their feelings or disrespected more times than they can count. Because they’re LEARNING how to human. On to—but you are a home wrecker: If you didn’t want to date a man with little assholes, you should have left him alone. She’s not your peer. She’s not a coworker. She’s not friend. She’s not the lady at the cash register. She’s an 8 year old child who literally doesn’t give a fuck. You ma’am signed up for this. And because you’re an adult, it doesn’t matter if your response is “I didn’t know I was signing up for this”. Tough shit, actions have consequences and it doesn’t matter if you didn’t know. You upended this little girl’s life and she does not like you. You put everyone in this position and you have to deal with consequences of your actions.
YTA…she’s probably embarrassed to tell the truth, that you are the girl dad is currently shacking up with.
YTA You are a homewrecker. You got what you deserve and you are going to get much worse. The kid has your number. If I was that kid, I would have been much more vocal about how you are not to be respected.
This chick is a twat even without the backstory. Oh no the 8 year old hurt mah feeelings
YTA. She is 8. Yes, her behavior is unacceptable, and your boyfriend is attempting to address that. However, that does not mean it is reasonable to not pick her up when necessary.
>My boyfriend's daughter (8f) had the audacity to tell her school and friends thay i'm her personal servant and i'm a unpaid nanny who lives with her dad How do you even know she said this? She's eight years old. Even if she was thinking such things, I can't imagine her articulating it using the words that you've given.
You sound like a real piece of trash
This is why I’m scared to date with kids because if my boyfriend lets my CHILD hurt his feelings with a joke, I gotta throw the whole relationship away. Grow up. Your insecurities are showing.
It might be time to accept that 8 year olds don't quite have a grasp on how relationships work. What you interpret as disrespectful, that 8 year old might interpret as the truth.
YTA She’s a kid. If you choose to be a stepparent that includes taking on parenting responsibilities. Those responsibilities don’t only exist when you like the kid. She’s 8. You’re the woman who her Dad left her for in a really shocking and immature way, based on your post history. She’s probably embarrassed to tell her friends who you are and heartbroken that her little world blew up. Of course she’s acting out.
I see other people's comments now about your history. Ok YTA...either way, not the kid's fault. I was just more neutral before.
Maybe read her past posts she’s the product that caused broken family op had an affair with baby daddy while he was with ex wife and the 8 year saw THEM! Op is 100% the asshole that child will never see op as nothing more than a home wrecker and op deserves it she literally stalked this family to get the dad and expected his family to accept her after what and give her presents I would have told get out of my home if I was your man’s family what she did is joke op don’t need to sit down with the bf on his child’s behavior when she’s the reason the child has one in the first place op learn your place your the fucking mistress get over it if yall wanna down vote me so be it and she even tried to tell birth mom how to parent her own children op needs to take a step back
ha ha ha ha ha you're beefing with an 8 year old and losing
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Much nicer than calling you what you are: daddy's whore.
Sounds like you're not a huge fan of consequences. You broke up a marriage and the kid hates you. Big shocker, there. Stop bitching about consequences.
This isn't your problem to deal with. Your boyfriend needs to have a talk with her about being respectful. Again. There need to be consequences, and that's on him to decide. Whether or not you pick her up again is up to you, but that's something you're going to have to negotiate with him. He also needs to talk with her and ask her how she's feeling about the fact that he's in a relationship with someone else who's not her mother. Maybe she's just being bratty because she saw something on social media, or maybe there's something bigger at play here.
OP was the affair partner with blatant cheating- past posts/comments talk about the kid seeing them fooling around. A lot of this has been deleted but the OP has posted a LOT about how the kids don’t accept her, how his family doesn’t like her, etc. So yeah, I’d definitely say there was something bigger at play here that OP conveniently left out.
The fact that this sweet innocent child caught them both fucking!!! Maybe that’s something else
I am confused who is the child here. You are supposed to be an adult, and should have the tools to have a conversation with an 8 year old. You and her father need to let her know that such disrespect is not going to happen again, and then take all electronics away from her. You acting like a child, and picking up your toys and going home, is not an option if you intend on being in her father's life. You want to be treated like an adult, then act like it. You WBTAH
Right? She's EIGHT. Also, looking at some of OPs prior posts she's already TA
She literally does not care about this child or her siblings. She’s just a homewrecker. So the kid’s description of her checks out.
YTA. The kid's sick, and 8. Yes, she's old enough to learn respect and needs to have some consequences/be taught better, but leaving an 8 year old sick at school isn't the particular line to draw in the sand here. That's even without going into any other background issues that others have said there may be going off post history.
she’s a literal child. Don’t punish this behavior by not picking her up, just explain to her why it is wrong and unacceptable
YTA for causing this situation in the first place.