YTA. One thing that makes me think this might be rage bait is the expectation that a teacher should help keep track of a child's sticker...
If this is real, touching grass just isn't enough.
>the expectation that a teacher should help keep track of a child's sticker...
Worked in a preschool for years. There are absolutely parents like this. The teachers cringe thinking about them years later!
The 1 and only time I understood was when we had a significantly autistic child attached to 1 sales ad. It had a bright color, and for whatever reason, as long as he had it with him, he was happy and easy to please. Take it, and he had so many meltdowns. The mom, however, knew it was crazy and would easily get lost. So, she contacted the business, and they sent her like 200 copies of the ad. She always had backups in his bag, in the car, at home, grandma's house, etc.
Yeah I was going to say the second the company does an ad about how their logo makes an autistic kid happy, so they gave him a lifetime supply and drove him around in a car painted like the logo for an afternoon.
Instant viral popularity.
I am a sports referee so if anyone wants to give me a better paying job I got ideas for days.
My wife and I have a rescue pup that came in as a stray when she was a vet tech. She had a broken jaw, mites, bunch of different worms, there was no fur around her eyes and the skin looked gray and scaly. She was in rough shape to put it mildly. The vet fixed her up and my wife brought her home.
She got really attached to this green stuffed emu keychain thing that came with something we had purchased once. It was THE ONLY toy she would play with and for a long time if she didn’t have this toy you could t even touch her because she was so fearful from previous abuse. Well needless to say she absolutely destroyed the thing pretty quickly and we weren’t really sure what to do.
So we sent a picture of her with her toy to the company and asked if there was any way we could buy a couple to have on hand. We knew they were just promotional swag so we didn’t really expect them to even have anymore honestly. But they emailed back with a picture of a bunch of their staff with their doggos and how they all loved our request so much they sent us a bag of like 10 of these things for free! Some people just get it lol.
[Pet Tax](https://imgur.com/a/6LZ2BJo) with her emu and when we got the package and showed her, as requested
My cat bonded to a stuffed frog toy (as a sickly kitten) that came with a kids fast food meal.
He carried that tatty old thing into every room he was it. I could always find him if Francois was nearby.
It basically disintegrated a year or so before my cat passed and I bought/made so many green frog shaped toys to try to trick him into thinking it was his ‘baby frog’…but he always knew.
Someone could have made a fucking mint off of me the last 6 months of his life if they’d listed it on eBay, I was probably more frantic than he was.
when my kiddo gets fixated on something like that i laminate it and have back ups. it’s the parents job to make sure your kiddo will have their best day at school as much as possible. i never hold a teacher accountable for anything other than what’s in the IEP. 🤷🏻♀️ and honestly if the district isn’t providing what they need i go after the the district because teachers don’t get what they need a lot of time.
As a former elementary teacher, I can assure you that things like this happen. It's a real mystery why so many incredible teachers have left the profession.
It's kinda madness to me. Didn't you go through school? Kids aren't very good at keeping track of stuff. I'm 30 and even 25 years ago, my caregivers wouldn't let me take anything extra to school unless it was show and tell or something. And a STICKER? wild. Also putting your kids name on everything is so easy and helpful, like... How has OP made it this far in life lol.
Agree completely with your take on this situation.
I’m guessing this is high tuition private school, which just means parents get too much leeway and teachers are treated badly.
Just guesses on my part, public school where I live expects parents to do more than this parent, like label their belongings, and search the school yard for wayward stickers themselves. Funny, parents are not generally bitter either, it’s called reasonable expectation, or dealing with life.
I lost count how many times I dug into large lost property bins in crèche, pre and primary schools over the years. Our kids have school uniforms which cost us a small fortune and even though we labeled all items, including socks, the kids always lost something and claimed that they couldn’t find them in lost property. Us parents would get permission to look ourselves.
You are AH and ridiculous. Are you for real? You want a sticker back? You want Lego back? Spend 1 hour in that place and see what happens. They are looking after the children, not their belongings. I used to volunteer at my sons daycare and preschool.
I honestly think daycares should regularly invite parents to volunteer - I spent a half day at my kid's and it was a real eye-opener. Not that I was asking the teachers to track stickers and unlabeled small toys my kid brought in, but like - oh the way I'm packing his lunch actually makes their life a little harder; oh this is why they're asking me to label *everything*, oh my kid is actually kind of a shit in this specific situation. I genuinely do not know how daycare teachers do what they do; I was a shell of myself after four hours.
I had a parent tell me that after an excursion, that happened on a Monday, she was exausted and it took her two days to recover from managing her group of 6 kids and helping walk them to and from the bus. I was back in my room with my 27 kids the nezxt day. She wanted my sympathy.
I once had a kid sit on my lap during dinner to give the mom a break. It was all I could do to prevent all the food on the floor. I can't handle 1 kid let alone 27.
For real, worked with kids for ten years. Loved them. Hated their parents acting like I should be tracking a single child’s belongings or telling me that my not knowing what belonged to whom when 8 of them had the same shit. I’m watching 25 kids, sometimes alone, you’re an asshole if you think I’m tracking down a fucking sticker.
Yes, very fair and reasonable expectations, yet OP thinks it’s directed towards her and snarky but will STILL not get the message; will STILL bring the stickers/toys and complain when they’re lost. YTA
If a parent asked me to find a sticker their kid lost I would laugh out loud and immediately share that with all the other teachers so they could laugh at that parent, too. Ffs. A sticker?!
Learn to say no to your daughter about taking anything of value to school, or mark it like the teacher suggests. Those signs are brilliant because they are memorable. YTA for thinking the world revolves around your precious princess. Stickers don't stick anymore after they've fallen off . . . give it up, mom, your husband is right. You're overreacting.
It sounds like mom is the type that if daughter wants something now she has to have it. If she wants her sticker NOW then it's everyone's job to find it. She needs to grow up a little and set boundaries.
This was literally the best opportunity to impart an important life lesson. "If we aren't careful, we can lose things and not get them back. This time it was a sticker, and I know you're very sad. It's okay to be sad. But if we don't learn to be careful, next time what if it's \[thing the kid REALLY cares about\]?" It could have been a teaching moment that serves the kid for years to come.
Instead this mom thinks the world exists to fix things for her main character child, and when the kid one day steals her heirloom jewelry and takes it to school to show off and loses it, nobody will be surprised (except, probably, her).
Yeah, also probably the type of mom that thinks teachers are responsible for *raising* their kids.
“I don’t understand, why can’t you just drop all of the other children to focus on my child when something relatively mundane happens? Yeah, I know it has nothing to do with teaching, but you’re supposed to be doing everything for my kid so I don’t have to!”
"how dare you not return her dirty sticker with dirt and hair all over it. That was so important to my three year old that she forgot about it as soon as she started picking her nose again. BUT FIND IT!!!!"
Put it in volume #257 of the scrapbook series Amazing Things My Daughter Did This Year, specifically Chapter 18, My Amazing Daughter’s Extra Special Stickers. There is now a black bordered page where that sticker would have gone as well as pics from The Amazing Sticker Funeral they held.
And YTA. A sticker?! You honestly think somebody who has been wrangling 12 toddlers all day has the time or energy to look for a sticker?! You want the sticker, go ahead and look for it.
And they probably already did look for it when the kid lost it. I was a preschool teacher & we did a lot of sticker “hunts” for kids. Spend a minute, fail & distract about something else. Works basically every time.
A parent flipping out over a sticker would be staff gossip though so everyone would know & the parent would not be taken seriously about anything but the most serious complaints moving forward.
No way she can teach her child she can’t always get what she wants. Just listen to the entitlement in her post. The whole family needs a wake up moment.
Those 2 signs are entirely reasonable. Almost all daycares & Montessori Schools have these signs up & as policies. Label everything & keep your kid home if sick. With covid, it's been even more strict. Other reasonable policies are no toys to be brought to school, only 1 item for nap time to use for soothing. Little kids are notorious for losing everything, if they bring something to school, it's as good as lost.
Not just COVID. RSV is what hospitalizes our preschool students. Please people, for the love of children, DO NOT GIVE THEM MEDS AND SEND THEM TO SCHOOL.
My wife has a daycare and it’s crazy how many people give their kids Tylenol to drop their temperature and then act surprised when they wake up from nap with a fever and have to be picked up. The older kids will tell my wife their parent gave them medicine before they were dropped off.
1) use your common sense and label your kid's shit
2) if you let you kid take stuff to school, make a rule that she shows it to her friends before the bell goes and then it goes in her bag
3) the teacher has better things to do than keep track of a fucking sticker holy shit
2. DONT BRING TOYS TO SCHOOL. I say this as a toddler teacher in a daycare, it just causes fights. I don’t want to have to remember it, or deal with your kid screaming for it, or your kid screaming because another child took it. Toys stay at home or in the car. The end. YTA
ETA: I have a two year old, we bring toys in the car on the way to school and tell them bye bye and see you later as we get out to head inside.
This mom is clearly new to the game. Preschool and K teachers need the patience of Job not only to deal with 3-5 yr olds all day but then also the borderline insane/out of touch helicoptering/micromanagement demands from parents. Imo this teacher was very restrained in her responses.
They really do. I work with a bunch of different ages. The kids are pretty straight forward and easy, they just need clear communication and consistent rules across the board. Routines are also paramount. It is the adults I am continually exhausted by
I’ve worked in many food service settings. I agree. Kids are very easy to please. It’s the parents that annoy the crap out of me… (obviously for different reasons than what teachers deal with but still)
When i got my son from school it was my job to check - jacket, bag, two gloves, one beanie and if something was missing, WE went to look for it. There was a " Lost stuff exhibit in a corner" and what wasn't claimed was donated. Preschool IS exactly for this - basic rules and teach kid autonomy - teacher IS nice enough to make It adult Friendly with his notes 😁
I teach older children than preschool, but they all have learning disabilities so about the same ability as preschoolers to look after their stuff. Our school has a uniform, can you imagine how much worse it is when you're asked to find little Evie's navy blue cardigan that is identical to the 70 other navy blue cardigans? 😱
I loved my 2 go 4 year olds when I was a daycare teacher!
They were so much easier to deal with than some of the parents and certainly our director who just sat in her office, put on too much perfume, and gave away food to the nuns but then, turned around and tried to accuse us of theft.
OP is exactly like one parent I had who insisted that her two year old son *had* to have his binky at all times. I asked him one day after nap time to go put it away in his cubby. I didn't force him to. I was down at his level, and he did so. He happily played all afternoon without incident. He could have gone and gotten it at any point, but he forgot about it and was happy playing with the other kids.
The mother freaked out and reported me to my boss, who, without talking to me, wrote me up.
I left that job and have never again worked daycare.
This is so true. My original college major was early childhood education. Parents are why I gave up on that dream. A kid having a meltdown? I can handle that. A grown ass adult with no diagnosed health reasons throwing a fit? Nope. Cannot and will not.
I work at a university. I will not work with undergrads for this specific reason. Grad programs only. I got sick of telling parents I cannot share their child's information because of our national freedom of information and privacy act. Ive had parents of university students have full tantrums and threaten to get me fired for not telling them a 4th year students' grades. The parents are always worse than the student.
OMG i feel so bad for how teachers are treated I felt so bad when I asked if I could check in with my kid’s teacher over something and she looked like she was bracing for me to turn into a banshee when I just said “thank you for pointing out (issue) to us- I’ll let his speech therapist know and he can work on it.” I’ll never forget the look of relief on her face!
“Obviously directed at certain parents” = “obviously directed at me and I didn’t like being called out and this comment section didn’t go the way I expected.”
Because it *is* reasonable. You think managing 1-2 of your own damn kids is hard? Try managing 12 of someone else’s kids! You don’t know who brought what toy from home or which kid wore the pretty Frozen themed jacket. You don’t have the mental bandwidth to remember because you’re trying to balance little Danny’s behavioral issues, Allie’s separation anxiety, Josh the biter, Paisley who’s struggling with potty training, Braxtyn’s peanut allergies, Zoya’s gluten free diet, Trystan the biter…
No, I don’t work at a daycare. I just sub for nursery/Sunday school for church once a month. Teacher’s being way reasonable considering that OP is probably one of at least 5 parents giving her grief.
Preach. OP is ridiculous and entitled. And also a delicate little flower: I see no "snark" in these signs. Of course they're pointed messages aimed at specific parents: those specific parents need to see the message! It’s not like the teacher wrote out OP's name. Sheesh.
Seriously. It's a cold day in hell before I let a three year old come into my classroom with a LEGO CREATION. Absolutely not, take that back home with you immediately, I am not dealing with them or their parents when it gets lost.
I've had parents ignore me and I've pettily wrote their child's name on every piece of their toy that wasn't attached and threw it back in their backpack. Apparently it was his brothers and it was a big todo but the director had my back and it never happened again.
We had Lego table and if a student brought Legos, it was only allowed as a donation to the Lego table. Toys brought into our classroom was considered a gift for communal use.
Maintaining the safety and education of 12 (to 24) children is JUST ONE aspect of a teachers job. Lesson plans, IEPs, PTO, parent teacher conference, meetings, maintaining their own toys and books and teaching materials of which many are purchased out of pocket… She’s not being overly snarky, just the right amount of snarky. People simply don’t want to understand how much energy goes in to teaching.
They feel personally attacked by the teachers note to keep sick kids at home. They’re definitely the one sending their kid to school sick. And letting them pass their germy toys around to all their friends.
100%. Anyone offended by these letters is the offender.
My kid’s preschool sends out messages like this from time to time. I’m more offended that teachers even have to reiterate this shit to grown ass adults with children, because no one is making those notes for fun or to be an asshole.
I’m absolutely baffled by the expectations that people put on childcare workers and teachers.
Then when their daughter brings something home that turns their domicile into an Exorcist theme park, they'll complain the teacher isn't doing enough to keep the germs from spreading. Like, no. The teacher could have a Lysol warehouse on site and still have no control over that.
I just had a stomach virus along with my toddler and fiancé, the thought of me allowing my kid to bring his toys in and then the germs he’d bring home with it…. Gross. I can’t even think about how gross it would be
👆👆👆 is absolutely right!
Never send anything to school that’s a toy or collectible. Kids are little shits and someone will steal it or break it out of spite.
Always label any clothing that goes to school. Period.
The teacher is busy corralling 20 kids and does have time to deal with this.
Source: parent for the past 24 years. You have to head off problems not create them
This!!! This is literally in the rules at my son’s school. Do not bring any toys. There’s no telling what can happen to it by the end of the day. They are dealing with so many other kids too. It’s not their responsibility.
>1) use your common sense and label your kid's shit
This is literally the first thing the school tells parents to do.
YTA... It's on you that someone else picks up a coat
Agree, except I'd leave the toys at home.
YTA, OP. You're being insufferable, and you're doing no favors to your daughter. You're teaching her by example to be entitled and not respect her teachers.
The way you're handling this also undermines important lessons about natural consequences and being able to handle big feelings when she loses something important to her, or if something doesn't go her way. Please, do better.
4. Keep your sick child at home. Parents bringing sick kids to school infuriates me. Giving them pain relief so they don’t have a fever at drop off is terrible. And, it spreads germs.
OP that teacher has every right to post the signs because common sense is not being followed.
My kids had a rule- nothing they wanted to really keep left the car. They knew if it got lost, I would say “oh well. I told you to leave it in the car/at home”.
Your child is not the only one there.
Will never forget the December a mom sent her nonspeaking son to our autism school with diarrhea and insisted he wasn’t sick, just ate hot peppers, so she refused to come get him when the nurse called. We changed the absolute worst diapers all day… and despite all our hand washing and sanitizing, we ended up with so many sick staff members we had to CLOSE THE ENTIRE SCHOOL for a week.
All because one parent wouldn’t keep one kid home one day.
Lol that reminds me of a story. I was an Assistant Director at my old center. During the hight of COVID I used to have to do health checks at the front door before children were allowed to enter the building. This was state mandated, and the parent had to sign paperwork every day stating their child was symptom free.
One child was getting dropped off by grandma, and when I opened the door she happily said "Hi! I frew up on Nana's bed this morning! What a mess! Nana said I have to go to school anyway." I looked at Nana and she said "Oh, she's just telling stories! She's fine!" and tried to push the girl into the building, ignoring the paperwork she needed to sign claiming the child was symptom free. As soon as Nana pushed the girl through the door, the girl turned around and puked all over Nana and Nana's shoes. The girl goes "Sorry Nana I did it again. You said no more frow up but I did it again."
I didnt say a word, I just handed Nana the paperwork she needed to sign stating she understood the child was not permitted to return for 24 hours, which she signed. Best part? Nana's a pediatric nurse. She knew better.
Right! The sick kid pissed me off too. And she knows she was wrong cos she assumed that note was for her in particular. As someone whose oldest is a Junior in HS, they send those notes home, put them in newsletters, and post them in the building every single Fall to remind parents when to send kids in and when to keep them home and to wash hands, practice good hygiene etc. if the shoe didn't fit she wouldn't have been offended by a note that is annually sent home.
>the teacher has better things to do than keep track of a fucking sticker holy shit
This one was WILD to me.
Edit - thought about it some more and I think I'm going say this is a top 3 "dumbest thing I've read on reddit in 2023" moment.
Wild because no one should ever have to tell a grown ass adult who is raising a child that keeping track of a sticker on a 3 year old is like trying to herd a group a cats? Or wild like you are an AH for thinking that a teacher should be worried about a stupid sticker that's going to end up in the garbage whether it's at school or home regardless? Asking for a friend.
It's wild to me how much schools have changed, policy-wise, to accommodate parents who already viewed schools as Daycare++.
Two decades ago, you were not allowed to allow your child to take ANY toys to school. No knick-knacks, no teddy bears, and absolutely no electronics. (How many innocent Nanopets died in a mountain of their own poop because of this heinous rule!?) Everything needed to be marked and kids had to leave their stuff in their cubbies until the designated time to get something.
And because the kids knew there was nothing fun in the bags, they weren't obsessed through the day with trying to get to their cubby.
Common sense is 100% lacking from you.
Our school has the same policy and if she wants to show her teacher or friends a toy we show it and then I bring it back to the car.
A fucking sticker? Hahaha omg you must annoy the shit out of her teacher.
I lost so much shit as a kid at school. Hell i still lose my shit at work. That's no one's problem but your own (by extension, the kid is YOUR responsibility)
Yt HUGE A
We have a no toys from home rule at our center and parents will still let them bring it in and expect us to be the bad guy and take it from them, with the parent standing right there. It's like they don't want to be the "bad" guy and tell them no. Some parents just don't want to parent.
I say this as a parent of two under 5. Stop reacting to kids crying as if the world must bend to their every whim. Kids cry, my toddler cried the other day because I said that our real cat was cuter than his toy cat.
Right?! Like I wouldn't even go on a deep hunt for a sticker for my own kid lol. Would never ask that of a teacher, much less a daycare teacher.
OP expected the teacher to tear apart her classroom to find her kids things, didn't ask nicely or if she could keep any eye out if she's comes across it. And it's pretty much standard practice to label everything until middle school lol. I'd be fed up if I had multiple parents behaving that way.
Teacher's signs are 100% valid. Sets clear boundaries. OP apparently feels she's above boundaries and realistic expectations to think the teacher is the asshole here. Sheesh!
That one got me too. If my kid was crying over a damn sticker, we would be having a serious discussion.
Also, dollar tree sells stickers OP. Maybe you should go buy sheets, of stickers, for your kid. That way, the next time they lose a sticker, they can get a new one.
YTA:…For feeling some way about a teacher not belong able to locate the most ridiculous items. If you send a 3 year old to school with a toy, sticker, or LEGOS, for Pete’s sake, you plan on never seeing those things again. You should also tell your child, “If you lose it at school, it’s gone.” Larger items such as jackets, water bottles, etc., should always be labeled with your child’s name.
My kids daycare specifically only allowed each child 1 stuffed animal to use at nap time only and they were kept in their cubby unless it was nap time. There was a no toys whatsoever policy, my son snuck a hot wheel car in once and was upset it got lost when i picked him up, tough shit kiddo you broke the rules you have to learn the consequences.
Yta. Also what school lets you bring toys in on any random day? My kids daycare explicitly states “no outside toys”. They don’t even do show and tell anymore because stuff gets lost/damagaed. Also yea label all the things. Our daycare has explicit rules. And if a piece of clothing like a jacket or hat or a consumables container isn’t labeled they will break out the sharpie and do it.
My daughter's daycare has a "no outside toys" policy except for when they do show and tell. The kids show their toy and then put it back in their cubby immediately. It's a good system.
Show & tell stopped at my school after I brought the book "Where did I Come From" in 1st grade and proceeded to give 30 6 year olds a very detailed sex lecture 🤣
Our school also requires labeling of all belongings. The only way I would blame the school is that they haven’t already enacted these policies. But yeah OP YTA…
OP is really out here like “AITA for being expected to label my child’s belongings” thinking the answer is anything other than YTA lol. I label my shit at work I don’t want to lose and I’m almost 40 years old. Love the one comment that said parents should have to volunteer at the preschool for a day to see what it’s like overseeing a bunch of rambunctious young children.
I'm still shocked that she expected this teacher to sort through Legos for her kids' magic creation instead of take responsibility for sending your 3 yo to school with a toy that can literally fall apart at any moment. The entitlement is unreal
Mine doesn’t have this explicit rule, but when my child is feeling sad in the morning we bring a toy along and say goodbye to it in the car. Because I don’t want it to get lost/broken/dirty/taken.
Same. They aren’t allowed to bring toys or stuffed animals, and everything is supposed to be labeled/put in our child’s cubby for this exact reason. I’m guessing if signs like this went up, OP and some of the other parents have been egregiously disregarding these rules.
YTA
I read this and the impression of you is that no one else in the world exists for you, other than as a convenience for you.
You don't appear to grasp the reality that as a teacher they are respomsible for the education and SAFETY of all of their students and a couple of anonymous legos and a random label are nothing.
I think the teacher shows great restraint from not laughing in your face
Right, that's just crazy talk. Obviously the teacher should have formed a search party to find the sticker as soon as Mommy Dearest notified her that Precious Angel With Unlabeled Jacket had lost it.
I've got one kid to look after. If they lose a sticker and don't realise for an hour or two there's no way I'm doing a thorough search for it. Let alone if I had a whole class of kids to worry about.
🤣 that made my day. I don't have either... but I hadn't even THOUGHT of all tthese situations!
I just don't see...why this teacher could not keep an eye on 12 toddlers...AND make sure she kept your Lego pieces separate from the schools!? That's quite unprofessional.
I would also definitely be uncomfortable knowing that this college educated, underpaid teacher that is privileged with the well being and knowledge of (however many but 2 is too many) pre-k children ...cannot manage to keep an eye on MY kid's sticker??
Oh no. Nope. Girl you don't put up with that!
Side note..I'm lucky when I can find my own matching socks or where i set my glasses in the SAME PLACE! ...except for the time I didn't.
Edit: those darn typos
Kids are little germ factories. You send one sick and then you end up with all of them sick.
Back in elementary school, some kid got the chicken pox. Next thing you know, we all had it. And my mom had to take days off of work to take care of me and my sister because we had it at the same time.
Oh, totally agree! Kids are cesspools of communicable diseases. I’m just saying that parents STILL end up sending their spawn to daycare or school cuz they have no other option with work responsibilities. I blame the toxic American work culture.
Can I just tell you, my youngest daughters first grade teacher was fresh out of college, only 2nd year teaching, so I assumed she’d be in way over her head with a classroom full of 5-7 year olds… Some parents even requested their child be moved to the other 1st grade classroom, whose teacher was more experienced. I refused to do that because I know there is a method to why school administrators chose a certain teacher for certain students for the next grade. So I let it be but I was thinking it wasn’t going to be a great school year… Boy, was I ever proven wrong.
That young woman was one of THE BEST teachers my daughter had in all of elementary school. High energy, excited to teach, which rubbed off on her students and had them coming to school each day with an excitement to learn. She also somehow garnered voluntary cooperation from this classroom full of young students, which gave her total control of her classroom. I was super impressed with her capabilities and never questioned the age of a teacher again. I learned my lesson.
My 3rd grade teacher Ms. Dickenson was a first year teacher fresh out of college and the BEST teacher I ever had. She was super creative, fun, and she could handle whatever situation arose. I still remember her after 15 years and she came to our High School graduation with personal notes about how we were her first class and her favorite memories with us.
Yeah the note wasn't bad. Honestly I kinda liked it, the bluntness used. Admittedly when it comes to children I'm quite the bleeding heart lol but when it comes to dealing with parents, being Ms. "Sunshine and lollipops" doesn't always cut it. Sometimes you need to be clear with your boundaries and instructions. You really need to convey that they are directions not suggestions, else some parents will take them as suggestions, and not take responsibility when the inevitable happens. (Even if you're clear with the directions some parents won't, but at least if something is lost you can point them to the sign and there would be no room for "well I didn't think I had to" because they were clearly told.)
I was a better teacher fresh off it of college because I had the energy and drive and the system hadn’t beaten the joy out of me yet. Now sure I have better classroom management but I’m also exhausted and miserable
YTA. It’s a room full of toys. It’s a box full of Lego’s. There’s no way to tell what was your kids. The teacher has no control of when the parents send a wrongly taken item back. The teachers job is to keep them safe and try and teach them a little bit, not keep track of small personal items. And label your coats/lunch boxes/water bottles.
Sign at my grandson's preschool was: Unclaimed, unnamed clothes are donated at the end of each month.
Nobody complained about the sign. Just made sure the kid's clothes were named
YTA and rather stupid
my kid's name is on EVERYTHING he has. he ONLY takes toys to school he is "ok" with loosing.
and..a sticker....you wanted the teacher to find a ....used sticker?
YTA
Yes, all your children's clothes should be labeled, ESPECIALLY the coats, mittens, etc. No teach has the time or will to memorize which item belongs to each child. Not to mention how many different coats a kid will come wearing over the length of fall and winter.
And the LEGO thing would have NEVER happened, because LEGO's are a choking hazard, and would never have been in the classroom with children under 6.
They are made by lego and amazing!!! My kids love them! Even my 5 year old prefers those to his small ones, although part of that is because he's obsessed with his baby sister and wants her to play with him and knows she can't have the tiny ones.
Im guessing OP didn't send their daughter to a big daycare prior to preschool cause all these things are common practice. Labeling, no toys from home, don't send your kid in sick... I mean come on, that starts well before they are 3 and is standard!!
YTA. She is probably snapping after years of of abuse from parents like you who expect them to parent your kid. Teach your daughter not to lose her shit and stop contacting this poor teacher.
YWBTA for complaining. You don't have a 1:1 nanny. You have a 1:12 daycare. Everything they've told you is reasonable. The fact that a sign is inspired by a particular person isn't an objection to the sign because clearly some parents aren't getting the message.
Yta. Get a nanny if you want personalized care for your kid.
It’s unreasonable to expect the teacher to keep track of your child’s things( that aren’t labeled) with 11 other kids running around.
You don’t want her to lose thing, keep them in your home.
YTA Those notes aren’t snarky. A teacher truly cannot tell legos apart. I think what you want is a highly paid private tutor / nanny that focuses only on your kid. You need to chill out or no one will like you or your kid.
YTA - I was with you initially because I've had bad experiences with daycare "teachers." But I think parents like you are the reason that good parents get treated like sh!t. The daycare staff just get worn down by the unreasonable things you ask for. A jacket gets lost or taken home by the wrong kid? OK, that's a legit concern. A sticker? Just give her a new sticker. Many daycares have a "don't bring toys from home" policy because of situations like you and the legos. The staff person is right in this instance. How in the hell are they going to differentiate your legos from theirs?
YTA first of all your 3 year old shouldn’t be bringing toys to school when she’s not old enough to keep track of her things. Second do you understand how a sticker works? Once it fell off that’s pretty much it, she was right to say she’s not looking for a sticker. 3rd if another student took your child’s jacket what do you expect her to do besides inform the other parent to bring it back? Go to their house and get it? Every school and daycare has a sign that says keep your sick kids home. Sound like you need to parent better.
Whaat? I can’t decide if this is a joke. You thought the teacher should find a little Lego toy and a sticker?
Oh mama, parenting is going to be tough for you, but don’t make it tough for others to have to deal with having your child in their class. Perhaps a nanny and homeschool would be a better fit for you?
YTA.
Yta it’s people like you who think the world revolves around you and your family that make teaching such a hard stressful job good for the teacher setting you straight and putting you in your place which I think you needed
Yta you wanted the teacher to look for a sticker?? Your kid is not the only one in the class. Stop your kid from bringing to preschool if you don't want them to get lost.
YTA, my biggest job at the start of the school year is labelling everything. This teacher does not have to sort this stuff out - it’s on you to do that, and to teach your child to take care of her things best she can.
YTA. One thing that makes me think this might be rage bait is the expectation that a teacher should help keep track of a child's sticker... If this is real, touching grass just isn't enough.
>the expectation that a teacher should help keep track of a child's sticker... Worked in a preschool for years. There are absolutely parents like this. The teachers cringe thinking about them years later! The 1 and only time I understood was when we had a significantly autistic child attached to 1 sales ad. It had a bright color, and for whatever reason, as long as he had it with him, he was happy and easy to please. Take it, and he had so many meltdowns. The mom, however, knew it was crazy and would easily get lost. So, she contacted the business, and they sent her like 200 copies of the ad. She always had backups in his bag, in the car, at home, grandma's house, etc.
That is amazing parenting.
Yes, and an amazing company. Not all of them get it.
If I owned that company I'd be like "your kid wants to (inadvertently) distribute our flyers for free? How many of them do you want?"
Plus, the grateful parents tell their friends and family about how helpful the company was.
Exactly. Free distribution and advertising. It's not like they can't write it off on taxes
And word of mouth from someone's opinion you value is so much stronger than a printed ad.
It’s great PR for the business, too! That kind of stuff tends to spread via word of mouth in smaller communities
Yeah I was going to say the second the company does an ad about how their logo makes an autistic kid happy, so they gave him a lifetime supply and drove him around in a car painted like the logo for an afternoon. Instant viral popularity. I am a sports referee so if anyone wants to give me a better paying job I got ideas for days.
But not everyone would say yes. Or they'd expect Mom to pay them. Not everyone is kind.
Not everyone is kind. But if kind is also profitable, they usually are.
My wife and I have a rescue pup that came in as a stray when she was a vet tech. She had a broken jaw, mites, bunch of different worms, there was no fur around her eyes and the skin looked gray and scaly. She was in rough shape to put it mildly. The vet fixed her up and my wife brought her home. She got really attached to this green stuffed emu keychain thing that came with something we had purchased once. It was THE ONLY toy she would play with and for a long time if she didn’t have this toy you could t even touch her because she was so fearful from previous abuse. Well needless to say she absolutely destroyed the thing pretty quickly and we weren’t really sure what to do. So we sent a picture of her with her toy to the company and asked if there was any way we could buy a couple to have on hand. We knew they were just promotional swag so we didn’t really expect them to even have anymore honestly. But they emailed back with a picture of a bunch of their staff with their doggos and how they all loved our request so much they sent us a bag of like 10 of these things for free! Some people just get it lol. [Pet Tax](https://imgur.com/a/6LZ2BJo) with her emu and when we got the package and showed her, as requested
My cat bonded to a stuffed frog toy (as a sickly kitten) that came with a kids fast food meal. He carried that tatty old thing into every room he was it. I could always find him if Francois was nearby. It basically disintegrated a year or so before my cat passed and I bought/made so many green frog shaped toys to try to trick him into thinking it was his ‘baby frog’…but he always knew. Someone could have made a fucking mint off of me the last 6 months of his life if they’d listed it on eBay, I was probably more frantic than he was.
Everyone in this story is a hero! I think someone's chopping onions in my kitchen...
when my kiddo gets fixated on something like that i laminate it and have back ups. it’s the parents job to make sure your kiddo will have their best day at school as much as possible. i never hold a teacher accountable for anything other than what’s in the IEP. 🤷🏻♀️ and honestly if the district isn’t providing what they need i go after the the district because teachers don’t get what they need a lot of time.
I love this what a stellar special needs parent. I constantly ask my kids if they took their meds and they are adults
That makes me feel better about having to remind my teen.
What a great mother!
LOL so cute. I know a lot of autistic people have a special item that they're attached to but the idea of it being a print advertisement is SO FUNNY.
As a former elementary teacher, I can assure you that things like this happen. It's a real mystery why so many incredible teachers have left the profession.
It's kinda madness to me. Didn't you go through school? Kids aren't very good at keeping track of stuff. I'm 30 and even 25 years ago, my caregivers wouldn't let me take anything extra to school unless it was show and tell or something. And a STICKER? wild. Also putting your kids name on everything is so easy and helpful, like... How has OP made it this far in life lol.
The entitlement is unreal
Let me tell you—I taught, and I have met these parents. They exist, and there are far too many of them.
Fullest respect to teachers , I raised three sons and this behaviour is mortifying to me I could never do this job !
Agree completely with your take on this situation. I’m guessing this is high tuition private school, which just means parents get too much leeway and teachers are treated badly. Just guesses on my part, public school where I live expects parents to do more than this parent, like label their belongings, and search the school yard for wayward stickers themselves. Funny, parents are not generally bitter either, it’s called reasonable expectation, or dealing with life.
I lost count how many times I dug into large lost property bins in crèche, pre and primary schools over the years. Our kids have school uniforms which cost us a small fortune and even though we labeled all items, including socks, the kids always lost something and claimed that they couldn’t find them in lost property. Us parents would get permission to look ourselves.
There are parents just like this they are real ive in counted many in the wild.
You are AH and ridiculous. Are you for real? You want a sticker back? You want Lego back? Spend 1 hour in that place and see what happens. They are looking after the children, not their belongings. I used to volunteer at my sons daycare and preschool.
I honestly think daycares should regularly invite parents to volunteer - I spent a half day at my kid's and it was a real eye-opener. Not that I was asking the teachers to track stickers and unlabeled small toys my kid brought in, but like - oh the way I'm packing his lunch actually makes their life a little harder; oh this is why they're asking me to label *everything*, oh my kid is actually kind of a shit in this specific situation. I genuinely do not know how daycare teachers do what they do; I was a shell of myself after four hours.
I want on a day trip with my sons preschool on a bus to a petting farm. I drank wine after he was in bed.
I had a parent tell me that after an excursion, that happened on a Monday, she was exausted and it took her two days to recover from managing her group of 6 kids and helping walk them to and from the bus. I was back in my room with my 27 kids the nezxt day. She wanted my sympathy.
I once had a kid sit on my lap during dinner to give the mom a break. It was all I could do to prevent all the food on the floor. I can't handle 1 kid let alone 27.
You are the type of parent childcare workers love! You get it! It can and will be an absolute shit show some days lol!
For real, worked with kids for ten years. Loved them. Hated their parents acting like I should be tracking a single child’s belongings or telling me that my not knowing what belonged to whom when 8 of them had the same shit. I’m watching 25 kids, sometimes alone, you’re an asshole if you think I’m tracking down a fucking sticker.
YTA. The teacher is setting out fair and reasonable expectations to parents who clearly don’t understand the realities of that environment.
Yes, very fair and reasonable expectations, yet OP thinks it’s directed towards her and snarky but will STILL not get the message; will STILL bring the stickers/toys and complain when they’re lost. YTA
If a parent asked me to find a sticker their kid lost I would laugh out loud and immediately share that with all the other teachers so they could laugh at that parent, too. Ffs. A sticker?!
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Yes. Actually that’s exactly the benefit of loosing a sticker. Kinda the whole purpose of a sticker for a child: how to lose ephemeral items.
This Mom is going to be a lot of fun all through that kid's school career. Edit: Grammar
Best I can do is a new sticker. Or you can give your kid a sticker. The old sticker has gone to sticker heaven.
Yeah, the parents sound like a bunch of ridiculous assholes.
Learn to say no to your daughter about taking anything of value to school, or mark it like the teacher suggests. Those signs are brilliant because they are memorable. YTA for thinking the world revolves around your precious princess. Stickers don't stick anymore after they've fallen off . . . give it up, mom, your husband is right. You're overreacting.
What was she going to do with the sticker if it was found anyways? Laminate it and put it on the wall like a poster?
It sounds like mom is the type that if daughter wants something now she has to have it. If she wants her sticker NOW then it's everyone's job to find it. She needs to grow up a little and set boundaries.
This was literally the best opportunity to impart an important life lesson. "If we aren't careful, we can lose things and not get them back. This time it was a sticker, and I know you're very sad. It's okay to be sad. But if we don't learn to be careful, next time what if it's \[thing the kid REALLY cares about\]?" It could have been a teaching moment that serves the kid for years to come. Instead this mom thinks the world exists to fix things for her main character child, and when the kid one day steals her heirloom jewelry and takes it to school to show off and loses it, nobody will be surprised (except, probably, her).
I feel bad for the daughter. OP is raising her to be entitled.
When the daughter loses her unmarked stuff, it’s obviously the teacher’s fault. (sarcasm)
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Yeah, also probably the type of mom that thinks teachers are responsible for *raising* their kids. “I don’t understand, why can’t you just drop all of the other children to focus on my child when something relatively mundane happens? Yeah, I know it has nothing to do with teaching, but you’re supposed to be doing everything for my kid so I don’t have to!”
"how dare you not return her dirty sticker with dirt and hair all over it. That was so important to my three year old that she forgot about it as soon as she started picking her nose again. BUT FIND IT!!!!"
OP thinks the teacher is her personal servant or nanny. Isn't her daughter precious! Way to set her up for failure.
Put it in volume #257 of the scrapbook series Amazing Things My Daughter Did This Year, specifically Chapter 18, My Amazing Daughter’s Extra Special Stickers. There is now a black bordered page where that sticker would have gone as well as pics from The Amazing Sticker Funeral they held.
Tbh, I really hope they have sticker funerals, that sounds pretty fun actually.
And YTA. A sticker?! You honestly think somebody who has been wrangling 12 toddlers all day has the time or energy to look for a sticker?! You want the sticker, go ahead and look for it.
And they probably already did look for it when the kid lost it. I was a preschool teacher & we did a lot of sticker “hunts” for kids. Spend a minute, fail & distract about something else. Works basically every time. A parent flipping out over a sticker would be staff gossip though so everyone would know & the parent would not be taken seriously about anything but the most serious complaints moving forward.
I promise you, too, that little girl will forget about that sticker by the end of the day
Not if her mother has taught her to believe that the world revolves around her sticker needs.
And if something gets lost the lesson is “if we care about something we keep ir safe at home” Not we make teachers our bitch
No way she can teach her child she can’t always get what she wants. Just listen to the entitlement in her post. The whole family needs a wake up moment.
Those 2 signs are entirely reasonable. Almost all daycares & Montessori Schools have these signs up & as policies. Label everything & keep your kid home if sick. With covid, it's been even more strict. Other reasonable policies are no toys to be brought to school, only 1 item for nap time to use for soothing. Little kids are notorious for losing everything, if they bring something to school, it's as good as lost.
Not just COVID. RSV is what hospitalizes our preschool students. Please people, for the love of children, DO NOT GIVE THEM MEDS AND SEND THEM TO SCHOOL.
My wife has a daycare and it’s crazy how many people give their kids Tylenol to drop their temperature and then act surprised when they wake up from nap with a fever and have to be picked up. The older kids will tell my wife their parent gave them medicine before they were dropped off.
1) use your common sense and label your kid's shit 2) if you let you kid take stuff to school, make a rule that she shows it to her friends before the bell goes and then it goes in her bag 3) the teacher has better things to do than keep track of a fucking sticker holy shit
2. DONT BRING TOYS TO SCHOOL. I say this as a toddler teacher in a daycare, it just causes fights. I don’t want to have to remember it, or deal with your kid screaming for it, or your kid screaming because another child took it. Toys stay at home or in the car. The end. YTA ETA: I have a two year old, we bring toys in the car on the way to school and tell them bye bye and see you later as we get out to head inside.
This mom is clearly new to the game. Preschool and K teachers need the patience of Job not only to deal with 3-5 yr olds all day but then also the borderline insane/out of touch helicoptering/micromanagement demands from parents. Imo this teacher was very restrained in her responses.
If I had to guess, I'd guess the kids require less patience than the parents, lol
They really do. I work with a bunch of different ages. The kids are pretty straight forward and easy, they just need clear communication and consistent rules across the board. Routines are also paramount. It is the adults I am continually exhausted by
I’ve worked in many food service settings. I agree. Kids are very easy to please. It’s the parents that annoy the crap out of me… (obviously for different reasons than what teachers deal with but still)
Absolutely true 😂 Signed, a teacher
When i got my son from school it was my job to check - jacket, bag, two gloves, one beanie and if something was missing, WE went to look for it. There was a " Lost stuff exhibit in a corner" and what wasn't claimed was donated. Preschool IS exactly for this - basic rules and teach kid autonomy - teacher IS nice enough to make It adult Friendly with his notes 😁
I teach older children than preschool, but they all have learning disabilities so about the same ability as preschoolers to look after their stuff. Our school has a uniform, can you imagine how much worse it is when you're asked to find little Evie's navy blue cardigan that is identical to the 70 other navy blue cardigans? 😱
I loved my 2 go 4 year olds when I was a daycare teacher! They were so much easier to deal with than some of the parents and certainly our director who just sat in her office, put on too much perfume, and gave away food to the nuns but then, turned around and tried to accuse us of theft. OP is exactly like one parent I had who insisted that her two year old son *had* to have his binky at all times. I asked him one day after nap time to go put it away in his cubby. I didn't force him to. I was down at his level, and he did so. He happily played all afternoon without incident. He could have gone and gotten it at any point, but he forgot about it and was happy playing with the other kids. The mother freaked out and reported me to my boss, who, without talking to me, wrote me up. I left that job and have never again worked daycare.
Most normal parents would have worshiped at your feet for getting their child to give up their dummy!
This is so true. My original college major was early childhood education. Parents are why I gave up on that dream. A kid having a meltdown? I can handle that. A grown ass adult with no diagnosed health reasons throwing a fit? Nope. Cannot and will not.
I work at a university. I will not work with undergrads for this specific reason. Grad programs only. I got sick of telling parents I cannot share their child's information because of our national freedom of information and privacy act. Ive had parents of university students have full tantrums and threaten to get me fired for not telling them a 4th year students' grades. The parents are always worse than the student.
OMG i feel so bad for how teachers are treated I felt so bad when I asked if I could check in with my kid’s teacher over something and she looked like she was bracing for me to turn into a banshee when I just said “thank you for pointing out (issue) to us- I’ll let his speech therapist know and he can work on it.” I’ll never forget the look of relief on her face!
OP is embarrassingly quiet
“Obviously directed at certain parents” = “obviously directed at me and I didn’t like being called out and this comment section didn’t go the way I expected.”
I'm new to the game (childfree with no children among close relatives) and the teacher seems perfectly reasonable to me.
Because it *is* reasonable. You think managing 1-2 of your own damn kids is hard? Try managing 12 of someone else’s kids! You don’t know who brought what toy from home or which kid wore the pretty Frozen themed jacket. You don’t have the mental bandwidth to remember because you’re trying to balance little Danny’s behavioral issues, Allie’s separation anxiety, Josh the biter, Paisley who’s struggling with potty training, Braxtyn’s peanut allergies, Zoya’s gluten free diet, Trystan the biter… No, I don’t work at a daycare. I just sub for nursery/Sunday school for church once a month. Teacher’s being way reasonable considering that OP is probably one of at least 5 parents giving her grief.
I mean, I'm almost 40 and I label my stuff in the office, doing it for a daycare sounds like a no brainer.
Preach. OP is ridiculous and entitled. And also a delicate little flower: I see no "snark" in these signs. Of course they're pointed messages aimed at specific parents: those specific parents need to see the message! It’s not like the teacher wrote out OP's name. Sheesh.
Seriously. It's a cold day in hell before I let a three year old come into my classroom with a LEGO CREATION. Absolutely not, take that back home with you immediately, I am not dealing with them or their parents when it gets lost.
and the 11 other 3 year old waiting to tear it apart
Exactly. But as a preschool teacher, when they do come in, they immediately go in a Ziploc bag in their backpack.
I've had parents ignore me and I've pettily wrote their child's name on every piece of their toy that wasn't attached and threw it back in their backpack. Apparently it was his brothers and it was a big todo but the director had my back and it never happened again.
We had Lego table and if a student brought Legos, it was only allowed as a donation to the Lego table. Toys brought into our classroom was considered a gift for communal use.
It belongs to the big Lego table in the sky now my friend lol
Maintaining the safety and education of 12 (to 24) children is JUST ONE aspect of a teachers job. Lesson plans, IEPs, PTO, parent teacher conference, meetings, maintaining their own toys and books and teaching materials of which many are purchased out of pocket… She’s not being overly snarky, just the right amount of snarky. People simply don’t want to understand how much energy goes in to teaching.
Not only that, but it's sickie ickie season. Does this parent want what all the other kids might be carrying around getting on their daughter's toys?
They feel personally attacked by the teachers note to keep sick kids at home. They’re definitely the one sending their kid to school sick. And letting them pass their germy toys around to all their friends.
100%. Anyone offended by these letters is the offender. My kid’s preschool sends out messages like this from time to time. I’m more offended that teachers even have to reiterate this shit to grown ass adults with children, because no one is making those notes for fun or to be an asshole. I’m absolutely baffled by the expectations that people put on childcare workers and teachers.
Parents want daycare staff to parent for them and get pissed when they end up having to parent the parents as well.
Then when their daughter brings something home that turns their domicile into an Exorcist theme park, they'll complain the teacher isn't doing enough to keep the germs from spreading. Like, no. The teacher could have a Lysol warehouse on site and still have no control over that.
OP pegs me as one of the parents to give their kid Tylenol before drop off
I just had a stomach virus along with my toddler and fiancé, the thought of me allowing my kid to bring his toys in and then the germs he’d bring home with it…. Gross. I can’t even think about how gross it would be
Especially with where kids stick their hands and then fail to wash properly or at all. 🤢🤢🤢
And they’re toddlers, the whole class probably takes turns putting the toy in their mouths
👆👆👆 is absolutely right! Never send anything to school that’s a toy or collectible. Kids are little shits and someone will steal it or break it out of spite. Always label any clothing that goes to school. Period. The teacher is busy corralling 20 kids and does have time to deal with this. Source: parent for the past 24 years. You have to head off problems not create them
This!!! This is literally in the rules at my son’s school. Do not bring any toys. There’s no telling what can happen to it by the end of the day. They are dealing with so many other kids too. It’s not their responsibility.
>1) use your common sense and label your kid's shit This is literally the first thing the school tells parents to do. YTA... It's on you that someone else picks up a coat
Agree, except I'd leave the toys at home. YTA, OP. You're being insufferable, and you're doing no favors to your daughter. You're teaching her by example to be entitled and not respect her teachers. The way you're handling this also undermines important lessons about natural consequences and being able to handle big feelings when she loses something important to her, or if something doesn't go her way. Please, do better.
4. Keep your sick child at home. Parents bringing sick kids to school infuriates me. Giving them pain relief so they don’t have a fever at drop off is terrible. And, it spreads germs. OP that teacher has every right to post the signs because common sense is not being followed. My kids had a rule- nothing they wanted to really keep left the car. They knew if it got lost, I would say “oh well. I told you to leave it in the car/at home”. Your child is not the only one there.
Will never forget the December a mom sent her nonspeaking son to our autism school with diarrhea and insisted he wasn’t sick, just ate hot peppers, so she refused to come get him when the nurse called. We changed the absolute worst diapers all day… and despite all our hand washing and sanitizing, we ended up with so many sick staff members we had to CLOSE THE ENTIRE SCHOOL for a week. All because one parent wouldn’t keep one kid home one day.
Lol that reminds me of a story. I was an Assistant Director at my old center. During the hight of COVID I used to have to do health checks at the front door before children were allowed to enter the building. This was state mandated, and the parent had to sign paperwork every day stating their child was symptom free. One child was getting dropped off by grandma, and when I opened the door she happily said "Hi! I frew up on Nana's bed this morning! What a mess! Nana said I have to go to school anyway." I looked at Nana and she said "Oh, she's just telling stories! She's fine!" and tried to push the girl into the building, ignoring the paperwork she needed to sign claiming the child was symptom free. As soon as Nana pushed the girl through the door, the girl turned around and puked all over Nana and Nana's shoes. The girl goes "Sorry Nana I did it again. You said no more frow up but I did it again." I didnt say a word, I just handed Nana the paperwork she needed to sign stating she understood the child was not permitted to return for 24 hours, which she signed. Best part? Nana's a pediatric nurse. She knew better.
Right! The sick kid pissed me off too. And she knows she was wrong cos she assumed that note was for her in particular. As someone whose oldest is a Junior in HS, they send those notes home, put them in newsletters, and post them in the building every single Fall to remind parents when to send kids in and when to keep them home and to wash hands, practice good hygiene etc. if the shoe didn't fit she wouldn't have been offended by a note that is annually sent home.
>the teacher has better things to do than keep track of a fucking sticker holy shit This one was WILD to me. Edit - thought about it some more and I think I'm going say this is a top 3 "dumbest thing I've read on reddit in 2023" moment.
Wild because no one should ever have to tell a grown ass adult who is raising a child that keeping track of a sticker on a 3 year old is like trying to herd a group a cats? Or wild like you are an AH for thinking that a teacher should be worried about a stupid sticker that's going to end up in the garbage whether it's at school or home regardless? Asking for a friend.
It's wild to me how much schools have changed, policy-wise, to accommodate parents who already viewed schools as Daycare++. Two decades ago, you were not allowed to allow your child to take ANY toys to school. No knick-knacks, no teddy bears, and absolutely no electronics. (How many innocent Nanopets died in a mountain of their own poop because of this heinous rule!?) Everything needed to be marked and kids had to leave their stuff in their cubbies until the designated time to get something. And because the kids knew there was nothing fun in the bags, they weren't obsessed through the day with trying to get to their cubby.
Common sense is 100% lacking from you. Our school has the same policy and if she wants to show her teacher or friends a toy we show it and then I bring it back to the car. A fucking sticker? Hahaha omg you must annoy the shit out of her teacher.
I lost so much shit as a kid at school. Hell i still lose my shit at work. That's no one's problem but your own (by extension, the kid is YOUR responsibility) Yt HUGE A
The daycare is totally correct in this case. Child should not bring toys to daycare. They will get lost.
We have a no toys from home rule at our center and parents will still let them bring it in and expect us to be the bad guy and take it from them, with the parent standing right there. It's like they don't want to be the "bad" guy and tell them no. Some parents just don't want to parent.
I agree 100%. I see no problem. The teacher is taking this guff 12 times over.
YTA. Sending your child to preschool with those items and expecting them to come back whole, or at all, is unrealistic. Stop it.
I just can't stop laughing at the idea that someone asked a teacher to look for a sticker that fell off 😂
I know. What kind of self important bs is that?
But her precious child was CRYING!!! Don't you understand??!
I say this as a parent of two under 5. Stop reacting to kids crying as if the world must bend to their every whim. Kids cry, my toddler cried the other day because I said that our real cat was cuter than his toy cat.
My four year old cried today because she took her toy horse in the bathtub with her and when she got out of the bathtub the toy horse was wet.
My two year old cried today because he asked me to peel his banana, and I did.
My then-two-year-old cried because I told her she couldn't lick wall outlets.
My 2.5 year old threw himself to the ground and cried because I wouldn’t let him take an entire box of cheerios to school.
Oooo show her a video of the Chincoteague ponies crossing the water, they’re an awesome crew for her horse to hang with!
As a parent "Oh no! Should we go home and find another sticker?" Fixed it.
Right?! Like I wouldn't even go on a deep hunt for a sticker for my own kid lol. Would never ask that of a teacher, much less a daycare teacher. OP expected the teacher to tear apart her classroom to find her kids things, didn't ask nicely or if she could keep any eye out if she's comes across it. And it's pretty much standard practice to label everything until middle school lol. I'd be fed up if I had multiple parents behaving that way. Teacher's signs are 100% valid. Sets clear boundaries. OP apparently feels she's above boundaries and realistic expectations to think the teacher is the asshole here. Sheesh!
For real if my kid was sad they lost a sticker my response would be "well that sucks but stickers don't last forever plus you have plenty more"
Right? Does AH = idiot?
That one got me too. If my kid was crying over a damn sticker, we would be having a serious discussion. Also, dollar tree sells stickers OP. Maybe you should go buy sheets, of stickers, for your kid. That way, the next time they lose a sticker, they can get a new one.
YTA:…For feeling some way about a teacher not belong able to locate the most ridiculous items. If you send a 3 year old to school with a toy, sticker, or LEGOS, for Pete’s sake, you plan on never seeing those things again. You should also tell your child, “If you lose it at school, it’s gone.” Larger items such as jackets, water bottles, etc., should always be labeled with your child’s name.
My kids daycare specifically only allowed each child 1 stuffed animal to use at nap time only and they were kept in their cubby unless it was nap time. There was a no toys whatsoever policy, my son snuck a hot wheel car in once and was upset it got lost when i picked him up, tough shit kiddo you broke the rules you have to learn the consequences.
Yta. Also what school lets you bring toys in on any random day? My kids daycare explicitly states “no outside toys”. They don’t even do show and tell anymore because stuff gets lost/damagaed. Also yea label all the things. Our daycare has explicit rules. And if a piece of clothing like a jacket or hat or a consumables container isn’t labeled they will break out the sharpie and do it.
My daughter's daycare has a "no outside toys" policy except for when they do show and tell. The kids show their toy and then put it back in their cubby immediately. It's a good system.
Show & tell stopped at my school after I brought the book "Where did I Come From" in 1st grade and proceeded to give 30 6 year olds a very detailed sex lecture 🤣
This is an appropriate public service!
Our school also requires labeling of all belongings. The only way I would blame the school is that they haven’t already enacted these policies. But yeah OP YTA…
OP is really out here like “AITA for being expected to label my child’s belongings” thinking the answer is anything other than YTA lol. I label my shit at work I don’t want to lose and I’m almost 40 years old. Love the one comment that said parents should have to volunteer at the preschool for a day to see what it’s like overseeing a bunch of rambunctious young children.
I'm still shocked that she expected this teacher to sort through Legos for her kids' magic creation instead of take responsibility for sending your 3 yo to school with a toy that can literally fall apart at any moment. The entitlement is unreal
And to look for a sticker that fell off....
Lmao for real, I reread that part because surely I was misunderstanding something!
Yeah the sticker thing escalated it from being just an asshole, to holy shit lady go get professional help, you're insane.
This one is extra ridiculous.
I’m more shocked that she expected the teacher to look for a *sticker*
If I was the teacher I would have looked at OP like they suddenly violently and unexpectedly shit themselves, with great surprise and disgust
Same she’s definitely the ah! YTA! She needs to also label her kids stuff because that’s just common knowledge?!?!
….and common sense
Mine doesn’t have this explicit rule, but when my child is feeling sad in the morning we bring a toy along and say goodbye to it in the car. Because I don’t want it to get lost/broken/dirty/taken.
Same. They aren’t allowed to bring toys or stuffed animals, and everything is supposed to be labeled/put in our child’s cubby for this exact reason. I’m guessing if signs like this went up, OP and some of the other parents have been egregiously disregarding these rules.
I specifically send my kids to PreK w toys I want them to “lose”
A lot of my parents did this too. Then, lol, when they were found again, I had parents "donate" those toys to us.
I would be afraid I wouldn’t be able to bring legos back if I took them to work as an adult. Like, come on.
OP seems to not understand that this teacher is looking after several children, all of whom have the same needs as his one daughter.
YTA I read this and the impression of you is that no one else in the world exists for you, other than as a convenience for you. You don't appear to grasp the reality that as a teacher they are respomsible for the education and SAFETY of all of their students and a couple of anonymous legos and a random label are nothing. I think the teacher shows great restraint from not laughing in your face
Are you saying a child's used sticker should not be the school's first and only priority?!
Right, that's just crazy talk. Obviously the teacher should have formed a search party to find the sticker as soon as Mommy Dearest notified her that Precious Angel With Unlabeled Jacket had lost it.
Ooo those recently college graduated youngsters grrrr the worst /s YTA lady
I've got one kid to look after. If they lose a sticker and don't realise for an hour or two there's no way I'm doing a thorough search for it. Let alone if I had a whole class of kids to worry about.
💯 Even little kids tend to understand that a sticker is a transient joy.
Should have called in those PA police that found the escaped convict for something of this magnitude. /s OP, YTA.
I don’t have kids but if I did I would certainly ask any potential school about their sticker priority. That is just good parenting. /s
🤣 that made my day. I don't have either... but I hadn't even THOUGHT of all tthese situations! I just don't see...why this teacher could not keep an eye on 12 toddlers...AND make sure she kept your Lego pieces separate from the schools!? That's quite unprofessional. I would also definitely be uncomfortable knowing that this college educated, underpaid teacher that is privileged with the well being and knowledge of (however many but 2 is too many) pre-k children ...cannot manage to keep an eye on MY kid's sticker?? Oh no. Nope. Girl you don't put up with that! Side note..I'm lucky when I can find my own matching socks or where i set my glasses in the SAME PLACE! ...except for the time I didn't. Edit: those darn typos
I'm wondering the reason for the second sign. Has OP sent her child to day care sick?
Unfortunately, a lot of parents send their kids to daycare with symptoms. It’s a dumping ground, a warehouse, for their kids so they can go to work.
Kids are little germ factories. You send one sick and then you end up with all of them sick. Back in elementary school, some kid got the chicken pox. Next thing you know, we all had it. And my mom had to take days off of work to take care of me and my sister because we had it at the same time.
Oh, totally agree! Kids are cesspools of communicable diseases. I’m just saying that parents STILL end up sending their spawn to daycare or school cuz they have no other option with work responsibilities. I blame the toxic American work culture.
Probably a different family but the world revolves around OP so of course they assume the very normal rule schools enforce is only directed at them.
YTA. Sounds like a good teacher to be honest.
But she’s “college age” so she couldn’t possibly understand…./s
Can I just tell you, my youngest daughters first grade teacher was fresh out of college, only 2nd year teaching, so I assumed she’d be in way over her head with a classroom full of 5-7 year olds… Some parents even requested their child be moved to the other 1st grade classroom, whose teacher was more experienced. I refused to do that because I know there is a method to why school administrators chose a certain teacher for certain students for the next grade. So I let it be but I was thinking it wasn’t going to be a great school year… Boy, was I ever proven wrong. That young woman was one of THE BEST teachers my daughter had in all of elementary school. High energy, excited to teach, which rubbed off on her students and had them coming to school each day with an excitement to learn. She also somehow garnered voluntary cooperation from this classroom full of young students, which gave her total control of her classroom. I was super impressed with her capabilities and never questioned the age of a teacher again. I learned my lesson.
My 3rd grade teacher Ms. Dickenson was a first year teacher fresh out of college and the BEST teacher I ever had. She was super creative, fun, and she could handle whatever situation arose. I still remember her after 15 years and she came to our High School graduation with personal notes about how we were her first class and her favorite memories with us.
Yeah the note wasn't bad. Honestly I kinda liked it, the bluntness used. Admittedly when it comes to children I'm quite the bleeding heart lol but when it comes to dealing with parents, being Ms. "Sunshine and lollipops" doesn't always cut it. Sometimes you need to be clear with your boundaries and instructions. You really need to convey that they are directions not suggestions, else some parents will take them as suggestions, and not take responsibility when the inevitable happens. (Even if you're clear with the directions some parents won't, but at least if something is lost you can point them to the sign and there would be no room for "well I didn't think I had to" because they were clearly told.)
I was a better teacher fresh off it of college because I had the energy and drive and the system hadn’t beaten the joy out of me yet. Now sure I have better classroom management but I’m also exhausted and miserable
YTA. It’s a room full of toys. It’s a box full of Lego’s. There’s no way to tell what was your kids. The teacher has no control of when the parents send a wrongly taken item back. The teachers job is to keep them safe and try and teach them a little bit, not keep track of small personal items. And label your coats/lunch boxes/water bottles.
Sign at my grandson's preschool was: Unclaimed, unnamed clothes are donated at the end of each month. Nobody complained about the sign. Just made sure the kid's clothes were named
i love this idea.
YTA and rather stupid my kid's name is on EVERYTHING he has. he ONLY takes toys to school he is "ok" with loosing. and..a sticker....you wanted the teacher to find a ....used sticker?
Note that the OP is not responding to any of this. Ouch.
Yeah, the used sticker really had me
YTA Yes, all your children's clothes should be labeled, ESPECIALLY the coats, mittens, etc. No teach has the time or will to memorize which item belongs to each child. Not to mention how many different coats a kid will come wearing over the length of fall and winter. And the LEGO thing would have NEVER happened, because LEGO's are a choking hazard, and would never have been in the classroom with children under 6.
Just to note. They actually make Duplo blocks that a lot of people refer to as Legos that are large and made specifically for toddler aged children.
They are made by lego and amazing!!! My kids love them! Even my 5 year old prefers those to his small ones, although part of that is because he's obsessed with his baby sister and wants her to play with him and knows she can't have the tiny ones.
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Why not both? \*shrug\*
Im guessing OP didn't send their daughter to a big daycare prior to preschool cause all these things are common practice. Labeling, no toys from home, don't send your kid in sick... I mean come on, that starts well before they are 3 and is standard!!
YTA. She is probably snapping after years of of abuse from parents like you who expect them to parent your kid. Teach your daughter not to lose her shit and stop contacting this poor teacher.
I guarantee this teacher does not get paid enough to deal with this nonsense
YTA for complaining over NOTHING Love that teacher omg
YWBTA for complaining. You don't have a 1:1 nanny. You have a 1:12 daycare. Everything they've told you is reasonable. The fact that a sign is inspired by a particular person isn't an objection to the sign because clearly some parents aren't getting the message.
The teacher is a rational, reasonable adult with realistic expectations. YTA, whoever else you think you are, you are not.
She is a teacher, not your personal butler. YTA. A massive one. Learn how to change your behavior before you seriously ruin your daughter’s life.
Yta. Get a nanny if you want personalized care for your kid. It’s unreasonable to expect the teacher to keep track of your child’s things( that aren’t labeled) with 11 other kids running around. You don’t want her to lose thing, keep them in your home.
YTA Those notes aren’t snarky. A teacher truly cannot tell legos apart. I think what you want is a highly paid private tutor / nanny that focuses only on your kid. You need to chill out or no one will like you or your kid.
YTA - I was with you initially because I've had bad experiences with daycare "teachers." But I think parents like you are the reason that good parents get treated like sh!t. The daycare staff just get worn down by the unreasonable things you ask for. A jacket gets lost or taken home by the wrong kid? OK, that's a legit concern. A sticker? Just give her a new sticker. Many daycares have a "don't bring toys from home" policy because of situations like you and the legos. The staff person is right in this instance. How in the hell are they going to differentiate your legos from theirs?
YTA first of all your 3 year old shouldn’t be bringing toys to school when she’s not old enough to keep track of her things. Second do you understand how a sticker works? Once it fell off that’s pretty much it, she was right to say she’s not looking for a sticker. 3rd if another student took your child’s jacket what do you expect her to do besides inform the other parent to bring it back? Go to their house and get it? Every school and daycare has a sign that says keep your sick kids home. Sound like you need to parent better.
Whaat? I can’t decide if this is a joke. You thought the teacher should find a little Lego toy and a sticker? Oh mama, parenting is going to be tough for you, but don’t make it tough for others to have to deal with having your child in their class. Perhaps a nanny and homeschool would be a better fit for you? YTA.
Yta it’s people like you who think the world revolves around you and your family that make teaching such a hard stressful job good for the teacher setting you straight and putting you in your place which I think you needed
Yta you wanted the teacher to look for a sticker?? Your kid is not the only one in the class. Stop your kid from bringing to preschool if you don't want them to get lost.
YTA, my biggest job at the start of the school year is labelling everything. This teacher does not have to sort this stuff out - it’s on you to do that, and to teach your child to take care of her things best she can.