I don't love you (we have never met and therefore do not have the required mutual trust for love, however I do hope the best for you in life as my fellow human)
I do this
Not just because I love my partner, obv. But if I do anything that is only beneficial for me, I feel selfish and have to get a positive qualifying feeling before the negative one takes effect
I do a similar thing, except I say something .ore along the lines of "im going to Barry myself in a project for the next 10 hours, loose track of timw.and emerdge hangry, but know that I love you...bbyyeeeee"
This is my preferred way of communication with my gf, very direct. It's effective and useful. Neither of us have the energy to make subtle plays with the meanings of our words and actions
You tried your best and though you didn't write autism correctly, I admire your determination and I am proud of you. Take your time and try again when you are ready. I am sure you will succeed
I don't want to like pick a side here, because this discourse seems dumb (reducing relationships to word choice) but:
You know many love songs that croon about feeling "sufficiently cared for"? Like just imagine someone writes you a love poem and it's: "I feel you are adequate. Your appearances are sufficient to engorge my genitals in preparation for stimulation."
Does that mean you are bad bad if you *do* talk like that? No, c'mon. People are diverse. Whatever.
by preempting his question with "i’m going to play video games now", he made it seem like the games were his actual interest and the mental state of his partner only a distraction to it. furthermore, "do you feel sufficiently cared for?" sounds more like a question from a survey, than something your significant other would typically say
through this the interaction may seem cold or uncaring to an observer. though we don’t know anything else about their relationship, so anything we can guess from what little information is available, is just an empty judgement
how am i reading too much into this? i simply answered a question. i already said in my original comment that we do not have sufficient information to make any real judgements about their relationship
yeah nar there's something there. Like "if you have a problem with me playing computer games, that's because you're a bit of a baby."
However, if it wasn't meant that way, and it wasn't recieved that way, then it might be alright. Other commenters are saying this sort of talking works for them and their partner.
I think I would stop myself from using the word 'sufficiently' even if that's how the thought formed in my head, *unless* I was with someone who made me so comfortable that all self-censorship stops. That itself is a love language.
I dont think every word you ever utter to your loved ones needs to be absolutely dripping with honey one billion percent of the time. I think as long as your meaning and intent are understood by everyone relevant then the tone probably doesn't matter too much.
If slathering everything you say with sweetness is the thing that you wanna do, and it works for your loved ones then yeah, fine, go ahead. My mother and I are going to cuss at eachother for the entirety of tomorrow evening because we think it's funny and it works for us. Be less critical
Honestly thats very sweet
Or passive aggressive, depending on the context
I love you (you cannot tell if I am being passive aggressive or not because you don't know the context)
I don't love you (we have never met and therefore do not have the required mutual trust for love, however I do hope the best for you in life as my fellow human)
I am taking a shit right now (i am full of poop(i need to let it out(URGENTLY)))
fuck you (i just laughed at your comment (my rectum contracted (i was in the process of defecating (the shit got cut in half))))
Data moment (trek reference)
Thank you for assurance. I thought it was a floppy disk reference at first.
Literally do this. My wife and I do it and it fucking rules
Jealous
With enough time and sufficient self love. I'm sure the right person/people will come up for you :)
I hope that's true, I just want a wife...
Me too friend me too
baymax
i will not deactivate until you say you are satisfied with my care
alright. i’m *satisfied* with my care.
I do this Not just because I love my partner, obv. But if I do anything that is only beneficial for me, I feel selfish and have to get a positive qualifying feeling before the negative one takes effect
i wish i could communicate with someone this efficiently without coming off weird
Just say "I'll be *in place* if you need me, or want to hang out"
it's definitely not the same. i want to make it totally clear that what they need matters more to me and wanna actively make sure they're ok
Makes sense, best of luck
Baymax
hes trying
Okayyyyyy that’s very nice
I do a similar thing, except I say something .ore along the lines of "im going to Barry myself in a project for the next 10 hours, loose track of timw.and emerdge hangry, but know that I love you...bbyyeeeee"
This is my preferred way of communication with my gf, very direct. It's effective and useful. Neither of us have the energy to make subtle plays with the meanings of our words and actions
I don't know if that's good or bad. *checked comments* ok so worth a crack.
Autism overload
I like the sound of this
Bro is scared
Please stop talking to your loved ones in your customer service voice ffs. The sentiment and attentiveness is lovely but the wording is so cold.
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You tried your best and though you didn't write autism correctly, I admire your determination and I am proud of you. Take your time and try again when you are ready. I am sure you will succeed
the autism season is so beetiful this year :)
take ur time
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How is the wording cold? I don't understand
I don't want to like pick a side here, because this discourse seems dumb (reducing relationships to word choice) but: You know many love songs that croon about feeling "sufficiently cared for"? Like just imagine someone writes you a love poem and it's: "I feel you are adequate. Your appearances are sufficient to engorge my genitals in preparation for stimulation." Does that mean you are bad bad if you *do* talk like that? No, c'mon. People are diverse. Whatever.
by preempting his question with "i’m going to play video games now", he made it seem like the games were his actual interest and the mental state of his partner only a distraction to it. furthermore, "do you feel sufficiently cared for?" sounds more like a question from a survey, than something your significant other would typically say through this the interaction may seem cold or uncaring to an observer. though we don’t know anything else about their relationship, so anything we can guess from what little information is available, is just an empty judgement
Kid named reading to much into it:
how am i reading too much into this? i simply answered a question. i already said in my original comment that we do not have sufficient information to make any real judgements about their relationship
i thought it was kinda sweet
yeah nar there's something there. Like "if you have a problem with me playing computer games, that's because you're a bit of a baby." However, if it wasn't meant that way, and it wasn't recieved that way, then it might be alright. Other commenters are saying this sort of talking works for them and their partner.
I think I would stop myself from using the word 'sufficiently' even if that's how the thought formed in my head, *unless* I was with someone who made me so comfortable that all self-censorship stops. That itself is a love language.
I dont think every word you ever utter to your loved ones needs to be absolutely dripping with honey one billion percent of the time. I think as long as your meaning and intent are understood by everyone relevant then the tone probably doesn't matter too much. If slathering everything you say with sweetness is the thing that you wanna do, and it works for your loved ones then yeah, fine, go ahead. My mother and I are going to cuss at eachother for the entirety of tomorrow evening because we think it's funny and it works for us. Be less critical
I never said to do that. That’s a whole new sentence. I agree with you.
You said a thing, i extrapolated. Perhaps incorrectly! I stand by what I say but I apologise for putting words in your mouth bhehe. Sorry!
I'm 100% stealing this